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I'm just an average person. I love to help people out :) it makes me feel better about myself. I've been in a lot of situations so I can most likely relate to a lot of your problems. I know what it feels like to not have anyone to talk to about your problems, which is why i'm an advicenator. I'm ready to help people and be there for everyone who needs advice or just a companion to speak out to. I'm always here if you need me, don't hesitate to drop a question or even just a vent/rant note about a problem to my advice column inbox. I respond to all of them regardless of the topic. I'm upfront and abrupt about my answers and never sugarcoat. Take my advice or not, but i'm just doing my job :)Played volleyball for over 10 years, also a coach. I love to try new things. Currently I'm trying the new sport of tennis and learning about my passion of photography.
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I'm a senior in high school beginning college next fall. I'm not much of a party person but I consider myself to be really nice. What are some ways to make quality friends on campus?
join a bunch of clubs. join a sport. go to events like football games.
even if your not a party person, you can still go to them. just socialize and be friendly. find a few people that look friendly and just talk with them. be yourself and you'll make friends.
good luck!
Okay so, Ive been dating this guy for a few weeks and things have been great. We are seriously perfect for eachother. He lives 30 minutes away but he told me it didnt bother him, and I have no problem with a long distance relationship.
Well the past two days he hasnt talked to me once, and then this morning he broke up with me. He said it was because the distance was an issue and it sucked that he couldnt see me very often. I reluctantly agreed and accepted that out relationship was over, but we both decided to still be friends.
So tonight he texted me and started being very sexual. He told me that he wanted me, and that it was a bad thing that he wanted me because we werent dating. While we were dating we'd send flirtatious text messages, and thats exactly what he kept doing tonight.
I am very confused. Should I just forget about him? Is it a possibility that we'll get back together? Any advice is appreciated.
yeah he probably is using you. because why would he break up with you, but still have feelings for you?
if he still had strong feelings for you, he would deal with the distance and still be with you.
i think the distance excuse is just an excuse to not be in a relationship, but he still wants to be flirty you (aka use you)
if i were you, just forget about him and tell him that you don't like to be used. and then call it quits. dont be friends with him. because all he is going to do is cause drama and confusion between you 2. tell him to get a life
good luck!
I really want to learn how to drive but, of course, I want to do it legally and not just take my mom's keys. My mom said she doesn't really care if I learn how to drive right now or not so it isn't a big deal for her. How do I get a learner's permit so that I can learn how to drive though? None of my friends drive so I don't really have someone to ask and I don't want to ask something stupid to them anyway. Where do I go for a learner's permit?
Oh, and will I need to take a test or anything? If so, is there any way I can prepare myself for a driver's learning permit?
first of all, have you taken any classes? you need to take drivers ed classes (like actually in a classroom). then you go to a drivers exam station and ask for a written test. (this test is all about the rules of driving, like what do the signs on the streets mean? and what does a flashing red light mean? and how far are you supposed to park from the curb?) then if you pass that test, you get your learners permit. you have that for 6 months (or until you turn 16). during this time, you sign up for behind the wheel classes. this is when you get behind the wheel with a professional instructor and they tell you actually how to drive. after the 6 months (or until you turn 16) you go back to the drivers exam station and ask for the license test. this is when you drive around and there's a teacher in the car with you and they tell you if you get your license or not.
search on the internet for a drivers exam station in your state. and search for classes in your local area. normally there's supposed to be some at your High school.
good luck!
16/f
so ive been dating this guy for 5 months and we have done things like fingering, hand job and hes played with my boobs. while lately he has been kinda rough when he plays with my boobs and i usually dont mind it cause it just hurts alittle. but today he was doing it really hard and it only hurt alittle but after i went to the bathroom and found red spots around my boobs and i know its cause he was squeezing them too hard. so i told him just cause i thought he should know. so my question is, how do i not make him feel bad about it? i mean i love when he plays with them but he said that now since he knows this he is gonna stop completely and i guess he should but i like that and we dont wanna have sex and playing with em turns me on so idk. should we stop all together or should i just tell him to be gentle with me??
i would gladly appreciate any advice.
well if you like it... why would he stop doing it??
if he's your boyfriend, he would want to do anything to make you feel good.
just let him know how good it feels to you and how badly you want him to keep doing it. but say "just as a reminder though, i don't like it when you do it too hard"
when you tell him that you like it, smile.
good luck :)
I've been dating my boyfriend for two months now and I've come to realize that I really don't have any interest in him. I'm ready to "move on" to somebody else that interests me more and that can make me happy.
My boyfriend is good guy though. I don't want to hurt his feelings but I don't want to lie to him either. We're just not compatible, I guess, because I think he's really boring and strange. I even feel stupid for going out with him in the first place!
How do I break up with my boyfriend? THANKS!
you can't prevent his feelings from being hurt. they are most likely going to be hurt. you just have to do it slowly and truthfully. take him somewhere private. i wouldn't do it at either of your houses, because thats awkward. do it like when you guys are on a walk, or going to get coffee, or walking around in the mall. just make sure no one can overhear and no one notices you two.
then just tell him "i really want to tell you something, and its not easy for me to say it. but just promise me you'll listen to me and don't freak out. my feelings for you have changed. I feel like we aren't compatible together. You're a great guy, but you're not the guy for me. I'm really sorry, but I'd rather tell you the truth about my feelings, rather than lie to you about my feelings just to make you feel better. do you have anything to say?"
and then let him speak. its important that when he does speak, you don't interrupt him. interruptions are really rude and it normally leads to fighting. so first speak, then listen and let him say what he wants. then when he's done telling you everything, you can speak.
also, make sure you look him in the eye. if your eyes are wandering around, it shows weakness and maybe even lying.
you can do it. just be honest, but nice about it. no reason to get bitchy about it and rude.
good luck :)
Okay so basically my mom is Crazy.
Ever since i was in fifth grade (I'm now 19) Shes just been ridiculous. Every time shes having a horrible day she'll come home and lock everyone out of the house. Its gotten to the point where my older brother will kick down the door.
There was one time when she was mad at me, she came up to me, hit me with shoes and then smeared peanut butter all over and and called the police.
I honestly don't know what to do anymore, i'm at my wits end. She constantly puts me down and says hurtful things all the time. I feel like the reason im so shy is because of how shes acted my whole life.
How do i approach her and let her know how im feeling, with out it turning into a crazy bitch fest? Im sick and tired of everytime i try talking to her in a reasonable tone and having her attack me.
I just dont know what to do someone help me
yep a letter will work. also emails are ok if she gets them. maybe even a text message or voicemail. make sure though that when she reads it, she's in a somewhat safe area. i've heard about people who read something bad and then feel horrible and then do something bad. (example- like trash the house and throw everything. or take a knife and cut themselves etc.)
and yes, tell her you love her and all you want is for her to become a better person
good luck!
why dose guys get turn on more girls do. what make a girl turn on?
basically the other advicenator said it all. just want to add 1 more thing. I get turned on when a guy sings or plays in a band. It's my weakness and I love guys who can play music :)
Okay so, I was sitting around thinking about goals for myself and I was thinking I really want to be an actress, ya know, make something of myself. I'm stuck in my tiny town and I can't get out. I want all of the people in my town to be put on the map, for us to be recognized, for us to be something. I want to be able to die and be happy because I did everything possible, no regrets. I want to be the next Selena Gomez or Miley Cyrus, they both come from small towns and rose to the top, of course Billy Ray had a big part in Miley's excellence. I want to do this, I am so dedicated, I want to be seen on tv, wear beautiful dresses, meet the stars, attend Gala events, I want to be on Disney Channel, I didn't think small town girls were possible until Debby Ryan, look at her, she came out of nowhere. As did Nikki Blonski of Hairspray, she litterally had no experience at all, the cast of the movie found her at Coldstone Creamery taking a break from filming and they liked her so much they just asked her to go down to the studio to audition her. Please don't just write back "Good Luck, you won't get anywhere" Anything is possible so don't be a jerk. I want honest advice, what do I do next? Acting classes? Are the classes going to be costly? How do I audition for a show? Do I send in a tape or do I have to go somewhere? Please help me, I want this so bad.
what the other advicenator said is true. you can't be famous, just for the sake of being famous. face it, EVERYBODY wants to be famous. the real question here is... do you want to be famous because you love to act? or sing? or dance? or whatever? thats the question you need to answer.
if you haven't taken any acting classes yet.. then you're getting WAYYY to ahead of yourself. you can't say you love something, if you haven't actually experienced it. have you ever acted in a play? or movie? or even in a talent show of some sort? if not- sounds like you're getting caught up in the moment of being famous.
so here's my advice. take some classes. find out what you really love. you'll know if you love it if you can feel it in your heart. if it was taken away from you, would you DIE? or would you just be upset and cry? that shows how much it means to you. look around your city center for acting classes. check your school. most schools have acting classes or some drama department or some sort.
Then you need to practice practice practice. after you're comfortable with being in front of people and comfortable acting on a stage (i'm talking at least 20 productions) then look online for an agent. either they will contact you if they see you in a production (that's where the state wide productions come in.. sign up for a state audition or something really big, agents really like to go to those to recruit) so they will either contact you if they have seen your work, or you can contact them (by looking online or phonebook etc.) Then discuss with them about becoming an actress and they'll take it from there. They'll help you with finding productions (like disney channel) and auditions and they'll tell you where to go from there.
just know 1 thing... the chances of becoming a big time star is very slim.. but hey, its your ambition. if you really want this, go for it. nobody is stopping you. nothing is impossible. you just REALLY have to want it and you actually have to want it for the RIGHT reasons... not just to become famous. that wont get you anywhere in life.
good luck
I have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now and i still have a hard time wanting to go spend time with his family. They are very nice people and very welcoming. but i just feel that a couple members of his family are really judgemental. I've noticed them sometimes look me up and down to see what im wearing. and they have money, so what they wear is really nice, classy, pretty, whatever. I'm not rich, i wear jeans and a tee shirt most of the time. I want to spend more time with his family but every time i do i just feel like they are judging me. Usually i dont ever worry about that but with his family i am extremely worried. How can i stop worrying about what they think? I want to be more comfortable with going over to his house without worrying about what im going to wear cuz his family will look at me and judge what i look like.
you know... this stuff they think doesn't really matter.. what they think about you is their opinion. you can't change that. let them think what they want to think. who cares if you dont have much money? does that make you a mean person??? no... does wearing the "wrong kind" of clothes make you a lesser person than them?? no... you guys are both human beings. its not like they are a higher class than you.
number 1- dont let it get to you. just show them that what they think of you means absolutely nothing. brush it off your shoulder and prove to them you're better than what they think you are.
number 2- try to get along with them. even if they are a little annoying/stubborn, just be nice. its especially important that you dont get frustrated back and act rude.. because then they have a perfectly good excuse as to why you're not "fit" for them. so remember to always act nice and respect them, even if they don't to you.
number 3- be determined to prove them wrong. they obviously think you're not good enough for your boyfriend. but prove them wrong! make them think "why did we have something against her?" if they think you don't dress as nice.. one day dress up a little. (not like over the top.. but try a little harder. like maybe wear some new jewlery, or mix and match some clothes, maybe even create your own dress or something if youre good with needles) do whatever it takes to prove them wrong (but remember not to do it in a rude way or a bitchy attitude or something)
just keep your head high. this is a relationship between you and your boyfriend. they shouldn't matter that much. you got this, ok?
message me for more help if you need it. i'm here. good luck
I had crushes on boys when I was young. I found them attractive and all. I started dating my freshman year. He was my first boyfriend. I was with him for two months and then broke up with him because I found out a guy I had a crush since 8th grade was going to ask me out. He didn't. My ex bf asked me out a month after we broke up and we were together for another 2 months. Then we broke up because I didn't want to lose my virginity to him. Sophmore year I started dating a guy in Febuary that went to another school. At the same time started dating another guy who went to school with me. Didn't see any harm. Broke up with the guy at my school because of rumors and just went as far as kissing him. The other bf I lose my virginity to and not right away. I was with him on and off for 9 months. 5 or 6 months into our relationship I started seeing another guy on the side. Broke it off with the guy on the side. Stayed with the guy I lost it to. Finally broke up with that guy in September. Junior year at the end of December over winter break I dated a guy for a week and the other for 2-3 weeks at the same time. Broke up with the week one because he wasn't treating me like a gf. The other one I stayed with for the heck of it and broke up. Started dating another guy in the beginning of january and not for long at all. Broke up and didn't date until the end of May. Was with this guy for 2 months and during one of those months was with another guy. Broke up with both sooner or later. Started dating another guy in August for 9 months, didnt cheat on him until the end of our relationship. The first time was around march with a friend. The other time was in June with one of the guys I was with before. NONE of these guys know they were cheated on. Didn't date anyone from June until April so almost a year. Started dating the last guy I was with the one for 9 months. Met another guy and was in the process of breaking up with the 9 month guy bc I found out he lied and sorta cheated on me. The guy I started dating in June doesn't know any of my past history I listed. He thought because I told him I would NEVER do it. I hate cheaters! I cheated on him 3 months into our relationship, HE FOUND OUT, i have been trying to earn his trust back and so on. We have been together for almost two years. I cheated on him 3 months into our relationship, cheated on him again 10 months in (he doesnt know about). Broke up for good, dated around, tried dating the recent ex bf again and havent cheated on him for 8 months. We arent together now for other reasons. I know I am this terrible person because I can't believe I did this. At first I didn't think much of it. I'm 20 now and I don't want a life like this. I'm dissappointed with my past. I cheat, I lie, I hide things, I have stolen in my life and I don't like who I am. The last guy I was with I loved him and I did everything I could to prove to him my cheating was a mistake but it wasn't because look at my past that he doesn't know about. He doesn't know that I have stolen, he doesn't know I cheated, he doesn't know how many times Ive had sex, our relationship started on my lies and he has no idea how many times I have lied. I have lied about TERRIBLE things!!! I just don't know about MYSELF anymore! PLEASE someone help. This is the first time I've asked about this and told them almost everything!
oh wow. well we all screw up. its not about HOW we screwed up.. but HOW we fixed it.
a guy could look at you and look at your past and think you're a horrible person.. but thats not right at all. he should be looking at the present and recognizing what you are trying to do to fix all of this.
you need to forget about EVERYTHING you just said. ok? take all of that and throw it out the door. i mean it. right now. open the damn door to outside and just take all that stuff in your head and toss it out the door. then scream out the door "I'M DONE WITH THIS" and slam the door. (as silly as this sounds... it works. i've done it and after i slam the door, i feel pretty good lol) then make a list of everything you want to change about yourself. (good things)
for example.. I will not
-cheat
-lie
-steal
etc.
then keep the list hanging somewhere where you will see it everyday. perhaps a common place. like your mirror. then each day, take 1 item on the list and think about how you're going to fix it. the key here is not to fix everything right away, because that's too much pressure. and too much pressure leads to stress. and stress leads to frustration. and who knows where it will go from there. so attack 1 thing at a day. then try your absolute hardest to fix that the entire day.
example.. day 1= no stealing.
encourage yourself to go out to a store and keep in mind not to steal. go into as many stores as you possibly can. and each time you go in/leave one, think about not stealing and becoming a better person.
then day 2, attack another small thing. after everything you've "attacked", cross it off the list. eventually... everything will be crossed off and you'll feel like a whole new person.
another thing is don't get down on yourself. you're 20. people mess up. our lives are full of our shitty pasts. the key here is, not to look back. there's that saying that says "god put eyes on the front of our heads because he didnt want us to look back, only look forward"
i wish you luck and message me if you need any more help.
My boyfriend and i are going for an extended weekend away in our local city. What are some fun things we can do? We are both 20 and a usual weekend for us is just hanging out at home, going to the beach, going for walks, going out for lunch or dinner. What are some new things we can do because we usually feel like we are wasting the weekend by not doing much. Since we are going for a weekend away we want to do something different.
Any suggestions are fantastic.
check local magazines or newspapers. they usually have some events there. you could just walk around downtown and find a random store and just browse and find cool stuff. you could go bowling, dancing, play pool, go to the pool, work out, go to a theatre/play, have a party, cook, take a random class together (like yoga, or photography) go biking, sledding, skating, drive around aimlessly and end up somewhere random and get lost and then explore the new place, stay at a hotel (this is always reallyyy fun because you get to stay somewhere new, with service and something about hotels that are always nice and relaxing) paint together, paint your room a different color, rearrange furnature, make a movie, go to a carnival or festival, watch the stars at night, look at the moon, visit a museum,
i know most of the stuff might not be your interest, but there's just ideas. just be really creative and dont plan too much. be spontaneous. the best things always happen when you're not looking for them.
good luck and have fun!
I was wondering what song i should sing for my middle school talent show because this is my first one?!?!?!?!?!?!
well it depends on what your vocal range is.
considering you are a middle schooler, i wouldn't recommend anything with a high vocal range (such as christina aguilera). and also, i dont know what your music interest is.
but my friends sang a song and its pretty cool and medium vocal range. check out Mirror by Barlow Girls
good luck!!
i'm 20 years.i'm from egypt..I've no life....i'm beautiful .but i can't make a relationship with any guy...someone i love now and he love me too ,but i don't know why i go back when he get close my heart...i don't know why i did this...i want him sooooooooooo much i love him .....i can't tell him that i love him ,but he felt that and want to be sure...i don't know how make him sure without telling him 'i love you'????
if i can't conect with him i will commet suicide.. because i really love him..
hi. i'm not really sure what you're saying. but i'll try my best to help.
first of all, don't commit suicide.. no guy is worth your pain. there are ways to solve this and you dont have to kill yourself to get rid of your problems.
second of all, i dont understand why you can't tell him "i love you?" you shouldn't have to hide your feelings. Its like wearing a mask. don't you want to be able to express yourself freely and say what you want? If you really do love him, tell him! you said that he loves you too, so why keep it a secret?
you also mentioned "i dont know why i did this". i'm not really sure "what" you did. but whatever it was, forget about it. if it was a mistake, let the guy know. tell him that it was a mistake to do that and you want to forget about it. if he really loves you, he will forgive you.
just remember, fate is always the answer. if it doesn't work out between you 2, then it wasn't meant to be.
you'll find another guy. just hang in there :)
message me if you need any help
good luck :)
I've been dating this guy for almost a month now and he seems to be a pretty good guy but things about him make me think he is only using me. He keeps hinting to me that he wants me to suck him off or have sex with him and it's getting pretty annoying. At first I thought he was just kidding around with me but now he brings it up every single day!
He also always bums a few dollars off of me every day for snacks near lunchtime. I wouldn't mind but he doesn't say he's going to pay me back. He doesn't really come from a wealthy family though.
He's nice to me though and always makes a point to tell me he cares about me. He hugs me every morning when we see eachother at school and he sits with me at lunch. He doesn't really talk to me even if he's sitting with me though. He always has his friends around at times like that so I don't even know some of the basics about him like his favorite food, movie, or book.
I'm just kind of torn about this situation. Is he using me or is it just early in the relationship? Should I tell him to stop talking about having sex with me and that I'm not going to do it or what? Should I stop giving him money for snacks and tell him he needs to bring his own cash? I don't want to be mean but I don't want to be stepped all over...
its obviously bugging you. so you should tell him that. you want a relationship with a person who will openly tell you anything, and you guys can resolve it. so you need to talk to him one day, alone, without his friends and just plain out say everything you just said on here. You dont want to have sex, you can't buy him food everyday, and he doesnt talk to you when you guys hang out. tell him whats on your mind and whats bugging you.
then once you've talked to him, stick with him for a few more days/weeks. see if anything has changed. if nothing has changed after you've talked with him.. he's not the person for you. drop him. he's using you then. if he does change however, keep mentioning the things that bug you (but be careful not to do it too many times, otherwise he might think you complain too much).
good luck!
Ok, you might think I'm trying to give up on someone I see every day but I never saw this guy in my life we meet in a chat room and since then are relationship grew. I knew him for about 1year and a half and we started by sending mesages and now we talk amost ever night. Don't get me wrong it is heavy flirting going on when we talke I mean how els can we tain are selfs.
We are starting to say things to eachother like iwant you to myself and iwant to love you and he made a song about me.....two songs..... real songs and he calls me sweety and I call him babe.
Your proble saying why you want just meet up somewhere but he lives all the way in LA and that's a distance from here. So help what should I do sould I give up or still fight for are love
the way i look at it.. i see 2 possible solutions
a. he could be lying to you and actually "cheat" on you with other girls who live closer to him. (aka a player)
b. he could actually love you and mean all those things.
I dont know the answer to which one could be true, but you gotta trust your instincts. listen to your gut. not your heart or head.
if you believe that he really does love you, and that you he's not using you.. then i'd say keep him. maybe dont take it too far (like long distance relationship) but stay in touch. maybe during the summer, you 2 could take a trip and meet somewhere? maybe with your families?
its really what you feel is right. if you want to stick with him, i wouldn't give up on him. there's no harm in having too many friends. so just keep him as a friend (or friends with benefits if you wish) and maybe in the future when you guys are able to meet, you can see where it goes on from there. let fate guide you :)
good luck!
i'm a girl in the 10th grade and my friend ashley and i have been friends starting from our 9th grade year. well about 4 days ago i started likeing this guy(lets call him *NICK*)and by the end of the day she liked him too. the three of us have lunch together. and every day at lunch we joke aroud saying he'm my man and things like that. so 2 days ago she wanted to make a bet. "the last person who says hi to nick has to get the 1st person a hook up with him" i said no but she said "uyeah unless your afraid i'll be the 1st to say hi." and i told her "no i'm not".
so when nick got his food he walked pass our table and i said hi. she rolled her eyes and said "i hate you" with a smile. the next day at break she runs up to me and says "i gave nick my number" so i just said ok, thinking that she wouldn't say anything else, but she kept going on about it then at the end of the day she runs up to me again and brags that he texed her hi, and wouldnt shut up about it. so i wnt to track pratice (and nick i s on the track team too) and i tell my cousin about how my day was going and she says she has had enough and tells him almost the hole story. and he says he's not trying to come in between our frienship and all he did was tex her hi and he didn't tex her back after that, and that he's sorry.
ashley is willing to battle with me to have him, but i'm not the type to fight over a boy, but i will defend myself. what do i do give my friendship up with ashley? stop talking to nick? please help me
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oh boy you sound like me and my best friend..
my best friend and i liked the same guy and we kinda had a war over him but realized that letting a guy come in between us was CRAZY and that we would never do it again.
ashley is jealous. the only reason she brags to you about nick texting her is because she's jealous that you had the guts to say hi to him first. and she's probably upset that she has form a hook up date between you 2. face it. she's mad at you for liking him and she wants him for herself.
to be honest.. this ashley girl sounds like a horrible "best" friend.. if you guys were real best friends, you wouldn't let any thing get in the way. you need to decide if you want to keep ashley as a friend or not. if she's acting this way about a guy, how do you think she'll act about something else? for example.. say you buy a really cute dress.. would she compliment you and convince you to buy it? or would she try to find something cuter and then brag about it? your choice. do you really want that kind of a person to be your best friend?
if you do want her to be your best friend, then you need to tell her everything on your mind. tell her how you feel about this whole nick situation. tell her that its really annoying you when she brags about him texting you. tell her that you guys shouldnt let a guy come between you 2. friendships can last a lifetime, but most relationships end in despair.
if you dont want to stick with her as a friend, tell her the truth. tell her that she's not acting like a best friend and that you can't deal with that in your life. both of you would be better off separate. show her that you dont need her in your life, and that she won't be happy without you in her life.
now, if you do want to be friends and she STILL brags about this kind of stuff and you dont want to tell her to shut up.. you gotta deal with it then. honestly, it was just a text from a guy that said "hi".. he didnt ask her to marry him... its not that big of a deal. if you want, you can add a little sarcasm to it. next time she brags about him texting her, be like "WHOO HOOO!! you got a text from a guy!! he said hi!! OMGG!!! ahhhhh" and just be totally sarcastic. she'll get the memo that its not a big deal.
just remember not to act the same way she's acting. be polite about it and respect her. dont just go all up in her face and yell.
good luck :)
what is anal sex? everybody always talks about it and i have no idea...
and my second one is, im not really sure what all this means but how does a condom protect from the cum because ive heard that the cum comes out of the penis so how do the condom protect from it? lol. im not planning on having sex at alll.. im waiting till i atleast find the right person. but i atleast want to know what this means. lol. i rate 5 for all(:
anal sex is sometimes referred to "butt sex" its when the penis goes up the anal hole (where poop comes out). anal sex can be guy-girl or guy-guy. my personal opinion... anal sex is horrible. I dont get how you could get pleasure from that. and i think it would hurt.
a condom goes over the penis. when you put a condom on, you leave a little space at the tip of the penis. that way, when the sperm comes out, it has a little pouch for the sperm. think of it like a balloon over a waterbottle. there's a hole at the top of the waterbottle, and when water comes out of the top of the waterbottle, the balloon is there to catch the water. so that way the water doesn't spill everywhere. got it?
and i'm proud of you for waiting to have sex with the right person :) not many people think that way today and i'm glad to hear there's someone out there who actually has the right mind. sex is something special. it shouldn't be rushed with some guy you met in high school or whatnot. I'm waiting until marriage and i really dont care what people might think of me. just keep your head high and know there's people out there who respect your decision :) like me.
Me and my boyfriend haven't been together long (less than 2 months) and we never really actually got in a fight ( well one time !) but the only thing that we sometimes feud on is his communication with me. He's a really busy guy and i understand that,but sometimes he doesn't text me for almost a day (if its the weekend!)or we will make plans to hangout and sometimes they work perfectly and other times,he messes them up.For example,on monday i asked him if he wanted to go to the gym with me...he said yeah and at 5 o clock when we were gonna go to the gym ,he told me he couldnt go because he had to watch his sister and that we'd go tomorrow.The next day comes around and he had a parent/teacher meeting with all of his teachers after school and told me he'd call me after it was finished.He did and said he couldn't go because his mom said he had to stay home and finish all the work he was missing and had soccer practice.and his best friend told me it was true,so i guess he wasn't lying about that. But today,i found out from his other best friend that on Monday when he told me he had to watch his sister,he was really hanging out with a few of his guy friends and a couple of girls.I confronted him and he finally admited it and he said he didn't wanna tell me he was with other girls because he thought i'd get mad...which i wouldn't have.I'd rather have him tell me the truth! Finally,we moved on and made plans TODAY to hangout.Directly after school ,he usually comes to my car and he did and showed me a text from his mom saying "that he had to come straight home and clean the house and his room because spectators or something is coming to the house" i believed him but ofcourse got upset and let down.He told me he'd call me after he's done with thqat so we could chill.It's only been 2 hours since he told me that ,but i texted him and no response yet.Is he just busy? Or to busy to even have a girlfriend? I've talked to him about it and he says he will change! but i feel like im being annoying...He's a reallllly nice guy .I just don't think he realizes how much he's hurting my feelings.i feel like he doesn't like me! But whenever we are together he always holds my hand,hugs me ,kisses me,does all the cute stuff.So im confused!
hun. take a deep breath and relax. there's no reason you should get confused.
he's just busy. that's all. Its not like he's PURPOSELY trying to make plans, so he can avoid you.. that one time about not telling you about hanging out with girls, that was his mistake. did you tell him that you wouldn't have cared and all you wanted was the truth? if you didnt tell him that, you really need to. that way, nothing like this will happen again.
as for all the other excuses like cleaning his room and soccer practice.. its not his fault. he's not purposely planning to avoid you. you're just reading too much into this. you're thinking that he's not interested. but if he holds your hand and kisses you all the time when you guys are together, he's into you. so don't worry.
i'd give him more time. wait another few weeks until his schedule clears up a bit. perhaps you could ask him to give you a copy of his schedule? that way you can plan things around his schedule. instead of around yours. right now, you're making him change his plans so he can hang out with you. but if he's so busy, maybe you should change your plans to fit into his schedule. that would be waaay easier on him. He's a teenage guy. he has a lot of stress. cut him some slack.
if his schedule doesnt clear up in a few weeks, and you're still frustrated.. maybe you 2 aren't meant to be. try to be friends then. but if you dont want to break up, try to work it out and stick with it. if you really want to continue the relationship with him, you're going to have to put up with it. however, if you dont want to put up with it- end it. why put yourself in misery?
your choice :)
the boy i have a huge crush on has got a girlfriend but it looks as if there goin to split up sometime soon :) so i was thinking about asking him about a week or so after they finish each other but im not sure how to say it, should i just come out with it, or should i try and make a convo first but the only thing with that is he never ansers to wuu2? an all that :S ( im going to do it over msn by the way ) help please
considering you said you're doing it over MSN... i take it you're pretty young..
so here's my advice for someone your age
dont say it straight out because its going to be too much for him to handle. a person your age is sensitive to relationships and breakups. just talk to him like a friend and after a few more weeks, give subtle hints that you're interested. be more flirty and then eventually work your way up to asking him out on dates. then after a few dates tell him how you really feel.
good luck
sorrry for the length in advance..
ok so, my best friend has told me that she has really liked me since she left for college, about 7 months ago. i have never though about liking another girl, so when we talked about it a while ago, i was against the idea of hooking up and whatnot, and just wanted to stay friends, and she decided that would probably be better, but it sucked because she liked me so much. and over the months i have really grown to like her a lot. i went and visited her last weekend so we could figure out where to go from here, and if we should try being together. but i got extremely drunk on friday night, and ended up hooking up with a random guy right in front of her. i made her really upset, but i dont remember the night at all. supposablly we went back to her dorm, and i instigated hooking up with her, and we stayed up the entire night hooking up and so on...and the rest of the weekend was just really awkward, and we didnt talk much. we went out to talk about what to do, and i was ready to tell her i wanted to be with her, but before i could say anything, she told me we would be better off as friends. not what i wanted to hear at all. i left her a long note in her dorm apologizing and clarifying everything, but when i talked to her the next night, she said she wanted space and time to think...since then she wont talk to me, and keeps making up excuses. she is my best friend, and i know she needs space, but i cant just watch her drift out of my life. is there anything i can do? or do i just have to wait for her to decide what she wants, and disregard my feelings?
right now you need to give her time to cool off. if you keep forcing her to listen to you, it will just make her more mad and more frustrated. so give her a few days to cool down. maxiumum 2 weeks. after that, talk to her. explain to her that you were drunk and that you had no feelings for the random guy. shit happens when you're drunk. everyone knows that. just sit her down and explain to her calmly that you had no intentions of hooking up with him. then you need to tell her your REAL feelings. tell her how much she means to you and how much you like her.
I believe in fate. if she doesn't want to forgive you and just wants to be friends.. then it wasn't meant to be. but if she accepts your apology and you guys do go out, then it was meant to be.
just let fate happen
good luck