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Hello there. I'm 18, and a female. I've been dating my boyfriend for over three months, but we've been friends even longer than that. Anyways, I was friends with him when he was with his past two exes. The one was really outgoing, nice(to a point), and was his longest relationship. He used to talk about shit he used to do with her and stuff. I know I shouldn't really hold that against him, seeing he did that before he knew I liked him. But the thing his, I can't stand thinking about it. And I do it sometimes by accident. Like looking through Facebook pictures of people and finding pictures of them together. It really kills me inside. In fact, his mom even accidently called me by her name today. Not the best thing in the world. The thing is, I'm nothing like her. I have really bad depression.. and I'm very negative. Apparently they never fought, but we do a lot. I just.. feel like I'm letting him down by being like that. In fact, its seemed like that a lot lately. Not sure what to do. Any advice? (link)
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Don't compare yourself to her because you're right you aren't her. Think of it this way he's clearly with you for a reason and there is a good reason why they aren't together. Jealousy isn't the best thing for a relationship it can cause confusion and heartbreak. I understand you care about him but if you already are fighting about things this is not something you want to add to the mix. For me I always believed that other girls who were crushing on my boyfriends deserved a stern talking to. My boyfriends would find it cute but would reassure me that I need not worry about a thing. It wasn't until my last boyfriend that I felt my worth and felt that I was the ONLY girl he was thinking about.
Most guys look or talk to other girls just to see your reaction or to get a reaction out of you. Don't give it to him...and maybe instead of concerning yourself with what was why not concern yourself with what is going on now. She and him aren't together...you and him are and right now thats whats important. Live in the NOW not the past it'll make things complicated. Good luck!
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F/16 I have this amazing boyfriend who I've been dating for 2 weeks. I like him, but only when I'm with him. I partially think it's because I'm still hung up on my ex. All I can think about is my ex, and how I want to be with him. Just a few months ago I was with my ex, until some things happened that screwed us up. Now I'm dating this other kid, and he's my first boyfriend since my ex 2 years ago.
I do like my current boyfriend, but when I'm with him and we're alone things are sexual and I don't like that. Whenever I see him in school all I can think about is wanting to be with my ex instead of him. He's such a nice guy, and I do like him, it's just I know I would rather be with my ex and that's all that would make me happy. I sometimes feel if I could just get my ex to actually reject me then I would be able to put my feelings aside and would realize how good I have it now.
I don't want to lose my boyfriend, but I just feel like it's the wrong thing to stay with him while I have such strong feelings for someone else. He knows about my ex, and how I used to feel, I don't know if he's aware I never lost those feelings, but..he knows about him. So it's not like my feelings are a complete secret.
I just don't know what I should do, should I stay with my boyfriend? Try to get back with my ex? Talk to my ex and realize he doesn't want me? Just back off from boys all together until i figure things out? Idk, I just need some sort of help. (link)
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Join the club!
I made this mistake once I dated this guy for a short period had a lot of feelings for him and then was in another relationship which was shortly after. During the relationship I was in I was thinking of the guy that I dated for a short period and how much I missed and how much I wanted to be with him. My heart was with another guy and that wasn't fair to my boyfriend at the time. You need to be honest with your boyfriend and yourself and move on.
Now as for your ex...why is he your ex? Exes are exes for a reason and maybe its not meant to be. He's always going to be on your mind but you can't compare a guy to him because in your mind they won't match to him. You should ssit out from the dating and scene and think about what you want or look for in a guy. Take sometime and think about yourself...be selfish! At the end of the day you need to listen to your own heart but think with your head as well! Good luck!
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This guy just asked me to homecoming and I said yes because I don't get asked out often. But, I don't like him as more than a friend, let alone a date.
I told him I can't stay for all of homecoming, so he asked me out and luckily I had an excuse.
I still onsider him a friend, but he seems determined.
He's really shy and I know it must have taken a lot to ask me out, but I don't want to go out with him.
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Be honest with him! Just tell him that you only consider him as a friend and thats it. I've had some guy friends who have asked me out and I've said no. And even after saying no they will continue to ask but I let them know that I only consider them friends. If he continues to ask you even after talking to him about it than ignore him and eventually he'll get the clue. I know that sounds mean but hey if you tell him once or twice than he should get the point that you're not interested! Good luck!
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20F. Nick - Just turned 19
This will be long, but I will return the favor I'm just so lost right now.
Me and Nick have been close friends for probably 5 years now. I've always had a crush on him, I know he's always had an attraction to me but he's had a girlfriend for 3 years. Finally they broke up their senior year but that wasn't the end of her. She was Nick's only girlfriend he's ever had, they lost their virginity's to each other, they have something special. She is a bit obsessive and won't let go of him but I get mad at him for not being able to let go of her too. Before he left for South Dakota in September for hockey, we talked. I said Nick, I have a serious question for you. Whats going on with you and Maria (his ex girlfriend, not ex girlfriend, whatever you call her) are you two still together or what? He replied, no we we have been broken up. I was finally happy. Nick doesn't lie to me, he's the only guy I can ever trust. But then about two weeks after Nick was in South Dakota, Maria goes and visits him. I was upset and mad, like okay why is she going there when there broken up? I found out from someone that she kind of invited herself, but I guess he could have said no? Then I find out that she is there this weekend again with HIS family. I know she is obviously close with his family, they were together for 3 years ..but I don't see how this would be necessary if they aren't even together "supposedly"?? Then Nick's host mom, the person he is living with there while he plays hockey wrote on his facebook: Got the picture of you dressed like a girl from your mom. You look sooooo cute! I bet your girl friend was jealous! Haha
When I saw this I was like okay are they back together? It's always so hard to tell if they are or not because even when they aren't, she still goes and sees him. I don't even know what to do. I'm going there in about a month to see him with 2 of my friends, I was really excited to see him but now I just don't even know I have all these mixed emotions because of all of this. I feel like if I ask if they're back together he will be like, I already told you we were broken up. I don't want to sound like a creep and say, I saw on facebook Maria has been there to see you twice already.
What should I do?? I will NEVER lose feelings for him I know that, but I am starting to lose hope of us having anything besides a friendship. I haven't told him flat out that I want to be more, because I don't know if he feels the same. People say he does and sometimes he acts like it, but if he really doesn't I don't want our friendship to be awkward then. How can I get the truth out? I don't think he would lie to me about them being broken up. Also, we talked about having sex (I insisted) when I found out that they weren't together anymore. I've already lost my virginity and I don't have sex with random guys but I trust Nick so much I just have this desire to have sex with him burning inside of me. Please don't comment on that decision, but if I go there and he wants to have sex or do something I would be up to it, only if he wasn't with Maria. How would I even bring it up? So lost ..any advice please. (link)
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I know how you feel all to well!
I hate those kind of relationships that are on and then off and then back on. I find them to be too much and the relationship seems so unsteady. I've been in your shoes and in a way I still am...I hated the fact that this guy I really liked went back to this girl who would treat him like crap. I never understood why he would go back but he did. I was always there for him when she hurt him because I cared that much about him.
If you care about him as a friend you'll support whatever decision that he makes in the end. At the same time if you have feelings the only way you're going to know how he's feeling if you tell him how you feel. You may have regret if you don't say anything at all and thats the worst kind of regret of all. And if he doesn't feel the same way its not the end of the world it just wasn't meant to be. If you and him are really good friends in the end it won't be awkward. It is better to say something then to say nothing at all. I believe in fighting for what you believe and what you want and if you want him to know how you feel...you go girl! Good luck!
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My ex boyfriend and I broke up 2 months ago. We were together for just over a year. He broke up with me (Long story) I didn't want to break up with him but I couldn't control what he wanted, he wanted to stay friends but I said no. He has still tried contacting me quite often and tried kissing me one night in a bar. I asked what he was doing, and whether that meant he wanted to be with me again and he said he doesn't know what he wants really.
I made it perfectly clear I did not want to speak to him anymore...I don't want to be his friend as it's too hard to deal with and he started going mad at me for it. He told me he loves me but he is just unsure what he wants.
I said we won't be friends etc and he said well you never know, you could get a new boyfriend and then break up with him, and we could get back together. anything can happen you don't know what can happen in the future.
Why is he saying that if he doesn't want to be with me??? (link)
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He sounds confused and thats okay. This doesn't mean you have to deal with it...its his loss and I think he's realizing what he lost. You're single and you can go what you want get out there and have fun. Don't let him stop you from going back on the dating scene since he was the one who ended the relationship. Especially, now you have to consider your feelings and I know part of you wants to get back with him but what about how he let you down before and what if he does it again. Do what you want to do and don't give him the control of this relationship.
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what is the best way to ask someone out and or tell them how you fell? (link)
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What other way other than tell them the truth! Tell them how you feel and if they possibly want to go out on a date sometime to see what happens!
Good luck! :)
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ok so this is gonna seem weird but sometimes i picture a guy who i would think would make the perfect boyfriend like i imagine scenerios where me and this guy are together and what it would be like its not like hes an imaginary because i know he doesnt exist i just kind of picture what it would be like to have a perfect boyfriend and i picture those movie scenes and want them to be my life i feel like im super weird though so is that weird?! (link)
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Not at all! I do the same thing and sometimes for me they've happened in the past. I dated this guy for a year and a half and he actually had a pinic with me in a park. It reminded me of the movie Cruel Intentions (MY FAVORITE MOVIE) and it was so cute and thoughtful. Another example was on New Years Eve of this year the guy I liked ended up getting a town car to pick me up and we ended up kissing at midnight. It was like a scene from the movie and was so romantic. There's nothing wrong with daydreaming or even picturing what you want form a boyfriend. My advice though is don't have huge expectations or high expectations from those thoughts. Sometimes my thoughts and ideas create me to have high expectations and thats never good!
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Lately alot of people have been treating me like dirt, like after I leave some where they go and party it up I don't go because they only invite me if I overhear them talkin about it, I also get thrown aside after I do somethin to help someone in need of it. I'm not the most handsome of guys in high school but when I meet a new cute girl I like I usually introduce her to some friends within days her and someone close are together already. I have lost self will to go on I've tried to stick up for myself grow a back bone but it's all the same, making new honest friends isn't easy in school so I hardly have anyone to talk to. How should I approach my problems?
-Thank you (link)
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I know how you feel all to well. You feel like people ignore you and that they don't want to include you in anything. It hurts especially when you put yourself out there...I'm not a very open person I'm VERY shy in person. I finally found a group of people who I can relate to and who care about me as much as I do them! Why not join a club or something and make some new friends that share your common interests? It would be a great way to meet people because they like something you do so it would help in conversations. Maybe go talk to someone like a guidance counselor or maybe an adult you trust! My advice though is don't keep trying to talk to people who treat you like dirt they're not worth it and you can do better!
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how many classes you can at a time at tulsa community college? (link)
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Well it depends on the program in which you want to enroll. There is a requirement of 37 hours of general studies that you must complete. You can take classes at your pace...if you feel comfortable with taking classes that add up to 12 credits than you would be considered a full time student. If you want to be a part time student than that would be anything under 12 credits!
For more information you should look on the website: www.tulsacc.edu or call the school and make an appointment to meet with an advisor to help you plan out your courses!
Good luck!
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my boyfriend he doesn't like to do anything fun.. he's so boring!! and i went to this party n made out with his bestfriend, what should i do???? (link)
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Well if you find him boring why are you with him? My advice is you should either confront him about it and make some changes. You should tell him about the fact that you made out with one of his friends because it isn't right to hide something like that. And if you don't want to fix things with him then I suggest you move on!
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Okay my best friend just told me shes bi..And im a girl to.I dont know what to do, should I still be her friend or should I like not be..Im kinda creeped out cause I dont want her to like hit on me or nething.What should I do? Im only 14 to what should I do (link)
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Well this is a good sign. Clearly she trusts you as a friend and feels like she can tell you anything. Don't be scared that she's bi...just because she's bi doesn't mean she's attracted to you. It may seem weird but think of it as a good thing clearly she trusts you so that must mean you're a great friend!
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so there is this guy lets call him trevor. well my friend allison likes him. she stopped liking him and was liking some other guy. while she was liking this other guy i started crushing on trevor. well she thinks the other guy is talking to this other guy so she starts liking trevor again. she asks me for advice about him and i give it to her. she decides to write him a note and she asked if i could give it to him. well i did. i know things arent going to be akward with trevor because he talked to me a lil bit two class hours after i gave him the note. but i just wanna know is it wrong that im crushing on a guy that im helping my friend get with. I mean its not a big crush. its just that he talks to me. and he never really talks to my friend. and if nothing happens between her and my friend she will probably like someone else. even though she keeps going back to liking this guy. but anyways do you think what im doing is wrong? thanks :) (link)
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There have been similar questions like this one before. No matter how cute the guy or how much you like him your friendship is much more important. Guys come and go, friends are forever! You should be honest with her and let her know you're crushing on him too and maybe you both need to decide what's more important your friendship or Trevor? I think you need to be honest with her and with yourself. Say they were to start dating would that bother you? And what would she think if something happened between the both of you? Boys aren't worthing losing a friendship over. My best friend, of 8 years, and I both liked this one guy. I liked him and she over time started liking him...he started dating her and it broke me. To think that she would do something like that hurt me more than ever. I eventually got over it and was happy for her. The thing I should have said was that I had a problem with it and I should have spoken up. Just be honest your friends you should be able to talk to her about anything! Good luck!
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Should I go to the school homecoming dance? I am a senior(12th grade) and I don't know if I should go to the schools homecoming dance. All of my friends are going and I didn't by a homecoming ticket, which was about $15. If I go, they will charge me $20 for entrance. Also, the majority of my friends have girlfriends and they will be dancing with them and all of my girl friends have boyfriends which they'll be dancing with them. I don't know how to dance, I don't have a girlfriend and I'm going to be lonely bored and left out because I have no one to hang with. (link)
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It's your senior year go have fun. I'm sure apart of you wants to go...go have fun! Before you know it you'll regret not going. Go have fun! I'm sure you will!
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can a random person get ahold on my phone records, even if they don't pay the bill? like would they just have to call my phone company and request them for my number? (link)
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I don't believe so. Phone records are not public knowledge so I would say no. For a cell phone or evena landline you would need the owner or the person of which the bill is under and have that person call with the information they need to provide to retain those records. Hope that helped!
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I've always had tons of close girl friends and I am really shy and people always tease me about liking this boy, that boy, that I feel awkward with guys. Lately though, there's this guy who I'm kind of friends with. He's very calm, cool, funny and kind. I really want to be close friends with him and hang out with him more. How do I do that without him thinking that I like him? Coz I really just want to be closer friends with him, and I don't have a crush on him or anything. I've never had any close guy friends bfore so how do I make this not awkward?
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I'm different I hang out with all guys and I don't have that many girl friends! Just talk to him like you would talk to one of your girlfriends and ask him for advice don't be nervous. Ask him if he wants to hang out sometime maybe even ask him on what guys are really thinking so he doesn't assume you're trying to date him. If you ask him about a guy you like in school he'll assume this is just a friend thing which is what you want. Bottom line don't be nervous and remember don't force him.
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I just don't feel the same about life anymore. I'm M 15. I feel like nobody likes me & tries to avoid me. I feel like I'm desperately waiting for something thats not going to happen. I'm tired of the same old krap every day. I feel like I have no life anymore. I really want it back. I don't hang out with people or go out anymore. Every activity I do is always alone. While my friends go out and have fun, they're all happy & social. My story is just: Wake up, go to school, I have a few happy times in school. Then go home, play a game or two. Watch a show with my pops once a weak & take naps. While my peers go places & do stuff. I feel like I'm not good enough to do anything, like a lonely Lame guy. I feel anxious for a change in my lame boring routine. I'm also starting to became more and more angry at the world.... : ( ughh WTF! (link)
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Why not get out and hang out with your friends outside of school? Maybe join a club, team, or do an extracurricular activity afterschool? And if you don't feel comfortable with those people you want to hang out with why not find new ones? Joining a sport would be cool or even a club with something you like. I know how you feel and you're not alone at all. For months and months I was puching away friends and felt miserable. By pushing away my friends and making myself even more miserable I became even more depressed. Get out there meet people. Go out for a walk or run...I do my best thinking when I walk. Good luck! I hope it works out for you!
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Okay so my ex and I broke up about four months ago and it was a reeeeeally messy break. He did a lot of shitty things at the time adn it wasn't until just about two months ago that he finally apologized to me about how he handled everything. At first I didn't want to forgive him but then I realized that the only way I can move on is to FORGIVE and forget... so I tried to establish a friendship. He's all the sudden really iffy about it... liek he says he doesnt want to be friends even though he knows I've never done anything to him. He says I annoy him...? I don't know. We had a pretty nice conversation tonight but I still just really really wanna be friends... how can I make the steps to show him that we can do it?? (he's frieds with my like best friend so thats part of why I want us to be okay) (link)
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I've gone through that and it can be tough. As much as you want to be friends he's got to want to as well. My first boyfriend and I had a REALLY rocky break-up. I tried so many times to be friends with him and he would say he'd want to but he wouldn't go through with it and continue to be a jerk. We broke up in 2006 and it took us 4 years...that's right 4 years to figure things out and be cool with each. Now I'm not syaing that it'll take you guys 4 years but it is going to take sometime time...after all it was only four months ago. 4 years in comparsion to 4 months is a long long time...it gave us time to think what we want. And we're there for each other now as well which is nice to know that we're not enemies anymore and that there was no point to that fighting. My advice give it sometime and don't force it! Good luck!
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hey so iam turning 20 on January 17th. And i was wondering what could i do for my 20th bday? any ideas? thanks. :D (link)
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Well its a year before you're legal to drink! I define 20 year olds as question marks in society because your in between being a teenager and being an adult! So why not do something fun with your friends maybe mini golfing or having a party at your house. Something fun...maybe have a themed party or even go out to dinner with a few of your friends! Have fun! And Happy Birthday! :)
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I don't want anyone to say anything about my age or being young because i really dont think it's relevant .
When i started year9 age 14 (or 9th grade) i started speaking to a boy who was in year 11. (age 16) . he was really nice and we soon became good friends . everntualy after a lot of drama with one of my friends, we started going out
i was really happy and we had such a good relationship, everyone commented on how well we suited.
we lost our virginity to each other and were happy for so long
He promised me we would be together well after he finishes college and have a great life together
I cant even begin to say how many times he made promises like this
Im so in love with him but now hes just started college everything is beginnning to fall apart.
he doesnt seem to have time for me and he keeps saying he wants us to have a break to 'save our relationship'
His point is that if we have a break now we wont argue as much and when college settles down we can be together again
i cant help but feel like hes messing me arund though and that we wont get back together :(
i feel so clingey and hes acting as if he doesnt care
i know this was really long :/ im sorry but any advice would make me feel alot better. i jeep crying over him i love him so much and i cant imagine being with anyone else.
PLEASE: do not call me immature or too young etc. (link)
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Its normal to be in a relationship in high school its not immature and I don't think you're immature.
Things happen...people grow apart...usually its hard for a relationship when someone is in high school and the other is in college. Now I have been in the same situation and it doesn't always work out. College is very different from high school! I know you feel hurt and used right now and you don't know what to do. You have to concentrate though and don't let it get to you...hang out with friends or go out and play sports or something. I know it hurts and I know this sounds cliche but there are so many guys out there and when you least expect it you'll meet one. You're alowed to be sad but remember the memories and try to move on. Feel better! Hope everything works out for the best!
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Ok I haven't started my period yet and in early October I'll be 14. My mom started when she was 12 and so did her mom... But my dads mom started after 14 and moms sister and her daughter started at 14. I know I'll probably start at 14 but I want it to just come. People say what you think will happen so I I think about it more will it just come? Or will it wait longer tht way.? Also is there any way I can know when it will cone? Thanks... ASAP please!!!! (link)
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Everyone is different so it doesn't necessarily mean your period will come right now. It could maybe come a year or two after its not a big deal. And unfortunately there is no way of knowing when it is going to come either way. Don't worry too much about it, it will happen when its suppose to!
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