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confusinggg situtation (long)
Okay so I've been with this boy for nine almost ten months. We've done everything (except he never went down on me if that even matters) But the thing is he went out with a girl for 9 months on and off before we went out and this girl and i have never really gotten along. To put it in the nicest way, i hate her with a passion. Recently i have found out that they were talking on the phone..... and knowing her she probably either likes him still or wants to break us up. She has said that she hates him so much blah blah and a bunch more bull shit but then shes now talking to him? i dont get it. I know i am extremly jelous and in my case its not a good thing. I am a nervous reck all the time. He is in nationals for 6 days which is no big deal because i have rarley been able to see him this whole summer. The only thing differnet from the rest of the summer is that i cant even call him. I only just found out about this phone call the day he left for minnesota for the volleyball nationals. When he comes back we wont have much if any time to hang out because he has a volley ball camp at lyola college within the week he comes home. He isnt one to talk about akward/hard situtations things i mean i've tried talking to him about things on the phone and it doesn't work at all. I want to know if i am being to nervous and letting my jelously take over me? And when do confront him about this what excatly should i say? The thing is we had sex not to long ago which makes this much harder because it makes me think he doesnt mean it when he says "i love you" any other comments on the situation are good too.
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honey be4 you let anyone get into your pants you need to know that person dedicated to you and ONLY you mabey he did it with that girl you hate i mean you never know! i think this girls being with him now cuz shes holding a grudge against you or shes always hated you for a reason and is trying to get you jealous dont make her happy by fufilling her wish and become jelous of her!be careful i think she tryin to break you guys up.
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Hi, this girl is probaly from the sound of things try'in to either come between the relationship or she likes him too. You would have every right to talk to him about it. Just tell him when he comes back when your in a conversation that you heared them two talking and was wondering what it was about. If he loves you, then he wouldn't be seeing any other girl behind your back. Listen to what he's got to say and make a decision. Daniel.
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ok you need to set it to her straight tell her "listen honey that guy right there yea he is mine and if you so much lay a finger on him ill make sure that il be the one to break it...now i know you have been talking on the phone giving each other preps talks asking what shade of lipstick matches your nasty shade of an eye color ah ah ha *giggle giggle* but i dont care when you look at it this way you mean nothing to him im his and he is mine and you are....the girl he goes to when he is bored and when im not around your his "back up golucky girl!!" well good for you umhm ok now buhbye" lol ha ha h sorry i went a bit off there then you need to talk to him about how uncomfortable you are and when you set that striaght with him and he does nothing abut it to make you feel better in anyway heres what you do curse to crap outta him then then leave him he isnt worth it...seriously ok well i hope you solve your problems bye
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well, that girl is probably just trying to get between your relationship with you and your boyfriend. She most likely wants to get you upset, so you can't show her that your upset because then she'll be satisfied since her whole point was to make you mad. Maybe she does still like him, but if it didn't work out all those other times with the guy, chances are it will never work out.
As for the phone call situation, don't jump the gun just yet. Wait a little and if things get worse, then confront your boyfriend. If you talk about it now to him, it could get him upset since it was only one phone call. Ease him into the conversation, but whatever you do, don't make a huge deal out of it. I've learned from experiance that guys don't really like when girls don't trust them or get jealous.
I think its a mixture of being nervous and being jealous. Its completely normal, all it means is that you really like this guy a lot and don't want to loose him, especially to his ex that you hate.
hope everything works out =]
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What I think you should do is ask him if he would ever go back to her. That's the main thing to know. Because if he says no & you trust him then you should just let it go & let him talk to her. I'm sure that the girl is trying to get him back but you just have to trust him. It's better to let it not bother you then to let it bother you. Because then you will be worrying about it all the time. If he starts not talking to you because he wants to talk to his ex then you need to say something to him like, "why do you talk to her over me?" But if he only does it like once in a while then it's probably okay. In his case he might just want to be friends with her. & if you start making it a big deal that he talks to her then he's gonna think you're controlling him. Because in his point of view she's just a friend. & after a relationship has sex is usually when the girl starts seeing the guy not care as much. But it's just in your head. I've had many friends go through that. You just have to get it out of your head. If you need anything else you can IM me: XO Love Rika.
Hope I helped.
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