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Birthday gift?/marriage?
Hello. I have lived with my boyfriend for a year. We have seperate rooms though because i have lots of stuff! anyway, hes 29 this month and i was thinking about doing something really nice for him. do any of you have any ideas? And should i get him a physical gift? or should it be a romantic gesture or a hot bath, with candles and rosepetals etc. Its our first special occasion together.
Also, he keeps bringing up marriage. How do i remind him tactfully that im only 16 and im really not ready?
Thanks x
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about the marriage. i'd tell him that maybe he should wat until you're legal.
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Firstly you have too figure out what he likes..
If it is that he is actually into the romatic stuff...then you could carry him out too his favorite resturant.Wear a sexy seductive dress after all..its his night and you gott too tease.
The after math..should definately include the hot bath,with the candels and rosepetals...Try also too wear some sexy lungerie underthe sudcutive dress and lay the rose petals from the room straight to the bath>toCreate an atmospeher of love but also one that screams sexuality.
About the marriage..
Do you honestly think you're ready for this.you need to reasure him daily that you always be at his side and the realtionship that you all share does not need a ring or a formal contract too make the bond stronger..
Hope ive helped..
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I think the roses and candlelight would be a really nice romantic gesture.
I think just send him out somewhere with his friends or something so they can hang out for awhile on his birthday, and then whenever he comes home, he can come home to a home-made dinner you made just for the two of you with rose petals scattered all across it, and then some leading into a nice hot bath or some scattered onto the bed with candles everythwere too. And just play some nice music and slow dance and just enjoy eachother's company.
I'm sure he'd really appreciate the romantic gesutre, and as for the present, I'm sure whatever you want to get him he'll be fine with. If I was him, I'd think a romantic dinner and bath/bed thing would be wonderful enough!
Also, about the marriage. If the topic ever does arise again, just be honest with him. Let him know you really do have strong feelings for him ( love? ) him, but he needs to remember you're only 16, and you think that's way too young to be married yet, and you're not quite ready to be married yet. I'm sure he'll understand where you're coming from.
I hope I helped.
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I'm not sure where you live, but if it's in the United States, you're not only not ready for marriage, you're not legal. A minor under the age of 18 cannot enter into a legally binding contract, and that includes signing a marriage license. So there's your reason why you can't get married.
I cannot in good conscience advise you on what kind of gift to get for him, because the idea of a man of nearly 30 having a live-in girlfriend of 16 (or 15, when you actually moved in) is sending up all kinds of red flags. Maybe he's a perfect gentleman, maybe he's the best thing that ever happened to you, but the fact of the matter is that unless he has the consent of your legal guardian to cohabitate with you, he's also breaking the law.
The best gift you could probably give him is to move out, so he doesn't have to face the possibility of kidnapping or statutory rape charges.
For a 29-year-old man to seek out a young teenage girlfriend is very unusual behavior. For the two of you to be living together is borderline criminal behavior. Consider VERY CAREFULLY the possibility that he does not have your best interests in mind.
Please take this advice seriously. I'm sure you're thinking right now that I just don't understand, that it's not like that, and that he loves you and you love him and that's enough. Just remember that you are literally betting your life on that.
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