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i've aproached this many times!
Me and my boyfriend haven't been together long (less than 2 months) and we never really actually got in a fight ( well one time !) but the only thing that we sometimes feud on is his communication with me. He's a really busy guy and i understand that,but sometimes he doesn't text me for almost a day (if its the weekend!)or we will make plans to hangout and sometimes they work perfectly and other times,he messes them up.For example,on monday i asked him if he wanted to go to the gym with me...he said yeah and at 5 o clock when we were gonna go to the gym ,he told me he couldnt go because he had to watch his sister and that we'd go tomorrow.The next day comes around and he had a parent/teacher meeting with all of his teachers after school and told me he'd call me after it was finished.He did and said he couldn't go because his mom said he had to stay home and finish all the work he was missing and had soccer practice.and his best friend told me it was true,so i guess he wasn't lying about that. But today,i found out from his other best friend that on Monday when he told me he had to watch his sister,he was really hanging out with a few of his guy friends and a couple of girls.I confronted him and he finally admited it and he said he didn't wanna tell me he was with other girls because he thought i'd get mad...which i wouldn't have.I'd rather have him tell me the truth! Finally,we moved on and made plans TODAY to hangout.Directly after school ,he usually comes to my car and he did and showed me a text from his mom saying "that he had to come straight home and clean the house and his room because spectators or something is coming to the house" i believed him but ofcourse got upset and let down.He told me he'd call me after he's done with thqat so we could chill.It's only been 2 hours since he told me that ,but i texted him and no response yet.Is he just busy? Or to busy to even have a girlfriend? I've talked to him about it and he says he will change! but i feel like im being annoying...He's a reallllly nice guy .I just don't think he realizes how much he's hurting my feelings.i feel like he doesn't like me! But whenever we are together he always holds my hand,hugs me ,kisses me,does all the cute stuff.So im confused!
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I realy get what you are saying my name is C.L.N and I want to help
First I want to tell you I had the same problem with my boyfriend but the difference was we live a distance and we still hardly talk like 2hours a day if I'm luck mabe 5hours so don't give up if you realy like him
Also like I did ask him if he's avoiding you not saying he is, but try and this will let him think you think he is avioding you and if he realy care he will won't to spin time with you to prove that he is not avoiding you. That's realy all I could say ooooh and try telling him how you feel about him make him open up and let him know you will give up a day with friends to chill with him. Good luck!!!!!!
C.L.N
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hun. take a deep breath and relax. there's no reason you should get confused.
he's just busy. that's all. Its not like he's PURPOSELY trying to make plans, so he can avoid you.. that one time about not telling you about hanging out with girls, that was his mistake. did you tell him that you wouldn't have cared and all you wanted was the truth? if you didnt tell him that, you really need to. that way, nothing like this will happen again.
as for all the other excuses like cleaning his room and soccer practice.. its not his fault. he's not purposely planning to avoid you. you're just reading too much into this. you're thinking that he's not interested. but if he holds your hand and kisses you all the time when you guys are together, he's into you. so don't worry.
i'd give him more time. wait another few weeks until his schedule clears up a bit. perhaps you could ask him to give you a copy of his schedule? that way you can plan things around his schedule. instead of around yours. right now, you're making him change his plans so he can hang out with you. but if he's so busy, maybe you should change your plans to fit into his schedule. that would be waaay easier on him. He's a teenage guy. he has a lot of stress. cut him some slack.
if his schedule doesnt clear up in a few weeks, and you're still frustrated.. maybe you 2 aren't meant to be. try to be friends then. but if you dont want to break up, try to work it out and stick with it. if you really want to continue the relationship with him, you're going to have to put up with it. however, if you dont want to put up with it- end it. why put yourself in misery?
your choice :)
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