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emotionally attached
im moving in less than a month. theres this guy that likes me and might make a move on me at a party tomorrow, but i know hes a whore and i told myself i could never like him--hes the hottest guy i know and i have never felt any emotions for him at all. on the other hand, this other guyfriend of mine i think likes me because his friend asked me if i did, and i said i didnt want to get "emotionally attached" to anyone now, since im leaving, so it wont work out. i dont have feelings for this kid in that way either, but im not physically attracted to him in the least. so my question is, if i were to hook up with the first boy alex, only for that night and not go out, would that be just plain mean if nick sees/ finds out about it? will he think i told him "bullshit" about emotional attachment because i dont like him? am i being too shallow? i dont want a boyfriend now, i just want fun, but not too much..what should i do?
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Hi, I think you should just have fun and chill out with Alex. If Nick thinks you might be more emotionally attached to Alex (which you say your not) then thats up to him to decide on that. He does'nt have the evidence only apart from what he might misinterperate (see's). You have a right to talk to anyone you like and should not after worry about what other people think about the situation. Hope Ive given good advice to you. Daniel.
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yes!!
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I just had a girl turn me down because we're about to go off to college, and I wouldn't think it was cool if I saw her with another guy.
Besides, you don't want the drama that comes from getting involved with a 'whore' right before you leave.
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In my opinion it seems like you value your friendship with your friend then anything. If you want to keep that friendship you shouldnt do anything that might hurt his feelings so if you hook up with alex for that one night then you should tell your friend what you did. It is better to hear the information from your best friend rather than some stranger. You have to make yourself happy. You cant make someone else happy when you are not happy yourself. And you cant worry about if you hurt someone feelings when you do something b/c then you would be making all your decisions based on them and not whats best for you or what you want. I suggest doing what you want and if you do something with this guy tell ur best friend about it he wont get mad at you if its you thats telling him he might if he hears froma complete stranger though.
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look you attracted to a guy you like, your looking for fun! whats wrong it's not serous betwen thins alex guy and you so just explain it was just for some fun it was nothink serous!! i hope that helps!!!
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Well, if your not getting 'emotionally attached' to either one of these boys, than it shouldn't matter what you do. If Nick asks you why you hooked up with him, but wouldn't give him the time of day, explain to him that you just wanted a little bit of fun before you left. Tell him that you don't/didn't like that guy enough to date him. You just hooked up, no strings attached. He should understand. - He will be upset though =
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As long as you are honest from the very start that you do not want a relationship because you are leaving soon, then I don't see that there will be a problem. Don't let yourself get too involved with this guy (as in going to bed with him) because that will just cause too many problems. Let them both know where they stand with you from the outset and don't try to play them off against each other. It is okay to have fun as long as it doesn't hurt any of you. All the best for your move.
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