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Life really is a roller-coaster with it's ups and downs and varying speeds. Yet no matter how hard you try to stay on an even keel, something always comes along to kick you in the teeth and remind you just how fragile life is. We are all trying to live the best we know how and to get along together. So take time to appreciate those around you and tell them how much you love them occasionally. A smile and a kind word speaks volumes.
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sounds silly, but if a guy doesnt come in your mouth during oral sex where does his come go? (link)
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If you are happy to have a guy come in your mouth then you can swallow the sperm or spit it out. If he does not come in your mouth then it will go over whatever his penis is aiming at. It is always a good idea to keep a supply of tissues handy to mop up the mess. If he uses a condom during oral sex (advisable to prevent STDs) then the come will stay in the condom. I hope this has helped some.
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I am from England and am a male in my forties, but have little sexual experience. As a woman yourself, can you give me some advice on this? I know most men like women's bottoms, but I'm obsessed with them. I can't imagine anything more erotic than kissing ladies' bare bottoms as foreplay. Do you think most British women would think this is disgusting, or a turn-on themselves, or be indifferent, or what? The only two women I've tried this with have found it funny, but they've both been Americans. Thanks very much. (link)
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Some men are breast men, some are leg men and some are bottom men - there has to be something about a female body that excites a man to start with. It takes all sorts in this world and we are all individuals.
Speaking for myself I like to have my bottom caressed but I am not sure about kissing. I don't find the thought of it at all disgusting so perhaps it is something I ought to look into with my partner.
If you find yourself turned on by kissing bottoms then I don't think it is at all weird and as long as your partner is happy, enjoy it. I hope this has answered your question.
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Iam an 18/f and i've been dating this guys for a couple of months and he asked me if I was a virgin and I said yes and he said he loved doing it with girls who wasn't experinced and I told him I would do it with him becouse I figured that was what he wanted.why would he want a girl who is unexperienced with sex? (link)
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I agree with everyone on this in that he is only putting another notch on his bedpost. Your virginity is the most precious thing between you and someone who really loves you and you really love them. It is great that you are still a virgin and you should be extremely happy that you are not 'easy'. Many girls have given their virginity to a guy who only wanted them for one thing, then they are chucked very soon after.
How many girls has he done this to? I would be concerned that he is doing this to a lot of other girls and with that comes the worry of STDs etc. Keep your resolve and your virginity until you are satisfied that the person with whom you want to share this special experience with is right for you. I wish you all the best.
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14/f/with cerebral palsy..i dont know if that contributes to this , vut just in case.
I have this twiching right above the left side of my right knee, it has been going on for many days.. Then my right foot is really swollen and puffy,It hurts really bad to walk , the pain is mostly where the top of my foot meets my leg, and none of my shoes fit. plus the pain is awful.
Does anyone know what could have caused this and how to make it go away? (link)
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I'm sorry to hear that you are having a lot of pain at the moment - it can be really tiring to cope with. I would not be able to tell you what is causing all the pain so I suggest it would be a good idea to have a chat with your doctor about it. They are the only one who can really say for sure what is going on. I wish you all the best and hope that the pain disappears very soon.
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this sounds vulgar, but is there anything i can do to make me taste good... down there? (link)
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I am assuming you are expecting your boyfriend to be the one doing the tasting.
The best thing for you to do is to make sure you are clean and fresh in that area and leave the rest to nature because it is the natural smell of your private parts that will excite your guy most.
I don't advise spraying on loads of perfume or douching because that could cause you to mess up the balance of your secretions and cause infections.
Obviously if your guy likes the taste and smell of chocolate you may like to smear some around the outside of your vagina if that would turn him on. Otherwise leave everything to mother nature because she knows best. Have fun!!
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Ok, so my friend told me that her cousin told her that she was (who used to be my best friend) was anorexic and that she smokes and drinks. I'm afraid of her hurting herself or dying. What should I do? (link)
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To start with you need to find out the truth in all this and the only way to get near this is to talk to the girl concerned. Have a chat with her and take in any obvious signs of alcohol abuse/anorexia etc. Once you have found out the facts then you really need to get an adult involved if the hearsay is true. She really needs to get some professional help because she is probably in denial about it all. Preferably one of her parents needs to know so that she has support from them. It is a very difficult situation for you and you will also need to be able to talk to someone about it - perhaps your Mum may be able to help. I hope you and she can both get the help she obviously needs. All the best.
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ive been on birth control for awhile now..maybe almost a year or a little less? but nothing seems different im still having my normal periods for about 7 days at the regular times. does this mean if i ever have sex that its not gonna be effective? or how do you know if your taking birth control that it is working. because my mom always asks if my periods are any different and im like nooope. and shes like jeeze maybe its not working! but i know she wont make an appointment with the doctor to talk about it so i was just wondering what you all thought. (link)
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As long as you are following the instructions on the packet, and you are not taking antibiotics, then they should be working fine. (Antibiotics work against the effectiveness of the pill).
They are designed to give you regular periods of approximately three weeks period free and one week of period. It works in a 28 day cycle so there should be no reason not to trust it.
If you are at all concerned you are old enough to go and see a doctor yourself.
On a further note, should you decide to start having sex then it would be wise to use a condom in conjunction with the pill - this will protect against STDs etc. All the best.
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Hi,
Me and my wife are tryin for a baby for more than a year , but have failed so far. My question here is that when ever we have sex my wife wipes off the sperm straight away. will that affect, I mean does that reduces the chances of getting pregnant? does it affect in any way?thanks (link)
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When I was trying to conceive my third child I laid in bed with my feet raised above my head to help the sperm along. Normally wiping it away does not make that much difference because you only need one or two very active sperm to fertilise an egg.
It might be a good idea to make an appointment for the both of you to be checked out. I wish you both the very best of luck.
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Okay, this may not seem like a problem, but I started babysitting for this one family this summer. They have a pretty big house and good jobs, so it's not like they are poor. I think they overpay me though. I know I shouldn't complain, but they paid me $40 for watching a 4-year-old and a nine-year-old from 6-11pm....and they pay me $100 a week to watch the 9-year-old while they are at work during the summer....watching the nine-year-old basically consists of watching tv or watching him play nintendo or watching him fish. it's not a hard job, and I enjoy it...should I say something about the high pay, or just take it as them appreciating me and being nice? I don't want to get more than I deserve.... (link)
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They obviously appreciate what a really good job you are doing for them. I am sure that they are aware that they are paying over the odds but perhaps they feel it is worth it to keep someone they trust and the children like.
They may feel a little uncomfortable if you ask them about so I suggest you accept what they pay with good grace. It would be worth opening up a savings account for the extra you earn so that you could occasionally treat the children to an ice cream or go to the arcade.
Have a wonderful summer. All the best.
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ok so im 14/f n im going on vacation this week. I'm supposed to get my period when i'm away. i was wondering if it's possible for me to get it when im in the pool. thx (link)
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If you are asking will you start whilst in the swimming pool, then it is highly unlikely unless you are spending hours in there. Most likely you will notice that your period will soon start whilst you are relaxing and you will be able to use a pad or a tampon.
If you want to go swimming whilst you are having a period then I suggest using a tampon, making sure you use the correct absorbency for your flow.
Enjoy your holiday and don't worry about your period too much. Just be prepared for it with tampons and pads. All the best.
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to make a short story short..... i like him, he likes me. my mom doesn't like him because she just doesn't like the way he looks. but he's really a nice guy. he invited me to a party. i really wanna go. how do i convince mom to like him? i need a really good stratigic well thought out plan. ideas? (link)
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The best idea would be to ask your guy to come over and meet your mother. That way she can get to know him in the safe environment of your home.
Tell him that you know it would be old-fashioned but if he could ask her permission to date you she might relent and say yes. If he really likes you then he wouldn't mind doing this for you.
He doesn't need to alter how he looks but if he acts polite it will go a long way to making her feel that you would be safe with him.
I hope that these suggestions help and wish you all the best.
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when your pregnant do you still discharge? (link)
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Yes you can still have a discharge whilst you are pregnant. It is nothing to worry about but if it causes you concern have a word with the midwife who is looking after you. They will then be able to put your mind at rest. All the best.
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okay, so i am the kind of person who is attracted to piercings and tatoos. my parents are COMPLETELY against it, and they don't support the fact that i am...not like them. I'm a complete rebel, and i do risky things because they're fun, but my mom and dad won't let me get my nose, belly button or ears pierced. They think it's disgusting, and i think it's freaking awesome. They won't let me do anything. It's my body, it's my life, and i have to deal with it, right? Well I guess they have to too if i'm living with them, but still. I really like tattoos too. I want like...4 or 5 tattoos, and they totally lectured me. Let's not forget about my hair! I desire black and fushia hair, but i would like it to be straight. I told them that i would raise the money myself, but they just won't let me do it! I know they want what's best for me, but I really, really, really, want this. How can I get them to accept that part of me, and how do i get them to let me do it? thankss. x3 (link)
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If you are old enough to have these things done then your parents won't be able to stop you. However, I am guessing that you are still underage and therefore still have to obey their rules.
You could ask them to let you start off with a piercing somewhere they wouldn't see it, for instance your belly button. Or you could ask them to let you get a small tattoo done that could be covered over, on your hip or ankle.
My daughter went ahead and had her tongue pierced and it was about two months later that she finally told me about it - I hadn't even noticed. I don't condone going against parents wishes but sometimes the rebelious nature does get it's own way.
Whatever you decide I wish you luck.
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Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and I want to have sex with my boyfriend and my boyfriend wants me to have sex with him to he asked me the other day and I told him I would think about it for a few days and let him know back later becouse I didn'twant to sound eager.I was just wondering how does it feel for you to have sex for the first time?what is it like?I need a girl advisor on this thanks. (link)
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If you are completely sure that you want to go ahead and have sex then please make sure you use double precautions - condom and pill.
Sex for the very first time can be very special and should make you feel really happy. As long as you are relaxed and secure with your boyfriend it should not hurt, but be prepared for the huge emotional release you may experience afterwards.
You may, as a precautionary note, bleed a little, find that you are a little sore down there, or even the guy may fail to please you but practising is always fun. Your first time may be everything that you always dreamed of or it might be a complete disaster. It is unpredictable and you should be prepared for failure too.
I hope that I have given you a little insight and wish you all the very best.
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Okay, so, they guy i like, has a girlfriend, but he told me that he liked me and to wait for him. Should i continue to wait for him? (link)
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Why on earth would you want to wait for someone to dump his girlfriend when he eventually gets bored with her?
If he wants to be with you then he should become single first. You deserve a little more respect than that. In answer to your question - most definitely not. All the best.
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Ohk i know you can get Aids Or Hiv from someone if you have sex with someone that has it. I was told by many people that even if you use a condom you can also get it. Is it true.?
Only asking because i was watching tv today and on one of the Trojan Condom commercials. Its says to be sure not to get Aids Or HIv. Always use a condom.
No im not out having sex. And im 17 female. (link)
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If the condom split then the chances are higher for contracting Aids or HIV. Practising safe sex is always a priority today because of the diseases but no-one can predict exactly whether or not a condom fails.
Using two forms of prevention ie: the pill and a condom will protect against pregnancy in practically all cases but nothing is completely guaranteed.
The most sensible thing is to remain abstinent until you have found someone that you know you will want to have a long-term relationship with, then before going ahead with a sex life, get the guy to have an Aids test if you have any doubts whatsoever about him.
I hope this has helped you. Good luck.
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What are some of the early symptoms of being pregnant? like first 1-3 months (link)
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To start off you will notice your period is late. You may start to feel nauseous, your breasts may start to feel tender. You can become tearful for no apparent reason and you may want to eat some funny combinations of food eg. peanut butter and sardine sandwiches. You will also notice that your tummy may start to bulge a little.
You could have all or none of these symptoms, or just some of them. You could also possibly have other symptoms I haven't thought of.
To be certain you can always take a pregnancy test which you can buy at the chemist, or you could go to your doctors. Hope this helps.
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When you make out is it more normal to close your eyes or keep them open? If I just kept my eyes open would it be weird? What do you guys do? (link)
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On the whole I reckon most people close their eyes. You can keep your eyes open but then it looks as though you aren't focussed on what's happening. Trial and error will work in end - whatever you like best. Good luck.
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Okay, so my friend just hooked up me and this guy. & I like him, and I'm pretty excited.
But the chances are my parents arn't going to let me date. He want me to go to the movies with him, and personally I don't like going to the movies of first dates. Excpecially when you just turned 13 and have overprotective parents.
I offerered to go to the pool club with him, I don't think he's too crazy about that idea. And he really does like me, alot. I made up the excuse not to go to the movies. I feel bad. What should I do? (link)
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Why don't you ask your guy to come to your house and meet your parents before going on a date. That way they can see who you want to go out with. I know it's a bit old-fashioned for the guy to meet the parents first but sometimes this works better than sneaking about behind their backs. A good place to start with would be to go for a coffee at the shopping centre or a walk in the park. If he is at all keen on you he will agree to what you suggest. If he refuses then he can't be that serious about you.
Take it slowly and see how it goes. Good luck.
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In your honest opinion...
How realistic is it to think that you will one day marry your first love? I don't think it's likely, but it happens, right? I'm 16 and he is 17. And I've never felt this way about anyone in my entire life. I just want to experience everything in life with him. We talk about getting married sometimes, I mean seriously talk about it. When we do talk about it he tells me that he is serious, that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me.
Opinions? Advice Please? (link)
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In my opinion it is totally feasible. I met my husband at 15, started dating at 16 and married at 22. We have been married now for 24 years and still in love.
As long as you are realistic in that your relationship will go through many, many changes then you will continue to mature together. You do have to work at it to make it a happy relationship and deal with bad knocks together. I wish you all the very best whatever happens in your futures.
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