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does anybody on this site cut themselves ? i need to talk to someone who i can relate to .. PLEASE!! i/m me at x3MOxL0V3x thank you so much
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EMAiL: choke0nlove@yahoo.com
i'm a recovering cutter. i can help you out, promise.
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ok...i only quit cutting a few months ago and well...if i can be of any help don't hesitate to email me at amasing_fun@hotmail.com ok...
amyways...to get to the point...cutting is bad you shouldn't do it...im not going to lecture you any more than that because I hated when people did that to me when they found out...ayways...you need to find something else to do other than cutting...me: i stated writting songs and playing them on guitar and it turns out im pretty good...depending on your personality you could try something else in that sense...as for the reason for cutting...you need to figure out why you did it...if you dont know...STOP!...if you think it will stop you from committing suicide...it's just as bad as risk...if you want attention...DO SOMETHING ELSE!...I hope you take this advice and if you have any questions or just simply want to talk...just email me...anything at all...i'll listen and if you need more advice just ask...hope this helped...♥
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i/m me on xAlwaysOnMyMind3.
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I used to and please pleaase try not to because its one of the msot dangerous things to do if u need 2 tlk to anyone plz email me at kim_vause_05@hotmail.co.uk
its one of the worse things you can do and i know it makes you feel like everythings better and it proabably seems like no-one understands
kim
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yeaah i used to try not to but occansionally.. you know stuff just happens i got sent to two hospitals.. not excactly the best time of my life-- i got made fun of and people still say stuff about it behind my back.. i recently moved to another town and some girl that used to live in my old town started telling everybody at my new school ;;ive been through it all so deff. you cant talk to me.. drop one in my inbox or IM me at jessicaa 9o3
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Beleive it or not, I used to cut. I try to not cut anymore though.
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I used to a long time ago, but it wasn't habitual. I was in a bad place, a bad state of mind, was depressed and I also had a lot of anger pent-up.
Dotdashandy has some good points, and its too bad that many of those that need help dont get it. Or, if they do get help they just get put on a regimen of drugs w/o any help directed at the real problems, the things that have the people so distressed in the first place. I know a lot of people though that do think scarification is 'cool', but its a tough time trying to pick through and know who really feels that way, and who is just saying that to cover the fact that they are depressed/disturbed, or want to appear like they are. I've met a lot of posers in this group of people too.
I'm older now, but I wont lie...everyone now and then I think about scarring. I never do anything, and nowadays it is just a passing fancy.
One thing though - why do you want to cut yourself? If you have pain inside that you cannot, or dont know how, to deal with, then getting help will be better in the long run then cutting. If you just like the end result - the scars - then thats a different thing, but be sure you are honest with yourself about the reasons. Most people I know are simply curious, and are actually turned-off by NORMAL scars (I have one friend who just recently saw pictures of Andy Warhol's post-surgery (from the shooting) scars and said it made him sick, though he is "IN" to scarring).
Besides, most of my scars (legitimite ones as well as self-inflicted) have shrunk over time, some to the point of being almost unnoticeable unless I point them out to people. The ones I did myself really were a waste, and they would have had to have been in excess of 8-12" originally in order for them to still be easily visible so many years later (and then, they would have been so large as to be ostentatious...though many will say that is the whole point of scarification altogether!).
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Okay the first thing you need to ask yourself is "why do I cut myself?" If you can't answer that, stop and think about what you're doing. You're inflicting harm on to your body that you don't need to do. I'm going to run through three most common answers and attempt to give you a little bit of help as to how to solve the problems. And no, I'm not on my high horse, I was a cutter too up until a month ago, so I know exactly what could be in your head.
1) I cut because I need an outlet for the way I feel inside myself because I'm afraid it will get to me and make me commit suicide
The most common response. The easist thing to do in this situation is to find another outlet. Personally, I used writing and my piano to express the way I felt, and that helped for a very long time. So, look for another way to let out all the emotion. Maybe you have an undiscovered music talent or writing talent that you could put all the energy into.
2) I cut because Person XYZ and Person ABC are constantly teasing me about A and I want to show them how much they hurt me and maybe then they'll stop
Now, I'm never an advocate for changing something about yourself just to impress others. It's my belief that people are free to do and like whatever they want without the social repercussions of others who don't think it normal. In this case, there are two possible solutions. You can either remove person XYZ and ABC from your environment, effectively stopping the problem, or remove yourself from their environment. Either one of those is a great way to deal with people like that. Alternatively you could report them (if at school) to your Year Advisor, Vice Principal or whoever is in charge of your schools anti-bullying policies
3) I cut because nobody pays any attention to me and maybe this will show them
This is not the best way to get someones attention. You just have to trust me when I say that there are a lot of other creative options of getting people to give you their attention. That's all I'll say on this topic before I sound condescending.
Regardless, if you wish to discuss it, you're welcome to take it up with me personally either through this site, or on AIM, which I'm adding you as soon as I finish posting this. One last thing, however, is that you should probably seek professional help as there is no doubt an underlying issue that has not resolved itself and you can't/won't resolve which has grown so bad to warrant self-harm. Regardless of whether that's true or not, you still need to speak to a professional.
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