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Hey, im not going to sit here and say ive been through everything and i dont know everything and ye im only young so some of my answers could be a bit naive.
Well im !5 im from England, Leeds (sunniest place on earth =]) I have an amazing set of friends that keep me alive and just love them!
ill try and do my best to give the best advice i can, as i said i dont know everything so they might be a bit limited but i hope it helps you.
Some thigns i have no idea about so i wont answer them kind of questions i wont give an answer that i feel doesnt asnwer the question well enough.
well thats it really
kim
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Okay just fyi, I am a girl.
Most of my life all my friends have been guys, but I'm getting tired of it. I want more girl friends but I don't really know how to like...I dunno, befriend them, I guess? 'Cause I'm just so used to being around guys and having guys as friends. I don't know how to interact with girls as easily. Not to mention I've always kind of felt like the other girls had something I didn't. Don't really know how to explain that one, but yeah...
I want to like, have girl friends and girls nights and all that and at the moment, I have like 2 girls, and a whole bunch of guys.
It needs to change...so how do I do it?

You have 2 girl friends and i bet youre not there only friend so hang around with them and youll soon get to know different girls if youve been hanging around with guys then youll probably be thinkin "what am i going to talk about?" theres so many things like music is the most common thing people have in common i can tlk bwt music with ma m8s all day.
cothes is another thing i mean are you a girly girl? if youre not clothes proabably rnt going to be interested in tht.
invite over all your friends n just sit n chat n watch a really gr8 movie is lyk one of the best ways to get to know someone. Youll ind it easier the more you talk to, theres nothing wrong with being friends with guys though but it is good to have a balnce.
good luck im sure youll b f9
kim
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I just broke up with my boyfriend a week ago. And I still love him. Well on Monday he asked some other girl out but she never gave him an answer so he gave up on her(supposedly). And he likes to say shit like he broke up with me and other stuff. But whenever he see's me or talks to me he seems so sad. Like I called him to see if I could drop by real fast to give him his key back and he said yea sure. When I get there he looked at me sadly. Then when I was leaving he stood at the screen door and watched me walk away. Then he called me today to see how I am doing and stuff. When he said bye to me it sounded really sad. What does all this mean? It makes me really confussed =/

maybe he regrets what he did but its still n excuse to give u mixed signals like that. or maybe hes just upset, ask himif theres anything wrong to show him that you care. If he still likes you hell probs let you know.
good luck
kim
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My aount wont pay me for cleaning and watching her baby for 2 1/2 yeas now she owes me like$2500 so far. i talk to my parents and they talk to her but she says that she will or did. but she never has. what should i say to her wih out being rude. and when a friend calls me on my cell and invites me over and i tell her i am leaving in 20 minutes sh says you are not leaving until everything is done. like shes paying me. what should i say.

Just dont do it, she cant make you do it.
Its simple
Youd ont have to be rude just say your not paying me and its not fair i have to do so much for you so untill you pay me
kim
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any tips? im trying to cure myself from depression and be HAPPY. I'm trying to be positive and make the best of life. But it's sooo hard when things keep going wrong. It get harder and harder with every breath. so help me.
what can i do to keep my hopes up? what can i remind myself of to not lose faith? i need hapiness so badly. i dont wanna cry myself to sleep anymore. help anyone??

Its not easy gettin ver depression, i know. but when somethings going wrong do something you like to do and take a brake from all the things that are stressing ouy out making you unhappy. To keep your hopes up:
1)doing something really helps and sounds stupid but it does help
2)excersize really makes you feel good after youve done it
3)listen t music you love and havent heard in ages
4)have your friends oer and do something like a girly night in
What not to do:
1) think about all the things that are going wrong
2)isolate yourself and keep it bottled up
3)start thinking negatively
good luck and hope u feel better and this helped
kim
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p.s if you ever need help you can always email me at kim_vause_05@hotmail.co.uk (i used to suffer from depression)

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I'm a guy, and have known my best girl friend for 3 years now. I'm 17 and so is she. I've fallen in love with her over the years, and I don't know how to tell her. I know our relationship wouldn't change or anything, so I'm not unsure about that..it's just how to get it out. How can I tell her, when, where?

Take her somewhere you know shell love you should know if youre her best m8, just tell her you like her and if you know nothing will change then youve not got a lot to worry about
just make her feel special and im sure youll be fine
good luck
kim
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he acts like an ass in front of his friends and says mean things to me that make me feel like shit

but out of school, anywhere when we are alone

he acts like he likes me and stuff
but idk

what do i do?

This guys obviously worried bout showin the way he his around his friends
dont blank him and ignore him
dnt act different when youre alone just flit with him and see how it goes
let him know that he cant give you mixed signals if it continues
good luck n hope this helps
kim
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My boyfriend and I have been recently fighting about how he wants to spend more time with me..He recently went to college, and im a senior in high school. I barely see my best friends during school day between classes and after school between work..tutors..etc..wen he comes on the weekends he wants to hang out which is understandable..and i want to see him too and my friends. I try and balance it and see them one day and him one day..he is complaning and saying that it shouldnt be that way and that I should see him more then them and he thinks i would always chose them over him..any advice?

You want to balance your life and he isnt everything in your life tell him he is important to do and you do want to spend time with him ut you do have your friends and that he cant make you chooce because you love them both a lot. Let him know you want him in your life but it has to fit in with your schedule, just let him knwo you want to be with him.
good luck
kim
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I have a huge crush and he doesnt feel the same but I really want to be closer friends anyway. He doesnt like going places where he's the only guy so it has to be a group thing. What do you think we should do? I always thought of me having a holiday party and having a sevcret santa and "secretly" giving him me.He also loves the jets so I thought a couple of friends and I could go to the game. I really want something fun that can show him that i'm a fun, cute, sweet girl. Any suggestions?

If youre not sure what you really want to do you could go 2 da cinemas that way if you ind him hard to talk to then you can watch the movie plus it will give u a chance to get to knwo him before doing something else. If youg et to know him then youll know what he really likes doing and youll be able 2 do something you both really like. and to do something to show him your a fun,cute, sweet girl just be yourself. And the secret santa sounds gd. Also do things a guy likes to do so he knows that he can be himself around you
good luck
kim
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What should I do when one of my friends likes the same guy as me? But the problem being that she doesn't know I like him like that, and that she is more outgoing than I am! And she is already starting to call him and stuff. I need advice, should I tell her that i like him?

its never easy when you both like the same guy but it sound like your friends liked the guy first? if she did you sould let her but he may not likes her so jus wait and seee but ye u should tell her
good luck
kim
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hi, well 14 and i have to much to do if you get me. i have soo much homework because im doing my GCSE's now and even my teachers are saying that The UK is one of the countries that has the most coursework to do, and they then say that they understand the pressure. i mean if they understand why give us so much. i have to look after my pet because no-one else does, i practice 2 instruments, 1 of which i have lessons for. on top of all that i need a darn social life aswell, and i just dont have time to fit ALL of it in. i usually find my self doing huge essays the day before they are in, and my teachers keep telling us how these two years are the most important ever of your compulsory education! any advice? thanks

Its hard to find a balance because im 14 and im doing m GCSE's in the UK now and its hard but youll learn to find a balance and yeah its important but it doesnt mean its all you have to do, try not to place to much importance on ur instruments becuse you can pick them up after you finnish your GCSE's.
good luck
hope you find a balance
kim
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okay, so theres this boy.. lets call him k. i went out with him a few months ago and last year. the last time i went out with him we went out for a month and a half. i really liked him, but someone told him that i didnt like him so he broke up with me. i was really angry but i never got over him.. would it be wierd if i asked him out again, since it would be the second or third time we've gone out and that he broke up with me?

i need an answer quick!!

Tell him you did like him and whoever said that you didnt like him was lying because you did like him and do you think you could give it another go even tho it didnt work out before
good luck
kim
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hey does anyone know what song these lyrics are from??



you're burning up my dreams
crazy as it seems
i dont wanna be, anywhere but here

thanks

its Hilary Duff anywhere but here
kim
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I am not an attractive guy. But it's my personality that gets people. My bestfriend ( a girl) is gorgeous, she's just overweight, not by much, but still. I have liked her for 1 year now, and I don't know what to do. She is very popular, but a sweetheart to everyone. I'm scared she won't want to go out with be/I'll be rejected. Should I take a chance?

Shes youre best friend she know you and if youve got a gr8 personality how can she say no? shell know you really well and thats a great way to start a relationship
ood luck
kim
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okay
so i think im pretty popular
alll my friends are popular , our whole group is and stuff.
but like, it doesnt seem like i have that many goooooddd friends and then just friends i know a little bit are just like temperaroy and we dont hangout unless like we are at a party or sitting next to eachother..

how can i like make more GOOOD friends?

Its good to have a ot of friends but its also god to have a a few really good friends just take the time to get to know the peole you think you could be better friends with and im sure youll sonn have a circle of friends whos you really know. But its not a good thin to just have like 2 really good friends try to have people around you who dont know everything about you but wh you can have a laugh with
good luck
kim
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ok, this is prob going to be very long and it might be a little confujsing but i'll try to explain it as best as i can. so in 3rd grade i met this girl, lets call her lisa, and we became totally inseperable. but in 7th grade she pretty much ditched me for these other group of friends, so i became best friends with this other girl, lets call her rachel. so after a while lisa kind of lost touch with the other group of friends so she came running back to me and we started being best friends again (waht can i say i was young and stupid and let people manipulate me). so i was kind of caught between two people, lisa and rachel, because they really didn't like each other. and it was really hard for me cuz i didn't want either of them to be mad at me so if lisa was trash talking rachel i'd trash talk rachel with her and if rachel trash talked lisa id trash talk lisa with her. i was basically working 2 sides to please everybody because i didnt wanna become a part of their fight. so, now, in 10th grade, we are part of this group of friends consiting of me, lisa, rachel, and three other girls that we'll call emily, jamie, and heather. so for a while lisa and emily were kind of better friends and me and rachel were kind of better friends. but then lisa, emily, and rachel kept on having these private get-togethers that was just them and me, jamie, and heather felt left out so i talked to lisa about it. and she said that the reason she didn't invite jamie and heather is because they can get annoying and i kept asking lisa why i wasn't invited to these things and what my problem was but she wouldnt answer me so i got frustrated and pissed off. so the same day that that happened we had a meeting for this after school thing we do and i didnt want to go because i was really pissed off at lisa. so rachel and emily were wondering why i wasnt going so lisa tells them this totally wrong and untrue story abotu how im really jealous about them hanging out together and that i think their not allowed to do anything without me, and that was NOT what happened she definitely stretched the truth. so rachel got really annoyed with me and just stopped talking to me altogether and when i asked her why she wasnt talking to me she said it was because i was annoying about that whole thing and that the reason i wasn't invited to their get-togethers is because they think im uptight and all they wanna do is have fun. and that really upset me because basically she just told me that they think i ruin their fun. so now theyre all three best friends (lisa, rachel, and emily) and they rub it in my face by putting inside jokes and stuff in their profiles and always saying how much fun they have together and how much they love each other. and they really dont get how miserable their making me like ive considered killing myself because obviously i mean nothing to them anymore. and i just dont know what to do because they are making me so upset and i just want them totally out of my life but i see them every day in school because i have classes with them and i just want to move and start fresh with new friends but i cant do that and i just dont know what to do. a part of me is saying that im really really sad and that i should just apologize and explain to rachel that lisa stretched the truth, but another part of me is saying that i dont deserve to be friends with such backstabbers. i really dont know what to do. help!!!!!!

Ok well i think i understand ad thesse seem like a bunch of girls who will say anything about anyone they dont like and if theyre making you that upset you should not be around them if youre thinking of killing yourself they obviously dont care about you. I know its hard but just ignore them and make new friends that make YOU hpapy and people YOU care about
good luck because it seems u deserve better
kim
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all my freinds are like super depressed and im starting to catch it to. so i tryed to cheer them up and guess what they seem to hate ME now what should i do.

Its your friends problem not yours. If theyre going to get you down leave them because depression is one of the hardest things to get out of. If youre realy worried about them tell someone or try to do something to help them
good luck
kim
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I'm becoming one of you. Now - I'm finally joining your club. I am removing myself from the depression. I am not surrendering, and I am most definitely taking control. I need a change. There will be no more feeling like I don't care, no more "nothing matters, so i dont need to care about my grades, my looks, my life..myself!" NONE OF THAT. This is the new me. I'm willing to work so hard to become one of you. Independant. I no longer want to feel like i have to find a great husband in the future because im too weak and too much of a failure to be able to take care of myself. I no longer want to feel the nedd to impress my family or my friends. I want my happiness to depend on ME. No more letting ex relationships control me. No more coming here to ask what to do about my depression or what to do with a guy - from now on im trusting my own intuition. SO MY QUESTION?

I've said it before- Im ready to work hard to become independent and happy. But where do I start? How do i become stronger, mentally and emotinally? Where do I start with taking control over my life?

Please give me instructions on how you did it. Give me tips and trics to keeping my hopes up and never giving up. Help me strengthen my faith in myself, help me love myself, tell me how to become independant please.

THANK YOU. And congratulations on being a strong, independent women who decides over her own happiness! :D im proud of you girls! and i admire you! :)

First of all: well done for being strong enough to deicde you want to maike a change and your showing your stronger by just doing this
Second: if somethings bugging you dont keep it all inside find someone you cant rust and talk toabout anything thats bugging yo
Third: I think its gr8 you dont thinkg you need a man to be strong
Fourth: to be stronger mentally you have to know what you want to acheive and not compare youself to anyone else.
5th: be who YOU want to be! do what YOU want to do!
And when you feel like giving up think about what youve done and what youve acheived to get where you areand that should keep you going.
Never thing youre to weak or not good enough to do something ebcaue that will just get you down. If you find youreself going into depression again dont let things slide talk to someone or find a place where you can get help.
Never put someone else before you if you feel low and take the time to do what you need to do.
Sometimes things are going to not be gr8 and its then you need 2 be strongest.
You should be proud of yourself for not giving in and doing something about your depression
good luck
hope this helps you
kim
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ok well i feal like such a bad person. Like im aalways hurting. Because my boyfriend went to the army and i feel bad cuz i talk to guys but not flirt and i feel like thats wrong. And i drank a couple of times n i feel bad for doing that. i feel like im such a bad person and i jsut want to die. i dont know what to do HELP!

First: just because youve got a bf doesnt mean you cn tlk to other lads who are just youre friends if you dont flirt youe not doing anything wrong. Drinkings normal aswell youre not a bad person youre at all and most people do what you do. Nothing youve sed is wrong or anything to worry about

kim
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How do you get over someone that you lost your virginity to but you have to live with and theres no way around it? (((WE ARENT RELATED OR ANY NASTY INCEST SHIT LIKE THAT))) Basically i fell inlove with this guy we have had sex but hes a man whore and he doesnt love me he was just using me. So like how do i get over him?

Gettting over someone is always hard and ecspecially with someone who you lost something so special to. It sucks when you cant get over somone but you have to try and everyday youll think about him less. If he was using you hes not worth your time and someone who doesnt care about you isnt worth you caring about =]
at the end of the day hes just a guy and just keep being yourself and youll get over it in time
hope it all goes ok
kim
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does anybody on this site cut themselves ? i need to talk to someone who i can relate to .. PLEASE!! i/m me at x3MOxL0V3x thank you so much

I used to and please pleaase try not to because its one of the msot dangerous things to do if u need 2 tlk to anyone plz email me at kim_vause_05@hotmail.co.uk
its one of the worse things you can do and i know it makes you feel like everythings better and it proabably seems like no-one understands
kim
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