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"There's no other love like the love for a brother. There's no other love like the love from a brother." A lot has changed since I was in High-school and first created my column - almost 8 years ago!!!! I now have two gorgeous Boys who mean the World to me; Brody, who is 3 and a half years old, and Brayden, who will be a year in November. I live my life for these two Boys. They make every second worth it. xxoo ♥ ♥

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what does it mean if you are giving head and it takes like less than 2 minutes to cum?

It means that he was REALLY enjoying himself and you did an awesome job. ♥

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I am 13 and weigh 111lbs. and I have b36 size boobs... isn't it a little wierd that i haven't gotten my period? Is there something wrong... should I see a doctor?



No, that isn't weird at all. Every girl is different, so every girl is going to start her period at different ages. Some girls get their period when they're 12, while others only get it when they're 16. It just depends on the girl. You have nothing to worry about though, you're fine. Your period will come when it wants. As for now, feel lucky that you don't have your period yet :] ♥

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this is very wierd and stupid.. but when you put on a condom and then you have sex, do you hold onto the condom while its on the penis? or you just leave it alone? because i dont want the condom to get into my vagina..

No, you do not hold onto the condom. You just leave it alone. It will not get stuck in your vagina. ♥

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you know when people say that when you first have sex, you usually pop your cherry? well if i were to have sex and the guy did pop my cherry, does that mean i bleed more when i get my period? becuase they say your hymen or cherry is like a tissure that blocks the vagina, so when i do have sex for the first time and it pops, doesnt that mean ill bleed more on my period? if anyone knows what i mean? and thanks

Every girl is different when it comes to this. When some girls have sex for the first time, their Hymen doesn't even break. Some break and some don't. Some girls may not even have one. They could have already broken it. It doesn't have to be broken by having sex. It could be broken by playing sports, riding a horse, a bike, etc.


As for the blood, again it is different for every girl. Some girls bleed a lot, while some only bleed a little and some don't even bleed at all. It just depends on the girl. ♥

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okay well this will be an outcome of two total situations in which i need help of.

firstoff: i have a boyfriend of 9 months, and he is completely utterly in deep love with me. [ im 14 hes going on 16.] he always calls me and wants to be with me, and he always tells me how he cant live without me, and would never want us to break up. how we're perfect for eachother, and how we are the ideal couple. how perfect i am [which im seriously not]and even how he wants to marry me soon, and live together forever. well, my dilema is that he like is obsessed, and he gets mad / jealous and stuff when another guy talks to me because he is so insecure about himself. i feel like ihave no space at all, and im trapped with him, and stuck with him forever. idk what to do, please help. also, its not like idont love him, because dont get me wrong ido, but he puts me through so much useless things; i mean like SO MUCH, and idk if i can take much anymore. now, i dont wanna tell him that because then he'll start interrogating me. Please Help Me With This.




Secondly: i know his best friend, and ive always been fond of him. fond meaning hes attractive, we've been cool. well i talk to him online and stuff. and i know he is / he was looking for a girlfriend. and i kinda set him up with my friend. my good friend. and they like give each other "

This boy seems to care about you a lot and doesn't want to lose you over something or someone. That is why he is so attached to you and gets worried over silly little things. You really need to talk to him about this. I mean, he is your boyfriend so I'm sure he's going to sit there and listen to what you have to say. If he cares about you like he says he does, he's going to understand where you're coming from. The best thing in a relationship is honestly, without that you have nothing. So be honest and tell him what is on your mind. Explain to him that he over reacts about things and he gets jealous so easily and it really gets you mad sometimes. Tell him that you adore him and you love him so very much, but these small things really gets on your nerves. Explain to him everything, then go from there. I'm sure everything will go great, though. If he loves you, he'll understand where you're coming from and will change because he'll be scared of losing you.


I honestly think that you and your boyfriend's best friend are just really good friends. Someone you can talk to when you're having a hard day. Someone who is there to listen to whatever you have to say. It seems like you guys are just really close and have a great friendship. It's normal for someone to be jealous, even if you have a boyfriend and you're jealous over someone or something else. That is normal. Some people think they have feelings for someone, but once they dump the person they were with for someone else, they realize whom they really want to be with; the one they dumped. And sometimes that person you dumped won't wait around for you to make up your mind. They will move on and find someone else. If you're thinking about dumping your current boyfriend, you should take your time with it and think about it really hard. Think about whom you really want to be with and who you think would be the best boyfriend for you. In all honesty, I think you should keep your current boyfriend. If you talk to him about him getting jealous and such and he does change, he sounds like he'll be perfect for you. It sounds like you guys care about one another a ton, so don't let something special like that slip away. You may never be able to get that back again. Do what makes you happy and think about what you might be throwing away if you do dump him. ♥

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Hey everyone I do not know what to do. My boyfriend and I have been dating like 3 years and we have been having sex a while now. But recently whenever we start a few times after he goes in and out he gets these headaches and if he continues they get worse. I can not figure out what to do to help him..and its gotta be the sex cause once we stop 2 minutes later he is fine. We are trying to fix these..so please tell me anything that you think may help.
btw-dont waste your time by telling me dont have sex..i want answers not your opinion on whether or not sex is ok to have.
thanks
ps-please hurry I am worried about him

I really don't know what could be wrong with him, since I'm not a doctor. I suggest going to see a doctor to try to figure out what might be giving him these headaches. That's the only kind of advice I can give you, sorry. Hopefully you find out why this is happening to him. Good luck with it all. ♥

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me and my boyfreind were in the bathtub both with no clothing what so ever on

and i think he cumed

can it swim up and get you pregnant if we didnt have sex

but we were close to eachothers private areas?

No hun, it can not swim up and get you pregnant. You have nothing to worry about. ♥

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what are a couple good quote sites besides like quote-mania?

and it would be best if they had a lot of like love and getting hurt kinda stuff..
THANKS

http://www.holliesquotes.com is an amazing quote site. ♥

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hey well im 18 and one night me and my boyfriend of 5 years were having sex and the condom broke and i got pregnant. i honestly dont know what to do. im only 3 months and im not showing yet but what do i do when i start to show. i mean im in collage but i dont know like are people going to talk about me and what should i do.
also i havent told my boyfriend yet im scared of what hell say. please help. thanks in advanced.

I suggest telling your boyfriend about this. I don't think he's going to freak out about it, so there is no reason to be scared. I mean, he was your boyfriend for 5 years, so obviously you guys care about each other tons. He's not going to freak out at you because you're pregnant. He might be a little scared, but that's completely fine. Just sit him down and talk to him about this. Figure out what you're going to do and how you're going to go about this pregnancy.


Once you guys have everything out in the open and you talked about everything. Then, I suggest telling your parents. They're going to have to know you can't hide this from them forever. In another month you'll be showing, so I suggest telling them as soon as you can. Of course they're going to be mad and such at first. I mean, what parent wouldn't be? They'll be alright with it in time, I promise you.


I know it's going to be hard. But, if your boyfriend is by your side through out everything, you'll be in good hands. And if your parents really love and care about you, they'll be there for you, too. I'm sure the baby will have a wonderful family. ♥

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Why don't most girls like it when guys say that they are hot. Isn't that a compliment? What's the big deal?

It's because they probably get sick of hearing it. When you see a good looking girl somewhere the first thing out of your mouth would be, 'wow! That girl is so hot!' She probably hears it so much that she doesn't want to hear it anymore.


Most of the time when you say a girl is hot; you don't really know her personality. You're just judging her on her body and her looks. So, you say she is hot. Once you get to know this person, you'll probably tend to tell her she is beautiful. Because you know her and you like her personality. Her looks and her personality are beautiful. So, that is why most girls tend to like the fraise 'you're beautiful' more. ♥

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theres this girl in my school, she is a good friend of mine and i guess i kinda like her too and lately she has been gettin alot more plaayful with me is this even a remote sign she mite like me back?

and how can yoou tell if a girl likes u?

Yes, that is a sign that she might like you back. Once a girl likes you, she's going to be more playful with you. She's going to be touching your arm and giggling over your jokes.


I suggest checking out the following site: http://www.getromantic.com/dating/content.shtml?articles/dotheylikeyou.shtml


This site will give you a list of signs you can look for that will give you an idea if this girl likes you as more than a friend. ♥

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This one is for girls. Do girls like guys that are cute or hot. Not both, one or the other.

I tend to go for guys that are cute, mature; but knows how to be silly, caring, sweet, good personality, can make me laugh and all that good stuff. I do like hot guys, but a lot of hot guys are too full of theirselfs. They know they're hot and they know they can get any girl they want. I don't like that. I rather be with a down to earth cute guy. ♥

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when you put conditioner on your hair do you put it all over your hair/head or just on the tips of your hair??

I usually just put the conditioner all over my hair. I use it just like I use my shampoo. ♥

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Okay, I know that just about everyone on this site (or atleast the girls) has at one point thought about what to name their kids one day, so I need your help. I need boy & girl name suggestions middle names would be helpful too. Thankyou guyss I appreciate it.

Here are some of my favorites:


Girls:
-- Jayden Marie.
-- Emma Elizabeth.
-- Hannah.
-- Oliva.
-- Madison.
-- Ami Lee.
-- Jenna Jayden.
-- Abby.
-- Brooke.
-- Kimberly.


Boys:
-- Ethan.
-- Andrew Anthony.
-- Justin.
-- Christopher Joseph.
-- Ryan.
-- Bradley.
-- Joshua Jacob.
-- Aaron.
-- Erik.
-- Daniel.


Hopefully you find something you like. ♥

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does anyone know where i could get cute myspace contact buttons.. like add me and message me?? thanks a bunch!

http://myspace.com/xohromancex has some cute ones. ♥

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I am looking for a breed of dog (mixed is fine) that is especially good for children, and it would be great if it did not shed much. Thanks for any suggestions!

Beagles are a really great dog. They're excellent with children, very loveable and they don't shed. They're also water proof, which is really awesome. ♥

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Why are guys so embarassed to admit their virgins in like, highschool?

They're embarrassed because everyone else isn't a virgin and they still are. So, they just say their not a virgin to fit in with the rest of crowd and to feel more 'manly' and in control. ♥

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My boyfriend got arrested but hes on probation and he has to be around a counselor. He told me he has a counselor because he broke a window. I thought you only have counselors around you if you had sex with a minor or rape?? Is he hiding something?

You can get counseling for anything, really. It doesn't have to be because you rapped someone. That might not even be the case. Since he DID break a window, that could lead to him having an uncontrollable temper. If so, he's probably in counseling for anger management. ♥

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My mom has this best friend and we go to his house all the time. My mom says we'll be livng there soon. Well anyway... he has to sons one is 19 and one will be 18. When I am there I feel wierd like my face gets like hot and red. Is that normal for a 13 year old girl??

This is perfectly normal. You only get like this because you're shy and uncomfortable around guys that are much older then you. It is normal to be shy around these boys, though. Once you start living with them, you'll get to know them more. That way, you won't be as shy as you were when you first met them because you'll be used to them. Just give it some time and pretty soon you won't be shy around them anymore, you'll be your normal self. ♥

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I wasnt really sure what catogory this was but this was closest. Im 15/m and have always gotten my hair cut real short. My sister and her friend say long hair on guys is better. What do most girls like best?

It really depends on the guy. Some guys look really good with shorter hair and some look better when their hair is longer. Do whatever you like best, though. You should have your hair the way you want it, not how everyone else wants it. So, if you want it to grow longer, do it. If you like it better shorter, keep the short look. ♥

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