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newly single.. whats so good about it?
I've been in relationships since late 2008. It being mid 2010, I'm EXTREMELY used to having a boyfriend all the time. I've been single for about a month now, and I'm over the ex and everything, I just miss having soemone there. I'm a junior in high school and I know a relationship especially now is just asking for disaster, but I love having a boyfriend... it keeps me happy and balanced. So, I'm trying to stay away from boys because of the constant heartbreak. What are some GREAT advantages of being single? I'm NOT used to this at all and I miss the idea of a boyfriend so I just need to be more confident about it. Thanks :)
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I'm recently single myself so I know what you mean! Lately I've been selfish which I'm usually not. I've been shopping, working, and doing things I want to do. Its been good...yeah of course I've been checking the cute boys out but I need to figure out what I want first and what I want to do with my life. I'm planning on traveling for a bit and even moving possibly to another state. You're in your Junior year of high school...live it up! Thinking of colleges you want to go to and what you want to do for a career! Work on yourself and then find someone one later on! :) Hope I helped!
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What I've found out about not having a boyfriend is you obviously get to focus on yourself more. Having a boyfriend is nice, but once and a while, you need a break. Think of it this way, more time to hang out with your friends, family, find new hobbies, and learn more about yourself. The right boy will come along when you're least expecting it, so just have fun and enjoy the ride. (:
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I can tell you from experience that I know exactly how you're feeling. I started dating a boy in the beginning of 7th grade and we broke up in 11th grade. I was so used to having him there and having someone to call when I had good news or someone to hangout with and hug and kiss whenever I wanted. It was so strange when we broke up because I didn't know what to do or how to handle myself. I found myself just wanting someone there for me, but I didn't have that anymore. However, after a while I realized that I really didn't NEED him there. I was just used to the comfort of knowing he was there. So as a newly single girl, I started spending more time with my friends and even starting talking to new girls. I also had a lot more free time to try new things by myself such as joining the softball team and caught up on my homework. Being single turned out to be lots of fun because it forced me to be independent, which in turn, forced me to go out and find other way to make me happy. I ended up learning a lot about myself and had fun experiences without having to worry about whether my boyfriend would approve of it or not. I had more time for myself because I wasn't always attached to his hip. You're only in junior high school so you have so much more time to have plenty more boyfriends and break ups. Right now, you should enjoy being young and just have fun with your friends and do what you want to do. I'm 18 and I'm just learning now that no boy is more important than my own happiness. So go have fun and make friends and be silly! Sorry that was so long. :) Good luck, single girl!
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