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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.

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Okay im 14/f(i just turned 14 MAy 6)And ive been talking to this guy (He just turned 16 like last weekend) Well i think our relationship is moving to the point of b/f g/f .... but like i need to find out a way to tell my mom about the ages without her flipping because my mom is very strict and i mean strict.. i mean ive never really had a boyfriend befor so i have no clue what to say and i cant not tell her because one of my sisters will tell her and i will be in deep crap... so how do i tell her about this guy without her flipping out... like exsactly what do i say???

Dont tell her the age right away. Have her meet the guy and if she likes him then tell her the age. IF she likes the boy then she more likely to approve than if you just told her about this strange boy that you have been talking to. Tell her about his personality. And two years apart isnt really bad. I am dating someone who is 3 years younger than me. And we have a great relationship. My mom was so strict about me dating younger guys so i let her meet the guy and she liked him i tol dher i dating him and she approved. so i told her he was younger by 3 years she said ok but be careful b/c she tristed the guy b/c she met him.

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Me and my bf has been trough a lot ....just to be toghether
I had a big fight with his parents...(I post it on advicenators)..The problem was only with his parents..so we had his brothers and sisters coming to visit us almost everyday and that is fine but now it is getting to much ..we don't have privacy in our home and it is costing us to much money to have 4 extra people in house using electricity ,food and water .I have to cook for 6 people almost everyday ....and this cost money!!!!!!!

Last week the brother of my bf desided to stay for about 4 days and my bf did't ask for my permision..the thing is we have our computer in the bedroom ..he stayed on the computer
(with the radio on)till 6 o clock in the morning 3 nights in a row..The fourth day I told my bf that this is gettin to much ...we are only students and we can't afford to be spending so much money and that I couldn't sleep for 3 days long because of the noice..He told me that he was sorry but he did't know that his brother was gone stay for so long

I don't know what he told his brother but....
he got all mad and stuff ..the worst is he came last night and did't say hi to me and today he wrote ..."I don't need your house anymore to chat...thank God I have my own house to chat till the time I want"....on his msn

I really tryed to stay in peace with them because I don't want my bf to get in a fight with his brother for my sake ..BUT THIS IS GETTING TO MUCH!!!!!
How can he has the nerve to write something like that..after all I did for them

The worst is I'm feeling very sad...and anger ..

I wrote back to him telling him he is a ungratefull dog....I was very mad

Did I do wrong ......what should I do next??

You had every right to say something if you hadn't then he would think it was ok with you for him to use the computer at all hours of the day. You job as a student is to support yourself and your spouse or in this case your b/f and thats it. It is not your job to take care of everyone else unless they become ill or something. But since he is not ill or anything it shouldnt be your job to take care of him and the rest who is staying in your house. Your b/f should be more understanding. But maybe calling him an ungrateful dog may have been a little much. Simply telling him that you let him use the computer til really late he should show more respect towards you. But you shouldnt have to apologize for his behavior so wait for things to run its course. Try and relax and talk to your b/f about it. You will feel much better when you talk to him about the situation.

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what are signs of depression?

please answer i really need to know.

easy 5's!

thanks

i found this info on google.com it may be able to help. this is a liost of symptoms that can diagnose if you are depressed.

You feel miserable and sad.
You feel exhausted a lot of the time with no energy .
You feel as if even the smallest tasks are sometimes impossible.
You seldom enjoy the things that you used to enjoy-you may be off sex or food or may 'comfort eat' to excess.
You feel very anxious sometimes.

You don't want to see people or are scared to be left alone. Social activity may feel hard or impossible.

You find it difficult to think clearly.

You feel like a failure and/or feel guilty a lot of the time.

You feel a burden to others.

You sometimes feel that life isn't worth living.

You can see no future. There is a loss of hope. You feel all you've ever done is make mistakes and that's all that you ever will do.
You feel irritable or angry more than usual.

You feel you have no confidence.

You spend a lot of time thinking about what has gone wrong, what will go wrong or what is wrong about yourself as a person. You may also feel guilty sometimes about being critical of others (or even thinking critically about them).
You feel that life is unfair.

You have difficulty sleeping or wake up very early in the morning and can't sleep again. You seem to dream all night long and sometimes have disturbing dreams.

You feel that life has/is 'passing you by.'

You may have physical aches and pains which appear to have no physical cause, such as back pain.

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13/f. I was bra-shopping for something strapless with my tube top, and I couldn't find anything that was 32A (damn...the bra companies expect everyone to look like Barbie!!!). The 34A was too loose, so I had to settle with the 34A pushup bra. What I need to know is, are padded bras stupid? I don't want to be tacky.

Padded bras are not stupid they are sometimes even comforable. And padded bras make you have that round look and guys love the round look. They are also good for forming your boobs into a way that you like. I wear a padded bra and its comfortable and doesnt make my boobs look saggy or anything

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okay well i know that when guys get their cartalige pierced, that one side means they're gay and another side means their straight. well i have 2 questions::
1. which is which?
and 2. does it matter for girls and what side is the 'right" side because i just got my cartalige pierced adn the lady made me pick my own side because she said that it didnt matter..soo yeah 5's for anything that helps. thanks.

Yea for a guy that gets that pierced one side means thei gay an dthe other means their not. But for girls it applies to the nose. So th lady was right baout it not mattering the only way you can tell if a girl is a lesbian when it comes to piercing is if she has the right side of her nose pierced. that is the only piercing place for girls that applies to the gay category.

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I've been called in to an interview for one of the jobs I applied for, its at Baskin Robbins. Since this is my first job, I'm kind of nervous about this interview. What types of questions do they normally ask?

They usually just ask you if you have had any experience with this type of job and they dont care if you dont. They also ask you want are so qualities that would help them be a better store or resturant. I usually say i am a fats learner or respect everyone around me. They ask if you had previous jobs what was it like and hwat did you do. They dont ask you anything that is worth being nervous about. So dont worry about it

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Well! I am looking for some ideas. You see my boyfriend always comes over to my house or we go to the movies. IM BORED OF IT! What's something fun we can do! Oh and by the way clubbing is not an option. I live in Miami, Florida if that helps. I just want to have a really fun day and then end it with a romantic tone you know? Please help me out. =/

You should rent a boat and sail awyaon the water at night. Itis so romantic. Some fun things to learn to do is surfing or playing volleyball and then having apicnic. but the boat thing is fun and you will be alone and have time to yourselves. Looking at the mooon when you are on a boat sailing away makes you feel like no one can hurt you.

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I need some singing tips.

What is "head voice" and "nasal breathing"

How do you know you're singing like that or if you're singing any good?

Nasal breathing is where you are breathing through your nose while singing. When people sing thorugh their nose you can tell because they have an airy sound. You should try and breath from your chest and go from there out to the mouth. If you breath through your mouth you have a clear sound when you sing. Using your nose doesnt make you sound bad but it makes your voice a little airy.

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Hey everyone, I have kind of an opinion question. I was thinking about taking my boyfriend out on a picnic this weekend. Only thing is I don't know what kind of food to make or bring.
I don't wanna do like, the classic sandwiches and stuff like that. I wanna actually cook something for us, but what can I make? How can I keep food hot?
I have access to a lot of stuff, and I can buy anything I need.
So basically, I want dinner suggestions (we're both kinda health freaks)
and
How do I keep food hot?
Thanks! Good spelling and grammar is appreciated.

There are things in walmart that you can buy that are like heat coolers to keep your food hot and fresh when you go places. It works like my dads coffeee mug it keeps the coffee really hot even in cold weather. You could cook chicken, I hear chicken is good for your body. Most people eat chicken in their diets. You could have a veggie tray made with veggie dip. Something fat free for dessert like chessecake or something like that.

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Okay, well, this July, I'm babysitting a 10-11 year old girl named Maggie. She's a cute kid, but there is one problem. She's completely hyper all the time. She gets nervous alot and really easily.
I just wanted to know if ya'll had any ideas for fun, quiet, easy-clean up games that will keep her situated for a while.
This is a FULL day job, twice a week, $50 a day. I know that seems a lot, but trust me, she's worth it.

ANYTHING that would help me with this will help me because I really need the money.

Thanks a ton in advance.

A game that works alot is hide and go seek. When you hide you have to be very quiet so you dont get discovered. Playing ball with her outside will kepp her occupied she has to keep her eye on the ball so she cant really run anywhere. And try not to give her caffeine or chocolate b/c that makes hyperness go higher. I work in a preschool and making like spagetti O's or ravoli's or something that is good for her and tastes good has an effect on lowering her hyperness. Maybe making coolaide doesnt have much caffeine in it so you could give her that.If you do give her pop then try and make it so its one can a day. Some things that calm children down are tv shows like the disney channel, this channel helps children learn in a good way. If you keep her hyperness at normal then she will take naps that are longer so you cna rest. Board games always work because they have to stay still in order to win.

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im moving in less than a month. theres this guy that likes me and might make a move on me at a party tomorrow, but i know hes a whore and i told myself i could never like him--hes the hottest guy i know and i have never felt any emotions for him at all. on the other hand, this other guyfriend of mine i think likes me because his friend asked me if i did, and i said i didnt want to get "emotionally attached" to anyone now, since im leaving, so it wont work out. i dont have feelings for this kid in that way either, but im not physically attracted to him in the least. so my question is, if i were to hook up with the first boy alex, only for that night and not go out, would that be just plain mean if nick sees/ finds out about it? will he think i told him "bullshit" about emotional attachment because i dont like him? am i being too shallow? i dont want a boyfriend now, i just want fun, but not too much..what should i do?

In my opinion it seems like you value your friendship with your friend then anything. If you want to keep that friendship you shouldnt do anything that might hurt his feelings so if you hook up with alex for that one night then you should tell your friend what you did. It is better to hear the information from your best friend rather than some stranger. You have to make yourself happy. You cant make someone else happy when you are not happy yourself. And you cant worry about if you hurt someone feelings when you do something b/c then you would be making all your decisions based on them and not whats best for you or what you want. I suggest doing what you want and if you do something with this guy tell ur best friend about it he wont get mad at you if its you thats telling him he might if he hears froma complete stranger though.

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Hey ya'll :D

Alrighty, here's some good news for everyone; school ends in a about 7 weeks, yaaay!

Now, to my question..my final school project is about genealogy (you know family history, family tree's and so on) and it's supposed to be really big (minimum 10 pages, maximum 30)and it's like 25% of our grade. So I really need some inspiration, maybe some ideas on HOW to write it or make it interesting? I've tried searching on google to find articles or papers on the same thing for ideas, but didn't really find anything, so if you can point me to some article you found interesting that would be great :)
I know I'm not going to be able to write it in the exact same way, since my family history is most likely completely different, but just for directions and ideas you know..

thank you & have a good week :D

Try and think of some things you like about each family member. Then just organize into a format. Like you could start with your parents and work backwards. Also if there some interesting things that happened to your family like they left a diary you should add that in. Think of stories about when you were a kid.

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I am so in love with one of my friends. I can't stop thinking about him. He is a good friend and shares his problems with me. He always cracks jokes and we always have friendly arguments. How can I let him know that I actually fancy him? I want him to see me as a girl and not just a mate. I'll never flirt with him. How do I tell him that I want to be more than friends?
i dont want him to see me just as a buddy......plz help..........

Alot guys when their in love with their friends dont say anything because they dont know if that person feels the same way. You may not see it but laughing together and having a great time is flirting. Thats a way of showing your affection towards a person. Also if he feels that you dont feel the same way he may not say aything b/c if you dont feel the same way your relationship is ruined. Girls have to do everything. If you have a great relationship then you shuld just talk to him about it. Maybe write him a deep email or call him. Write him a note in school or even just talk to him in person. If you dont say anything now you will regret by thinking what would have happened if i would have said something.

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my hair used to be down past my butt, i decided to cut it to my mid-back after having it so long for all of my life. i have a straight down the middle part, somewhat longish straight hair. i'm getting so bored with it. i was thinking of dying it a chocolatey brown, and getting side-swept bangs. i'm pretty fat (haha), so i have a somewhat round face, and i also have a large forehead. therefore, i don't want to do something that's going to completely expose my forehead or make my face look rounder than it already is (but what could expose my forehead more than my middle part that i already have now, right?) anyways. my main issue is that i don't want it to look like crap. my hair changes color in the sun, due to my natural highlights, and my skin is fairly light, though it isn't fair... (with some freckles in the summer)

it looks like this normally: http://i3.tinypic.com/wco7k7.jpg
and like this in the sun: http://i3.tinypic.com/wco7j6.jpg

by the way, i have never dyed my hair, i haven't ever done anything to it before i got it cut. anyways, that wasn't really QUESTION, and i'm just rambling, but should i avoid the side swept bangs? i know for sure that i'm going for a darker brown, does anyone have any SPECIFIC brand and color suggestions?

thank you, and sorry that was so damn long.

i rate high.

I think that getting bangs that hilary duff has would look great. Those are the bangs you were talking about. I have a round face with half bangs and it covers half my forehead up so it doesnt look as big as it use to be. It actually made me look better. go to this website and you can see of the pictures of her. As for dying your hair if you dye it that color it wont dye your highlights. Natural highlights never dye unless you go with black but the color would look with your natualr highlights though. http://www.hil-duff.net/displayimage.php?album=303&pos=7

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okay...
1.my friend nikki called me a bitch and started a "I HATE JC" club.
2.she called me a bitch again, then said that she was sorry, and that it would never happen again.
3.i tell her that i'm too big a bitch to continue to be her friend, and get her to cry.
4.told out by most of my friends and people at school that i don't even like.
5.my crush helps me out by talking with me
6.lost 10 of my friends in 1 day

NEED MAJOR HELP!!! will rate good answers

People get angry and make clubs when they dont mean it. She might have been so angry that she did this. You need to be more forgiving and hse needs to stop calling everyone names. Start by apologizing even if it isnt your fauly. I do that alot but it does make the situation better especially if you have very stubborn friends. Taking ti one day at a time will help you. Telling her excatly how you feel help release some of the stress you have.

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i am 18 yr old boy doing b.tech.right now into my first year.theres this girl,a close friend of mine,whom i like... or may be a bit more than liking.she likes someone else but does not want to get into a relationship with that guy.she is also close fiends with the guy she was going around with previously.i sometimes get a feeling that she likes me and sometimes feel that she ignores me.just tell what should i do to attract her attention towards me.so that she gives me more importance than others.i want to top her priority list in all matters.please help

Showing her that you care is a solution lie complimenting her. If you talk to her more than the other guys do then you have the upper hand. That shows she talk to you about anything. If you tell her how you feel you would be releasing alot of stress and getting it out in the open. I think she likes you to but she is afraid that if she told you then she would lose you as a friend if you ever broke up. So she ignors you to avoid wanting to be wit you more. Telling her that you will always be friends even if you break up will help resolve the issue also.

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well my vagina burns. i had a look (i know it sounds gross but its painful) and its red both sides just inside.
i have no idea why it is. Im not sexually active and havent had anyone do anything down there.

what could it be and what should i do? but please dont tell me to go to the doctors/gyn.

I thnk you have a yeast infection. When you pee and have a reaction like a buring reaction then that means you have a yeast infection if you go to rite aid you can get things that will help get rid of it/

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Ive totally forgotten how to save documents to floppy disk! how do i do it?

put your floppy disk in and then go to file and save and to the left of the word you should see a floppy picture. Click it and you should get to a menu and you type in the title you want and click save and your set.

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i'm 17/f and i've been raped 3 times and not by the same person- once when i was 8 then 12 and now, 17.
i have never had a boyfriend,not being big headed or anything but i'm not the kind of girl that is avoided by guys. i have some greate friendships with guys. but my big problem is now i'm afraid of getting close to guys. i'm scared of hugs and stuff but i get realy scared when they kiss me goodbuy (on the cheek). i'm also terrified of people coming up behind me and scaring me- i cry everytime it happens. but the worst thing is that the last rape tipped everything over- it happened three months ago and i've been to the doc and everything's fine. but i've started to get used to being raped. i feel like the only way i'm going to have a relationship is if someone forces me to. will i ever get over this fear? pluss ontop of that everyone at school found out that i had been raped- i told one person-the wrong person-now everyone is makeing fun of me because they think it's a lie. everytime someone talkes to me they always bring it up. and me being the person i am hides everything-i've become good at it- no one knows that it's taring me up inside. what do i do? will i ever get over my fear and get a boyfriend?will i ever be able to show my face again at school?

I know you are scraed. Wat i suggest is maybe taking some defense classes or karate so you can learn how to defend yourself in these kind of situations. I am sorry that you had to go through with that. I knwo you feel if you get close to someone they will hurt but your fear of being to close is because you afraid you wont be able to stop it. If you take defense classes you will feel better and feel like it wont matter if they try to do it gain because you will be ready. Knowing that you are ready to defend yourself in that kind of situation gives you relief. Eerything will be ok and dont worry about what others think. When you graduate you wont have to worry about those stuck up people. Being who you are is good enough.

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So me and my friends are doing this project about Elvis Presley. Well actuelly it’s about ‘kings day’ which is also known as ‘Elvis day’
So we went to google on the web and we just got a bunch of information, but I know that that’s far not enough which means, We need some more information. Hmh. So I went searching and didn’t really find anything to be honest. So is there someone who could give me some information? I mean like really really good infromation, and tips for our project? Please. It’s supposed to be a presetation + poster thing. So yeah, DON’T TELL ME TO GOOGLE. I’m serious, I have not much time left, it has to be done by tomorrow, and it’s a really important project, so if you could help me thank you so so much!! And well I’ll rate you too!!

Please answer this question as well ;
WHY DO WE CELEBRATE ELVIS DAY?

I tried to look that up a thousend times, and got nothing any answer will be just perfect. THANK YOU! X

http://members.lycos.co.uk/onthisday/january.htm This website tell you the day the celebration is on and tells you that they celebrate Elvis as the roll'n'roll legend with his music. It wouldnt let me copy it either. You have to scroll to where it says Elvis Presley.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elvis_Presley Ths website gives you background informaiton on him and you can listen to some of his music to.

http://www.guestfinder.com/janu.htm Rock 'n' Roll Day, Elvis' birthday, 1935 This website tells you that Elvis day is on January 8. We celebrate the birth of Elvis and how he changed our lives with his rock'n'roll syle of music.

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