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Okay, so I want a song to put on myspace. I want somthing cute and somthing about my relationship with my boyfriend. We have somthing great here so anything that has to do with love would be good. Make sure you tell me who sings it and what it`s called. Thank you! (link)
aww =]
well my personal favorite song for love is called speechless by the veronicas.
here's the lyrics:
Feels like I have always known you
And I swear I dreamt about you
All those endless nights I was alone
It's like I've spent forever searching
Now I know that it was worth it
With you it feels like I am finally home

Falling head over heels
Thought I knew how it feels
But with you it's like the first day of my life

Cuz you leave me speechless
When you talk to me
You leave me breathless
The way you look at me
You manage to disarm me
My soul is shining through
Can't help but surrender
My everything to you

I thought I could resist you
I thought that I was strong
Somehow you were different from what I've known
I didn't see you coming
You took me by surprise and
You stole my heart before I could say no

Falling head over heels
Thought I knew how it feels
But with you it's like the first day of my life

You leave me speechless
When you talk to me
You leave me breathless
The way you look at me
You manage to disarm me
My soul is shining through
I can't help but surrender
Oh no
My everything to you

You leave me speechless
(the way you smile, the way you touch my face)
You leave me breathless
(it's something that you do I can't explain)
I run a million miles just to hear you say my name
Baby

You leave me speechless
You leave me breathless
The way you look at me
You manage to disarm me
My soul is shining through
I can't help but surrender
My everything to you

its a great songg!


I had recently go highlights and didn't like them, so I dyed my hair dark brown. but it came out darker than I expected and now my face looks a little pale.

What time is it best to sun tan? (link)
the best time to sun tan is between 12 and 3 because thats the time that the sun is the strongest. =]


i get jealous of all the girls my boyfriend talks to... how do i keep myself from feeling bad. (link)
its perfectly normal to feel jealous. by you feeling jealous it shows you actually care about your boyfriend and don't want to loose him. Just don't let him know how jealous you are because guys don't usually like that. All you can really do is trust that he really loves/likes you. If he's flirting with them, then thats a problem but if he's just friends with them then you shouldn't worry about him liking any of them. hope everything works out =]


Ok, this could be a little long, so I'm going to apologize for that right away.

Anyways, I was going out with this guy, let's call him C, for almost 2 months. Then I started thinking that I only liked him as a friend && I didn't want to keep going out with him && hurt him later, so I broke up with him.

About 2 weeks after I broke up with C, I found out my friend, M, was going out with him because he asked her out. When I found out, I seriously broke down && cried because him going out with another girl made me realize I still really did like him.

It's summer, so I'm doing OK since I don't have to see him, but when school starts I'm afraid I'll cry when I see him.

I still really love him && whenever I talk to M, she's my friend you know, she always talks about him and it literally breaks my heart. My friend, E, asked C once if he'd ever go back out with me but he never answered. My friend M, the one he's going out with, bounces from guy to guy all the time, but I'm just afraid she won't this time && I'll live with a broken heart.

I really need advice just on what to do. (link)
aww =\ well there's really not much you can do.
i've had my heart broken so i know how you feel.
it really stinks, but time heals all.

Your friend doesn't know that you still like him, therefore she has no clue whatso ever that its hurting you when she talks about him. I know you probably won't want to do this, but if worst comes to worst just tell her how you feel. Eventually you will crack, because i tried to hold my feelings for my ex inside, but after a while i was completely depressed and eventually broke down and told my friends.

Maybe its time to move on from this guy, he's in the past and you can't dwell on what has already happened. By the time school starts you may be over him, but if your not, you've gotta stay strong. Try avoiding him if he's still going out with your friend.

Also, if your constantly busy and out having fun, he won't be on your mind as much.

So give it time, maybe your friend will break up with him, but right now, theres not much you can do but get over him even though it may seem impossible. Everything will get better =]


Okay so I've been with this boy for nine almost ten months. We've done everything (except he never went down on me if that even matters) But the thing is he went out with a girl for 9 months on and off before we went out and this girl and i have never really gotten along. To put it in the nicest way, i hate her with a passion. Recently i have found out that they were talking on the phone..... and knowing her she probably either likes him still or wants to break us up. She has said that she hates him so much blah blah and a bunch more bull shit but then shes now talking to him? i dont get it. I know i am extremly jelous and in my case its not a good thing. I am a nervous reck all the time. He is in nationals for 6 days which is no big deal because i have rarley been able to see him this whole summer. The only thing differnet from the rest of the summer is that i cant even call him. I only just found out about this phone call the day he left for minnesota for the volleyball nationals. When he comes back we wont have much if any time to hang out because he has a volley ball camp at lyola college within the week he comes home. He isnt one to talk about akward/hard situtations things i mean i've tried talking to him about things on the phone and it doesn't work at all. I want to know if i am being to nervous and letting my jelously take over me? And when do confront him about this what excatly should i say? The thing is we had sex not to long ago which makes this much harder because it makes me think he doesnt mean it when he says "i love you" any other comments on the situation are good too.
16/f thankks (link)
well, that girl is probably just trying to get between your relationship with you and your boyfriend. She most likely wants to get you upset, so you can't show her that your upset because then she'll be satisfied since her whole point was to make you mad. Maybe she does still like him, but if it didn't work out all those other times with the guy, chances are it will never work out.

As for the phone call situation, don't jump the gun just yet. Wait a little and if things get worse, then confront your boyfriend. If you talk about it now to him, it could get him upset since it was only one phone call. Ease him into the conversation, but whatever you do, don't make a huge deal out of it. I've learned from experiance that guys don't really like when girls don't trust them or get jealous.

I think its a mixture of being nervous and being jealous. Its completely normal, all it means is that you really like this guy a lot and don't want to loose him, especially to his ex that you hate.

hope everything works out =]


ok...here is how it is...i used to be a happygolucky child then my cousin changed and i acted cool like her but i was so young people thought it was cute...but now i am wearing pink clothes...listening to green day....and hard rock!!!!!! what is wrong with me? and sometimes i want to dye my hair black somtimes i come to my sences and say ..no i would look bad with it...then i turn goth and get moody...then another i am happy sweet loving child..which should i choose..and why am i going through this because i need to make a decision because i am getting new clothes and it would be stupid to be totally opposite..my friends think i am weird because i always have opposite feelings one day and another..goth..prep..punk...prep..punk..goth...it changes...for me i prefer to wear goth clothes but be quiet...but cheeerful i want to have different attitudes ..but then all this mixture is to much...plz..for the sake of pete help me! (link)
well in my opinion, labels are terrible because when your put into a category of just one type of style, then people expect you to be like that type of style. I don't understand why we can't just be a little mixture of everything, after all, through out our teenage years, we're trying to find who we really are, which is probably just what your doing.

When you go out shopping, don't think of what type of style you want to buy. go into all different stores and pick out clothes that you like and that you think are cute, don't base it on what you want to be.

You can't choose your moods, its just whatever you feel, however you have the ability to control them.

Everyones afraid what others think of them because they don't know who they are yet. I certainly don't know who i am, and i'm sure many other teenagers don't know who they are either, they're just trying to find themselves. So don't worry, you're not the only one who is going through this.

everyone says that you shouldn't care what others think of you, but let's face it, everyone cares what others think in some way or another. We're only human, and we can't be perfect.

Maybe if you have low confidence or self esteem, you could try and build your confidence, that way you might have some sense of who you really are.

All these changes are part of growing up. There's nothing wrong with your feelings, just be you =]


Okay, so I got new carpet in my room just a couple weeks ago. It's called like BerBer carpet or something. Well on my other carpet, I could leave my straightener on my carpet and wouldn't do anything. Well, I put my straightener on my brand new carpet and I guess it got a little too hot and burned part of my carpet. I can't tell my parents because they'd totally kill me. its about 1 inch long, and 1 1/2 wide. Heres a picture:
http://i5.photobucket.com/albums/y181/lylx33/PinkStreaks085.jpg
Well its an off-white color carpet and like is there anyway to make it lighter, like a

5's for everyone that tries. (link)
it didn't look like too bad of a burn, i burned my old carpet with my straitner, and it was litterally an orangy black color. Ever since i burnty my carpet, i put my straitner on a towel.
In my house, my mom uses a product called HomePro Spotter. and it has worked on our carpets.
If worst comes to worst, maybe you can change your room around so that something covers the burned part.
hope i helped =]


am i wrong that i don't want to like this boy, even though i do, because of 'status' like i'm on top. i know it. but... hes not. so, like what should i do? i really like him. but i'm not sure like what my friends will think or anything. (link)
the obvious answer for me to give you is to not care about what your friends think, but in all reality its really a hard thing not to care about what others think of you. We don't live in a perfect world, therefore people are going to judge others, and it really stinks. if you really like him alot, then thats all that matters right? if your friends are true to you, they'll accept your decision.

You're not exactly wrong to not want to like this boy, but you can't help who you like. There's no changing what your heart wants. So i'd say you should deffinetly give this guy a chance. =]


f/16
okay i used to be kind of chunkie but i've lost it all by running and the only thing i can't get rid of is my side handles. its so agervating.
what else can i do? anything specific for the side handles and butt?
and whats the special k challeng(spg?) about?
thanx.
xo
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what you can do is, lay on your back, lift up your left leg 45 degrees, bring your head off the ground, and then take your right arm and reach up towards your left leg, and do this how ever many times you want. Then switch legs, so that your right leg is in the air, and then use your left arm to reach for your right leg. This should take care of the side handles, i learned it in 6th grade in gym.
For your butt, you can do squats. you can also lay on your stomach, and move your one of your legs up and down for how ever many times you want, and then switch legs.
i don't know anything about the special k challenge, so i can't help with that, but i hope i answered your other questions =]


does anybody know if weight watchers is actually a good program to lose weigtht. cuz i need to lose weight and im getting signed up for it. i dont want to waste my money so please help. thanks (link)
well i can't be much of a help because i never did weight watchers, but my best friend did weight watchers and she benefitted from it. She lost weight and she learned what to look for on the nutrition fact label of the food to see how much of it she should eat of it, or whether or not she should eat it at all.
I suggest you try it =], i know my friend liked it and it worked for her.
hope i helped =]


I asked this guy out on the last day of school. He said he would think about it and to call him in the morning. I call him his phones off so i just leave a message saying call me back. He never called me back so i asked him about it and he said im still not sure. So i asked my sister to ask him and he told her he likes me alot but hes starting his freshman year and he wants to be "free" plus he feels bad cus he turned down alot of girls on the last day of school. He wont call me now and he keeps tellin my friends hes not gonna answer me now cus hes made me wait to long. and Ya I relize he doesnt like me (i think) but now its awkward for us to hangout even just as friends. PLus my friends wont stop bugging him no matter what I say. Help!! (link)
from what you've written, it sounds like this guy is quite the ladys man lol. well if he really liked you alot, he would have said yes. I can understand that he wants to be single for his freshman year, but if he really liked you alot he wouldn't care about being single, he'd just want to be with you, but thats just my opinion.
To make being friends with him less awkward, you should try going out in a big group with your friends, and his friends, that way its not just you two alone, but you can still talk and then build a friendship from there.
Your friends bugging him is probably annoying him, so you need to talk to your friends and tell them you are over him (even if you're not) that way they won't bug him about you liking him and everything. If you're friends don't listen to you, then i'm not sure what you can do.
hope i helped =]


people around wher i live wear a lot of hollister and abercrombie and stuff and i like it but im wondering why everyone wears it i rate 5s and i rate high (link)
i think people wear it to be accepted by their "popular" peers. People just want to fit in, but really it shouldn't be about fitting in, it should be about being unique.
Some people wear it because they are insecure about themselves, so they just want to go with the flow and follow the trend.
Mainly preppy people wear abercrombie and hollister, so its just their style, and i guess everyone has to find their own style clothing and for preppy people abercrombie satisfies their need for clothing.
I wear all different types of clothing brands, and i used to shop at abercrombie, but their stuff is very expensive.
hope i helpedd =]


My boyfriend and I have been going out for 9 months now and he said he loves me..How long do you have to be going out to know if you love someone. Or is it not time constrained?? (link)
when you love someone, you just know, there's no second guessing it. Love involves two people, and it has a very deep meaning.
Since you guys have been going out for 9 months, i would think that you two love each other, otherwise why would you have stayed with him for so long right?. Plus, you are the only one who knows if you love a person, no one else can tell you that you do love him, or that you don't, only you know what you really feel.
hope i helped =]


One day before gym this guy Jon was like "Matt likes you." And matt was right there. I turned to him and he must of been really embarrased so he made up a stupid reply: "Uh who are you." He knows who i am it looked like he was just embarrased. I didn't say anything, i just said to this guy Austin to change the subject "Oh you beat me in a basketball game yestrday" That was back in like February. I go to a day camp with Matt and he shows no signs of liking me or anything. Well once some people were sitting on a window ledge at camp and all the spaces were takin up except one between me and his only friend at camp. I can tell he wanted to sit down but he just stood there, so I got up and moved casually somwhere else. What do you think is up with him? (link)
he's deffintely a shy guy and most likely likes you. i think he just needs to get to know you more, and then he won't be as shy. maybe he still remembers what happened in febraury, and doesn't want things to be wierd between you two. But there is deffinetly a huge possibility he likes you, but since he's shy he most likely won't make the first move unless you and him are good friends.
Some guys don't show signs of liking a girl because they are afraid of rejection. There was this boy in my school who i found out liked me, but never showed any signs, and i asked my friend why he never showed any signs that he liked me and she told me it was because he was afraid to get rejected.
hope i helpedd =]


I've been going out with my boyfriend for over a month. And for the past three weeks, it has been great. We both get on really well and we both have been enjoying eachother's company. But now I feel like he doesn't want to make the effort. Nearly half the time I have to get in touch with him first. He comments other girls on a website called bebo instead of me. I dont want to sound obsessive so I have left this minor detail out from the conovsations i have with him. Many of my friend's say he doesn't realise he's doing it but I dont know. It feels like he doesn't like me as much as he used to. He always wanted to see me everyother day and now its reduced to a week where he hasnt mentioned seeing me at all. A while ago, It felt like he was ashamed of me and so I asked him, and he came back with positive comments saying he's not. I want us to stay in a relationship because I really like him. But I don't how to overcome these insercurities? I've spoken to several of my close friends and they said it's all natural to feel this way. Am I getting too attached to him? Is this the end of our relationship? (link)
hmm.. well whatever you do, make sure you don't get obsessive and let him know that you're obsessive, because if he does know how attached you are to him, the relationship won't workout. i can't really tell if its the end of your relationship, it could just be a minor bump in the road, but maybe you should give him some space, because if you guys used to see each other everyother day, he could have in a way gotten sick of you (not to make you feel bad, i'm just trying to help you out) so, if maybe you don't call him for a while, he'll have to call you and it will make him wonder why you haven't called which means he's thinking about you and maybe even getting a little bit obsessive. This guy sounds like he wants a girl who "plays hard to get", but then again, i'm just giving advice based on what you have told me. If after a while he hasn't made much effort, then he doesn't deserve you. i had a boyfriend who didn't make much of an effort, and when i'd try to tell him that that hurt me, i think it got him annoyed, so the relationship ended after 4 months.

its ok to be attached to him, but he should be attached to you too. Just don't let him know how much you like him because if you "play hard to get" it will leave him thinking about you, which is always a good thing.

hope i helped =]
and i hope you and your boyfriend work it outt.


ok well i got kissed by this one boy lass night ~N~ im really happy but why does it feel like thati have to wait for every guy that i like...what should i do?? cuz im tired of waitin..i wanna a boy who wont wanna wait ~N~ wont play games wit me ya kno!!what should i do about this one??? (link)
most guys are gonna play games.. and of course as most of us know, we're gonna want the guy who we can't have.
You can't change a guy and make him stop playing games and start making a move without waiting forever. some guys are just shy and they actually do want girls to make the first move. it may seem silly, but if you make the first move, he will probably be relieved.
When you find the right guy, you'll know, but you have to patient even though it may seem like forever.
I don't know how old you are right now, but if you're young, then give it time, just try and have fun, you most likely won't fall in love at an early age, but it is possible i suppose. Also, guys are very immature at a young age, and many teens are trying to figure out who they are, so you can't expect a guy to fall head over heels for you just yet, but if that does happen, thats wonderful.
Maybe you should talk to the guy you kissed about what happened. And he did kiss you, therefore at least he was brave enough to make a move, even if it did take a bit longer than you had hoped.
hope i helped. =]


okay so theres this boy and i REALLY LOVE him..im only 13 and people tell me i dont really know what love is but like love isnt a maybe thing right..? yeah.. you know if you love someone and i do love him but he used to act like he liked me but now he doesnt anymore it it makes me really sad..i feel like im not good enough but all my friends tell me im to good for him..( but hey their suppose to right? ) i think another part is hes 2 grades ahead of me..but he also is my neighbor and were kinda friends i guess but i want to tell him hwo i feel but i dont know if he will feel the same and it would make things akward..so what should i do? please help

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love is a strange concept. many people will tell you you're not in love and what not, but the truth is, only you can really tell when your in love with someone. so anyways, as we all know, guys are strange. Since this guy is 2 grades ahead of you, he may like you, but he may feel like you are too young for him or something like that. because he is older, he may want to do certain "things" with girls that you probably won't want to if you know what i mean.

now, when you say "kinda" friends, that gives me the idea that you guys don't have a strong friendship. Ever relationship has to start with a friendship, so maybe you should try to build your friendship with him, that way he can get to know you more so maybe in the end he can wind up asking you out.

i don't think you should tell him just yet how you feel, because you want to be positive he feels the same, that way things are less awkward. when your in the right moment, than you can tell him, but otherwise wait.

and lastly, you should never feel like you're not good enough for a guy. if he's a jerk and doesn't accept you for who you are, than he's not worth it. and your friends are supposed to encourage you and support you, but they are also their to give you their honest opinion, so all you can do is trust their judgement.

hope i helped =]


ok theres this guy name dalton and a guy named tyler. dalton is my ex bf.i am going out with tyler. dalton loves me and so does tyler but i love tyler. it summer and when im back in school soon and i dont want to start the the year off bad. dalton still thinks i like him (dalton doesnt know im dating tyler) if i tell dalton i mite hurt his feelings. what should i do?

PS f/12

Ashley (link)
ok well, when i was your age i really thought what i felt for my boyfriend was love. but now being older i realized that it was really just a crush. i know when your in a relationship your caught up in the moment and cant help but fall head over heels for your bf. ok so getting to the point, i think that it was a large mistake to "fall in love" at this age, you'd be better off staying friends [with both guys]friendship is much easier then a relationship. But since that probably wont happen, you need to tell dalton that your going out with tyler b/c your just leading him on and he would get more hurt in the long run if u kept keeping it from him. dalton is your ex, an x'es stay in the past [something was obviously missing in the relationship the first time]. Good Luck =]


I'm M/13 and During the summer I met this beutiful girl with a great personality. I asked her out but she wan't allowed to date, yet I got her phone number and I've called her a couple times, but I'm not sure she feels alot of me. I realy care about her. Her name and face are constantly running through my mind. She my first thought when I wake up, the last thought before I go to sleep, and she's the only reason I wake up in the morning. I asked her out again to home coming but she said she wasn't going. We are both very social, but when we're around each other we don't talk much. Yet we talk forever over the phone. Our seats were seperated in the only class we have together!!!!! I hate my 7th period teacher!!!!!!!! I have had alot of girl trouble in my past and I'm scared she doesn't feel the same way, because over the phone she said we were just friends after someone spread a rumor about us. I've waited all my life for her, and i don't want to drive her off. I love this girl, but can I ever be her bf.... I don't know If she feels for me. (link)
first off, just remember that your ONLY 13. Your most likely not going to find the love of your life at this age, but you never know.

It seems to me, that your afraid to take a risk and then get hurt. Usually when two people are shy around each other it means that they really like one another, and its probably easier to talk on the phone because your not face to face.

Im not to sure if she likes you as more than a friend since she said that you guys were just friends, but just leave hints that you really like her alot. Who knows, maybe she said that she thinks of you guys as just friends because she doesn't want to look like a fool if she tells you that she likes you as more than a friend, but then you tell her that you think of her as just a friend. Girls can be odd like this.

Try and become more comfertable around her, and then just take a risk and ask her out, because maybe she does like you but is too shy to make the first move.

hope i helped in some way or another.


my bf and i just broke up. i think i like him still but he's treated me badly the whole time we've been together. i found out that he never really liked me in the first place and was juz doin that till he got another gf. what should i do about my feelings for him? (link)
aw that stinks.. well yoou said he was really rude to you so he obviously wasn't a good boyfriend in the first place... just tell yourself he's a jerk and you deserve sooooo much better... keep yourself busy and do fun things so you'll get your mind off of him... because if your bored, you'll think about him.. don't worry time heals everything... and you'll find an even better guy in the future




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