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is he playing head games or is he confused.
Im a 37 yr old female whose ex boyfriend recently asked me to start calling him after I initiated a call to him I asked him if he was seeing anyone and he said no. I started leaving messages and he never returned them so on one of the rare instances we connected I asked steve why he had not returned my calls and he said that he was very busy with alot going on i was surprised since he told me to call him, he told me i had a special place in his heart and that I made him laugh, after that phone call he txt messaged me after I had left a voice mail message and he asked me not to call him so often, I left one more message after that and a girl answered and told me steve was busy, i hung up the phone and decided I was not going to call this man again. After that Steve left me three messages the same night I had called and a female had answered and his first voice message was oops I was trying to call someone else. the second message was Hey if your still up and want to talk call me the second was hey its me again I thought you might still be out with the girls and you might want to talk since you called me tonight. WHAT WAS UP WITH THIS GUY ??? the only thing I could come up with was that he was carrying a grudge since i was the one who broke off our relationship the first time around.
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Ignore him.
He sounds like a confused immature individual and you don't need that in your life! Clearly there is no way of pleasing him! For example I had a boyfriend that I was going out with for awhile and I would call him and he'd be like "can you not call me that much?". And then I would not call at all and he complained that I wasn't calling enough...and guys say we're difficult? hahahaha. There is a reason why he's an ex in the first place don't bother with him. Forget about him!
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Yes I agree with the other post.
How old is this guy is he in his 30's?! I'm a 22 year old guy and this guy sounds like a total flake to me.
Even if you do end up "connecting" with this guy you can be sure that any relationship you start up again is gonna be riddled with horrible communication problems as obviously he can't handle a simple decision. People do change and not always for the better.
I would move on and find someone new. Who knows what you will find!
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I don't think it really matters if he is playing head games, or if he is confused, or (and this is my bet) he isn't sure how to tell you that although he thinks fondly of you, he isn't that into the idea of reconnecting.
If you want to stop contacting him now, it doesn't matter what his kind of crazy is. You can just stop contacting him now.
There is a saying that you should never attribute to malice what can be explained by stupidity. You really haven't given an outsider enough information here to make him holding a grudge seem likely. I don't think he is fucking with your mind. He just isn't that into you. Maybe he hasn't even realized he isn't that into you, as a friend or anything else, but he isn't feeling it.
If you feel slighted and you don't want to call him anymore, have the courtesy to send him a quick message that sort of says "Look dude, I'm sorry. I think you are a great guy but all this calling and trying to connect is just not working for me. Please take good care of yourself and if I see you around that's great."
I think you owe it to him to assume the best of him: That he is just a bit clueless. But just because he is innocently daft, doesn't mean you have to keep putting yourself out there. Just be the bigger, more self aware person, and let him know what is going on if you aren't going to contact him anymore.
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