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Hey..I'm 15/f and I just have a lot of stress with homework, friends, boys, sports, basically everything a girl has to deal with proabaly plus more..what are some things that can help me deal with this stress? Because I usually go to bed at night saying stuff like oh I'll do it tomorrw, and I hope I studied enouf for this test or what ever. And I just have soo much to do I don't get a good nights sleep..so what are some things I can do to lower and relieve my stress and get more time to do things I want to and not study and do h.w all day/night

I admit it. It's hard to balance everything because being on the computer for hours or watching your favorite show's re-runs is just way too great. I normally finish my homework in class when the teachers are jabbing away and if I don't finish it, I do it RIGHT when I get home as if it was like I had to. Make yourself do it RIGHT AWAY when you get home even if it burns so much that you don't want to do it.

Sports normally have set schedules so that's something that you can easily work around. If you have practice right after school, make sure right when you get home from practice you finish that homework so at least you can watch TV and go on the computer or talk on the phone as much as you want without knowing important things have to be done.

The most important things should be done and worked in FIRST (sports and homework) because they're things you have to do. At least if you make sure you finish those RIGHT AWAY...then you have all that extra (and stress free!) time to deal with the friends and boys.

(And as for studying...try and get it done with your homework and read through notes and everything you have to know so you don't have to stress about that either!)

Isn't it better to know that the normal "oh, I'll do it tomorrow and I hope I studied enough for this test" will be changed to a "oh, I'll deal with telling my best friend about my phone conversation with my crush tomorrow...I hope I remember it all!"

Believe me...it's way better.

Good Luck!
Nikki.

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i want to be more socail,confident,and happy. how can i make more friends,and be happy with my self?i want people to want to talk to me, if that makes sence. i feel like im invisible. i just want to be noticed and be more in my circle of friends. how ?

Well first off...it doesn't come 1, 2, 3, easy but there are MANY ways to solve this.

Now unless you're in kindergarten or 1st grade (which I highly doubt) it's not likely that people will just come up to you and start talking. Most kids in school have their group of friends and they're content. It's you who has to make the first step and then the other people step into the equation.

Start a conversation. If you're shy then you need to at least step out of your shell for a couple seconds. Say hi or try asking them a question to spark up a conversation. What's the worst thing that can happen...they end up being snobby and thinking you're a loser? I know that sounds horrible but that just shows the negative side in them and plus...you should be happy if that happens because why would you want to be friends with someone like that anyway?

Now, for the conversation starter, try seeking someone in your classes or someone out of the people around you who seem like they have some things in common with you.
Example: You see a girl walking around with a band t-shirt on. You really love the band and know a couple of their songs. GO UP TO HER AND START A CONVERSATION! Think of a good idea first such as, "Hey...I like *band name*, too. Did you ever see them in concert?"

Or...if you see someone wearing a shirt that you like, go up to them and compliment them. Say, "I like your shirt! Where did you get it?/I have one similar to it!"

I remember starting my sophmore year of high school and I entered my math class and there was a new girl. She complimented my purse that I was carrying and right away I responded with, "THANK YOU! I like your's, too!" That attracted me to her instantly for a good friendship! I would have probably never started talking to her or becoming her friend if she didn't come out of her shell a little because I would never have known if she was nice or not or even wanted to start a conversation with me in the first place.

Good Luck!
Nikki.

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soo me and my boyfriend are planning on having sex for the first time soon. it will be my first time, but not his. what do i need to know?

1. Most IMPORTANTLY make sure that you are most definatly in love with each other and you are not just having sex to be cool or to ease sexual frustration.

2. Use protection. Be as careful about it as possible. If you're able to, get a pill. Whether it's birth control or the morning after pill just to be safe. And OF COURSE he DEFINATLY should wear a condom.

3. Make sure that the place you chose to have it is secure and safe and no one will intrude. You want to keep this private. No one else deserves to know anything about this than the both of you.

and lastly...

4. TAKE IT SLOW! The first time is msot likely not going to be your best time. It's going to hurt and there's going to be a lot of "getting used to." He needs to know your bounderies and you need to know his. He needs to make sure he doesn't hurt you or make you feel uncomfortable. If it's your first time then you will bleed because he is taking your virginity and "popping your cherry" so make sure you don't get fluids on places you don't want them to be.

Good luck!
Nikki.

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