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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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Laura!




--Jack

advice

I have been going out with my current boyfriend for two months. We both attend a boarding school- I'm a day student, but he boards, so we're separated for the summer. At the end of the school year, I met a guy through a friend. He really likes me, but I don't know him very well. I suggested that we hang out sometime. We went to see a movie, and we made out. I had a really good time, but I felt like shit. I want to see this guy again, but my conscience is telling me to cut off all communication with this guy. What's the best thing for me to do?

PS- this guy has a gf, and is a close friend's ex-boyfriend.

Listen to your conscience. There's a reason it's telling you not to talk to him anymore.

Are you happy with your boyfriend?

If so, then you really just need to stay away from this other guy.

If not, well then you need to end it with your current boyfriend, and be single for awhile, but still stay away from this other guy, because he has a girlfriend.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I'm a 15 yr old gal.

I have this really cool guy friend that's basically like a soul mate to me. He'd be the perfect gay guy friend for me, but he's actually quite straight. He's like 99% perfect, except for one thing...all the bathroom jokes.

He is a constant stream of jokes about me going to the bathroom. In addition all kinds of spoken jokes, there's always some kind of practical jokes he's playing on me also. Some times, he'll throw small pics of himself making funny faces into my toilet when he knows I have to go. Other times, he'll put saran wrap over the seat, or shaving cream, glue, or Icy Hot on the toilet seat. He draws on my toilet paper and also on my pads and tampons that are in my purse and backpack. I am worried that he might be one of those guys who enjoys perv stuff like girls using the bathroom, so the other day, I invited him to watch me go to the bathroom, thinking that maybe I should see what he would do if I invited him. He turned bright red, and said no. So, now I don't know what to think. I mean, his jokes are getting old, and I don't know if they're just jokes even. What should I do?

He's probably just kidding, because guys can't always be serious about everything.

I would talk to him and tell him how his jokes make you feel.

I mean, there's gotta be a point where there's some jokes, but not too many, if there's going to be a compromise.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I live in the UK

and I want to buy some american apparel clothes online,

If I ordered it from the american site, instead the uk site - I'd save some money right?

I agree with Rainbowcherrie below me- the pound is weak, so you probably wouldn't end up saving that much money.

Plus, the shipping overseas would probably cost a lot more than shipping within the UK.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I have been going out with my boyfriend for 4 weeks almost 5. And I want to makeout with him, I know he does too but he wont do anything that Im not comfortable doing. So, we haven't even kissed, I don't want to make out/kiss him because I dont know how? I know this sounds cheesy but I don't want to mess it up, or make it really akward.. Because this is my first kiss too and I really like him. So can anyone give me advice on how to kiss/make out? Thank-you soo much if you reply to this!
14/F.

I know this sounds really lame, and I'm sure it is ;]

But just go with the flow. I don't really have experience in how to "properly" kiss, nor do I have experience with kissing at all! Can you say prude? ;]

Anyway- if it's your boyfriend/girlfriend- just be honest with him/her. Tell them you're nervous and you don't really know what you're doing. Apparently the people who are less-experienced is a big turn-on to some people.

Do what you feel comfortable with. If something feels awkward or uncomfortable, don't do it. If it feels right, ask the person if they are okay with that, and if they are- then you'll be fine.

There really isn't a CORRECT way to do it. Everyone does what they are comfortable with.

From my weak experience- this is what I can tell you:

1. Don't come on strong- it's really awkward for the other person.
2. Don't slobber all over the other person.
3. Don't stick your tongue all the way down their throat.


My friend on here, Laura, answered a question similar to this, and she gave a great answer. I will copy her answer, but know that credit goes to her.

www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=542699

Honestly, you could read a book about it, and you'd probably forget everything once you went in for the kiss.


Explore. Do what feels right. Make it fun, playful, romantic, whatever you want it to be. Don't make it all about jamming your tongue down his throat, and try not to drool all over him, because it's generally less than desireable to do so.


If you come off as confident it'll be a lot more fun. If all evening you're thinking "Oh my gosh, this is going to be bad" you won't enjoy yourself. Follow his lead at first, if you're truly that nervous.


And really, it's almost impossible to find a truly bad kisser. If anything, they might do something you're not used to; give it a chance before you hate it. Who knows, he might be thinking the same thing right now about you!


Over time, you'll develop your own personal style of kissing/making out, and that's not a bad thing. Do whatever feels good/right to you, and gets a positive reaction. For example, some people love a gentle, or less than gentle, bite of the lip, "necking", and other techniques. Like I already said, experiment & make it fun!


From personal experience I'd advise that you brush your teeth and floss, and have some mild mints with you, like TicTacs. Fruity is usually good, and less overpowering. If you're at a party, don't worry too much about what you're eating if you're both eating the same things, but a huge plate of hummus & extra garlic is a bad choice right before kissing =P. That's where mints come in handy for both of you. Casually offer him one if he's been gorging on something stinky.


--Jack
(17/m)

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what are some really random questions i can ask a guy i like to keep the conversation going??

www.wikihow.com/Start-a-Conversation-When-You-Have-Nothing-to-Talk-About

1. Always start off with something that others don't use often. Example: You see a girl in a bar and she's sitting with some friends. You walk up to her and say, "I would like to sit with you, but before I sit down, what are you drinking?" "Bud Light (insert drink)? Good choice. I'll be back with 2 Bud Lights (insert drink) and I'll hope that this seat isn't taken when I get back."
2. Start with a "hello," and simply tell the new person your name then ask them theirs. Offer your hand to shake, upon his/her responding to you. (If you go to other countries, greet the person in tune with the particular culture, e.g. in India greet by saying 'namaste' with folded hands). If you already know the person, skip this step and proceed to step 3.
3. Look around. See if there is anything worth pointing out. Sure, talking about the weather is a cliche, but if there's something unusual about it--bam!--you've got a great topic of conversation.
4. Offer a compliment. Don't lie and say you love someone's hair when you think it's revolting, but if you like his or her shoes, or a handbag, say so. A sincere compliment is a wonderful way to get someone to warm up to you. But be careful not to say something so personal that you scare the person off or make him or her feel uncomfortable. It is best not to compliment a person's looks or body.
5. Ask questions! Most people love to talk about themselves --- get them going. "What classes are you taking this year?" "Have you seen (Insert-Something-Here)? What did you think of it?" Again, keep the questions light and not invasive. Do not ask too many questions if he or she is not responsive to them.
6. Jump on any conversation-starters he or she might offer; take something he or she has said and run with it. Agree, disagree, ask a question about it, or offer an opinion, just don't let it go by without notice.
7. Look your newfound friend in the eye, it engenders trust (but don't stare). Also, use the person's name a time or two during the conversation; it will help you remember the name, and will draw the person's attention to what you are talking about.
8. Don't forget to have fun with your conversation!


Tips

* Just relax. Chances are that whatever small-talk you're making isn't going to stick out in anyone's mind a few months from now. Just say whatever comes into your head, so long as it's not offensive or really weird. (Unless, of course, the person you're attempting to converse with is into weird stuff.)
* Remember, if you think of something in your head while you're talking, it's probably related.
* It will help if you watch some TV, listen to radio shows, and/or read a lot -- newspapers, magazines, and/or books. You need to have some idea of what is going on in the world.
* If you are shy, it will be helpful to have thought about a topic or two that you could talk about.
* Follow the lead that your listener is expressing. If he or she appears interested, then continue. If he or she is looking at a clock or watch, or worse, looking for an escape strategy, then you have been going on for too long.
* Interesting and funny quotes or facts can lighten things up, and make way for things to talk about.
* If talking over the phone, keep the person involved in the conversation at all costs. If you can't come up with a good topic, try the "questions" game. Just keep asking them questions; random questions work just fine as long as they are appropriate. This technique can save a phone conversation. The questions should be open ended questions that do not require a yes or no answer. For example "How do you know the hosts?" This way you can ask questions about what they just said or follow up with how you know the hosts (for example) instead of acting as if the conversation is an interrogation.
* Half of an effective conversation is the way you non-verbally communicate, and not necessarily what you say. Practice better non-verbal skills that are friendly and confident.
* Read newspapers and magazines to increase your knowledge so you can have more interesting things to talk about


Warnings

* Don't be overly invasive with questions.
* Don't use tons of fillers like "umm" or "soo". It might make the person you're talking to feel awkward or obligated to say something. Instead talk slowly and pause. This will create a little tension and make your newly found friend more invested in your conversation.
* Don't desperately ask personal questions.
* Keep eye-contact
* Don't ever comment negatively on the person or someone's looks... you never know if they have a personal attachment to it or if they are friends with the person you are criticizing




--Jack
(17/m)

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Michael Jackson died today and he was only 50 years old. It really took me by surprise, but it wasn't as if I didn't expect it sometime fairly soon. There have been rumors flying around for some time now about his health problems. As a matter of fact, when Michael was on trial, one day he was late because of health problems. Obviously, the judge didn't feel that Michael's health was all that important because he threatened to have Michael Jackson jailed unless he made an appearance in the courtroom. Michael showed up in his pajamas. Does anyone else remember that?

People made it out to seem as if he was faking. Some people even made it seem like he was crazy and would do ANYTHING as he was suddenly "extremely unpredictable" and all. I guess he wasn't kidding or faking about having health problems, huh?

I'm going to miss Michael Jackson. He was a man who set out to hurt no one, but the world seemed hell-bent upon hurting him. Michael Jackson was seriously the King of Pop in so many ways. Maybe he's better off wherever he is since we trashed his good name without even giving him a chance to speak. I choose to believe that he is now seated up in Heaven, seeing God for the first time.

Does anyone feel like me about Michael Jackson or am I alone in this? When I was growing up Michael Jackson was such a big role model. Sure, he was a little weird but he seemed to care and love. I'm really hurt that Michael Jackson is dead :( almost like a large portion of my childhood has been abandoned.

Michael Jackson was never a role model of mine. He was honestly only just someone to poke fun at. I mean, I didn't do it just for sick enjoyment, but it's just like any joke.

Honestly, I'm upset that a person has died, but then again, I never had any sort of attachment to him, so I'm not completely sad that Michael Jackson is dead, just because he never really meant anything to me. Does that make sense?

Sure, I liked Beat It and Thriller, and I even learned how to dance the Thriller last year [I've forgotten], but what I remember him most by is how... odd he became after the 80s. Whether he molested the children or not, he still had children in his house; and that is honestly just really creepy, no matter HOW much he loved kids.

--Jack
(17/m)

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hey hi ,iam 14/M,i am from Afghanistan , my question is that how we can get rid of mistrubate ?

only search advicenators.com



Hopefully that will help you.


--Jack
(17/m)

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hey everyone :)

soo , i got some real good advice a while back and the columnist asked if i could tell her what happened after i used her advice .
i really want to tell her what happened , but i can't figure out how to give feedback .

i saw on her advice column a link where feedback was showed , by i couldn't figure out how to write it .

thanks :)

When you're at the page of your question, go under each person's answer, and you can give a person a rating.

Then, it brings you to a new page, where you can leave feedback with words.

Then, hit submit.

--Jack
(17/m)

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hey i am at my dads house and i have no friends and nothing to do so what can i do?sincerly,alwaysbored4ever

Hello.

www.discoverfun.com/freeinfo/500fun/when_severly_bored.html


Those are a lot of fun.

Here are my favorites:
# Blow on a blade of grass
# Crank up some music
# Cut out photos and paste them on Popsicle sticks and have a puppet show
# Eat
# Eat 6 spoon full of sugar, a soda, and another think that makes you hyper and then you won't be bored anymore, you will end up finding something to do... trust us
# Experiment with makeup
# Get a bubble blower and then blow some
# Get a tootsie pop and see how many licks it takes to get to the center of the tootsie pop
# Laugh out loud
# Learn how to fake an accent
# Make a humorous crank phone call
# Make an entertaining phone answering-machine message
# Make up poems or songs about your boredom
# Break into a friend's house and clean it
Call a wrong number and talk to whoever answers.
# Catch a fly, then put in a jar and stick in the fridge (this cools their metabolism down), then tie the fly to the end of a thread 15in. and hold the other end of the thread while you watch it fly around (We have tested this and it works - a lot of patience is involved)
# Chase your best friend round the sofa
# Dance around your living room naked
# Doodle or cartoon
# Dress in something silly and laugh at yourself
# Fiddle around with a Ouija board
# Figure out how to get yourself on TV
# Find an address to your favorite famous person and write them a letter. See if they write you back
# Flip a coin 500 times to see who wins
# Get on the radio
# Give names to your body parts
# Go shop for a really cool book
# Go through the English dictionary looking up really long words like discombobulated.
# Have a carpet picnic
# Have a staring contest with yourself in the mirror.
# Kiss your elbow, if you can.
# Lay a long straight line of masking tape on the floor. Now spin around really fast then try walking on the masking tape.

Enjoy not being bored anymore. That should occupy you for a few hours =D

--Jack
(17/m)

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ive been with my grl for a while and we'r having sex, yesterday the condom i was using broke and i think i came in her. is it a 100% that she will get pregnant? she's due to b on in a couple of days. im a 17 yr old guy

You had sex and the condom broke.

You seriously risk pregnancy.

I know nothing about Plan B, so I can't advise you on that.

--Jack
(17/m)

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what is oral s e x mmean

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=oral+sex

"when a girl sucks on a guys dick and a guys lick down on a girls vagina"

--Jack
(17/m)

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Hi,

I had sex on Monday June 15th and got my period of June 17th. Is there ANYYYYYYY possible chance i COULD be pregnant even though I got my period? Thanks.

A penis entered your vagina, correct?

You risk pregnancy. The chances are slim since you had your period.

I would still take a pregnancy test to be sure.

--Jack
(17/m)

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if you get fingered, are you still considered a virgin?

Yes.

Virginity is lost when a penis enters your vagina, mouth, or anus.

--Jack
(17/m)

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So, I'm thinking about some ideas for creating my own website. I need opinions though based on other websites and was hoping that some people here could help me out so I don't have to sign up for the ones I don't use and become active on ones I no longer use.

Question of the day is:

What do you and don't you like about MySpace?
What can be improved on MySpace? How can MySpace improve that specific flaw (or, alternatively, can it NOT be improved for certain reasons) in your opinion?

Official MySpace users only please!

Thank you so much, Advicenators! :D

Myspace was good until Facebook came around with really awesome ideas that Myspace ended up using, too.

I hate the Apps, I hate the Myspace Chat, but everything else is alright.

But honestly, MySpace has just become outdated.

Facebook-like websites are "in", though they will eventually date, too.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Ok so i want to by sims 3 but im worried that it wont work well on my macbook. Has anyone used it yet on a macbook? Is it slow or does it work well? I also have an external hard drive which i could store stuff on but it sometimes doesnt work that well.. thanks

It's compatible with both operating systems, at least that's what I've heard and read.

--Jack
(17/m)

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My best friend just called and told me that Michael Jackson is actually dead! I totally cannot believe this! Michael Jackson was fairly young, right? This has to be some kind of joke, prank, or VERY late April Fool's gag, right?

Is Michael Jackson really dead? When did he die then? Was Michael Jackson murdered? I need the scoop, please!

Definitely dead. It happened somewhere around 2:00 pm Pacific Standard Time, which means 5:00 pm Eastern Standard Time.

He died today. I don't think he was murdered. But the autopsy, like Christina said below, is tomorrow.

I'm sure if you watch the news, you'll get the full scoop.

--Jack
(17/m)

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F/15

hey i wanna wear high heels to school! BUT NOT STRIPER KINDS LOL like more WEDGES (little ones)

should i or should i not? I wear them in public when i am not @ school but i dont @ school.

If you want to, but it might get uncomfortable.

I would only do it every few weeks.

But there's definitely nothing wrong with wearing them.

--Jack
(17/m)

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In the press conference, that happened a few minutes ago, about Michael Jackson's sudden death, Jermaine Jackson said, "May Allah be with you always," about Michael Jackson. I never knew Michael converted to Islam, when did he do this? I always thought Michael Jackson was Christian... :\

It looks like, from Google, he converted back in November?

I'm not sure on the exact date, but it was some time last year.

--Jack
(17/m)

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well i have broken up with this guy 3 times and now i am over him but he keeps on starinf at me and watching me with other guys does this means he still likes me.

he cheeted on me twice but he still wants me.
but i don't want him.

i am from australia

He wants you for the physical reasons.

He's jealous that you've moved on.

If you don't want him, make that clear to him and tell him to his face.

--Jack
(17/m)

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i am tired of this life.i am a student.should i commit sucide? i dont know what to do...
nikhiladkar@yahoo.com

There are ways to fix your depression. Don't kill yourself; it's a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

http://www.ivillage.co.uk/health/ghealth/mental/articles/0,,181034_616726,00.html

Maybe those tips will help you out.

--Jack
(17/m)

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