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confidence?
i want to be more socail,confident,and happy. how can i make more friends,and be happy with my self?i want people to want to talk to me, if that makes sence. i feel like im invisible. i just want to be noticed and be more in my circle of friends. how ?
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I just want to start out saying that this isn't a rare problem. I went through it last year. What I did that really seemed to work was I just made others feel invited into my conversations. Then soon enough they will start inviting you into their groups or conversations. Just watch out that you don't stereotype by passing right by people who are labeled weird or mean. You decide and you can get yourself out of any situation you get yourself into. I hope I helped and good luck!
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After school clubs are a great way to meet people boys/girls. Find something you are interested in or want to get better at and see if there are any clubs around. The bonus with clubs is that usually they are an interactive thing and secondly someone new always joins. That makes it easier to make friends.
You also say "more in my circle of friends". Do you have a group of friends that you belong to, if so try and talk one on one to some of them at different times. The more you do this and the better you come across the more likely that other people in your group will want you as part of their conversations etc.
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Well first off...it doesn't come 1, 2, 3, easy but there are MANY ways to solve this.
Now unless you're in kindergarten or 1st grade (which I highly doubt) it's not likely that people will just come up to you and start talking. Most kids in school have their group of friends and they're content. It's you who has to make the first step and then the other people step into the equation.
Start a conversation. If you're shy then you need to at least step out of your shell for a couple seconds. Say hi or try asking them a question to spark up a conversation. What's the worst thing that can happen...they end up being snobby and thinking you're a loser? I know that sounds horrible but that just shows the negative side in them and plus...you should be happy if that happens because why would you want to be friends with someone like that anyway?
Now, for the conversation starter, try seeking someone in your classes or someone out of the people around you who seem like they have some things in common with you.
Example: You see a girl walking around with a band t-shirt on. You really love the band and know a couple of their songs. GO UP TO HER AND START A CONVERSATION! Think of a good idea first such as, "Hey...I like *band name*, too. Did you ever see them in concert?"
Or...if you see someone wearing a shirt that you like, go up to them and compliment them. Say, "I like your shirt! Where did you get it?/I have one similar to it!"
I remember starting my sophmore year of high school and I entered my math class and there was a new girl. She complimented my purse that I was carrying and right away I responded with, "THANK YOU! I like your's, too!" That attracted me to her instantly for a good friendship! I would have probably never started talking to her or becoming her friend if she didn't come out of her shell a little because I would never have known if she was nice or not or even wanted to start a conversation with me in the first place.
Good Luck!
Nikki.
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I know what you mean,I was diagnosed with a condition called Turner Syndrome,There isnt anything life threatning about it or physical problems but there is mental problems like low self esteem and everything.Just say to yourself,I am not invisible and that i can do anything if I beleive.Start talking to people that you havent even met.Say Hi, My name is so-and-so and reach out to people and let them know you care.
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You just need to start putting yourself more out there. And just walk into school in the morning with a smile on your face ( as of the rest of the day ) showing people you're approachable, and they'll want to talk to you cause you'll come off as a nice and happy and fun person.
As for your friends, just hang out with them more and talk to them more than you usually do. Also just hug them some more and show them more attention then you usually do, and just show them you care about them and want to become better friends with them then you already are. If there's a quiet moment at the table, ask people how their days been going so far, anything interesting happen, and then just start talking about random things like maybe something you saw on tv last night, and did anybody else watch it, by chance? You just need to try and find common ground with people and show them you're funny and you can relate to them and what they're going through and everything. Also, just invite more hang out times with you and your friends and just show you're fun and you guys'll have a great time if you hang out together more and that leads to inside jokes and everything which like I've been saying, will strengthen the friendship more.
Like I said, as akward as it seems at first, just get yourself out there socializing with people you haven't before and however much you already talk to people and joke around with them and whatnot, do it twice as much to strengthen the relationship. That's what I've done this year, and now my old friendships are stronger, and I've made a few new ones. :)
I hope I helped.
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