Hi, my names Melanie.
I'm fifteen years old.
I love fashion, hanging out with my friends,
and drawing and writing along with a bunch of other stuff.
I used to have an old account here that was quite known for awhile,
but I sort of just lost touch with it,
so I decided to make a new one.
I'll try and help you the best I can,
just hopefully I didn't lose touch with my good advice, haha.
And feel free to IM me with your problem too.
I also put my myspace in a link down below,
if you ever want to add me & talk.
But incase you don't see it or something, it's:
www.myspace.com/themelinat0r
Website: my myspace!
E-mail: melledisko@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh
Occupation: student.
Age: 15
AIM: mel le disko
Member Since: July 2, 2006
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i heard that you shouldn't go to bed with wet hair..
how come? (link)
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Well, it's not like something bad's going to happen if you do, but it's best not to because whenever you go to bed with wet hair, in the morning, your hair can become extremely tangled up from all these tossing and turning during the night, and it can become really frizzy and hard to handle and straighten ( if you straighten it ) and brush through it. Plus, it causes your pillows and such to be wet too.
I hope I helped.
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My best friend is thinking about moving. Not the kind of moving where yoiu witch cities or states, infact this move would be a good thing! The house they are looking at right now is not even a block away from my house. She and I we're sooooooo excited! She knew the house would be perfect! Only one problem.... when she accually got to see the house... (only the outside) well, she just doesn't really like it. I really wanted her to move there! What do I do? (link)
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If you really want to try and get her to move there, just ask her to come and see the house with you again. Sometimes the outside isn't all that great, but the inside could be really amazing and roomy and the perfect size for her. Plus, the outside can always be fixed. You two could turn it into a project to do together and get together and work on the outside of her house to make it nice looking.
But if she really isn't happy with the house, then I suggest just letting her stay wherever she's at now. I mean, you want your best friend to be happy, right? I know it's great possibly having her move near you, but if she doesn't, at least you guys can still hang out and see eachother and everything.
I hope I helped.
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9th grade/f
So I met this guy on facebook, and we were messaging back and forth
I asked him what middle school he went to, and he said "jeferson" lets call it, and then i said oh i thought that was only high school
he said
no, k - 12. Its kinda annoying becasue all these little kids are running around. its kinda fun having them sometimes though
what should i say back to him? (link)
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Well, I'm not totally sure with your opinion on that, but if it was me ( so you can change this around, I'm just giving an example of what I'd say for my opinion ).
"Haha yeah, I hear you. Kids can be alot of fun to hang around with and they can be real cute at times, but sometimes it gets aggrivating be around them whenever they're always on you and so energetic when you're dead tired, haha." ( Or something like that ), and then just continue on to make conversation. Make ask,"Speaking of kids, do you have any brothers or sisters or anything?" And then just continue off onto that.
I hope I helped.
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I love my boy friend a ton. we have been together for a year & 10 months as of today. I am now a senior in high school.my boy told me a few weeks ago that when we go to college we will completly break up kas he doesnt want to do the long distance thing when we r only 45mins away.
last saterday i met this other guy nick & gave him my number. with my boys approval i went to the movies w. nick & his friends. then my boy started getting all mad at me and throwing fits. we got in a fight yesterday and almost broke up. then today i told him i wanted a break kas i wanted 2 see nick again, also because of the break up thing, & some other small reasons. my boy was really upset and im afraid i made the wrong choice by wanting a break? please tell me what u think.. im so upset and confused. my boy is my best friend & i love him very much but i kinda wanna see whats out there... is that wrong? (link)
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No, it's totally not wrong at all to want to go out and experience new things and meet new people. You're just living life.
And besides, your boyfriend's the one whose sitting there telling you you guys are going to break up soon ; who tells their girlfriend that? You do need this break to see who else is out there for you, and exactly how much feelings are there for your boy. Because, in the end, you guys are going to break up anyways, so why not find a guy to hang out now before it happens? You're just going to be doing what couples do when they break up ; find someone else. So I would think of it basically as he put himself into this whole situation by sitting there telling you two were gonna be broken up by the time college comes around.
If he really likes you that much to be getting upset that you guys are taking a break and everything, then he should be willing to try and work out a long-distance thing because he wants to see you and hang out with you and still date you. If he's not going to work at the relationship between the two of you, it's obvious how much he "cares".
I suggest just remaining friends with him, and like I said, live life and see what else is out there, and meet new people, experience new things, and just always remember it's his lose. Just because he didn't want to do the "long-distance" thing, he's obviously not that commited in a relationship.
I hope I helped.
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i have been with my boyfriend for a year and 3months soon to be 4 months at first everything was great now it just feels like everything is falling apart we have been arguing not that/ that isnt common but for us it isnt. i feel as if im getting bored with this realationship like im not as happy as i used to be. What is going on. i know i love him it just isnt the same? What can i do =[ (link)
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This is perfectly normal with couples after they've been dating for such a long time. The spark can tend to wither out, because after such a long time, the other person feels they don't need to impress their girlfriend/boyfriend anymore because they obviously already won them over, and it's not as new and alive and it once used to be, so there's less cute things to do and everything.
I would just talk with him about it and see where your relationship is going. You both need to try and make a greater effort to keep this relationship more exciting and spontaneous between the two of you so neither gets bored and feels like you two are just dating again and all the feelings are there. I suggest the both of you plan a day for eachother this weekend all day just doing a bunch of fun, nice ( even romantic ) stuff and just dedicate two days to the weekend to eachother and show eachother how much you really care and want to make this work out.
If he's not up for talking or trying to resolve it though, I suggest breaking up with him then. If he's not going to be as commited into the relationship as you are, why should you be? And I think you guys need to try and talk about why you two are always fighting with eachother, and over what exactly.
It seems to me though that he's going to want to try at least, I mean he's been dating you for a year and 4 months ; that's a really good lasting relationship, and he obviously has feelings for you if he's been with you for all this time, so I think if you just talk to him and plan a weekend together, things'll hopefully patch themselves up and everything'll be good again.
I hope I helped.
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I have just recently had feelings for my guy friend who I've known for quite awhile now. Even when I was with my boyfriend my mind tended to think about him instead. My dilemma is to reveal my feelings to him or not. Typically, the answer seems so obvious, but there are a few circumstances. You see, my guy friend, he does not have the personality I look for in a guy. Granted he is funny and great, and I'm not picky when it comes to guys I date, but he isn't the committed type nor is he dating material...and right now I'm looking for a long-term relationship, while he is not. I guess you could call this a crush, but do I reveal my feelings and risk awkwardness in our frienship? Or do I keep the feelings to myself since I'm not interested in dating him? (link)
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Well the real question is: do you want to tell him and possibly ruin the friendship you have already, even though you're not going to get anything out of it like a commited boyfriend?
I say, keep things as they are. If you two aren't compatible in the dating area, then there's no point in expressing your feelings unless you're sure he might feel the same way, or at least be boyfriend-material so you could work on him getting to know you and like you. Most of the time, it winds up becoming awkward anyways, so I really wouldn't want to risk it.
If you REALLY feel you have to tell him, because it being inside you is really bothering you, then sure, I don't see why you shouldn't. But just be really carefuly then if you do with how you're going to say it. Just let him know you've been digging him for awhile now, and it's been bothering you not to be able to say anything about it. If he does like you back and lets you know, then just be honest with him and let him know you're looking for a long-term relationship, and you don't think that's what he's looking for right now.
But like I said, if I were you, I wouldn't mention anything. If you still feel the urge to say something, write it down as a letter pretending you're writing it to him to just get the feelings out and then throw it away.
I hope I helped.
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I am currently "going out" with a 6th grader and I am an 8th grader. I normally like taller guys, but hes shorter. and hes really sweet.cute. and i like him a lot. but im so self concious and i worry too much about what other people think
is it too weird?
please give me honest opinions. (link)
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Well, to me, I've always thought couples should be either the same age, or the boy should be older. But that's how we've all grown up to that on television and in real life and everything, so that's just what I'm used to.
But otherwise, yeah I think it's perfectly fine for you two to date. You both like eachother and have a great time together ; that's all that matters. Anybody else who says anything is probably just jealous you have a guy and they don't. So who cares what others say. Just push it out of your mind as best as you can, and have fun with your boyfriend!
I hope I helped.
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I really like this guy at work and hes realy funny, but i cant tell if he likes me back, i mean, i try to give him signals but i think he's like dumb or something, what should i do to let em know i like him? (link)
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Lol, he's not dumb ( I hope not ). He's just a guy, guys can rarely ever pick up signals that a girl likes them, or whenever they think they're getting signals from a girl ; they're not. It's just the way they work, lol.
Just try and up the anty a bit more. Flirt alot and make it slightly more obvious so he can catch on a bit more. And just compliment him and pay alot of attention to him and maybe even poke him or tickle him just to joke around and tease him. Sometimes it takes a little more obviousnesss to show someone just how much you like them. Just don't do it so much, you're like, hanging all over him, you know? Lol.
If he likes you:
-stares at you alot
-stares and then when you turn to look, he turns away
-smiles at you alot
-is alwyas wanting to talk and hang out
-sits close to you
-face turns red
-finds ways to touch you ; tickling,poking,nudging,hugging
-compliments you
-teases you
If he does some of those things, then he might! :)
I hope I helped.
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i want to be more socail,confident,and happy. how can i make more friends,and be happy with my self?i want people to want to talk to me, if that makes sence. i feel like im invisible. i just want to be noticed and be more in my circle of friends. how ? (link)
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You just need to start putting yourself more out there. And just walk into school in the morning with a smile on your face ( as of the rest of the day ) showing people you're approachable, and they'll want to talk to you cause you'll come off as a nice and happy and fun person.
As for your friends, just hang out with them more and talk to them more than you usually do. Also just hug them some more and show them more attention then you usually do, and just show them you care about them and want to become better friends with them then you already are. If there's a quiet moment at the table, ask people how their days been going so far, anything interesting happen, and then just start talking about random things like maybe something you saw on tv last night, and did anybody else watch it, by chance? You just need to try and find common ground with people and show them you're funny and you can relate to them and what they're going through and everything. Also, just invite more hang out times with you and your friends and just show you're fun and you guys'll have a great time if you hang out together more and that leads to inside jokes and everything which like I've been saying, will strengthen the friendship more.
Like I said, as akward as it seems at first, just get yourself out there socializing with people you haven't before and however much you already talk to people and joke around with them and whatnot, do it twice as much to strengthen the relationship. That's what I've done this year, and now my old friendships are stronger, and I've made a few new ones. :)
I hope I helped.
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ok, so my friend (that im not close with) has her first boyfriend. She doesn't even like him, and it's obvious. All of my friends and her friends think she just went out with him to say she has a boyfriend. My friend told me that her boyfriend asked her if she wanted him to kiss her and she said "i dont know." Normally that would be fine, but when she's going around saying OMG im in loveeeee with him and then she doesnt know if she wants to kiss him? If she was truely in love with him, then she would've said something different. Is there something we should do about this situation? or should we leave it alone and let her do what she wants?
ps. i'm not her good friend so I cant have a like serious conversation with her, but my other friends could. THANKSS (link)
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Eh, I say it's her life and just let her do whatever she wants. She also might feel ganged up on if people keep talking to her about it, so that just might create unecessary drama anyways. But I say if she just wants to go around bragging to people saying she has a boyfriend and making a somewhat fool of herself, she should go on right ahead.
I WOULD have someone talk to the boyfriend about it though, because even though she can do whatever, he shouldn't have to sit there and take it. I would have someone explain to him how it seems to everyone she doesn't really even know if she likes you, she just wants to tell people she has a boyfriend, and just see what he says, and maybe he'll dump her.
If he does, it might be a good thing, cause then it'll teach her a lesson to not go running around blabbing things, first of all, and second of all, you have to actually really LIKE the guy you're dating and everything.
I hope I helped.
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Hey..I'm 15/f and I just have a lot of stress with homework, friends, boys, sports, basically everything a girl has to deal with proabaly plus more..what are some things that can help me deal with this stress? Because I usually go to bed at night saying stuff like oh I'll do it tomorrw, and I hope I studied enouf for this test or what ever. And I just have soo much to do I don't get a good nights sleep..so what are some things I can do to lower and relieve my stress and get more time to do things I want to and not study and do h.w all day/night (link)
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To make myself less stressed, I sort of make myself a little schedule to follow on a daily basis. I go to school, and I usually either do my homework during the class ( while they're just talking or giving you some time to do it ), or I do it while I socialize with my friends at lunch and they can even help me with it and it gets done quicker.
Also, then whenever I get home, I just sit on the computer on sit around and talk to my friends on the phone adn the computer and eat and whatnot till around 9 or so, and then I get off and do all my homework and get ready what I'm going to wear tommorrow and everything, and then if it's still not too late, I go back on the computer and talk to all my friends for awhile longer.
For the weekends, I just do all my homework on Sunday like all the other kids do or I do it right whenever I get home on Friday night so I don't have to worry about it the whole entire weekend and I still have time to hang out with my friends and focus on other things.
You just need to learn how to balance everything toegether so you can still do everything you want, but still do what you have to in school and everything.
If you DO have a test, however, like I said get off the computer or whatever around 9 o' clock and start studying and doing your homework and whatnot, and then just study for however long seems good ( over-studying I hear isn't good for yo at all and doesn't help you remember that much better ), so just study then sleep. And then on the way to school if you're sitting there with a friend, have them quiz you on your test, or just do it in homeroom.
If you want to IM me, just IM me at Mel Le Disko to talk about anything else you want to talk about on this, or just re-message me!
I hope I helped!
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Lets First start out with Cody,hes so cute,and I really like him,we've had past relationships,but the problem is...every other girl does too.He's really hot any funny, but i don't really care about that.How can I tell? your asking? well about a year ago I moved into a private school and we didn't talk for a while then one day..we talked.i saw him this summer but I didn't have a chance to ask him out,the reason why is because i'm scared.I'm afraid since i'm not thereto watch him he might cheat on me or something.I told myself the last time we broke up that i wouldn't like him anymore,but then about a month ago,i started getting feelings again,like whenever i'd get off the phone with him i'd feel really excited and happy.and thats when i knew.we have a lot in common,infact we are only 15 days apart and our moms are friends.It's strange because i had a dream like 2 days ago and i kissed him then asked him out.What should I do? I'm really confused. (link)
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Well I suggest talking to him more first and getting more common ground and flirting in there and just hug him alot, compliment him, send him signals that you're interested and finally I would just let him know. It's better to do it and find out how he feels, then just sit there wondering, right?
If he does like you back, I would talk to him about a relationship and just get it out of the way that you're really worried he would cheat on you. Did you have feelings he was cheating on you before? I'm sur e he wouldn't cheat, just because alot of girls like a guy, doesn't mean they go necessairly go around cheating ( it might sound suspicious though if he's had like 394093403 girls, but i doubt it ). I say take a chance!
And if he were to cheat ( hopefully he never will! ) just remember, you took a chance, you learned something, and it's definetely his loss and he doesn't deserve you and he's a major jerk.
I hope I helped!
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how do i tell if a guy likes me? (link)
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How to tell:
-he looks at you
-he looks at you when you're not looking, and then when you DO he does the infamous "turn of the head in the other direction"
-he goes out of his way to impress you
-he compliments you
-he finds ways to touch you by poking you or tickling you
-he might hug you alot or sit near you
-he teases you alot
-he smiles at you alot
-wants to talk to you alot and spend time with you
-if he talks and asks of your friends about you but doesn't let it show it's really HIM who wants to know
-he may act differently around you then he does around his friends
-he turns red in the face
-you see him at alot of the same places you are ( at the movies, in the halls, wherever not like STALKER where you are but you get what i mean )
-he might seem nervous around you
-remembers alot of the things you've mentioned about yourself or your opinions ( which is good cause that means he's listening to you! )
I hope I helped!
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I've decided to break up with my boyfriend of 6 months and I'm absolutly sure that I want to this. I'm trying to find time with him to do it but I havent seen him since Friday and I don't know how to go about breaking up. Do I call him and ask him to come over and we'll go for a walk and then I'll do it or do I go to his neighboorhood and do it there? Once I get everything out, do I just leave? I've never formally broken up with anyone and I don't want to do it in a way that will be painful for him. Any tips? btw I'm 14/f (link)
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Well, I'm sure no matter what way you break up with him or how nicely you put it, it's going to hurt him somewhat cause getting dumped isn't exactly the best feeling, you know?
But I would suggest doing it in person because it shows respect for the person, and you should at least have the decency to do it to his face and let him know what went wrong in the relationship ( and let him know you're not looking for a fight, you're just being honest ), and you're sorry but it's just too difficult being in a relationship and you would rather just remain friends. Because this is a big issue, and I mean phone calls and emails and IMs are good for whenever two people want to have a good conversation, but if you're going to break up with someone ; in person's the most respectful, best way.
So maybe just call him up and tell him you need to talk to him about something that's really important and if he'll meet with you somewhere where you guys can walk and talk. And then just get to the point and explain to him you're sorry, but the feelings aren't there as much anymore, and just being in a relationship is difficult with him when you two hardly get to talk and he's always spending time with his friends and everything, and ( like I said ) you'd just rather remain friends with him.
He might be a little mad at first, so just give him some time and room to cool down and then try talking to him after a couple days, and if he still isn't in the mood to talk, just let him know that if he's ever wanting to try a friendship with you, please to just ring you up sometime and talk.
I hope I helped.
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ok so my friend spent the night with me for the first time 2 nights ago. and she was just admiring my earings, well today when i went to school she has that on and my shark tooth necklace. i said those are my earrings, and thats my necklace. and she goes "no my mom made me go to clairs with her". ok 1. she lied to me bkuz when i gt home i looked everywhere for them and 2. she stole from me. what mom "makes" their daughter go to clairs with her. not her mom, i know her mom. i am sooo mad at her, what should i do? i really want to tell her mom bkuz i really want to get her in trouble, please help, i'm desperate! thx... (link)
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If you want to get her into trouble, then do so. She was caught with stealing something and she should get in trouble for it ; she deserves it.
I would just call her mother up and ask her if she ever took _(yourfriend)_ to Claire's the other day. If she DOES say yes, ask her what she bought her daughter because you noticed her daughter was wearing some similiar jewelry you have and it's been missing lately. You might as well be honest.
Just let her know you're not outright accusing her daughter just yet, you're just wondering because it is a little unsual for a friend to be wearing their friends same jewelery a couple days after they hung out. And just ask the mother if she can talk to her daughter and have her give you your jewelery back to you. And the next time you want to have a sleepover with her ; I suggest hiding all your good stuff you don't want her taking, or just sleep over hers.
I hope I helped.
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Does anyone know how to make this type of glitter words?
http://i12.tinypic.com/4hmobax.gif
Thanks! (link)
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Here's a site:
http://www.glittergraphics.us/
Just go there and select whatever style of the word you want there to be that they have, and then they have a space under so you can type whatever you want it to say, so you're not sitting there searching for a specific name or word. ( But it has a typing limit, of course. )
I hope I helped.
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Well My problems in my name. The situation is complicated but basically im in a long distant relationship, and i keep cheating on him. I love him so much AND NO ONE SAY I DONT BECAUSE I DO. i dont know what to do about it cos i love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him but i keep cheating and its hurting him and me. What do i do (link)
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I know long-distance relationships are really hard, but you have to think of who you want to be with more, him or other guys? If you love him enough, you're just going to have to try your hardest and back off of other guys and just keep reminding yourself of how much that'd hurt your boyfriend and how much you love him, and think of how it'd feel if he cheated on you with some girl. Maybe even communicate less with guys so you're in less situations with them where you can cheat. I mean you can like talk to them in school and on the phone and on the internet and everything, but maybe take some time from hanging out with them over the weekend or whenever or wherever you cheat.
If you still find yourself continuing to cheat on him, I would try and take a little break from him and see what goes on whenever you're really single, and see where your feelings and everything go and re-evaluate how much you really do love him and want to be with him. Because like I said, if you love him enough, you can work your hardest to try and stop cheating.
I hope I helped.
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Hello. I have lived with my boyfriend for a year. We have seperate rooms though because i have lots of stuff! anyway, hes 29 this month and i was thinking about doing something really nice for him. do any of you have any ideas? And should i get him a physical gift? or should it be a romantic gesture or a hot bath, with candles and rosepetals etc. Its our first special occasion together.
Also, he keeps bringing up marriage. How do i remind him tactfully that im only 16 and im really not ready?
Thanks x (link)
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I think the roses and candlelight would be a really nice romantic gesture.
I think just send him out somewhere with his friends or something so they can hang out for awhile on his birthday, and then whenever he comes home, he can come home to a home-made dinner you made just for the two of you with rose petals scattered all across it, and then some leading into a nice hot bath or some scattered onto the bed with candles everythwere too. And just play some nice music and slow dance and just enjoy eachother's company.
I'm sure he'd really appreciate the romantic gesutre, and as for the present, I'm sure whatever you want to get him he'll be fine with. If I was him, I'd think a romantic dinner and bath/bed thing would be wonderful enough!
Also, about the marriage. If the topic ever does arise again, just be honest with him. Let him know you really do have strong feelings for him ( love? ) him, but he needs to remember you're only 16, and you think that's way too young to be married yet, and you're not quite ready to be married yet. I'm sure he'll understand where you're coming from.
I hope I helped.
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You probably wouldn't remember the question I asked you before, but I have a boyfriend and my ex that broke up with me called etc... Well the situation is, I've broken up with current boyfriend (Lenny) for reasons that have nothing to do with Don (ex). Don called me yesterday and asked me to come over, and without thinking, I did. At the time I was still with Lenny, but things were going downhill. I knew I shouldn't have stayed at Don's house long, because before I knew it, he was telling me that he missed me and he feels so dumb for losing me and he wants me back etc. So we talked about it, and I ended up breaking up with Lenny (for reasons excluding Don) and Don wants to try to make things work between me and him. I don't know what to do about Lenny though, he wants me back and would do anything, but I'm not as crazy about him as he is about me, I'm crazy about Don and I haven't lost feelings for him. Any kind of advice on this would be greatly appreciated. Thanks. (link)
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Well I know this is going to sound corny, but follow your heart. It sounds to me like you'd be happiest with Don and you have the strongest feelings for him. I know you don't want to hurt Lenny and he likes you alot and everything, but that doesn't mean you should be unhappy just to make someone else happy. You should come first.
Just talk to Lenny and be honest with him. Let him know that some things went wrong in the relationship and it just couldn't continue and you're really sorry. And you know he wants to try and work it out, but over the time of being apart, you've sort of met someone else. It's best just to be honest with him, cause he'll find out everything sooner or later, and that'll only upset him more in the end.
So I say if Don makes you happy and you have these strong feelings for him, then do and stick with what makes you happy.
I hope I helped.
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if you forgot about me yesterday i asked you a question and told you about this boy kevin that broke up with me 2 weeks a go friday and i still like him alot and i asked you how to get him back and you gave me wonderful advice
i wanna ask you somthing else well today was differet kevin did not sit by me at lunch but after lunch he was playing basketball and some dude pushed him and he didnt do any thing about it and then they were walking from the basketball goal and the other boy cyril was being very messy and telling kevin you should have hit hat boy back if that was me i wouldnt let nobody push me and let them get away with it but kevin didnt say nothing back but i told him to quit being messy and stop trying 2 make a big deal out of somthing so small and stuff after that kevin was going 2 his class and he said hey ravin and tapped my hand (i was so happy) can you tell me were i should go from there ? some tips on wut 2 do tomorrow (link)
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Well, I'm not completely sure on what you did today, but if you didn't flirt much with him today, flirt with him more tomorrow. And maybe even start poking his sides and just laughing and smile at him alot. Also, even give him a compliment tomorrow on how nice he looks. :]
If you want even more help with flirting so you can figure out what to do on a day-to-day basis, look at some of these sites:
http://www.romantic-lyrics.com/flirting.shtml
http://www.links2love.com/flirting_1.htm
http://www.links2love.com/teens_flirting.htm
I especially recommened the second one. It tells you to wear a certain perfume or bring in some sort of prop like a CD, jewlery whatever because people love to start conversations, and immediately having something to look at and talk about makes it all the more easier.
I hope I helped!
And I hope tomorrow goes good! :]
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