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I can't recall when it started but I can only assume it has something to do with my ADD. Lately, whenever I try to focus on my work I see things changing, like colors fading or my vision gets blurry, but my school work is starting to appear as a different language. Not as in I just don't understand, but the letters morph and it begins to appear either Russian or Korean. Sometimes the letters begin to rearrange themselves and appears Latin. This doesn't occur too often, but I'm curious to know what it could possibly be. Is it confusion on a higher level or just some sort of unusual mental thing that I have? On or off my usual medication, it happens. (link)
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Ok, to me this sounds like your just under a lot of stress. are you getting enough sleep? eating ok? studying under proper lighting? when people are too tired and just stressed out beyond belief they CAN hallucinate.
You should still go see a doctor though or talk to someone that can possibly get you help if you need it.
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Okay so I'm my great grandmas secret Santa. I don't know what to get her, but I don't know what she likes. She doesn't really do anything but lay in bed and watch the news. My mom told me to just give her money but she pulled me as her secret Santa (yeah I know, my family doesn't keep secrets very well) and the bugdet was $25 so if I just straight up gave her the $25 back (oh yea btw she gave me my gift early, we are really messed up) then it wouldn't really make sense. That's why I want to buy her something, but I just don't know what, please help!! (link)
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well get her things that a person who "does nothing but lay in bed all day" can do! maybe some perfume, or a gift card for some books to read if she still has good vision or someone to read to her, or some nail polish someone ELSE can apply. just anything to make her feel pretty even though shes old and run down now. women like to feel at the very least "presentable" still. even in old age.
You dont have to get her expensive perfume, theres some at macys for well under 25 bucks. maybe if someone else helps her bathe, you can get her some bath salts from a store in your local mall. theres a whole WORLD of stuff you can get for someone thats in her condition still.
what you might do is just ask her if theres anything she would really want or NEEDS or something shes been thinking about that you could tell her secret santa to get for her??
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I am thinking about a career as a CNA, However I am worried about doing the dirty work and whether I can habdle it...
Someone told me home care is a good place to start off and that its mostly dirty work in nursing homes. How do I know if I can overcome this? How did you overcome it? Is it as bad as people say? Do you enjoy your job? Pay?
Sorry for so many questions but I'd like opinions so I know what I may be getting into. (link)
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Im going to try to answer this although im not a CNA, but i married into a family of many and have also known people who lived and ultimately died in hospice care/nursing home care.
From the CNA point of view it IS mostly all dirty work (not to get graphic here) but you will be most likely spending most of your time "cleaning up" old people "mess" aka urine, poop of all sorts because there are some that came control their bowels any longer, youll be changing their adult diapers, bathing them, changing soiled sheets, giving medications, and things of this sort.
Its pretty good money but you have to have a strong stomach and be able to handle dealing with situations like this on a daily basis.
My sister inlaw/husbands uncle/ and many other in his family do this or have at one point in time for a living. from what i hear its NOT pleasant. = / sorry to have to tell you that. good luck.
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14/f. There are 2 guys, A and B. I have liked guy A for a really long time and have a strong liking for him. I have only liked guy B for a short amount of time and I don't really like him that much. One of my friends told them both that I like them but she told A that I like B more. Now I don't know if A likes me because he thinks I like B more then him. I just want to date A because we would be so cute! I don't know what to do because I think B is going to ask me out and idk if I want to say yes because I don't want to give up on A. Please help!!!!! (link)
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Tell A, that "hey if my friend said anything to you about liking this other guy that its just not true" and then thats your chance to get him to admit if he likes you.
Also how long has it been since A knew you liked him but didnt do anything about it?? if its been a long time then he might just not be that into you and might be OK with you going for another guy for a reason.
If you havent known B that long and you know A better as a person then i would go for A. Theres a better chance there that since you know him more that your relationship will last longer. ; )
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How do I lose weight from my legs? (link)
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that depend on HOW your trying to lose weight over all.
think about your eat habits, your calorie intake per day, and try drinking more water and walking on a treadmill, and doing some squads maybe?
you havent given enough details about yourself to be able to really help you here. all i can say is thru and thru OVER ALL exercise starting with some of the stuff i mentioned could help. you might be one of those types that only over all weight lose would be able to make weight from one concentrated area work. idk for sure. good luck though.
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To make a long story short, I was dating this guy, but before we were officially together he slept with this other girl. Then when we got together he still tried to help her out, because she's homeless, no job, no education, no family etc. Then a few weeks later he finds out she's pregnant with his baby. He immediately tells me and says he needs to be single for the time being, because he needs to help her through the pregnancy, the other girl seeing him with any one else would make her angry at him. I took him for his word that I did nothing wrong, and he wanted to be single which was fine. Come to find out this girl posts that they are in a relationship, not even two weeks after he breaks up with me, and then she posts more that she is upset because he won't tell his mother, or any of his friends about her. At his request she takes the" in a relationship" post down, because he was worried about how i would feel. Then she has a miscarriage, and now he says he isn't with her. He says he wants to be single, but he also doesn't want to be alone. He also said the only reason he broke up with me was because of this girl. Since then we have made up and have started to become friends again, i.e. going out socially, hanging out etc. I still really like him, not just on a physical level, I like him as a person too. I would like to give a relationship a new try, but I'm unsure if he would want to or if its a good idea. So should I just ask him, or is he not worth my time? By the way I am a 22 year old girl, he is 23. (link)
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This whole situation sounds a bit hairy to me. You says he broke up with HER now but he "doesnt want to be alone either"?? Do you really wanna be his plan B? Cause thats what it sounds like here.
Its sounding like hes saying he doesnt want to get serious with you but he doesnt want to be alone either. If your ok with being what sounds like hes trying to turn you into friends with benefits then thats fine, but if you want more i would look else where. It also sounds like he only dumped you to be with her because he had to, and when one of them realized it wasnt realistic and it didnt work out she may have "conveniently" miscarried. I cannot tell you how many times ive seen girls fake being pregnant or think that having this guys child will make him stay. it also never works BTW.
(((maybe im on the suspicious side of things here but ive seen it happen ALOT in my time)))
Look inside yourself and think about what you want.
personally, i wouldnt get back with someone that got someone else pregnant (weather we were officially together or not at that point) then tried to come back to me. i would feel like their sloppy seconds and an after thought in his eyes and like in the future i could get left easier. thats just me though.
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So I have manic depression, paranoia, and anxeity. My parents took me to tharapy for a while, but it ended up hurting me more than helping me. They took me to evangelical Christian therapy and basically the tharapist said I am under demonic innfluennce and I have brought this on to my self because I don't believe in god. Well the tharapy sessions were total hell and the worst part is my parents belive her. I learned how to cover up my deppression, paranoia and anxeity so they think that I'm alright, but its killing me. I can't stand being depressed all the time, but I'm afraid if I let my parents know they will take me back to that horrible tharapy. Would it be a good idea to talk to my schools guidance counsilor about it? I just need some place that I can get help at with out all the BS. (link)
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Wow. it sounds like they took you to a religious based therapist that might have been through a church. Sometimes i wonder if their even legally able to operate with the things they say. lol.
On a more serious note though, your parents probably shouldnt be taking you to a religious based person for anything when it comes to something of this gravity. You need to see a regular normal doctor. If your parents refuse, then talk to your teacher or school nurse and they will know what to do.
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I have a dilema.Its bugging me.Pricking at my gut and wont leave me alone.I have been pursuing this guy for a very very long time.We will be moving in together soon.We are in a long distance relationship.During our time,we never said we were boyfriend and girlfriend,but we have been flirty and the whole bit. I was on his Instagram,and found a photo of him kissing another woman,who was at the time his girlfriend.Even on Facebook,it is listed and posted that he was in a relationship with her. This lasted from May 2013-January 2014. He and I talked so much during that time.Never once did he tell me about her.He took time to post on social media about his relationship,but never to me.They photos of them kissing,having fun,the whole bit.Its as if I never even existed.Obviously,Im deeply hurt. Im hurt because he already knew I loved him,he already knew I cared and had feelings,and yet still he went to be with her. Why didnt he tell me?
Why was I left out in the cold?
Why did he lie?
Should I mention this now? Or should mention it when I finally get there to see him.
I have know about this for 3 months,and it bothers me at my gut every single day
Am I wrong because I felt this?
Was he right or wrong?
Just because we didnt make a full commitment to one another,we did confess we had feelings for each other and liked eachother.
Please,my gut is punching at me. (link)
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I can understand the way you might be feeling. maybe somewhat cheated?? could that be a good term? For, he may not have purposely LIED, but at the same time you were having a long distance relationship and you both have personal "needs" (i think you might know what i mean here) that need to met. AKA some sort of personal close attention that only someone who is actually THERE with you can fill.
On the other hand, maybe what you viewed in the pictures to HIM might not have been that serious, since like the previous poster said, you never set down boundaries. Its kind of unfair to try to pin him with purposely not telling you about her or vis versa. You have no idea what he was thinking at the time and he cant read your mind. This is why long distance/online relationships can fail alot of the time. Not only are boundaries NOT set, but hes having fun without you as well.
Maybe the relationship was already "over" to him and he hadnt told everyone else yet and deal with it. AKA explaining to people WHY him and this other girl broke it off, explaining to family, or explaining to HER that it was over if there WAS something between them.
Whatever the case if your going to be moving in together you DEFINITELY need to confront this and sit him down and talk about this. i would say over the phone and NOT online. Things can be misunderstood and that is NOT the place to really get a read on someone elses feelings.
Try not to be on the defensive when doing this, just ask as though you you NOTICED that on his timeline hes kissing another girl whilst during this time being evolved with you. then LET HIM EXPLAIN, listen to him, HEAR what he has to say about it, and most of all stay calm. If someone feels your attacking them it usually wont end well and they will close themselves off from you.
Look (or listen over the phone) for him WANTING to explain and reassure you about the whole situation to make you feel better and if he sounds like he doesnt care that you noticed and doesnt think its "that big of a deal" some key statements will show you his true colors on this, and on his boundaries about other women in general.
This will give you grounds to take some time to think about what you really want with him and then go from there. he should be willing to answer any questions you have about her as well as his questions about your past. Its apart of getting to know each other, and theres no reason for anyone to put up walls or get defensive.
good luck ; )
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I daydream a lot and I did a little research and I am not sure if it is a maladaptive daydreaming. I think it becoming a problem because I don't like pain. However, when I have a painful experience I create a scenario in my head. The scenario is even more painful but I am in control of what happens. During these daydream I get emotional because they are very painful experience but it worse than the pain I am going through. It my way to escape and process my emotion. I can cry without dealing with my actually emotionally pain. (link)
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Well im not a doctor in this area but theres a few things i DO know. You shouldnt avoid dealing with issues that you have going on. Dealing with these things is what makes you stronger as a person. Confronting and making the important decisions that result from these situations are what creates an environment for growing as a person, there are some fundamental things in life that happen for a reason and are meant to challenge you in this life.
If your emotions are so bad that your crying, you may need to talk to someone professionally or someone that you can trust at the very least to build up a support system around you full of people who really care about you and will help you get back on your feet once these choices are made. Ive always felt that most people already KNOW what their supposed to be doing, and what the right thing to do should be, its their emotions and lack of strength that can hold them back from taking those first steps.
I wish you could have given maybe, an example of something thats happening so that we might be able to help you more. i felt this was a little vague so thats all i can say. good luck. ; )
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My girlfriend of almost a year is the girl I want to and am planning to spend the rest of my life with.Shes perfect to me. But here's the thing, when we met she had a boyfriend, a fat, immature, poser(he's white and says the n word,wears a SnapBack,says eminem is the only good rapper alive,etc...).I convinced her to break up with him and we fell in love.Now I lost my virginity to her but she lost it to him.When I imagine that guy on top of her, I get insecure,mad,sad,jealous,etc..She says she regrets it,I believe her but still. Now the other day she told me this guy we both know was hitting on her and I laughed about it...then she told me "have you seen him in sweatpants ,looks like he has a 3rd leg or a really big water bottle in there.." Ever since then I haven't been able to look at her out of jealousy and insecurity, I mean why would she tell me that,was that really necessary,I'm confident with my size but it's not a damn 3rd leg.... So how do I get over it and just move on?plz help (link)
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Well first off, its normal to feel some envy because he was with her first, but imagine the shame she feels from having been with him and consciously made the choice to have sex with that guy. to think back on it now is kinda like "ewww" i think we all get that. However its HER shame/embarrassment to feel and not yours to harp on or hold over her. He was a bad decision obviously and im sure she knows that so i would just let that part of this go.
secondly, theres no reason to feel anything about the guy she mentioned that had a "water bottle" in his pants. honestly the average size for a man is 5 to 7 inches and anything bigger then that would just hurt most likely. So even if she looked at him and that looked appealing to her, if they WERE to actually do anything, it would probably hurt terribly and thats the truth lol. ; )
Its up to you to get over the insecurity your having about her past, the thing she said about that guy, and what her motives might have been for saying it. She might have just been thinking out loud right at that given moment and didnt realize it would make you react the way you are now (or feel the way you do). If she has ONLY YOU in her heart and no one else and your sure of that then whats there to be afraid, jealous, or insecure of? nothing is going to happen is even she says something like that out loud. It sounds to me like YES maybe she could have just kept that thought to herself but maybe since she feels liek she can be herself around you she made a thoughtless off handed comment. thats all. everyone says things they dont mean sometimes and usually when i hear another female friend of mine saying something like that about a guy its usually to make fun of him! lol.
good luck ; )
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me and my ex are thinking of dating again but i kinda dont think its goin to happen any more cuz i told him he wasnt a gentleman and he got really pissed of and he said to forget about hugging and kissing him and i told him i was sorry over txt ,he wouldnt txt me back and i tried calling him but he didnt pick up and i really need some help on figuring out how to get him to not be mad at me and forgive me (fyi i dont actually think hes not a gentleman)please respond asap thank you (link)
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Yeah im sorry but i have to agree with the other poster here. Hes not worth your time if hes gonna be like that. Ignoring you is just a passive aggressive way of trying to get to you back. do NOT text or call him and after a while he will miss YOU and come crawling back just you wait and see.
He is learning RIGHT NOW based on his actions and your back how to treat a girl in the future and even his own wife one day. Show him how you treat a young woman! ; )
guys are clueless at your age, and your the more aware gender (i mean we all know it come on right ladies??) lol.
be honest with him, tell him that you didnt appreciate this or that and that you will NOT be treated like that ever again if he wants to get back with you (make him work for it) you should be the ones thats mad not him.
but give him some rope and he IS your age im assuming and doesnt know how to handle certain things yet. Take the lead and show him and every guy around you how you treat a lady (without being totally cold and controlling of course) and then give them a chance to "make it right"
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no matter how "great" they think their phones are, the phone everyone still wants is the iphone. (link)
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lol 'envious' wow. thats a new one.
Im not envious that my husband has one and i have an android at all. Mac products actually run linux as well as android phones, they just custom fit it to what they want their version of it to be like.
My hubby is actually a computer software engineer and told me apple products just "look prettier" for the most part. he hates how their screens crack so easily, but his work pays for it for he cant say anything.
I also dont know anyone thats jealous of anyone or heard anyone making fun of others for NOT having an iphone or apple product.....
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I'm dating a man who is somewhat wealthy, I'm not sure exactly how wealthy he is but he's in a financial class much higher than my own but I don't think he's like a millionaire.
He really wants to help me with my life and he really wants us to have a solid relationship where we see each other often.
I've grown from lower class (as a child) to middle class (as an adult working and handling my own bills) but it's still very hard sometimes to pay all the bills and because I had a rich best friend growing up I now have a taste for expensive things and sometimes I get really depressed that I can't afford them.
It would make a world of difference to live a better life with him and I think I'd really enjoy it but I don't want to rely on him and then have things not work out a few months later and not have anywhere to go.
He lives in a different town than I do about 4 hours away (there and back) and he would want me to come live with him. I mean I can always get a job down there but with the economy in America the way it is that might be difficult.
Currently I split an apartment in my town with two friends and I just got a new job but it's nothing amazing compared to what he might help me get in his town. With the job I just took I'm going to be working more than full time and might not even have time to see him and that scares me too because I don't want to lose him.
I'm scared to give up what I have here but then again I don't have much here. I have my own car which is a good 2012 hybrid. The apartment can be taken care of by my roommates. I don't have anything else so it's more just the fear of the unknown than anything.
Should I take a risk and agree to let him help me get on my feet in his much bigger city?
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He maybe kind in his works but usually people dont give something like this without the expectation of getting something back in return. ((your a woman hes a man connect the dots here)) if you havent already and are ok with that.
Asking you to move up root and move 4 hours away is a tall order for anyone no matter who's idea it was. Im a home grown san diegian, and have never lived anywhere else my whole live. Now be that as it may for ME at least even the thought of my husband getting a new job far away would be a hugeeee challenge for me. your getting used to a new city, new people, learning the lay of the land, and trying to figure things out for yourself all at the same time! especially if everyone you know and love is where you currently are now. ((i know the whole "well you can drive down on the weekends and see whoever")) but its just not the same.
Are you REALLY so unhappy with your current life with your roomies that you would want to risk what you DO have now for this? Is your relationship with this man THAT secure that you feel once you get there and get settled that nothing will happen that could "compromise" the relationship/friendship?
From all accounts, to me he sounds like a sugar daddy and while those are good, they dont last forever and eventually things could go down a road you didnt anticipate.
lots to think over, just make sure you put away enough money for YOU so that if things dont work out between you two, that youll be able to move back to where you are now (if thats where you wanna be) and youll still be ok for a while until you can get resettled.
maybe agree to go up there and "visit" for an extended stay before you really make up your mind. ; )
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Me and my husband weren't planning on having children, and this one just popped in on us even though we were using different types of contraceptives and he would pull out so we would be twice as safe.
We both live with his 3 sisters and his mother in a large city. Only two of his sisters have min.wage jobs, and I help out with almost all of my financial aid I get for going to school. He doesn't have a job and hasn't since he got laid off last year.
Having a baby right now would more than likely keep me from going to school, and I wanted to get the abortion pill,but all of my tests kept coming back negative for three months (tried 4 different times). Now he wants to keep it, and I do not seeing as we really can't afford it and his family drives me crazy most of the time.
I don't know what to do! (link)
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Well, im not going to try to tell you what to do here because every situation is different.
lets look at this realistically here:
Firstly, do you and your boyfriend feel close enough of a connection to where if you DID have this baby that you would do whatever it took (without the other family members help) to make things work? because if you did, and you were to stay unmarried, you could get welfare, ebt benefits, wic, and medical and low income housing (assuming your in the US) for the child and everything would be covered. if you were to get married it would not and you would both have to find a way to pay for everything for the child and you.
secondly: really think about going thru with the abortion, would you be able to live with yourself if you did get one? some people are ok with it and some people take it really hard even years down the road and have regrets. so thats definitely something to think about it depending on the type of personality you have and weather you think about these kinds of things or not. (((ive known a few women through the years who had gotten one, some much older then i some younger then me and some still remember EVERYTHING about the day they did it and the gender of the baby because they will ask if you wanted to know, some remember when the due date of the baby would have been and some dont even give it a second thought because they are not real overly emotional people)))
So there are some things you need to really look inward and think about and also talk to your boyfriend about. Ask him if he would REALLY feel like he could step up to the plate, get possibly TWO jobs if thats what it takes to help care for this baby and you until you can work too.
thats just SOME of the biggest parts of this to think about here.
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I don't think so u gave me the right answer was it comfortable to you to understand my question. By the way I don't know how to ask a question regarding sexual health problems. Thanks for helping me/giving advice to me. Bye.
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i agree, i dont understand your question enough to able to answer and theres nothing thats uncomfortable for me personally that i would not at least TRY to help out with.
try to give as much detail as you can because we only can go on what your telling us since were not in the same room with you face to face. ; )
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I think that I'm insecure , im a sophomore and I'm 14. I have a good amount of friends but I'm terribly shy and I only can be myself around my closest friends. I think when people try and talk to me or be friendly, I get an attitude and I push them away, idk why I do that . It's just a natural reaction . I want to make more friends with like the 11th graders , I want to be more friendly and just be able to just talk to people and be mire friendly. I'm scared to do something because I always think about what people would think of it in their eyes . (link)
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I say try being nice to people until they are mean to you first. Theres no reason to expect that that you will be made fun of or make a fool of yourself. THATS how i made loads of friends and became popular in high school.
My secret was to expect everyone, and tell them that im not here to judge. More people felt comfortable around me and pretty soon it went both ways. ; )
good luck.
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So, we're in high school. We've been at it for 1 year, 2 months, 3 weeks, and so on. Lately, she's been ignoring me and all that. She started hanging around with a certain friend of mine. That asshole. I started taking some walks and punching a few walls in the process. Actually right about 7 minutes ago, she broke up with me. I feel all shitty and thinking about suicide. I'm scared I'll do a shitty job at it and not kill myself properly and have to live with emotional pain while I can't do a single thing about it. I've actually felt like this 6 other times before. But this one hurt like a bitch. I dont know why but I'm telling you, I got issues. When something like this happens, I cannot stand. My legs fail me, it hurts evertime I breathe, I'm cold as ice and i cant think. I can't tell any of my friends because they just wont understand! I need help! (link)
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Ok first off, calm down. This isnt the end of the world, the girl your with or WAS with is obviously upset over something and shes not giving you the chance to fix it. did she say WHY she wanted to break up??
you arent really giving us all much to go on here or any idea how to help you beside just try to convince you not to hurt yourself.
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I am a girl/23...i was always compared with my cousin sisters and always neglected and was treated ignored by all relatives and my parents..according to them I am just nothing...have no qualities in me...so I needed to prove myself at every point of my life...but then I realized that its my life and I should live it as I wish...no matter how people think about me and what they talk behind my back..so I cut them all from my life and made myself aloof...but my mom and dad till irritate me by calling or texting what anyone tells to them what my relatives might have thought about me and how they neglect me...really I got so tired with this...but my parents don't stop doing this...am just disturbed and lost my inner peace...what should I do as I can't go away from my parents and 24x7x365 they tell me what any jealous relative or friend is or might be talking about me to others at my back...am fade up trying making them understand what I actually feel about it..but they don't stop..what am supposed to do? (link)
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Ignore them for a while until they admit they are wrong. stop answering phone calls and text messages no matter what they say, and if someone you know that also knows your family calls you to ask about why your ignoring them then tell them why and they will relay it to them. until then ignore them. They dont deserve to have you in their lives in any capacity until they understand you will not be spoken to or treated this way.
silence can drive people crazy. Just complete silence from a loved one (since im sure on some level they still consider you one) can force them to look inward about why you might be totally ignoring them.
If you live with some of them, move out, if holidays come up where there are large gatherings, dont go. make it known that you feel disrespected and until you get some apologies or acknowledgements then theres no reason to speak about anything serious with you.
two can play this game. ive had to deal with this before so i know how it can go.
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How to get over your recent now ex-boyfriend?
He broke up because I was talking to an ex boyfriend while he was in jail. I understand. I would be upset too.
Everyone says it's good we broke up.
Because he would always put me down, say everything that goes wrong is my fault. We always fought. Made me feel bad more than happy. Also he's been violent with me in the past. But I still love him so much. I can't stand the thought of him with someone else. We've been together 3 years. I miss him & I don't know how to cope with being single.. I don't know how to get over him, I know there's probably a better guy out there somewhere for me but I don't know how to deal without being with my ex anymore. I still love him so much. He even talked about us getting married a few times in our relationship. Everyone says I'll find better, but I don't know how to move on when my hearts broken
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Well obviously you have the right to feel the way you do right now. you cared for him a great deal obviously, but now i think its time for your learning curve here.
Everyone goes through this at some point in their lives, the point is that you have to figure out where your breaking point is with being with a person thats as abusive as he was towards you. Think about what things would be like if you were back with him. sure things might be good for a while if he excepted you back but then what? would things go back to the way they were? the abuse? the fighting? are you really ok with knowing that thats what your future would hold??
Your life is what you want it to be, and if you want to be with someone like that then i wish you best of luck with that but try to open your eyes to the fact that you also might be suffering from a low level form of whats called battered woman syndrome. This is where you KNOW the person your with or want to be with again is abusive and yet all you want is to be back with them because its all you know. Your too scared of letting good into your life in other ways so you retreat back to the abuse.
I say give yourself some time, if you can travel, be with friends and people you know really care for you and have your best interests at heart. Then re-evaluate your view on being with him again. think about how there was more bad times then good, and weather spending your future with him is really something you want or weather you want more for yourself.
Its sounds like you might have a bit of a dependency issue when it comes to guys (maybe its just how im reading it) but thats not good either and that might be something you can try to work on within yourself while your away from him for right now if you dont want to just outright seek counseling. Take some time for YOU to think things through some more and most likely youll see that your worth more then this, deserve better, and want to give the other guys on this earth the chance to prove that to you. ; ) good luck.
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Hello, there. I am a freshman in high school. I am still quite young, but my religious beliefs have been bothering me lately. I have had severe anxiety my whole life; I'd always pray to God, hoping he would help my anxiety decrease, so I would be at ease. However, that has never happened. As time went on, I've lost my faith in God.
To be completely honest, I have not read a bible (It is severely confusing to me), nor been to church. I know very little about christianity, yet I label myself as one. Or I used to...
Anyway, I feel like there is always going to be a small part of me that will believe in God. But I don't know if it's because I'm scared not to (Due to my anxiety). I WANT to 100% believe in God, and I feel like I do, but I have my doubts. Sometimes I just feel like someone could've wrote the bible or something. I want to be fully convinced. I'm scared of the devil though and I'm scared he'll kill me in my sleep or something... (link)
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Ok im christian also actually and i went to sunday school as a kid and know some of the teachings and stories in it.
Let me just say now that honestly your fears sound A LITTLE unrealistic here. I was taught from day one that as long as even a small part of you believes in god then that is enough and youll be fine. We were taught to just BE A GOOD PERSON, work, take care of your family, help others and in the end everything will be ok.
I dont know what kind of teachings youve received over the years or what you think you know about god and the devil, but the way you come off here makes you seem like your fears are a bit unfounded and not very grounded.
You anxiety could be causing you to take some of what could be minor doubts to the extreme here.
if you want to be "totally convinced" why dont you pick out a church in your area and just go and sit in the back and watch a service sometime? I dont think theres a way to "100 percent convince" someone that god exists.
Its called faith for a reason right? so it takes you having faith in the idea that there is a god in the first place.
; ) good luck
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