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How can I make sex for me and my bf last longer? Granted he's kinda new at this and he lost his virginity to me last month, and weve only done it like 5 times but it just sucks because when i'm all ready to go, he sticks it in and it's like done in 5 seconds. that sucks for a girl!
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okay i kind of had this problem with my last boyfriend. but he didn't lose it to be he jsut couldn't last long. i told him before he is about to come to pull out when he thinks he is about to nut. he did and would start kissing on my and shit you keep the sexy feel going, and then put it back in. but it that don't work, let him cum quick, wait a few sec then get him turned on again and go back at it. most of the time after a guy has his 1st cum he can go way longer after that
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make sure your keeping him pleasured yourself. just the sex won't do. touch him, kiss him. men like to be in control. let him on top. make sure you seeming pleasured... if you don't hes going to think he is doing somthing wrong. that's not good. make him want you. turn on some music. kiss him on the neck. rouse him up a little dont just jump into it as bad as you may want to. getting them fisty is the best part!
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Does he know about this problem? Sometimes guys, especially when they're inexperienced, simply don't realize that women take longer to climax.
Of course, there's a right and a wrong way to handle this. Asking him, "Is that IT?" and rolling your eyes is probably not going to help the situation. Talk to him about it outside the heat of the moment, and tell him that you need more time and more attention to really enjoy sex.
Then, try drawing out the foreplay. Put off actual penetration until you're almost ready - that way, five seconds may actually be long enough. You might try having him bring you all the way to orgasm sometime without actually penetrating, just so he knows how to do it. Be prepared to coach him on this - he's inexperienced and needs you to help him. HE doesn't know what feels best for you; you have to show him and tell him that.
Alternately, since he's (presumably) a young guy, he may have a second round in him after the first is done. See if you can get the action flowing again after he finishes the first time. Men can have multiple orgasms too, sometimes!
If he's unwilling to consider your needs on this matter, then he's being selfish and you should let him know that in no uncertain terms. If he wants to have sex and consider only his own needs, there's a way he can do that involving his right hand and a dirty magazine. If he wants to make love to you, then he should be thinking about how much you're enjoying it and doing what he can to ensure it's as good for you as it is for him.
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