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What to do?
I am not an attractive guy. But it's my personality that gets people. My bestfriend ( a girl) is gorgeous, she's just overweight, not by much, but still. I have liked her for 1 year now, and I don't know what to do. She is very popular, but a sweetheart to everyone. I'm scared she won't want to go out with be/I'll be rejected. Should I take a chance?
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Shes youre best friend she know you and if youve got a gr8 personality how can she say no? shell know you really well and thats a great way to start a relationship
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kim
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I dont want to sound pessimistic here, because I think you probably have a good chance and all that. However, you should take a few things into account just to keep things in perspective...
1- Your friendship will probably (not certainly, but very likely) never be the same again. In the very least it will be strained for a while.
2- Plenty of girls really do go for looks as the main thing. Have a look at her past boyfriends and crushes and so on. Truly, I have heard this whole "looks dont matter" crap from girls who wouldnt go within 10 feet of an average looking guy. Look at her actions not her words. If a girl is dating the partially illiterate captain of the football team and lists "intelligence, personality and humour" as the main things she looks for in a guy... well you get the idea. Again, Im just trying to be realistic here. Assess the situation as best you can.
Now, if you ask me, I would also agree with the general thing the others said. You should probably take the chance. You do have a slight advantage that you are already her friend. However, make sure that you know exactly what you are getting into, and make sure that you have a proper idea of the risks you are taking. Come to think of it lol, this is a good way to approach any problem in life.
Good luck
Oh, if you do ask her, could you let us know how it went? (add extra info or feedback or something)
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I think you should go for it!! I highly doubt that she will reject you b/c you think your not attractive. You guys are bestfriends and thats usually how great romances start. I'm dating my bestfriend and we're both soo in love. Go with what your heart tells you, if you don't ask her you'll never really know what could of happened with you two. Good Luck!
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i think you should take the chance. i can't guarentee that she'll say yes, but there is a good possibility that you won't be rejected depending on how good of friends you are.
i have this really gorgeous friend and she's going out with this guy who doesn't have very good looks at all, but he is really cool and they have been together for awhile.
and i have been rejected twice by the same guy and i have gotten over it pretty quick and i'm a girl. the reason being is because it didn't ruin our friendship. if she does reject you, just make sure you guys are still friends and it didn't mess anything up.
i hope i helped and good luck :)
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You only have one life ; why not take the chance? If you're her best friend, she already knows the amazing qualities of your personalit that she likes, looks aren't everything.
I would just take her out somewhere and have a lot of fun, just you and her. Take her to the movies, the park, wherever it is she wants to go and just laugh and joke around and have a great time and maybe even flirt her with a bit.
Then at the end of the night, just let her know of your feelings. Just tell her,"I just wanted to let you know because if I don't do it now I never will and I'm curious as to how you feel back. I really like you, _____." And see if she feels the same way back. If she doesn't, it's her loss, but if she does, that's great! :D
Also if she DOES reject you, take it in as a lesson that we all need to learn sooner or later in life. EVeryone's going to get rejected SOMEHOW wether it be by a person, by a job interview, by a college, whatever. And also if she were to say no, just tell her you really hope you guys can remain friends then, because you'd rather be her best friend then nothing it be all awkward and you guys not talk anymore.
So just think of it this way; would you rather sit there wondering,"What if she ever did really like me? Would've we been a great couple? What if, what if, what if." Or, "Jeez, this is a great girl and I'm SO glad I asked her out and took that chance and she said yes."
So take a chance! Go for it!
I hope I helped.
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