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Howv to get over a now recent ex boyfriend
How to get over your recent now ex-boyfriend?
He broke up because I was talking to an ex boyfriend while he was in jail. I understand. I would be upset too.
Everyone says it's good we broke up.
Because he would always put me down, say everything that goes wrong is my fault. We always fought. Made me feel bad more than happy. Also he's been violent with me in the past. But I still love him so much. I can't stand the thought of him with someone else. We've been together 3 years. I miss him & I don't know how to cope with being single.. I don't know how to get over him, I know there's probably a better guy out there somewhere for me but I don't know how to deal without being with my ex anymore. I still love him so much. He even talked about us getting married a few times in our relationship. Everyone says I'll find better, but I don't know how to move on when my hearts broken
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obviously it will take time to get over him. You obviously cared for him. A great way to get over an ex is to find a hobby of some sort to distract yourself. Hanging out with friends is a person thing I love to do when I'm hurting. Hopefully you find a great distraction to help you :) good luck love xx
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Well obviously you have the right to feel the way you do right now. you cared for him a great deal obviously, but now i think its time for your learning curve here.
Everyone goes through this at some point in their lives, the point is that you have to figure out where your breaking point is with being with a person thats as abusive as he was towards you. Think about what things would be like if you were back with him. sure things might be good for a while if he excepted you back but then what? would things go back to the way they were? the abuse? the fighting? are you really ok with knowing that thats what your future would hold??
Your life is what you want it to be, and if you want to be with someone like that then i wish you best of luck with that but try to open your eyes to the fact that you also might be suffering from a low level form of whats called battered woman syndrome. This is where you KNOW the person your with or want to be with again is abusive and yet all you want is to be back with them because its all you know. Your too scared of letting good into your life in other ways so you retreat back to the abuse.
I say give yourself some time, if you can travel, be with friends and people you know really care for you and have your best interests at heart. Then re-evaluate your view on being with him again. think about how there was more bad times then good, and weather spending your future with him is really something you want or weather you want more for yourself.
Its sounds like you might have a bit of a dependency issue when it comes to guys (maybe its just how im reading it) but thats not good either and that might be something you can try to work on within yourself while your away from him for right now if you dont want to just outright seek counseling. Take some time for YOU to think things through some more and most likely youll see that your worth more then this, deserve better, and want to give the other guys on this earth the chance to prove that to you. ; ) good luck.
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