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we like the same guy & its killing our friendship
i'm a girl in the 10th grade and my friend ashley and i have been friends starting from our 9th grade year. well about 4 days ago i started likeing this guy(lets call him *NICK*)and by the end of the day she liked him too. the three of us have lunch together. and every day at lunch we joke aroud saying he'm my man and things like that. so 2 days ago she wanted to make a bet. "the last person who says hi to nick has to get the 1st person a hook up with him" i said no but she said "uyeah unless your afraid i'll be the 1st to say hi." and i told her "no i'm not".
so when nick got his food he walked pass our table and i said hi. she rolled her eyes and said "i hate you" with a smile. the next day at break she runs up to me and says "i gave nick my number" so i just said ok, thinking that she wouldn't say anything else, but she kept going on about it then at the end of the day she runs up to me again and brags that he texed her hi, and wouldnt shut up about it. so i wnt to track pratice (and nick i s on the track team too) and i tell my cousin about how my day was going and she says she has had enough and tells him almost the hole story. and he says he's not trying to come in between our frienship and all he did was tex her hi and he didn't tex her back after that, and that he's sorry.
ashley is willing to battle with me to have him, but i'm not the type to fight over a boy, but i will defend myself. what do i do give my friendship up with ashley? stop talking to nick? please help me
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i have been threw this and sorry to say this you're friendship wont last even if you decide to let her have him as hard as you try it wont work it will not be the same if you get him or if she gets him if you get him shell tell you thats shes okay with it but deep down she wont be and if she gets him you'll be hurting inside there no way to get out of this with out hurting you're friendship so i say dont stop talking to him you're hes friend to why lose two friends at least thats what i think good luck you never know it might work for you i might have gave up to fast on my friendship good luck i hoped it helped
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Ok- I agree with the first answer that's she's jealous of u! My friend and I like the cutesy guy in our grade and she's known him forever and I just meet him. The thing is, I'm way prettier and I'm what he looks for in a girl, sporty yet girly! I'm just that! She's a nerd, ugly(no offense:) ) and she can't play sports for her life! So u should get back at her! You said Nick and you are friends, right?? Well ask him to "fake date" him! Tell her that he asked you out and pretend to be all cute and fuzzy, snuggle into him. Just get her jealous!! :D then, to top it all off you kiss him! This will do two things, one get her really reALly jealous and mad,and also maybe put you closer to Nick!! Trust me, she will be mad but you'll be happy!
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oh boy you sound like me and my best friend..
my best friend and i liked the same guy and we kinda had a war over him but realized that letting a guy come in between us was CRAZY and that we would never do it again.
ashley is jealous. the only reason she brags to you about nick texting her is because she's jealous that you had the guts to say hi to him first. and she's probably upset that she has form a hook up date between you 2. face it. she's mad at you for liking him and she wants him for herself.
to be honest.. this ashley girl sounds like a horrible "best" friend.. if you guys were real best friends, you wouldn't let any thing get in the way. you need to decide if you want to keep ashley as a friend or not. if she's acting this way about a guy, how do you think she'll act about something else? for example.. say you buy a really cute dress.. would she compliment you and convince you to buy it? or would she try to find something cuter and then brag about it? your choice. do you really want that kind of a person to be your best friend?
if you do want her to be your best friend, then you need to tell her everything on your mind. tell her how you feel about this whole nick situation. tell her that its really annoying you when she brags about him texting you. tell her that you guys shouldnt let a guy come between you 2. friendships can last a lifetime, but most relationships end in despair.
if you dont want to stick with her as a friend, tell her the truth. tell her that she's not acting like a best friend and that you can't deal with that in your life. both of you would be better off separate. show her that you dont need her in your life, and that she won't be happy without you in her life.
now, if you do want to be friends and she STILL brags about this kind of stuff and you dont want to tell her to shut up.. you gotta deal with it then. honestly, it was just a text from a guy that said "hi".. he didnt ask her to marry him... its not that big of a deal. if you want, you can add a little sarcasm to it. next time she brags about him texting her, be like "WHOO HOOO!! you got a text from a guy!! he said hi!! OMGG!!! ahhhhh" and just be totally sarcastic. she'll get the memo that its not a big deal.
just remember not to act the same way she's acting. be polite about it and respect her. dont just go all up in her face and yell.
good luck :)
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