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best friend hookup...
sorrry for the length in advance..
ok so, my best friend has told me that she has really liked me since she left for college, about 7 months ago. i have never though about liking another girl, so when we talked about it a while ago, i was against the idea of hooking up and whatnot, and just wanted to stay friends, and she decided that would probably be better, but it sucked because she liked me so much. and over the months i have really grown to like her a lot. i went and visited her last weekend so we could figure out where to go from here, and if we should try being together. but i got extremely drunk on friday night, and ended up hooking up with a random guy right in front of her. i made her really upset, but i dont remember the night at all. supposablly we went back to her dorm, and i instigated hooking up with her, and we stayed up the entire night hooking up and so on...and the rest of the weekend was just really awkward, and we didnt talk much. we went out to talk about what to do, and i was ready to tell her i wanted to be with her, but before i could say anything, she told me we would be better off as friends. not what i wanted to hear at all. i left her a long note in her dorm apologizing and clarifying everything, but when i talked to her the next night, she said she wanted space and time to think...since then she wont talk to me, and keeps making up excuses. she is my best friend, and i know she needs space, but i cant just watch her drift out of my life. is there anything i can do? or do i just have to wait for her to decide what she wants, and disregard my feelings?
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right now you need to give her time to cool off. if you keep forcing her to listen to you, it will just make her more mad and more frustrated. so give her a few days to cool down. maxiumum 2 weeks. after that, talk to her. explain to her that you were drunk and that you had no feelings for the random guy. shit happens when you're drunk. everyone knows that. just sit her down and explain to her calmly that you had no intentions of hooking up with him. then you need to tell her your REAL feelings. tell her how much she means to you and how much you like her.
I believe in fate. if she doesn't want to forgive you and just wants to be friends.. then it wasn't meant to be. but if she accepts your apology and you guys do go out, then it was meant to be.
just let fate happen
good luck
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