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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.

I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.

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uhm, this sounds superrr weird.

but i realized that you have really clear skin, from your picture.

so i was wondering how you do it, if it isn't natural (:

thanks so much.

My skin isn't always clear. I get breakouts every now & then. I use this product calles Clear Action. It has the same ingridients as Proactiv but it's less inespensive.

next week i am getting a new teddy bear hamster i dont know if it is going to be a boy or girl but if its a girl im namin after my old dog stella but i cant seem to find a boy name....i nedd some help :)

I have a hamster & his name is Tyson because he's a bit large lol. My friends also wanted to name him Chester because of his color. I'm sure you're going to think of a lot more names by the time you get him/her. I also used to have a girl hamster & her name was Sandie. You could eather name your hamster Tyson or Sandie :]

Edit- I wouldn't mind if you named your hamster that.

whats a white christmas

White Christmas is Christmas with snow.

so, im getting a puppy. a chihuahua. shes only 5 weeks,(6 weeks saturday) and she started eating by herself, so i might get her this weekend. well anyways, i like the name Stella. But when people ask me her name, i say Stella, and they give me a weird look. i think the name is cute.
so my first question. do you think the name is cute?
and can anyone think of cute unique dog names. oh and if you couldnt tell, shes a girl.. haha
thanks!!!

I love unique names for puppies & I personally love the name Stella. That's what I call my best friend lol. If you like that name, name your puppy that. It's YOUR dog and if people don't like it, who cares. I also love the name Bella for a chihuahua.

well you see i need help lol. i was dating this boy who i kinda liked and he was a boy who i actually did like besides my ex boyfriend. well you see i still have alot of feelings for my ex he was my first love and i miss him. i think he likes me but wants to see if hes sure he wants me back or to stay with his girlfriend, so i broke up with the boy i was dating that way i was free if my ex and her broke up. now i thnk he did it because he was jelous and saw i was having fun with that boy, but not as much when i was with him. he says i deserve someone better and when i asked who he said him, and i told him he had a girlfriend and he said if him and his girlfriend ever broke up he would take me back in a hearbeat. well they broke up about 10 times but always seem to get back together and yesturday and today i hung out with him and we were along sometimes and we seemed to flirt. so what should i do keep trying to get my ex back, or was it a bad thing i broke up with the boy i was finally happy with.

Honestly, I think it was a bad decision on your part to break up with a guy that you liked for someone who was taken and not putting any effort to having a relationship with you. That guy is messing with your head. He keeps telling you that if him & his girlfriend break up, he would take you back. Well, they broke up but did he do anything? If he really wanted you back he would of gotten you but he's not willing to try. Don't wait for him because he seems like the type of guy that will never come around. You need to move on and find someone better. Wasting time on this guy is pointless and you could be with someone that really cares about you.

ok well im a 16/f struggling in high school barely passing. i have a c in my IPC class (science) and a D in english and i made a bad grade a 64 on my spanish test so basically im a screwup. and my social life is messed up because no matter how hard i try to be nice to other people they'll till be mean to me. what should i do?

High school is hard & grades are sometimes hard to keep up. You can bring those grades up and it can be fixed. If you don't ever understand something in class, ask your teacher to explain it to you. Make time to go visit the teacher and ask for help. Get a tutor, study for tests.. any of those would help you keep up. If you really tried hard, you could bring your grades up and I have no doubt that you can't. Don't spend so much time worrying if people are going to like you or not. Be yourself. You have to understand that not everyone is going to like you and accept that. You don't have to try hard to impress anyone or anything. Don't even bother with those people that won't give you any respect. If those people continute being mean to you, ignore them. They're not important in your life and their opinions should not matter to you. You have your friends and family that care about you and that's all that should matter.

I have a best friend who hasnt dated much, and i love her like a sister. I also have a best guy friend that i love like a brother. they decided to start dating. and i was happy and all at first, but now my guy friend will not stop talking about her, and she will hang up on me to talk to him. do you think this is because they are just starting to date? and will this phase end? i miss my 2 best friends! what should i do :] thanks!

I don't think it will just stop. They are really starting to get to know each other and they always want to talk. I don't think they realize that they leave you out sometimes and do that to you. You need to talk to them about this because I'm sure they don't intend to do that on purpose. If you don't say something, it might become a habit for both of them so tell them.

Has any ever been to a tanning booth? Do you get hot? Is it just like your sorronded in light? Can you get burned? How old do you have to be with an adult/without an adult?

I bough a month package to a tanning salon, so yes I spend some time in a tanning bed.

If you go for 10 minutes, you probablly won't get hot but if you go for 15-20 it does get kind of hot in there. Most tanning salons have fans right by their beds that cool you as you're laying there.

You are surrounded in light but tanning salons require you to wear your goggles. You can buy them there.

For the first couple of times, you might get burned. You also can start to sweat in the tanning bed but that's normal. Make sure you talk to one of the workers at the tanning salon to give you more information. Always wear tanning lotion before going tanning. It will reduce the redness and burning & it will help you get tanner faster.

The first time that I went tanning was when I was 13 & my mom had to sign this paper that gave me permission. Some tanning salons don't require permession. Now that I'm 15 I don't have to have an adult with me but some places you have to be 16.

What does it mean if you and this guy are really close, and all the sudden he just like stops talking to you?

If a guy does that, there has to be a reason behind his reactions. Maybe you could talk to this guy and find out why he hasn't been talking to you. There's always a reason for something.

13/f.ok, im really lost with myself right now. like, i look at your page,and your so ,well, you. and its hard to be myself around people,because i think they'll hate me. how can i be happy with myself and be more me? im so lost!also,how can i be more outgoing around people? thankss !

Before opening up to other people, you need to find confidence in yourself. You have to accept yourself for being you. Like who you are and appriciate it. Don't worry what other people think about you,.. it's a waste of time. People are going to love you and hate you but that's life & it's something we ALL have to live with. Love yourself and enjoy everything while you still have it. When you go out with your friends, enjoy yourself and just have fun. Don't think if someone is thinking something bad about you. Who cares? Everyones different and some people are too shallow to think about anyone but themselves.

This is a kind of random question, but there's girls in my school with like groups called Foxy Four and Fabulous 5. And I was wondering if you had any names for groups? It's perfectly fine if you don't have any, i was just curious. Thanks! :]

Haha, those are cute. Uhm.. I don't really have any group names but my friends used to call them selves the Fantastic Four. Lol :]

I recently broke up with my boyfriend because I don't have feelings (more then a friend) for him anymore and it wasn't fair to him at all. A big reason i finally did it was because there is a guy i like. I've known him for years and i used to like him when i first met him but back then i was way to young and my mom wouldnt let me see him. well now, for last few months, i've been hanging out with a new group of friends, him included. When we're all together he will look at me and smile and we talk and when my best friend goes to hang out with them and i'm not there he always asks where i am and tells her to call me and have me come over. well one night he gave me a ride home and on the way he asked if i had to go directly home and if i wanted to come back to his place and hang out with him.. so i did. i ended up staying the night at his house and we ended up having sex. we talked alot and we both decided we didnt want a relashonship (at the time i still had a bf, i know im horrible) and he's "talking" to this girl who i HATE, i hated her before i knew he knew her... but he told me he did like me but now lately he's acting totally different to me, not mean or anything, but he doesnt call as much as he did, and we barely speak when we're all hanging out. We didn't tell anyone what we did because we didn't want everyone we know involved in our sex lives but.. was i used? is it possible he likes me?

To me it does seem like you were used but I could be wrong. Maybe there is a different reason why he hasn't called you? Why don't you call him and see what's up. Better yet, talk to him ab out this and ask why he's been acting so different lately. If he continutes to ignore you & not talk to you, don't put up with him. If he really liked you, he wouldn't be doing this to you and he could be telling that girl the same things that he tells you.

I was just looking through an Italian dictionary and noticed Ciao means hello.

Does anyone know why non-italian people say Ciao when they're saying goodbye if it means hello?

In my language [ Croatian ] we say cao for hello & goodbye. We mostly use it for saying goodbye. It means the same thing in few other languages.

IM NOT PREGNANT!!!!!!!!oh yeah and i didnt have sex!!the stupid pregnancy test was wrong!

ok why do all of you think that i had sex willingly i could have been raped......but i am still a virgin just to let you know but i was getting symptoms of pregnancy so i thought i was.....so i took the test twice and it said i was so i asked what to do and i aprriciate all of your answers!!but i went to the docter and she said i wasnt but had no clue why i had the symptoms!and thank you again for supporting me with your answers!!

heres a real question now:
my mother always gets on my nerves how do i stop that?i also asked her to be serious with me but shes always being stupid i hate it!what do i do?

Congrats for not being pregnant..

Parent's always get on their kids nerves and there's really nothing that you can do to prevent that. Asking your mom to be serious won't really change anything. You need to sit down with your mom and seriously talk to her about it. Explain to her the things she does that tick you off. I don't think she wants to be your friend, she's just being a mother.

Okaay well me and this guy went out for about 6 months and i fell in love with him in like a month, hes so perfect and amazing and the biggest sweetheart ever. and than i drank wth my bestfriends, my sister and two of my other friends and one of the guys kissed me when i was going out with the other guy and i didnt stop him, but when i was sober i felt horible and i went home cause i didnt wanna be near the guy that made me cheat on someone i loved. worst thing i've ever done, but i told my boyfriend about it and he frgave me even though it was after we broke up when i told you, and he wanted me back, and i told him i needed a week to figure it out, i was really confused and i felt like suchn idiot for doing that to someone i loved. and almost 2 weeks later he went out with another girl. and even when me and him werent going out before he stayed at my house all the time and we were really really close. and than he changed. it really hurt, because he is the kind of guy you cn trust, tell anything to, and it really surprised me when he did that after saying he'd wait for me and he wanted me back and telling me he loved me. And he told me they were going out and i bawled my eyes out to him and i told him it was okay and i'll live and i would never hate h for doing this. but i cried like everyday for like 4 weeks straight, and than i calmed down a bit, but now that it's been almost 5 months, i cr every now and again, thinking about how much i misshim and everything we've been through and how much fun we've had together and how close we were, he's a really amazing guy and boyfriend and now we bearly talk, and i hate it, i miss him more than anything, he's one of the best thing that's ever happened to me, but i guess everything happens for a reason right? but i really would like to see what you think, cause i wanna feel better about all this you know? but i still love him.

Don't blame yourself for everyting that has happened. Things do happen for a reason and all though you thought everything was perfect, it changed. It was wrong that you cheated on him, but you can't take that back & you have to let that go and forgive yourself. I understand how hard it is to not talk to someone or see someone that you love'd. I think that you should start talking to him again. Just as friends. See what happens. You guys used to be so close and just because you're not going out doesn't mean you can't talk or hang out. Maybe then things would start to feel like they used to.

Basically I need a quick confidence booster for talking to girls. I am about 5'10" and 150lbs. Not any body fat basically just a sheet of muscle. I play strong safety in football and also play tennis and basketball. I also drive a blue corvette and dress pretty nicely. If you are this girl I am talking to would you like me and please say anything else that will boost my confidence.

I don't know how you look like but you seem attractive. Looks aren't the ONLY thing that makes girls be attracted to a guy. Personality also counts. You seem like a sweet guy and if you're interested in girl, talk to her and get to know her and she'll get to know her. Take her out somewhere. Just be yourself and I'm sure she'll like you.

alright so i was just wondering if you havent started your period yet is it still okay to have sex. Is it still possible that you could get pregnant? thanks

Even though you haven't gotten your period, there is still a chance that you could get pregnant. Wear protection, always.

I have been best friends with a guy since i was in first grade. I just thought of him as a friend until very recently. When i told him i liked him, he told me he liked me for six years and now he only thinks of me as a friend. But today he has been flirting with me a lot, and i dont know if he likes me or not and im confused! I really like him and I want him to like me too! What should I do?
(female- 13 years old)

Whoaa, for 6 yearss! You should of let him know how you felt earlier. I can't really say if he likes you right now, but I think he might have some left over feelings for you that are starting to come out. Flirt back :] Make sure you guys talk a lot and you never know, something might happen.

im 15 years young and have horrible luck with guys. ive always been a really complicated person when it comes to guys. i guess i have some what high standards blah blah. but theres this boy ive been hooked on since the beginning of school. we've never been "official" but basically together. we never did anything but we were still interested in eachother. alot of things have happened since the beginning of the year. mainly all my fault. i went to homecoming with another guy..only because he never asked me for whatever reason..then i hooked up with a guy that night..one of his close friends. that was bad. he got really mad but got over it and everything was basically back to normal. then on new years i got mad at him literally over nothing. basically found an excuse that would make me feel that i had a right to do something. so i hooked up with another guy even though we had been togther all night. he hated me after that. we were in a huge fight and he told me he wanted nothing to do with me etc. well i kept trying to apologize and get him back nothing worked. then on the day before v-day i went sledding with a bunch of people and he happened to be there. i ended up almost breaking my neck by almost landing on it which scared everyone but i was fine. on v-day i imd him to say happy v-day to see what would happen. he said you too and we talked normally. i asked him a couple days later what would happen with us..if we would ever be like friends again or w.e. he said he wanted to but he said he couldnt just be friends with me but he didnt want to be anything else but we'll see what happens. i thought that sounded good like there was still a chance. well not too long ago i got sick of waiting and waiting for him..even tohugh it hadnt been that long but im impatient. so i sort of started to like this other kid. well i thought i did bc he got mad at me and i cared alot and only thought of that so i figured id go with it. so i tried it and we madeout and he told me he liked me alot and he asked me if i had feelings for him and i said yes. so then i went on sb and he called me like everyday and we would talk. well i got back yesterday and went to the movies with a bunch of people. the old guy i liked was there and we sat next to eachother and flirted like the whole night and i got confused and i think i might like him again. well my friend told me later that someone had said something to him about us flirting and he got all defensive and then said theres no point in me being a dick to her anymore but i dont like her its whatever or something like that. then my friend said so i wouldnt like him again. but i cant help but think that i still do and that i still want him. but i dont know what to do about the other kid because he likes me alot but now i just dont want it anymore i feel bad but i cant help it. even though i dont know if anything will happen with me and my old guy but i miss him alot.and we're really good friends. but i just dont know what to do with either guys im horrible when it comes to this stuff. sorry for this incredibly long novel but no one understands or can helpp. i just need an honest outside opinion!

You and that guy [ the first one ] went through a lot together and it seemed like everything was working fine. I'm glad you understand what you've done. He seemed to really care about you but you continued to push his buttons and do those things to him and when he had enough, you were hurt. It's really good that you guys are close friends now and it's better to have a friendship than no realtionship at all. This other guy that you have been talking to seems like a good guy. You & guy # 1 are over. He made it pretty clear that he wants to be friends and that he isn't so sure if he likes you more than that. I wouldn't push it if I were you. I understand that you really liked this guy and it's not going to be easy to just forget about him or ever get over him, but don't screw things up with this other guy. You should get to know him better to see if you really have feelings for him. If not, oh well and there's nothing that you can do about that and you shouldn't feel guilty. Don't make yourself chose right now. Take some time and just think about it. You don't need a boyfriend right now or anything but just be careful on what decisions you make. Boys will come and go and it's normal to be in a situation like this, but don't let it run your life. Stay friends with that first guy. You guys seem to get alont a LOT better as friends. Good luck with everything.

I am 13 years old, I have been dating a guy on and off for almost a year now. a week and a half ago i broke up with him because we fought so much. Then he went out with my best friend, and broke up with her about three days later. now he wants to be single so he can flirt with everybody, and he is. I still really care about him and i dont want to see him being like this! what should i do?

There is nothing that you can do. If he wants to be single and flirt with other girls, let him. It's what he wants to do and he's going to do it. I know that you still care about him a lot, but you need to move on. He wants to be with other girls and do what he wants and I don't think he'll listen to anyones opinion about that but you could try talking to him?

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