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i dont see why when we give people advice that they dont want to hear, they rate us low. i think that we deserve better than that because we took time out of our lives to try to help them. why give us 1's for fairly good answers that arnt what you expected? does anyone have an opinion on this?!
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I totally agree with you on this. I hate people who rate others low just because the advice isn't what they wanted to hear. Sometimes people ask for advice when they already know the answer. Then when people give their point-of-view on the subject you get a 1 because it isn't want they wanted to hear. Most just want you to tell them things will be okay, when sometimes they won't. If you get an unfair rating, just report it and the Mod's will change your rating to a fair one.
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Here is the link to my column. On it I have stated my full opinion on what makes me angry about ratings. Read it if you so choose.
I completely agree with you. My mom has been on here a long time and is a level II moderator. From what I gather from her explanation, a deserved rating of 1 is for someone who's advice or comments are so bad they hold a possibility of being banned. Therefore, a 1 rating is most often an unfair rating.
If you receive a rating you feel undeserving of, file an abuse report so the big wigs can check it out.
Don't let such a low rating put a mark on your record because you didn't tell someone what they wanted to hear.
The way I see it, they ask for our honest opinion, and that is what they shall receive, like it or not.
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Wow, I totally know what you're talking about. People just ask for advice, and want to hear that everything's going to be okay, and that what they're doing is right. They're not looking for advice, they just want people to take their side. I see people giving good advice all the time, and they get rated ONES, just because it's not the answer they wanted to hear. They just want sugar-coated answers that make them happy. It's annoying, and when you get ones, it has to be some kind of ignorant answer that you can barely understand that has NOTHING to do with what the person's asking advice for. Well, basically I totally agree with you and it's frustrating! [=
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Well, if you look at my advice column I wrote a whole section on this! I know how you feel. But, the truth is SOME people on this site dont want real ADVICE, they want people to tell them everythings going to be "okay." I mean, look at how many questions are asked by girls that are asking US if a guy likes them! If we say no because it honestly doesnt seem like he does and we give our honest opinion to help them, they rate us low. Because they dont like our answer. Some people are only looking for "sugar coated" answers and some advice columnists are only GIVING those kind of answers. I think the best kind of advice is real and whole some and HONEST. I love hearing the truth - of course it hurts at first! No one likes to hear that maybe the reason they dont have a lot of friends is because of their personality! Or that guy just isnt into them..but you deal with it because in the end it will help you [them.] Ratings are kind of silly. I dont care TOO much about them, but of course it feels like a waste of my time when I give my opinion and good advice and get a 1. Just think of it this way - even if they dont LIKE it and give it a 1, they SAW it. And if they saw it, at least maybe they'll think about it and use it!
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I know. It's bothering me. I know some of my advice is not what they want to hear but it's the truth. And I'm tired of them taking it out on us with low ratings. It's quite rude.
I mean a 1 when i took time to give advice.
I can take it when it's bad advice but when it's the truth and they don't want to face it.. it just irks me.
I gave someone advice a long time ago about how some girl wanted her friend's boyfriend to break up and how to do it.
I told her the usual if she's your friend then you shouldn't do that blah. A guy isn't worth losing friendship
I gave her something to do and I told her she was jealous.
And my rating was a 1 and her comment was "Hell no. I aint jealous you idiot! she's ugly"
UGH.
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The best thing to do is not to care about the ratings you get (although if one gets exclusively low marks, an attitude adjustment is probably in order). Don't do it for the ratings; do it because you genuinely want to help people. Those who are incapable of facing hard truths will eventually have them shoved down their throats anyway. They deserve pity, not scorn.
However, if you DO get a low mark, it probably warrants reading over your response and thinking about whether it's really worthwhile advice. Sometimes a low grade actually IS warranted, and we all need a slice of humble pie now and then.
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Answers that receive a 1 rating should be god-awful, unbelievable bad, abusive, insulting answers.
One's received for advice a questioner simply does not agree with or like SHOULD BE REPORTED.
It is RATINGS ABUSE to rate someone a 1 unless their answer is harmful, abusive, or wholly inappropriate in some other way. If a questioner regularly doles out 1's just because they don't like what they hear moderators will contact them.
So in short, if someone rates you an unfair 1, report them. The only way the moderators can correct that behavoir is if you help them out and report it.
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I agree with you. If you come on here and ask for advice, someone is going to give you their honest opinion. It may not be what you expected, but if you are just going to do what you want to do anyway, you should ask and waste someones time, having them THINK they are helping them, and you arent going to listen in the first place.
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