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broken promises :/
I don't want anyone to say anything about my age or being young because i really dont think it's relevant .
When i started year9 age 14 (or 9th grade) i started speaking to a boy who was in year 11. (age 16) . he was really nice and we soon became good friends . everntualy after a lot of drama with one of my friends, we started going out
i was really happy and we had such a good relationship, everyone commented on how well we suited.
we lost our virginity to each other and were happy for so long
He promised me we would be together well after he finishes college and have a great life together
I cant even begin to say how many times he made promises like this
Im so in love with him but now hes just started college everything is beginnning to fall apart.
he doesnt seem to have time for me and he keeps saying he wants us to have a break to 'save our relationship'
His point is that if we have a break now we wont argue as much and when college settles down we can be together again
i cant help but feel like hes messing me arund though and that we wont get back together :(
i feel so clingey and hes acting as if he doesnt care
i know this was really long :/ im sorry but any advice would make me feel alot better. i jeep crying over him i love him so much and i cant imagine being with anyone else.
PLEASE: do not call me immature or too young etc.
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Its normal to be in a relationship in high school its not immature and I don't think you're immature.
Things happen...people grow apart...usually its hard for a relationship when someone is in high school and the other is in college. Now I have been in the same situation and it doesn't always work out. College is very different from high school! I know you feel hurt and used right now and you don't know what to do. You have to concentrate though and don't let it get to you...hang out with friends or go out and play sports or something. I know it hurts and I know this sounds cliche but there are so many guys out there and when you least expect it you'll meet one. You're alowed to be sad but remember the memories and try to move on. Feel better! Hope everything works out for the best!
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No one is going to be able to answer your question honestly without telling you that he is at the age where his life is exploding with new people and thoughts, and you are two years away from that age, still getting ready to move on.
It's almost impossible to maintain a relationship between two people who are suddenly in completely different places in life.
No one can tell you if he means what he is saying or not - only time will tell. What anyone can tell you is that you're signing up for misery and confusion if you try to maintain a long-distance relationship under this kind of pressure. Sure, it can be done, but it doesn't sound like your boyfriend is willing to do it.
There is nothing else anyone can say to make this right. It will hurt like hell, and maybe in the future you will reconnect, but right now, his life has taken him someplace you can't follow, and it sounds like he's told you in many ways that he can't make it work.
It's okay to feel like shit when a meaningful relationship starts to fad, but the best advice I can give you is to cry it out, and stop fighting a loosing battle.
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