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always mean to everyone for no reason.
i'm 17/f and i have a problem with myself. i'm never really "happy". whenever i'm at school i'm distant and cold to everyone, even my friends. sometimes my moods lift and i'll be happy but then i'll get tired from the sudden rush of energy and go back to being depressed or angry. at church i'm pretty much the same way, and at home i'm just quiet most of the time. the only time i'm not a pissed off upset mess is when i'm hanging out with friends outside of school. but recently my best friend moved about thirty minutes away and my other friend and i aren't aloud to talk to eachother. and my other best friend already lived about 25-30 minutes away. how do i keep my moods from waving all the time?
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Your problem could be biological, behavioral, or both I imagine.
You kinda sound like me at that age....a lot acutally.
I went on antidepressants....but it took me trying 4 kinds to find the right one.
Sometimes it's just all in the brain. You might not be getting enough serotonin (the happy stuff) for example. If your antidepressant gives you more serotonin you could start feeling better in a couple of weeks.
The process is actually a lot more complicated....but it's a good possibility. If that helps...and something bad is going on in your life, it also makes it a little easier to deal with.
It might take you a while to find the right one...but trust me, you will know when you find it!
Some people freak when others take antidepressants....what they don't realize is it's not your fault. It's similar to your thyroid gland not producing enough TSH....or another organ not doing its' job. It's just a default with your body...you are only human, after all.
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You're not angry for no reason. I bet your mood swings are connected to some situation in your life. Do you have something to be angry about? Family life? Something personal? You need to identify what it is that is making you lash out. The anger may come up in certain situations, but its a symptom of a larger problem. My suggestion would be therapy/counseling. Not because you're crazy, but because it would help you to talk to a professional and identify what it is that is causing this for you. Ask your doctor or school counselor for help finding someone. However, if you can't get access to a good therapist, you can do some things on your own. A lot of people take medication for "mood swings" and depression. The medication changes the balance of chemicals in your body and helps it produce chemicals that make you feel happier and more positive. You can do this same thing by helping your body naturally as well. Exercise might sound lame, but it creates endorphines (the "happy chemical" in your body. It can also be a great way to release tension and focus your anger somewhere. Do you like to run, bike, play basketball, or just go for walks? Pick something you enjoy. Also, keep a journal. It can be a substitute for talking to someone. And find other outlets for your energy - whatever it is you like to do - writing, reading, building, playing chess, whatever. Is there someone you trust at church to talk to? Sometimes that can help, and finding someone to pray with you can also help a lot. You shouldn't deal with this alone. It will only get worse. You can help yourself, but it will take work, and a willingness to be open with others. I experienced this same thing myself. I was fortunate enough to be able to see a therapist. I went for a year and it changed my life. But I know not everyone can do that. If you can't, that means you have to take the initiative and do things to help yourself. You reached out here. That's a great first step. Try to reach out to others around you that you think you can trust. It sounds like you're at the end of your rope. I believe sometimes God brings us to the end of our ropes because its only then that we'll reach out for help, and that's a good thing. I wish you the best. You can beat this, you can change, but it will be hard work. You'll have bad days, but the goal is to make those bad days become further and further apart. Good luck to you!
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