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i have been with my boyfriend for a year and 3months soon to be 4 months at first everything was great now it just feels like everything is falling apart we have been arguing not that/ that isnt common but for us it isnt. i feel as if im getting bored with this realationship like im not as happy as i used to be. What is going on. i know i love him it just isnt the same? What can i do =[
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This is perfectly normal with couples after they've been dating for such a long time. The spark can tend to wither out, because after such a long time, the other person feels they don't need to impress their girlfriend/boyfriend anymore because they obviously already won them over, and it's not as new and alive and it once used to be, so there's less cute things to do and everything.
I would just talk with him about it and see where your relationship is going. You both need to try and make a greater effort to keep this relationship more exciting and spontaneous between the two of you so neither gets bored and feels like you two are just dating again and all the feelings are there. I suggest the both of you plan a day for eachother this weekend all day just doing a bunch of fun, nice ( even romantic ) stuff and just dedicate two days to the weekend to eachother and show eachother how much you really care and want to make this work out.
If he's not up for talking or trying to resolve it though, I suggest breaking up with him then. If he's not going to be as commited into the relationship as you are, why should you be? And I think you guys need to try and talk about why you two are always fighting with eachother, and over what exactly.
It seems to me though that he's going to want to try at least, I mean he's been dating you for a year and 4 months ; that's a really good lasting relationship, and he obviously has feelings for you if he's been with you for all this time, so I think if you just talk to him and plan a weekend together, things'll hopefully patch themselves up and everything'll be good again.
I hope I helped.
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The romantic fantasy of the unknown has fades. You have become familiar with him and know him more as a person...faults and all. This is not as exciting as the first feelings of falling into love, but it is a normal occurance. At this point some people choose to pursue other people, because they only want to experience the highs of new love and not the deeper love that long term relationships can bring. Love develops and becomes strong when two people decide to love in a committed and unselfish way. Falling in love is not really love, it is about sexual attraction and sometimes friendship, too. Only you can decide what to do from here, but if you don't want to commit to him and deepen the relationship, it is pretty much over.
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i know what you mean i have been with my boyfriend for like 2 years 9 months and at one point in time everything seemed to be going wrong we would always get into fights and it would just seem like he didnt want to be with me anymore. so i talked to him about it and well it worked out for me. but what i think you should do is talk to him tell him how you feel and see if he feels the same way. and maybe you guys need a break and i know your probally like no we dont and hate me for saying it casue i hate it when people tell me to break up iwth my boyfriend but i think the best thing for now is to just talk to him and be like yeah things dont feel the same anymore and iwant to do something about it i dont want to break up i jsut want everyhting to be ok and just see what he says back...
hope i helped you out and if you need anyhting else let me know.
~Deb~
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