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hi

well i appologize now fore making my question so long!

i really like this guy named ned! and he's in 9th grade i'm in 8th grade and i dont see him very often but he's often in the same bus when i drive home and well i think he likes me 2 because he is smyling at me very often and he also is looking at me all the time! but i kinda am a shy person (with boys normaly i'm everything but shy) so i never smile back even if i like him so i think ji'm kinda confusing him cause once he was in the same bus than me and i was just sittin there looking out the window and than he comes next to me and he was like:

ned:hi
me: uhm hi?
ned: how are you?
me: uhm i dont know
ned: you dont know how you are?
me: thats what i'm saying
ned: well ok..anyways are you good in school?
me: uhm i'm ok but not the best
ned: do you want a basketball? ( i think he said that because we were just driving next to a basketball field and he didnt know what to say :-)
me: uhm no?
ned: yeah me neather
me: 2 bad
ned: yeah seriously 2 bad
me: whatever
ned: soooo are you proud to be the new classpresident was it your dream?
me: no not really
ned: uhm ok do you like robert? (some guy in 8th grade 2)
me: NO WHY???
ned: because i hear rumors that your going out with him (which is totally not true!)
me: WHAT WHO SAID THAT???
ned: well i cant tell you that its a secred
me:whatever
ned: so who is like your best friend?
me: i dont have any friends (because i had this big fight that day but everything is fine now:-)
ned: so do youu wanna be friends with me?
me: dunno
ned: why are you being so mean to me? your not answering any of my questions!
me: uhm...

well yeah and than my busstop came so yeah well now i want to apollogize but he wasnt in school for one week now and uhm do you think he likes me? please i need some advice!

Yea, girl it sounds like he like's you.. but girl girl girl your conversation skills suck! lol jk. You got to be the next person that makes that move. He tried talkin to you and you stiffed him on the conversation, makin it really hard for him to even say anything! Just walk up to him and start talking (maybe something yall have in common?) btw, thanks for writing out yall's conversation, it makes it easier to understand exactly what took place! keep us posted... xo

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im 15/f and i do not like to hang out with girls...i hate girls they suck i always havve liked haning out with boys more...so i have a lot of friends that are boys and i also have a boyfriend...well recently my mom has started yelling at me to stop hanging out with guys and hang out with girls...well i dont like them...so how can i tell my mom i dont want to hang out with girls cus i get along with guys better?

LOL! I was always like that too. Now don't get me wrong I always loved lookin my best, so I wasn't a tomboy or nothing, I just generally enjoyed a guy's company better. I don't know what your main reasons are for hating other girls, I didn't hate them or nothing, It just seemed to me that guys, were more drama free and funner to be with because they would joke around with ya' and weren't like "Oh my God, I like this boy and he was like I don't like you and I was like Oh No" lmao Just explain to your mom that u hate drama and love the laidback style that the guys have. She might think that by u hanging out with these guys that you might be sleeping with them. Calm her fears from that. Let me know what happens. xoxo

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okay so i want to get a new phone plan so i was wondering if anyone had what im looking for and could tell me about their plan and what not. here are the following things i want:

~ a flip phone for under $100
~ A plan that is less than $30 a month
~ atleast 200 min a month
~ either a good texting plan (like 300 for $5) or free in texting (virizon only)
~ free in calling (for virizon only plans)
~ no funny charges and overal good rating


i would just go to the phone company i know but they are always a pain and im tired of what i have now (virgin mobile)

You can go with US Cellular. They have the most awsome prepaid plan. There's never any hidden charges and you always get signal. It's what I have. Prepaid, just means u dont get a bill in the mail & they dont chech your credit to get one and yes you can do it all by yourself, even if ur under the age of 18.
Here's what it's got:
400 day time minutes
2000 night time minutes
UNLIMITED texting
UNLIMITED *incoming* calls
that plan is 39.95 a month. if you want the cheaper plan, it's 29.95 a month and has 200 day time minutes, 1000 night time and unlimited *incoming* calls.

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Ok Im 15 nd having a baby nd will the baby take the fathers last name or mine or is it our choice?

It's really your choice! Usually, if you and the baby's father are together then u give the baby his last name, but if he's not in the baby's life then you can give it your last name. But Ultimatly, it's your baby and you name it whatever you are most comfortable with.

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My ex's gf broke up with him again for like the 5th time. Each time it gets worse. She broke up with him like 3 weeks ago and he gave all her pictures and stuff back. (he wouldnt give me any of my things back. he told me i gave them to him so theyre his) Well 2 nights ago i asked him to come to a friends house and he said that he was chillen at one of his friends houses. An hour later he calls me up and tells me he was bored and wanted to come by me. So he came and we sat and talked for 2 hours. (we havent been together now for over a year)!(The same thing happened in november when she broke up and we hung out for a couple hours~his request) Both times hes told me he still loves me.(hes been with this "slut"(not even exaggerating) for over a year now) i feel its the sex that keeps him crawling back to her. she keeps calling him, and seeing another guy. I see her at school all the time kissing and holding hands and acting like theyre going out. Even though my ex and her arent going out, she still calls him and goes over to his house.
anyways, we talked about just starting out as friends and getting to know one another again. we talked about maybe hanging out tonight. well last night i asked him if we were still on, and he said "i told you not to get youre hopes up, something will probably come up". Ya his dick. his ex's car was at his house tonight and guess what they were probably doing?? Why cant he just be honest and stop with all the lame excuses? im sure he knew last night that she was gonna come over. Doesnt he think im not gonna find out? I live 3 mins away from him!! Hes told people that hes tired of getting hurt by her. She keeps dumping him and he keeps getting rejected when he asks her back out, and it makes him wanna kill himself, and he says thats unhealthy. Then why the hell does he jump everytme she calls? is it the sex? he says they are so alike that they butt heads all the time!! They are always fighting. So if she makes him feel horrible, why does he take her calls and let her in when she comes over? How can he say that he still loves me? I dont sleep around, maybe thats why! He told me he got checked for STDS, and had her checked too. Thats so pathetic!! Why would a guy even want a girl that gives it up so easily and to any1? (she told me to my face that she would let any guy f**k her) My ex always talked negative about "sluts" and he did her the 2nd night they hung out! Hes told me he did everything out of hurt.(we ended because he asked me out and told me that he "had" to take another girl to homecoming) I said "NO" to him becuz i wasnt gonna let my boyfriend take another girl to her homecoming.(he said i was being selfish) because i rejected him>he went off and started a relationship with someone else, but didnt like her.(he was using her to make me jealous) well that only made me more hurt and angry. They didnt do anything, but she really thought he liked her. I think he thought i was gonna come crawling and begging him to take me back, but i didnt!
How can some1 say they still love you when they do all this shit? See i have alot of self esteem, and alot of confidence where i dont need to sleep with a guy for whatever reason. She on the other hand cant be too bright if she puts out to any guy out there. My ex told me that it hurts her to have sex and she bleeds every single time. How can she even enjoy sex then?
Any input is greatly appreciated!!

Thou she may not enjoy sex, its what she uses to get get him back when she screws up. Yea she does sounds like a slut for doing that but he's also taking her up on every offer she gives him. He may still have feelings for you, but it sounds to me that you are his "crutch" when she's just doesn't want him at that time. Do you still have feelings for him? Like you want to be with him again? The next time he calls you wanting to hang out when his girl ditches him tell him no! That will shock his azz! Forget her, but YOU deserve better and maybe one day he'll wake up and realize what a wonderful person he let go of!

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Does anyone know any cute hair styles?
I am so sick of the plain half pony, wearing it plain down, or ponytail.
I want to try somethign totally new and cute.
If you have any ideas that are easy and quick
or if there are any good sites
it would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks in advanced!

www.1001hairstyles.com

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Am i pregnant? im going to take a pregnacy test! but i wanna know do people think i am?! I havent had my period since December 31st (new years eve)!and today is febuary the 4th! my back is hurting, i get really tired quickly, If i walk up the stairs i get tired out, I at all the time, My neck as been hurting alot, My stomach is hard and bigger!! and the last time i have had sex was 3 weeks ago. i use to do it like every weekend. so i dont know how long ago it was!!

No one on here can tell you if your pregnant or not, we can only give you our opinions on what we think. Personally, I think yea you do have some of the symptoms of being pregnant although your neck burning isn't one of them (not quite sure what that's all about) and you shouldn't be showing because you'd only be about 2 months and you usually dont begin to show till around 4 months but it is possible that you have gained a little weight. You didn't say wether this would be a good thing in your life or not? so keep us posted! Good Luck...

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How do you make a guy love you? Like what do you do? Help please i like this guy a lot. I need help. THANKS!

Im sorry sweetie! There is no way to MAKE a guy love you, if there was then everyone in the world would be happy, and even thou I personally dont see anything wrong with that, it's just not the way it works. Just hang around him and let him get to see your wonderful personality & sense of humor. Guys love a laid back "drama free" kinda' girl, so show him that and just hope for the best!

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How can I get money? Cuz I'm tired of going to a thrift store to get things, especially when things don't fit my small size. I don't have much shirts to wear. I need a new backpack (had it for 3 years) I need money for school things...But my mom doesnt have money to give to me. I'm only 14, a few months away from 15. What can I do? I'm not the only child, so money can't be given to me easily. None of my friends will help me..

You have to be 15 (child labor laws) to get a job so what about babysitting? Print some flyers out on your computer and post them up at stores and places. If you don't want to do that then just do what me and my friends always did when I was your age..We would go to each other's houses and "swap" clothes for like a week or so. It gave ya' a chance to wear something new (or at least new to you lol) without having to bug the shit out of your mom to buy it, cuz you knew you were wasting your breath anyways...Hope I helped.

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Can you use Shaving cream as a lubriacant?

OMG why would you want to do something awful like that? lol No, don't do that it can seriously irritate those inner private parts. You cant afford lube? then use your own spit..

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I was wondering
Is it true if you blow dry your hair and straigthen it like everday that by the time your 25 your hair will fall out?
I usually do that everyday except for on weekends.
Will my hair fall out?

Well, I'll be 24 in July and so far it seems to all be intact. lol! Nah, your hair won't fall out but the ends will get brittle (split ends) if your not using something to absorb the heat.Try something like Dove smooth and sleek or anything that says flat iron friendly.

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I think I have social anxiety disorder. I want to get tested for it, so I was wondering what kind of procedure they do to test you for it?

There this website I want you to go to, just click the link and it should take you right to it. It's a self test that would show you wether or not you have the symptoms of social anxiety. While a computer cannot replace diagnosis by a qualified clinician, it can definitely suggest a strong likelihood that you are suffering from this very treatable condition. www.paxil.com/test/st_sai.html

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I think I have polycyrstic ovary syndrom. I have a lot of hair around my nipples. Like a lot of hair! I know polycyrstic ovary syndrom is treatable, but how can you treat it? Do you have to go to the doctor, or are there over the cunter drugs for it? Help please!

The fact that you don't state that you have excess hair growth anywhere else - legs, face for example - indicates that you do not have any underlying condition such as a hormonal disturbance. It is likely that this is genetic - that you were born with the feature of being able to produce this hair growth. The only potentially permanent solutions other than routine hair removal might be cosmetic surgery involving the use of laser treatment.

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hey i'm a guy, and one of my friends got pregnant. the whole school found out and eventually her parents did too. right now shes feeling terrible and her parents flipped out on her. i heard her talking to some of her friends and said she was considering getting an abortion. i asked her about it and she said shes worried and afraid its a bad idea. what should i tell her about it? i mean i don't think she should get one, but how do i help her with what she wants to know? thanks

Your advice, coming straight from someone who HAS had a abortion can tell you to please try to talk her out of it. What happened to me that day has tormented me more than words could ever say. Just try to be there for her and most importantly dont sound judgmental when you talk to her. If she has computer access tell her to write to rachelna0@yahoo.com It is another person like me but she is the same age as your friend and is going through the exact same thing RIGHT NOW. Maybe she can help your friend by letting her know what to expect with her pregnancy. Best of luck and Congrats! for being a good enough friend to take the time to write for advice on helping her. If you need any more advice feel free to write anytime or go to: teenadvice.about.com/od/optionsabortion/

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recently, ive been cutting. i cut because i have so much emotional pain, it relieves me when i cut. it makes me forget all about my emotional pain because i focus on the physical pain. well, just this morning, i found myself thinking of suicide. this afternoon during health class too. We were talking about cutting in health class today and i just wanted to die. i was so uncomfortable. only 2 people knew about me cutting in my health class besides me but i still wanted to die. I dont have a boyfriend. I dont think im pretty enough to. My life is fucked up. no one cares about me. my parents are never home and when they are, they just yell at me. They always fight too. But the thing is, i wouldnt trade my life for anybody elses. its the way that i know life. I wouldnt trade it. and im serious. I wore a belly shirt to school a few days ago. Bad choice. some people saw my cut i made on my stomach and they said stuff to me. No one understands me. They think that i have the ideal life and they even tell me that. i dont. every one thinks i am perfect (or have to be) becuase my dad is a pastor of a small hick church... which i hate. I dont believe that shit. w/e. i wanted to stop cutting until today. i did it again today. its just a bad habit. any suggestions? anything anyone wants to say to me?? yes i have contemplated suicide. several times.

Getting Help
There are better ways to deal with troubles than cutting - healthier, long-lasting ways that don't leave a person with emotional and physical scars. The first step is to get help with the troubles that led to the cutting in the first place. Here are some ideas for doing that:
1.Tell someone
2.Identify the trouble that's triggering the cutting
3.Ask for help
4. Work on it
*Although cutting can be a difficult pattern to break, it is possible.*

These substitute behaviors won't work for everyone. They also don't help people get in touch with why they are cutting. What they do is provide immediate relief in a way that doesn't involve cutting, and therefore holds less risk of harm.

rub an ice cube on your skin instead of cutting it. Wear a rubber band around your wrist and snap it gently against your skin. Draw on the skin with a soft-tipped red pen in the place you might usually cut.

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hey i was just wondering: what is the difference between ethics and morality? i've asked around, but people couldn't give me a good explaination, just said it was different. i looked it up and it basically said the same thing. if it is different, how is it?

Ethical behavior is that which is "good" or "right." Morality is concern with the distinction between good and evil or right and wrong; right or good conduct.
So the difference is Ethical behavior *IS* good or right and Morality is CONCERN with *good* or right.

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my friend's boyfriend has been harassing me since last year. He keeps doing things to my locker such as smashing a banana on it, putting tape all over, writing all over it, leaving long notes, putting signs with names such as boob girl or b***h etc. He would also spread all these rumors about me and call me all of these names. when my friend tells him to stop he refuses and he said that he wants to hurt me. she wants to protect her boyfriend from being suspended and she is trying to stop me from telling the GLC. He has been doing the same things to other people but they are too afraid of him to speak up. I really want to tell the GLC and take action but would I be doing the right thing by doing that even if I probably won't be friends with her anymore? also, I know that the GLC won't believe me since I don't have enough evidence to prove what he is doing to me. what should I do in this situation?

Some friend you got for not sticking up for you while her boyfriend is doing all that mean stuff to you. Whatever happened to friends 4ever? and never choosing a guy over your bf? Have things just changed that much since I was in school? My advice is very simple and I do hope you follow it if for no other reason that the simple fact that you deserve better. Tell the GLC about what he is doing to you and find a new friend.

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Last Monday we were assigned a paper about something we've failed at and how it affected us. It was due Friday.


I thought about it all of last week and quite honesty, I've never really failed at anything. The only thing I could come up with was freshman year when I got a B in Geometry when I wanted an A and I'm not kidding. So I asked my teacher if I could write about that. She said I could if I wanted an F.


So I decided that I would think about it a little more over the weekend and turn it in for a late grade on Monday.


I thought about it over the weekend--nothing. So I wrote it on how I've never failed at anything and how that makes me feel about my life. I went into depth just like the other students and it was 4 pages long.


Today, she asked me to stay after class. She told me that she gave me a zero because I did not write about what I was supposed to write and that if I don't write about something I FAILED at by tomorrow, she'd keep that zero and not change it.


I think this is way unfair because what I wrote about was true and it was still on topic. I know it wasn't exactly what she asked but what else was I supposed to do? I'm not going to make something up because I'm not good at that and I won't.


What do guys think I should do?

I agree with younggrandma on this. Write the report on how you had an assignment to write on something you failed at and couldnt think of anything so you jsut kinda winged it and that you got a zero *you failed* and write about that. It'll be a in her face irony type deal. I love it!

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Me and my girlfriend of 3 years broke up last friday. I miss her so much, I truly love this girl, my best friend. I feel hurt and at the same time confused, even though we have talked over the phone and even gone to the movies once since the break up 4 days ago. I dont know what to do, all i do is think about her and us, I cant believe its over, i seriously thought this was the "one" i was gonna spend my whole life with. Im done crying but sadness is all over me, I dont know how to deal with all of this. Ive been in many relationships, however, none were as serious as this one. I wanna call her so bad and be with her, i look at our pictures together and i get the need to cry. My question is, should i call her and tell her how much i love her and ask her to get back with me, or should i give it time and not call her for sometime in order to get my thoughts and feelings straight, and allow her the same opportunity?

Im going to assume she broke up with you? (you failed to mention that) also did she give you a excuse why it was over? that would be helpful in answering your question. Putting myself in that same situation, I would call her. Life is to short to sit around wandering if that one phone call could of made the world of difference to you. Don't let her go without a fight. Now I'm not saying suffocate her. if she asks for space then give her that but also let her know how much she means to you.

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What is the difference between a lyric soprano and a coloratura soprano?

a lyric soprano, a lighter, smoothly flowing voice; and a coloratura soprano, an extremely flexible and light voice capable of performing highly ornamented virtuoso passages such as trills and runs.

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