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hello. i just wanted to know if anyone has ever been to Antartica or the Arctic because i am planning to go to both of them and i just wanted to know how it is there. (link)
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I spent six months in the Antarctic working for the National Science Foundation. The experience I had was very different from a vacationer's in some ways, however; I spent a much longer time there than you are likely to, and I stayed pretty much in one spot as opposed to cruising around. However, I can give you some practical advice.
(1) Warm clothes. It sounds obvious, but there is a difference in the kind of clothes you need compared to a standard temperate winter. Antarctica is very windy ALL the time, and that wind is penetrating. Fleece is imperative. Leave the bluejeans at home - they are worthless when wet, and you WILL get wet. You'll want a big waterproof, windproof parka with lots of pockets. BOOTS are most important; get the white "bunny boots" that are rated to -50F. Your travel package may include some of this gear, so check before you spend a lot of money. Longjohns will become your standard underwear; bring several sets. On very cold days, you will need to cover EVERYTHING; make sure you are prepared to do so. Frostbite can happen very quickly, especially on exposed parts of the face. Bring several pairs of sunglasses, as you will need them and the wind tends to whip them off your face.
(2) Camera equipment! The landscape down there is breathtaking, the animals are fascinating, and you will shoot three times as many pictures as you think. Make sure your camera has a UV filter, and make sure to protect them from the salt and spray while on ship - nothing will ruin a camera faster than salt water. This is the time to invest in a really good camera and, if necessary, lessons on how to get the most from it.
(3) Sunscreen. Remember there's no ozone layer down there, and the sun will broil you like nobody's business. Bring it and use it.
(4) Pay attention during whatever orientation they give you. Antarctica is not Disneyland; you can die there if you're not careful. Participate in all the drills and make sure you know the emergency procedures. They will give you a survival kit - it is called that for a reason, so keep track of it.
(5) Don't mess with the wildlife. The animals there (penguins, seals, seabirds, whales) are very inquisitive and have little fear of humans. This means you can get some great photos, but you must remember that they are wild creatures, this is THEIR home, and you must not interfere with their natural lives. For that matter, make sure you don't walk where you're not supposed to go - trails and such are generally marked with flags, and you must not stray from the path, or you might die. (Not kidding about that last one - cracks in the ice are not always obvious to the eye.) Take only pictures, leave only footprints. Antarctica is unspoiled wilderness and we should keep it that way.
(6) If you get the chance to go to McMurdo Station, see if you'll have enough time to climb Observation Hill. The view from the top is spectacular. Oh, and the official policy of the NSF is to avoid contact with the tourists, so if people seem rude, it's just because they've been told to be.
Your travel agent can answer questions specific to your tour, but hopefully I've given you a few good tips. Enjoy!
(P.S. On my column is a picture of a penguin - I took that picture myself.)
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hey i was just wondering if there were people out there (or here on advicinator) that think that what hitler did was ethical and support him?
Because i totally dont and i was wondering what were there reasons for thinking so (link)
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Dude, seriously, what kind of answers are you expecting to get here? You can't possibly be thinking that ANYONE around here is going to be publicly supportive of the leader of the Third Reich. If you really want to hear some arguments in favor of Hitler's policies, I'm sure you can find them on the internet somewhere, but I certainly won't link to them for you.
In the end, Adolph Hitler did accomplish one truly great thing: He killed Adolph Hitler.
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Say your spouse dies and goes to "Heaven". You learn to cope and marry again. Then you and your new spouse somehow die (whomever first, it doesn't matter), but you both go to "Heaven". Now you're there with two martial partners. How is your time divided? Or how does that work? Can you love them both? Can you "be with" them both? Will they know of each other's existence?
There obviously isn't a right or wrong answer, so all opinions welcome and appreciated. (link)
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True Heaven seems an impossible concept to me. What sort of eternal existence could there possibly be that would not eventually become hellish? People who yearn for immortality often can't figure out what to do with themselves on a Sunday afternoon. Usually, the way around this throny problem is to assume that in Heaven, we become perfect beings who are suited to the eternal life; frankly, I can't imagine what could possibly be more dull. Eternal life equals eternal boredom. How long could one really exist in Heaven before consciousness itself became Hell?
The most comforting idea I can imagine, the only "Heaven" that I could accept as truly satisfying, is oblivion - the same total, timeless oblivion I enjoyed before I was born. And I certainly hope that all my loved ones will join me there.
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What makes the perfect kiss? (link)
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Wow, what a potentially long and detailed answer this could be! I'll try to be as brief as I can.
A PERFECT KISS IS:
Focused. Nothing else in the world exists outside of the embrace.
Responsive. Sense what your partner wants and go with it. Offer physical hints insofar as what you want. When it feels good, show it!
Indulgent. Perfect kisses aren't rushed, self-conscious, or over-analyzed; they just ARE, and one revels in it. It's about feeling, not thinking. It's playful, passionate, and sometimes overwhelming.
Mutual. It's about sharing, not giving or taking.
Sensual. Almost all the senses are involved when one kisses: Taste, touch, sight (no one said your eyes HAVE to be closed), hearing, scent. The perfect kiss will delight all these senses.
Loving. Of course, one can kiss just for fun - not all kisses have to be about love. But the perfect ones are!
One more thing - the perfect kiss is NEVER your first one. It takes time and practice, like anything else. Fortunately, it's time well spent, and the practice is really most enjoyable.
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i dont see why when we give people advice that they dont want to hear, they rate us low. i think that we deserve better than that because we took time out of our lives to try to help them. why give us 1's for fairly good answers that arnt what you expected? does anyone have an opinion on this?!
-WoahThereBabe ♥ (link)
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The best thing to do is not to care about the ratings you get (although if one gets exclusively low marks, an attitude adjustment is probably in order). Don't do it for the ratings; do it because you genuinely want to help people. Those who are incapable of facing hard truths will eventually have them shoved down their throats anyway. They deserve pity, not scorn.
However, if you DO get a low mark, it probably warrants reading over your response and thinking about whether it's really worthwhile advice. Sometimes a low grade actually IS warranted, and we all need a slice of humble pie now and then.
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Why is it rare that an individual parasite kills its host? (link)
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Forgive me for being blunt, but this is a personal advice website, not an Ask Doctor Science website. Try an encyclopedia.
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I'm a 15 yr old sophmore and i like a 13 yrold 7th grader, is this wrong? I skipped a grade so i dont think its that weird but im afraid my "friends" would if they found out. (link)
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Nothing wrong with it at all... but don't pursue it if you are going to allow your friends' opinions to sabotage a relationship with him. He doesn't deserve to be on the short end of that stick.
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my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a half and i think he is getting sick of me. he is very controlling and he isnt the greatest .. i have had more than one occasion where someone has told me he has cheated on me. i believe him when he says its not true. he doesnt like that i have guy friends so i dont have any but he has tons of friends who are girls and it doesnt even phase him that it upsets me. he has lots of girls numbers including one of the girls who told me they hookedup. another girl who was trying to get with him calls alot. he says he loves me but he treats me like shit. im a good girlfriend i do everything for him i love him. but still even if he messes up i get yelled at if i confront him .. everything is my fault even if i catch him lying he gets mad if i was snooping and says i need to give him his privacy and that i have no right to check his stuff. he says i need to trust him more but how can i when he has hurt me so much in the past and how am i supposed to trust him if i catch him lying all the time. he calls me names like slut when he gets mad and he calls me crazy. and he apologizes when we stop fighting and he doesnt seem to understand its not right. ive forgiven him many many times and he just doesnt seem to take me seriously. he doesnt think i will dump him he thinks hes irraplacable (lol) but hes not. he treats me like just some chick .. im not some chick after a year and a half. he should be treating me like a princess not like a maid. please help (link)
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Have you ever heard the phrase "DTMFA"?
Here's a hint: "Dump the Mother F_____ Already!"
This guy is a user, a manipulator, a cheater, and an egotist. He disrespects you and he doesn't deserve your affection. Cut him loose. He neither needs nor deserves an explanation other than the fact that he doesn't treat you like a man should treat a woman.
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well i have a boyfriend that i love wiht all my heart. but i have a problem. i like two other guys. one of the guys is my best friend's boyfriend. he likes me too but i have a b/f and hes dating my friend. the other guy is my boyfriend's x-best friend. they can't stand each other now. but my boyfriend is kind of being a butt hole too. i don't really know what to do. i know this isnt really a clear question but i need advice on what to do with all these guys. please!!! just do your best to answer my question. it could be difficult.
thanks!
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Allow me to comment on the three guys one at a time:
(1) Your best friend's current boyfriend: Do not pursue him. Best friends' boyfriends are off-limits. If you're determined to go after him, have the decency to first tell your friend how you feel about him. There's a slim chance that she might actually WANT to break up with him and would give you her blessing (but don't count on it). Bottom line is, if you go after a friend's boyfriend, you will lose that friend. That is hardly ever worth it. Among guys, we have a saying: "Don't put gals before pals".
(2) Your best friend's ex: This guy is fair game, but once again, you probably ought to talk to your friend first. This time, it's not for her sake - it's for yours. She might be willing to share some insight on the guy, whether for good or ill. Also, there's a reason why they broke up; if he's dishonest or treats girls badly, that would be a good thing to know before going after him. Since she "can't stand him", it would probably be a good idea to find out why that is. Also, remember that you probably won't be going out on any double dates with her as long as you're bringing him.
(3) Your current: You say you love him with all your heart. Forgive me, but you seem to be awfully casual about considering other possibilities if that's the case. I don't doubt you have strong feelings for your current boyfriend, but be honest with yourself about those feelings - are they as strong as all that?
As far as how he's acting, that's something you need to confront him about. Believe it or not, guys sometimes don't realize it when they're being thoughtless or selfish. Talk to him and tell him what he's doing that you don't like. His reaction may determine whether you want to stay with him or not.
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Hi well im having troubles,i really feel i love my ex boyfriend.We had a really intense relationship and it got to the point we actually said we LOVED eachother and meant it.He is a "player" he has had many girlfriends in his life and im the calm girl who only has had him.He did so many things for me,he went back to school...and my parents(specially my mom) didnt like him and he fought against them until he was given permission to be my boyfriend,NOT MANY GUYS ACTUALLY STAY WHEN PARENTS GIVE THEM A HARD TIME.The point is that it has been five months since we broke up,we have talked...and in our first conversation after we broke up he made it seem that he wanted to get back together but he hasnt done anything.He did do a lot,he lied to my parents and lied to me,Making up the lie that he got his ex girl pregnat which after he told me that he did it to "test" me.I feel that we broke up because he missed being single.I still love him and.But is he really worth fighting for?? or should i just forget about him and move on??Please help me (link)
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Honesty is the single most important ingredient in any relationship, more so even than love. This guy is a liar, and he lies about very important things. Furthermore, he seems to think that his lies are justified.'not be the kind of relationship you want.
Move on, but don't forget him. REMEMBER him so that you will recognize his type in the future, and avoid them like the plague they are.
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I have been black listed By 2 banks in South Africa.
My name will remain at the credit bearo for 5 years even if I paid them off.
Is there a way of forcing them to remove my name? (link)
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You're going to need the kind of expert advice that, unfortunately, you're not likely to find here. I seriously doubt that any of those who post here have expertise in South African economic law.
In the United States, there are services that will help you to clean up your credit. Unfortunately, most of them are scams, but there are some that are legitimate. I don't know if there's South African equivalent, but it would be worth looking into.
You might also resign yourself to the idea that there will be no easy way out of this. Find a new bank, get a savings account going, and after a few months of being a good customer approach a bank manager and see if he can help you clear your credit. He may be willing to do so in exchange for earning a loyal account holder who will bring more business to the bank. This approach will take time, but it is probably more likely than anything else to work.
I assume that you probably don't have much money, or you wouldn't be in this situation in the first place, but it might be worth your while to pay for some expert advice in this area.
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So I`m dating a great guy named Mike.
Yesterday we got into an argument & we started questioning our relationship. After we were done fighting, I thought it was all over & done with..
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He called me tonight, and he said that he wasn`t personally ready for a relationship. Even though we`ve been together six months. :/
He broke up with me & I started hysterically CRYING. I couldn`t help myself, I just felt so sad that he would do something so random. Then like half an hour later he said, "Why would I do this to such a wonderful girl? I`m sorry for putting you in this position!" Then I asked him what we were, and he said we were back together.
Now, I`m totally confused.
Do you think he actually wants to be with me, or do you think it`s because he just doesn`t want me to be sad? :[ Please help. Thanks in advance.
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Until you two can have a serious talk about this, your relationship is on borrowed time.
There was some reason why he wanted to break it off. Maybe he was frightened of the level of commitment. Maybe he hasn't gone out with very many girls, and didn't want to continue a long-term relationship that was exclusive. Maybe he needed validation, to the effect that you really WANTED him. It may simply have been that you had a major argument; for those inexperienced in adult relationships, that can seem like an inevitable end.
Whatever the reason he suggested the break-up, the reason he gave for the two of you to get back together was to spare your feelings. He mentions nothing of his own feelings. Perhaps he still has them, but it's very likely that he is continuing this relationship for the sole reason of sparing you heartbreak. If that is the case, then you're doomed, because his heart just isn't in it anymore and eventually he will be unable to live the lie.
Of course, it is also possible that he THOUGHT he wanted to break it off, but then discovered that his feelings for you were deeper than he realized. I speak from personal experience here; there was a time when I almost broke it off with my girlfriend, but something made me decide to give it another try. We will celebrate our 10th anniversary as a loving husband and wife this year.
In other words, it's impossible for any of us to answer your question. Only he can answer it, and whatever that answer is, you will need to be prepared to handle it without breaking down, or he might find himself unable to give you a harsh truth. Then you'll be back on borrowed time.
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Alright, i wanted to do something special on New Years for my boyfriend. Since new years is our 11 month anniversary too. I cant think of any ideas. I was already going to wear a skirt for him since i have never worn somethin like that before (excluding one time for wedding)haha. I need ideas on what to do for him. Anything, sexual absolutely anything. I have no clue on what to do. Thanks. (link)
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A lot depends on what your plans are for the night already. If you're planning to go to a party together, for instance, it wouldn't be a good idea to meet him at the door wearing nothing but a top hat and a smile.
Here's an idea that comes to mind, though: Limousine ride. A limo, I think, can be had for about $50 per hour (and it's customary to tip the driver). You don't even have to go anywhere; just around the town and back again is fine. Take a ride, drink champagne, and enjoy each other's company as intimately as you like (a lot of guys have fantasies about intimate encounters in the back of a limousine). Since New Year's is traditionally an evening of black tie and elegance, it fits right in with the theme.
This is a generalization, but I think it's fair to say that women like to be romanced and men like to be seduced. Anything you do that's unusually seductive will be memorable and he will be most grateful.
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is it true that guys like s more? and why? is it because they're "dumb" and "will give easier?" im a by the way. but can someone help me out? (link)
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What does "s" mean?
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I really don't even know where to begin. My boyfriend found out two months ago that he was potentially the father of a two year old girl. He took the DNA test and he is the father. We have been together since a couple of months after the child was conceived. I have a 6 year old and we have a ten month old together.
The mother of the little girl was arrested for drug use and the child was put in temporary custody of the grandmother.
My boyfriend wasn't even in a relationship with this girl, it was just a very stupid mistake he made. Now they are trying to get him for back child support, as well as current support and medical bills since she got assistance from the state. Our children currently get medical coverage from the state so I don't see why he should be responsible for this other kids medical bills.
He has wanted to give up his rights to the child since we first found out about it. At first I tried to get him to do the right thing and try and get custody, but the more I think about it the more angry I get. I feel betrayed and hurt about this and it has me very depressed. I am trying to be strong for my children but I don't know what we should do. I love my boyfriend very much but I don't know if I can deal with him having a child with someone else. Just the thought of it makes me want to strangle him. If he had known about this child before I entered into a relationship with him I probably wouldn't ever been with him.
I sometimes think it would be best for him to try for custody for the sake of the child, but at the same time I feel I would have a strong hatred for her. Besides the emotional issues I'm not sure we could financially. I'm so tired of feeling like I am being torn apart inside. I just don't know what to do.
I'm really not a bad person, but I just can't figure out if I should stay with him or just leave. If I stay I don't know what we should do about this whole mess. Should I let him try and sign over his rights to her and just forget about it? He wants our lives the way they were before we found out any of this. I do too, but should we try and get custody of her even though it could ruin our relationship?
I really need some advice first of all to help myself feel better and not be so angry at him and the child(even though I know it isn't her fault, I feel like it is because she was born) Then I need advice about what we should do as a family. I would really appreciate some unbiased advice. Thanks (link)
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One thing that you will need (or more accurately, that your boyfriend will need) is expert legal advice on this matter. You ain't gonna find that here, so he will need to visit a lawyer. But I'm sure you know that, and I realize it isn't the question you asked anyway. I'm only mentioning it because it may not be possible for him to simply give up his rights and responsibilities. Laws regarding these matters tend to be very complex and often not entirely straightforward.
The decision regarding whether he will terminate his parental rights, try for custody, or find some point in between, is up to your boyfriend. She is his child, not yours. What you must do is decide how you will deal with the decision he makes; that is something that would be best for him to know up front.
The "right" thing to do is not necessarily for him to try and get custody. If I may be so bold, I think it was a mistake for you to encourage him to try for custody when it wasn't what either of you wanted. It seems that you were saying, in effect: "I think you should do what I feel to be the right thing, but I'll despise you for it." Furthermore, I am a firm believer in the idea that, when one has a choice, one should never adopt a child into a household where they will not be loved. It is clear that you will not be able to love this child, and I don't think that's a failing on your part.
Try not to be angry at the child, however. She, like you, didn't ask for this. She made no conscious choice to place herself in this position. She is as much a victim as you are - probably more, since she will have no say in what happens next. You don't have to love her, but hating her will only hurt you and your relationship with your boyfriend and your own children.
Insofar as practical advice, I think that this is a case where the child's best interests will be served by not having a shared custody arrangement. Of course, they are also not served by her staying with her mother. I don't know what kind of job her grandmother will be able to do raising her, but it may at least give her some stability.
Finally, the hard truth: Your boyfriend does indeed have some obligation to the child. The two of you are obviously not wealthy, and I think that a judge would take that into account to a certain extent; after all, what good will it do to turn over all your boyfriend's income to this child if it means that his other child starves? (Unfortunately, your six-year-old doesn't enter into it legally; you'd have to be married for that to even register on the radar). It would probably help the case if he suggested an amount that he would voluntarily contribute, taking into account his own financial position, the fact that he has another child to support, and the fact that the existence of this first child was hidden from him for two years.
You, in turn, have made a commitment to your boyfriend. You aren't married, but you have conceived and decided to raise a child together, and that is morally equivalent. This means that, to a certain extent, you must accept his past and even share some of the burden. If it helps, remember that he didn't betray you; the child was conceived before you were together, and born without his knowledge. He probably would have been truthful with you had he known the truth himself.
In terms of practical advice, your first step needs to be a lawyer's office. Find out what his options are so you at least know what you CAN do. Also, take what steps you can to increase your household income, because whatever happens, it's going to be expensive.
To heal your anger is going to take time; there is no way to sweep it under the rug. It might help if you got the chance to meet the child; perhaps you will be able to see for yourself that none of this could possibly be her fault, and then you can at least let go of that.
Best of luck to you.
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What is your opinion on black hair?do you think it ia boring and ugly? (link)
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All colors of hair can be beautiful. Black, in particular, goes with anything - a redhead may have trouble coordinating outfits, but one with black hair can do whatever she wants!
Actually, to ask whether black hair is ugly is kind of like asking if a blue car is ugly. There are so many things besides color that factor into it, one cannot make such a sweeping generalization. If you have black hair that's tangled, knotted, falling out in clumps, and infested with lice, then it could safely be considered ugly. If it's clean, brushed, and styled in a way that compliments your other features, then it's attractive.
And if you don't like it, go to any supermarket and you'll see over a hundred different products you can use to change it.
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is there 2 ways making out (link)
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You're REALLY going to have to get a little more specific on what you mean by this question. There are probably a thousand ways of making out. Unless you can provide some detail on what you're talking about, no one will be able to give you a meaningful answer.
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For certain words int he chinese language, are there more than one symbol for one word, or are some words have two symbols?
Like, how we have "there their and they're", are there more than one symbol for one word? And are there more than one symbol to make up the word? (link)
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I don't know much about Chinese, but this much is true: There, their, and they're are three different words, not just three different ways of spelling the same one.
"There" refers to the opposite of "here".
"Their" is the possessive form of the word "They".
"They're" is a contraction of "They are".
It is one of the most common (and annoying) errors in English grammar to mix those three words up, particularly the second and third.
One thing I do know about spoken Chinese is that the inflection one places on a word is much more important than in English or other western languages. By changing the way one's voice rises or falls on a given word, the entire meaning of it is changed - not in a small way, but in the sense that the same word might mean "rock" or "telephone" depending on the emphasis placed on it (I pulled that example out of thin air; those two words are probably not actually similar in Chinese, but that's the kind of difference I'm talking about).
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k I'm new into ordering stuff on the internet and I was wondering if it's safe. There's this thing I want on ebay and ebay looks pretty safe and real so is it reliable? Can I order stuff on ebay without getting scammed? I'm just careful ever since I got scammed on this one time when I ordered something. Plus my mom doesn't trust things being ordered from the internet so it's kind of hard to convince her. -__- (link)
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The previous responder says that Paypal can reimburse you, and this is technically true - however, they are under no OBLIGATION to reimburse you, and if they simply decide not to then you have no recourse. The safest way to make an online purchase is via credit card - CREDIT, not debit.
eBay is mostly reliable, but scams exist, and it is possible to cheat the system by artificially inflating one's scores. The best you can do is hedge your bets. Don't order anything too costly, and pay for it with credit card only; if you get scammed on a credit card purchase, they can withhold payment and charge you only a small service fee.
If it were totally unreliable, the system would break down under its own weight. Scams are the exception, not the rule. Just be careful and smart, and you should be OK.
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How can I make sex for me and my bf last longer? Granted he's kinda new at this and he lost his virginity to me last month, and weve only done it like 5 times but it just sucks because when i'm all ready to go, he sticks it in and it's like done in 5 seconds. that sucks for a girl! (link)
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Does he know about this problem? Sometimes guys, especially when they're inexperienced, simply don't realize that women take longer to climax.
Of course, there's a right and a wrong way to handle this. Asking him, "Is that IT?" and rolling your eyes is probably not going to help the situation. Talk to him about it outside the heat of the moment, and tell him that you need more time and more attention to really enjoy sex.
Then, try drawing out the foreplay. Put off actual penetration until you're almost ready - that way, five seconds may actually be long enough. You might try having him bring you all the way to orgasm sometime without actually penetrating, just so he knows how to do it. Be prepared to coach him on this - he's inexperienced and needs you to help him. HE doesn't know what feels best for you; you have to show him and tell him that.
Alternately, since he's (presumably) a young guy, he may have a second round in him after the first is done. See if you can get the action flowing again after he finishes the first time. Men can have multiple orgasms too, sometimes!
If he's unwilling to consider your needs on this matter, then he's being selfish and you should let him know that in no uncertain terms. If he wants to have sex and consider only his own needs, there's a way he can do that involving his right hand and a dirty magazine. If he wants to make love to you, then he should be thinking about how much you're enjoying it and doing what he can to ensure it's as good for you as it is for him.
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