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thannks and yes i do hang out with her alot at skool and i talk to him alot so yah.. (link)
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No problem! :)
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so i'm a freshman in college and i feel like all my friends are just throwing themselves out there, like its the college thing to do. but i don't like being a slut, i'm the only one whos still a virgin because i feel like i haven't found the right guy yet. even all the guys i've messed around with i've felt a connection with, like i actually cared about them. i'm not into one night stands but i feel left out when all my friends talk about it:/ not to brag but i am a pretty girl and guys do try to get with me but i'm just not into it, i want a serious boyfriend...what should i do? (link)
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Well first things first...just because your friend are doing it doesn't mean you have to! Today society uses sex so casually as though its nothing...to me its almost lost the original meaning. And for high school, college kids, and adults it almost pushes this into our faces. You haven't found the right guy yet...thats all why rush it anyway? It will happen when its suppose to happen...at least thats what I hear. :) I know what you mean when you feel left out I sometimes do as well when my friends are talking about it...but I've learned to deal with it. Don't become someone your not...don't just do it because everyone else is do it because you lvoe that person or because you feel right about it. Don't let a boy tell you that being a virgin is stupid or your beliefs are stupid!
Just be you! This made me feel better...because sometimes I feel alone! :)
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My girlfriend and I have been dating for 7 months, and had a great summer living together, but once we got back to our normal school routine, and she got a new place with new roomates, she started to seem really distant. We started having way less sex, and she would sometimes seem like she had a coldness to her that I cannot really explain. She always said she was "tired" but sometimes admitted her depression, but didnt ever blame it on me or us. However, I could tell our relationship dynamic was part of the problem. The sex never really picked up to be what it used to. We continued loving each other very much and still did romantic things together, but for some reason she continued to seem distant, close, distant, close, distant, close, etc etc
She asked if we could take a break. We took a break for about two days before she said she couldnt stand it any more, so we started spending time together once again. Things seemed to be working out great at first (the break seemed to help), but after some time she again started to lack the same emotional connection that she had with me before.
It was really starting to effect me. Our relationship was making me depressed and effecting my school work. She started criticizing me way more frequently, pointing out my faults more than usual. I wanted so much for things to be how they were and for us to be connected in the same way, but they couldnt seem to get back on track. Finally one day I saw her and she didnt seem at all affectionate and in fact seemed to not really want me around. That day in class I couldnt focus at all, and I decided that the best thing for me to do is break up with her.
I broke up with her by saying that I want her to be happy, and that I think to do that she needs to be free. So I said I think we need to break, and that I need a break. She said she thinks its the best thing too, but asked, "can i come back?" She cried and kissed me and hugged me and I could tell she was sad. Then she left.
I really do not want us to seperate. I just want her to be happy and to get her life back so that we can be happy together again. I know she needed this because she really needs to fly. She was feeling like a trapped bird...I know it. What should I do? Should I not call her for a while to give her that space? Or would that ruin my chances of getting her back? I know she loves me and I know I love her. But I want to do the right thing. I want her.
Already Tried:
I have asked several places for advice. someone said I should tell her we should cut off contact for a few weeks while she sorts things out. I did just that and she said she doesnt understand why we need to do that. I am afraid that if we talk and end up getting back together, things will end up the same lacking physically and emotionally. However, I am also afraid that If I continue to cut off contact, I will lose her completely. She called me last night (the night after all this happened), in tears. I know she loves me and I love her but I dont know how to get her back. It really sucks not being able to see her. (link)
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Unfortunately I've been in a very similar situation. Its tough seeing the one you love hurt and having a hard time. I broke up with my last boyfriend because I felt he wasn't happy and I felt he was depending on me to hold all the happiness and to make everything go away. I'm on person I can't do that nor do I have the power too. I love him a lot but I can't be with someone like that...I want him to figure it out but right now its uncertain.
It seems to me that your relationship is going through a rough spot and its tough I know. Most likely you want to listen to your heart but your mind is telling you something else. I think it is a good idea to give each other some space to figure out what you both exactly want not just in the relationship but in your lives. Give it time...if its meant to be its meant to be. Give it sometime to set in and then figure out what you want to do in about a month or two. Let her figure out what she needs to figure out there maybe something thats going on that you don't know about. Good luck! I hope it works out for you two!
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i have a class with this super cute guy. my friends kniw him but i dont. i dont know how to talk to him at all! hes a complete stanger! my friend wanted to ask him if he knew me but i feltit would be werid. how do i talk to him? (link)
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Well if he' in your class thats a GREAT excuse! Pretend you aren't understanding the material and maybe ask him a couple of questions about it. Or maybe even ask him if there was homework or what about the notes taken in class. That should start the conversation off and then just get to know him from there! Good luck!
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I've been in relationships since late 2008. It being mid 2010, I'm EXTREMELY used to having a boyfriend all the time. I've been single for about a month now, and I'm over the ex and everything, I just miss having soemone there. I'm a junior in high school and I know a relationship especially now is just asking for disaster, but I love having a boyfriend... it keeps me happy and balanced. So, I'm trying to stay away from boys because of the constant heartbreak. What are some GREAT advantages of being single? I'm NOT used to this at all and I miss the idea of a boyfriend so I just need to be more confident about it. Thanks :) (link)
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Welcome to the Club!
I'm recently single myself so I know what you mean! Lately I've been selfish which I'm usually not. I've been shopping, working, and doing things I want to do. Its been good...yeah of course I've been checking the cute boys out but I need to figure out what I want first and what I want to do with my life. I'm planning on traveling for a bit and even moving possibly to another state. You're in your Junior year of high school...live it up! Thinking of colleges you want to go to and what you want to do for a career! Work on yourself and then find someone one later on! :) Hope I helped!
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Want to tell this guy how he makes me feel but don't know how to.he has been hurt before (link)
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Everyone has been hurt...that's an excuse!
TELL HIM! Talk to him or say something you're not going to get anywhere if you don't say anything or if you don't do anything. You want him to know how you feel tell him then you'll regret it if you don't!
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boyfriend left me for another girl, one month before our one year. i can't eat, i can't sleep. i know in time i'll be better but i sincerly do love him with every ounce in my heart. so my head tells me to fucking never talk to his ass again, but my heart screams his name every time it beats in my chest. I know i'm only 17, before him i had another boyfriend for 3 years. Yes i'm young, but i know that i want a loving boyfriend, because my moms marriage is horrible hes abussive and not the man she married. How do i move on? How do i possibly breathe and not think about him.. (link)
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It hurts to get your heartbroken I understand but you're young and there are so many guys out there. It hurts when you can't have a guy that you want. I've been in love with this kid I dated and he's awesome I love him but he's just not good for me. So I broke up with him...apart of me thinks I made a mistake the other part of me knows that it was the right decision and that I'm going to find a man who cares about me and is going to treat me right. I have never given my hope up on love NEVER. I grieved and some days for me are better than others. I sing, I write, I dance, I walk, or I even play basketball. Motivate yourself get out there and hang out with your friends. Don't sit around and cry...you can cry its just don't sit at home all day long that doesn't help! You're guy is out there...you just have to keep looking!
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Im a 37 yr old female whose ex boyfriend recently asked me to start calling him after I initiated a call to him I asked him if he was seeing anyone and he said no. I started leaving messages and he never returned them so on one of the rare instances we connected I asked steve why he had not returned my calls and he said that he was very busy with alot going on i was surprised since he told me to call him, he told me i had a special place in his heart and that I made him laugh, after that phone call he txt messaged me after I had left a voice mail message and he asked me not to call him so often, I left one more message after that and a girl answered and told me steve was busy, i hung up the phone and decided I was not going to call this man again. After that Steve left me three messages the same night I had called and a female had answered and his first voice message was oops I was trying to call someone else. the second message was Hey if your still up and want to talk call me the second was hey its me again I thought you might still be out with the girls and you might want to talk since you called me tonight. WHAT WAS UP WITH THIS GUY ??? the only thing I could come up with was that he was carrying a grudge since i was the one who broke off our relationship the first time around. (link)
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Ignore him.
He sounds like a confused immature individual and you don't need that in your life! Clearly there is no way of pleasing him! For example I had a boyfriend that I was going out with for awhile and I would call him and he'd be like "can you not call me that much?". And then I would not call at all and he complained that I wasn't calling enough...and guys say we're difficult? hahahaha. There is a reason why he's an ex in the first place don't bother with him. Forget about him!
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I want to marry my girlfriend but i dont have any where close enough of money to do it what do i do? and what is the different between engagment rings and wedding rings? (link)
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Well congrats! :)
Now I don't want to be negative nancy but you mentioned not having enough money...it doesn't matter how much the ring is its the thought! If you love this girl it doesn't matter how much the ring is its the fact that you love her so much and that you want to spend the rest of your life with her. Thats a pretty big commitment! Engagment rings normal have the diamond on them and the wedding rings are usually just the bands. The engagment rings signifies that you are in a very committed relationship. Remember its not all about money...the point is celebrating your love for each other! :)
Congrats again!
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do adults still keep their class ring even long after high school?i was wondering (link)
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I never got a class ring! I know a lot of people who have kept it after high school. My best friend keeps it in his drawer and my other best friend wears it everyday. I wasn't much into rings when I was in high school so I didn't have much interest in getting a ring. It is a great way to remember high school...my aunt still has hers as well! Its like another thing like your yearbook you don't get rid of it because its a reminder of your high school days!
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20 Female. I'm so sad right now, I'm sorry if this is really long I will return the favor to anyone who can give me advice I really need it :(
So I've always had a thing for my good friend Joe (He's 18, almost 19). I've known him for about 5 years now. He was dating this girl Maria for 3 years ..his first and only real relationship. Basically she got too clingy and he started getting annoyed so their senior year in high school he broke it off with her. They still hung out all the time, obviously were still having sex and people never knew they even broke up because they acted like they didn't. I think they got back together for a little bit and then broke up once again. He tells me everything and I guess she got really annoying at one point and was like "What are we joe, are we together, what are we, tell me" And he was like Maria no we're not together but she would tell everyone they still were. I know she is obsessive!! I know it's hard for him to let go of her tho because they were together for so long and she was his first true love, they lost their virginity's to each other. But people always tell me he's always had a thing for me too but won't do anything about it because of Maria and how he doesn't let go of her. His good friends tell me that he does like me too.
Well now he graduated and is playing hockey in South Dakota, about 4 hours away from where we are. He just left Sept 5. We talked before he left, and one night he texted me asking what I was doing and then I was like Joe I have a serious question to ask you, What's going on with you and Maria are you two still together? And he said, no we have been broken up. This made me happy, I knew they were broken up and I was hoping this was the end of Maria since they would be four hours away and wanting to meet new people. I told him I wanted to come visit him one time and watch him play hockey and he was like Yeah for sure!! Right before he left I said "good luck, have fun and I'll be there sometime to cheer you on. Love ya Joseph." He said Sounds fantastic thanks Linds love ya too!
I felt good leaving it like this, I was happy! Well just tonight I look on Maria's facebook and one of her friends said, Wanna hang out on Saturday? And she said I would! But I'm going to South Dakota to see Joey! I was like HELL NO! What is going on, seriously I wanted to cry. It's only been what? not even two weeks and she's already going to see him?? I know he didn't lie about them being broken up but I don't know why shes going to see him. One of my friends said Linds don't worry she probably begged him to let her come and invited herself. I think this could be a possibility and obviously Joe wouldn't say no and I know she will give it up to him when they see each other. This just annoys me. Me, my friend and one of Joe's friends were planning to go see him the weekend of November 12th and stay the weekend there but now I don't know :(
I don't know what to do about the situation it just bugs me. What do you guys think? (link)
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Oh I can't stand those kind of couples...at one point their good and at another their on bad terms. I just don't understand hwo a dysfunction relationship like that works.
Here's the thing if you want to try being more than friends with him than you should tell him. If not than let him be and let him figure this things out with this girl. If you aren't going to tell Joe than I'm afraid its none of your business and that you should stay out of the situation. Its sounds like a lot of drama and you don't want drama. This is between Joe and Maria and I'm sorry to say you have no part in it. If you want to tell him how you feel than by all means do it! Good luck!
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i love music and i love to sing and want to create my own song.how can i make up lyrics? i never have never know what to write.and how to put it in words because i know you have to put your feelings into word and music but i want to know how. (link)
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Well just write it as a poem it doesn't need to rhyme. Write it whatever you want...it helps me a lot when I'm going through hard times or even good. I actually tend to have a lot of lyrics in my head and when I release them on paper it helps me a lot. Try it sometime just take a piece of paper and pen and start writing about an experience you may have had and see what happens! :)
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I'm the same girl who asked this question...
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=586062
so this same guy from the previous question told me he liked me and he hadnt stopped liking me.we were talking later and he asked me if i would be friends with benefits him because he likes to flirt with a lot of girls and he wants to be "emotional" and "physical" friends with benefits.I told him i didnt want to do that and he said he had to decide what he wanted to do.i kinda feel like hes trying to keep me liking me so that if nothing else works out ill still be here for him.what should i do!?is he playing me!? (link)
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Bottom line is, is that if you have feelings do not be friends with benefits. The whole point of friends with benefits is to not gain feelings. Get rid of him! He's playing you big time! I'm sorry! :(
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Why do men lie to their girlfriends? Don't they understand how much it hurts us?
He asked me about how many guys I've been with since I met him (I've been with just him since we became exclusive though). I told him the honest truth (although I thought he knew because I dropped plenty of hints as they happened, oh and I should add he asked me this question 5 months after we became exclusive). I was ashamed of my past, but I wanted to be honest with him so I told him how many. He called me a ho pretty much and we almost broke up. When I asked him in turn how many girls he's been with since he met me, he said just you, I don't do s*** like that. This made me feel even more ashamed and worse about myself. Anyways he forgave me, everything's good, and then a few weeks later he tells me a girl that he had a one night stand with is having some legal issues with him, a girl he had sex with AFTER he met me (but according to him before we became exclusive). I was really hurt he lied to me after I was so honest with him (I really poured my heart out to him) but he needed emotional support with the legal stuff (not his fault) so I just put my hurt off to the side. I called him out on his lie, but he just blew it off because he felt his legal stuff was more important. I texted him the next day about that his lying to me really hurt me (not that he had sex with her, just the fact that he lied). He wasn't apologetic, just asked me what I wanted to do, and I told him that the only thing I want from him is honesty, and he said he will be.
I haven't seen him in three months, but I'll be seeing him again once school starts (we live in different states). He told me he hasn't been with anyone this summer, and I really hope that's the truth, but I just don't know anymore. He's already lied to me at least once, how do I know he's not lying to me again now?
Any advice is much appreciated. And I can't just leave him because we've been through so much, and I know he has my back at the end of the day. (link)
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He's definitely manipulating the situation and making you feel bad for things you shouldn't feel bad for. Why do you want a guy who manipulates things and lies to you? I know you care about him but the fact that he lied is a big "no no"! If he was able to freak out about what you said then why can't you? To me it doesn't make any sense...don't let him have the power talk to him! And if he continues to be like that walk away from him and end it! He's not worth your time or aggravation if he's going to be like that. You don't deserve that and should deal with it. So don't!
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whenever my friends and i hang out, they'll be talking and i'll listen. but then i'll try to talk about something that happened to me and they won't act like they're listening or they'll say something else that happened to them immediately after. it even happens with my boyfriend. its not like i'm quiet and awkward, these are people that i've known for years and years. how do i get people to listen to me? its causing me to be stressed and upset and i'm tired of feeling like no one. (link)
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Well why not talk to them?
Let them know how you feel and tell them it upsets you and that you would appreciate if someone listened to you. You also need to confront your boyfriend on this as well. And if they don't change then I would suggest finding some other people to hang out with because friends shouldn't do that. Friends should be there for you and listen as well as you listening to them.
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has anyone ever expierenced a bad relationship with a boy/girlfriend? Broke up.. didnt talk for a year or two met eachother again later in life, rekindled the love and are together today? (link)
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I have twice with two different guys.
The first one I knew wasn't going to work out I found out that we were just better as friends. It took us a long time to figure that out but it was what it was. The second guy I've always had athing for...we dated for a short period of time and then three years later we both had feelings. Unfortunately it didn't work out I still care about him but its a long story. Its all up to how you feel and what you want. Sometimes exes are exes for a reason unless they've changed but its up to you about what you want to do. The last guy I was with I ended it because it wasn't working out and I cared about him but it wasn't working out for us...we didn't have much time together!
I hope it works out for you! Good luck!
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okay im 16/f n im a virigin
ive have known ma man for 3 1/2 years and he really wants to do it and so do i.but im so scared b/c its my 1st time and im so scared of gettin pregnant. he told me that we will use a condom and everything but still im not 100% sure.can anyone tell me how can i be 100% sure that i will not get pregnant. (link)
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Well the only true way to NOT get pregnant is to not have sex. That would be the ONLY way to know that you aren't pregnant. With all the other things...there is a bit of a risk...I'm not sure but I think with a condom its either 89%-99% chance that you won't get pregnant...plus the condom could break. There is also the birthday control pill but I think I've heard that the pill has an 80% chance of preventing pregnancy.
The answer to your question would be...if you're really not ready then you're not ready don't rush it...when the time is right you'll know. Maybe think about going on birth control and have him wear a condom as well. To keep yourself from having kids though...it's easy don't have sex!
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18-Female
I've been dating the same guy for about 3 months now without any problems. Before him i hadn't dated anyone i just had a few crushes one of them being a country boy that i thought i could never be with he wasn't popular i just didn't grow up in the country i wore what some would call a more "punk" look but not to an extreme. I always pictured me and him getting together and me getting to live on a farm like i had dreamed well he moved out when we were Juniors and lives only a half an hour away last year for prom i saw him because he was in my group and have seen him one other time in his truck so now every-time i am in town i seem to be looking into every truck that looks similar im not sure why im looking for him when i have and love my boyfriend.
I have also been having dreams last night i had a dream where i saw him at my graduation party and somehow everyone could tell that i liked him and my boyfriend left me and the guy confessed his love to me.
Does this mean anything or is it just a crush. I have no plans on leaving my current boyfriend i am just wondering what all this means if it even means anything. (link)
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Well according to DreamDictionary.com:
"To see your crush in your dream, represents your current infatuation with him or her. If you find yourself thinking about him during the day, then it is understandable that his image will appear in your dream during the night. If you dream of your crush frequently, then your dream maybe be telling you that it is time to let this person know how you feel, especially if you are dreaming of him or her in a good way. Only good things can happen from you telling your crush. Even if he or she is not interested, at least you can move on and stop wasting time on him or her."
Hope that helps! :)
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ok heres the deal. im friends with this guy. Hes such a try hard gangster its kinda funny. im not at all physcially attracted to him although he has an okay personality.
One of my mates today said she thought he liked me. So she asked him straight out would you go out with her! and i was standing right next to him :S he said yeah and admitted he kinda had a thing for me. i was like "AKWARD i getta go to class cya" lol. but now that i think about it i think i should give him a go but im not that sure. and i may still have feelings for my ex.
what should i do? (link)
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Well how close are you guys? Do you really see him as a possible boyfriend? Several of my guy friends have had something for me...but I've never passed the "friend" zone with any of them because I didn't feel it. If you feel something for this guy then go for it by all means. You mentioned how you have feelings for your ex which makes me think you're not ready to enter into a new relationship. In the end its your decision whether or not you want this friend to be more then your friend. You should think about it and then of course tell him how you're feeling and what you want to do. After my friend told me he had a thing for me I had to tell him I didn't feel the same way and it was really difficult and it took him awhile to get over but we've been best friends for about 8 years and we're really close.
Just think about what you want or need!
Good luck! :)
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There is a boy in my english class and I think for a total fact that he likes me. He does that grade school shenanigans, he makes fun of me, pokes me, touches my desk, flips my book pages when I'm not looking. I asked this kid next to me if he knew how to spell my last name and he forgot the second letter so the kid that I like said "no no, it's spelled like this" and he wrote it on my folder and spelled it right. He just broke up with his girlfriend. Which I really like because she wasn't the best to him. We talk every single day. We look each other in the eyes all the time, even if we aren't talking. He asks me for help when he doesn't understand something. I heard when a guy accuses you of liking someone else, he likes you. He does that, he accuses me of liking the nerdiest kid in our class when I don't. The boy I like is a flirt but when he was dating his girlfriend he was really loyal and I respected it. He would trace around her fingers on the desk in english. Everytime she wanted to play bloody knuckles, he would play with her even if he didn't want to. They would hold hands all the time. They were always together. I kinda want him but do you think he likes me? If so, what do I do? Thanks! (link)
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Well my boyfriend tells me that guys make fun of you and are mean to you if they like you. Now thats just some guys...thats how my boyfriend was before we started dating...weird huh? I thought so. Its hard to say...it sounds like he is interested...why not flirt back? Flirt back and see what he does...or if you are confident ask him...maybe ask him if he wants to hang out sometime! Good luck! :)
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