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I came on my period about 10 days early does that necessarily mean im pregnant. (link)
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You wouldn't have your period if you were pregnant.
Simple as that.
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well i had sex one time and i think im pregnant what do i do (link)
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Well, first things first.
Did you use protection? Did your partner use protection? What makes you think you're pregnant?
I think you should take a pregnancy test, so you can be sure.
Either that or schedule an appointment with your GP, and they can guide you in the right direction.
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But why would she ask him out when she just told me she was going out with the other boy two days before? (link)
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Maybe she never was going out with this other boy. Had you seen him?
Perhaps she just felt a little left out that others around her had relationships so she thought that she would make one up to make her feel like she's part of the group. It's not entirely uncommon, I've seen it happen before.
Or, maybe she's just... promiscuous. Maybe she left her boyfriend because she knew that your ex was a "better catch", so to speak.
Whichever it is, I wouldn't recommend confronting her. After all, like you said yourself, you don't own him, and plus, you broke up with him. Ask yourself if it's really that important, because it's best not to waste your time on trivial things like this, trust me, he's not worth it. Especially if YOU broke up with him. Although, I guess if he broke up with you that's more of a reason to hate him and not care.
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ok i am a 15/f
i like a bunch of guys but i am really scared to have a boyfriend and take a chance because i think they might take it to far and it might sound stupid i have never made out with a guy or anything but i am planning to lose my virginity on halloween it sounds weird but i am tired of being a virgin i have some guys that would do it with but i would still be scared the problem is how do i let loose and just relax and go out with a guy its not a big deal if he loves you them he will slow down right well see i don't know what my problem is with guys i can talk to them fine any guy i can talk to fine but when it comes to going out with them then i get really really shy and say no alot of people ask me out and i say no but i really really want a boyfriend how do i relax and stuff what can i do to make me feel better about myself and just loosen up
Help me (link)
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If I were you I would seriously consider celibacy. Guys our age are total jerks who think with their small heads, rather than their large ones.
The easiest way to ask a guy out, like I have mentioned before in other questions, is to be yourself and don't fake anything.
Okay, so what's the big deal about being a virgin? You don't gain anything by losing your virginity. In fact, you lose something. You lose that innocence. Rather than getting a pointless boyfriend just because you want to loose your virginity, wait until you find a guy who actually really likes -- maybe even loves -- you and would give you his world. THEN you know you're ready to lose your virginity.
As for making out, there is no predetermined age where something should have happened. I mean, take me for instance. I'm 16 now and hadn't made out up until two days ago. You're younger than me, you shouldn't be rushing into anything, especially seeing as you're underage and theoretically shouldn't even be worrying yourself with sexually centered relationships.
What ever happened to dating for fun, rather than sex, and dating for the company, rather just for the result of sex?
From the sounds of things you probably should give it a couple of years before you attempt to ask out a guy because you seem to be trying to rush into things that take time, and girls like that tend to scare guys away.
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K so there is this guy at my school lets call him "Q" Well Q isn't exactly the nicest guy, but he isn't THAT bad. But alot of people hate him(most actually) But he has a crush on me, I dont want to like be his girlfriend or anything, but I dont know, he seems like he's the kinda guy to just have fun with. Is this slutty? I've never never done something like this before or felt like this. Usually if I wanna fool around with a guy I would also want to be his girlfriend. Plus Q is also my best friends x-boyfriend. She is totally over him, but I dont know. Please help me on what to do! (link)
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You should consider that if a guy has a crush on you, generally he'd want a relationship, not a couple of screws on the side. Personally, I'd say yes, it's rather slutty, but hey don't take my opinion as the be all and end all of your decision. Life is about choices, and don't let other people make them for you.
However, maybe you should tell him how you feel and gauge his reaction. If he's okay with the "bed buddy" idea, then by all means have fun, but if he isn't, I wouldn't suggest using his crush as leverage to get what you want.
Considering what you said, maybe you DO want to be his girlfriend. After all, you want to fool around with him, right? And, you DID say that when you want to fool around you want to be their girlfriend... I might have interpreted that wrong.
Another thing which happens alot and you raised in your question was best friends exes. If you really want to date a friends ex, then nothing should be stopping you. If you do anything however, it should be heeding your friends advice. After all, maybe the person didn't feel the same way about your friend that they will feel about you.
If you need any more information or have a deeper question, feel free to ask me.
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Alright there is this thing in my school for medley of voices. Its like chorus, but you have to try out and stuff. And i really really want to do this. The thing is, I HATE singing,talking,basically doing anything infront of people. I freeze and make an idiot of myself. So, i am very very nervous about these tryouts which are on Monday. I know i should smile and try to be confident but i cant do this. I AM SO SCARED. Help? haha (link)
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Have you considered that because you freeze when talking or singing in front of people that you'll do the same if you get into this chorus group? You'll be performing in front of people. I understand how safe it feels when you're singing with a group, though. However. To overcome stage fright, I suggest you read my response to another similar themed question located at:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=451482
It basically explains a couple of strategies you can implement to bring out the best of your voice in front of others.
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I just broke up with this boy I've been going out with for a week because I realized I didn't feel the same way he felt about me. Less than a week later he's going out with another girl who happens to be one of my friends, but recently she told me she was going out with another boy at another school. I feel angry at this girl because even though I don't own him, I still feel sad at the thought of him going out with another girl and now she is hurting me and will be hurting my ex-boyfriend when he finds out. Should I confront her or just mind my own business? (link)
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Okay the most important thing here is to not be angry at your friend. After all, you broke up with the boy, which makes him free to date whoever he pleases. Maybe your friend broke up with the boy from the other school, and just didn't mention it. Maybe she ended it, so it's not affecting her as much. I don't know enough details to even speculate, so I'm leaving it at that.
I recommend you should mind your own business. As much as I think you want to break them up (maybe he's an ass), I think you should leave your friend to make relationship choices for herself, and if they're bad, well, you dated him too.
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Ok, there's this boy and i really like him but he admitted to me on saturday that he doesnt like me that way and he's sorry.. for some reason i thought i was moving on but i can't.. i wind up thinking about him durring class and i have dreams about him sometimes.. i dont know what to do.. can anyone help? (link)
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There's nothing in particular you can do with this situation, I've been there myself. One of the hardest things to do is let go of someone you really like when they have no feelings for you.
All I can advise you to do is think of something else whenever you think of him. Try to make it something that won't lead you back to thinking of him. There's no real way to make your body relinquish emotional ties to someone when you want it to, I mean, you can never control your emotions, and this is the same. As much as you want to, you won't be able to just tell your body "That's it, no more".
I'm afraid that as convenient as that would be, unfortunately it doesn't work that way.
Dreams you can't do anything about, but it's always alright to fantasize about someone even if you can't have them. Remember, fantasies don't hurt anybody. Unless of course you fantasize about hurting people =P
But yeah. Don't get too worked up about this, it's perfectly normal to take a lot of time to move on from someone, especially if you had/have rather strong feelings for them.
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does anybody on this site cut themselves ? i need to talk to someone who i can relate to .. PLEASE!! i/m me at x3MOxL0V3x thank you so much (link)
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Okay the first thing you need to ask yourself is "why do I cut myself?" If you can't answer that, stop and think about what you're doing. You're inflicting harm on to your body that you don't need to do. I'm going to run through three most common answers and attempt to give you a little bit of help as to how to solve the problems. And no, I'm not on my high horse, I was a cutter too up until a month ago, so I know exactly what could be in your head.
1) I cut because I need an outlet for the way I feel inside myself because I'm afraid it will get to me and make me commit suicide
The most common response. The easist thing to do in this situation is to find another outlet. Personally, I used writing and my piano to express the way I felt, and that helped for a very long time. So, look for another way to let out all the emotion. Maybe you have an undiscovered music talent or writing talent that you could put all the energy into.
2) I cut because Person XYZ and Person ABC are constantly teasing me about A and I want to show them how much they hurt me and maybe then they'll stop
Now, I'm never an advocate for changing something about yourself just to impress others. It's my belief that people are free to do and like whatever they want without the social repercussions of others who don't think it normal. In this case, there are two possible solutions. You can either remove person XYZ and ABC from your environment, effectively stopping the problem, or remove yourself from their environment. Either one of those is a great way to deal with people like that. Alternatively you could report them (if at school) to your Year Advisor, Vice Principal or whoever is in charge of your schools anti-bullying policies
3) I cut because nobody pays any attention to me and maybe this will show them
This is not the best way to get someones attention. You just have to trust me when I say that there are a lot of other creative options of getting people to give you their attention. That's all I'll say on this topic before I sound condescending.
Regardless, if you wish to discuss it, you're welcome to take it up with me personally either through this site, or on AIM, which I'm adding you as soon as I finish posting this. One last thing, however, is that you should probably seek professional help as there is no doubt an underlying issue that has not resolved itself and you can't/won't resolve which has grown so bad to warrant self-harm. Regardless of whether that's true or not, you still need to speak to a professional.
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Not just on the stage, but kinda offstage. I mean like.. I sing to myself, and I think it sounds pretty good, and once I did kareoke with my friends, and we were all singing pretty loud so I used my 'good singing voice' and one of my friends said that one of us was singing really good like a profesional or something. i mean, it was just an opinion, but still. but for some reason i dont use my good singing voice often.. i sing all scratchy and stuff when im around other people or singing by myself cuz i get embarassed or awkward. i mean.. when somebody sings like that all of a sudden, wont you be like 'O_o' and too much attention is flattering but a little.. like I'd rather not have it.. but have it to make me feel better at the same time? also with acting.. but in different ways. i usually do little crazy voices and skits with my friends and stuff when im just fooling around, but when i practice lines for like ever, on stage i become rushed and stuff. i used to be so shy about it on my firt drama audition that i refused to sing and forgot like all the lines and ran to the bathroom in tears. and then later they made me do it again and everyone auditioning didnt look at me and asked me to do it.. and i just couldnt.. then the next year i did better, but it was rushed, and i wasnt at my best. also, sometimes my singing voice is good and other times its crappy. tips on how to get it in the good mode for a while? like.. have honey or whatever? heh stuff like that. also thanks for helping me with the stuff i said =] (link)
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I share this problem of stagefright with you.
This is possibly NOT what you want to hear, but what I find works the best, is imagining that the audience isn't there. I find sometimes that I can sing or perform in front of people when they aren't looking, but when you feel peoples eyes on you, it begins to make you uncomfortable.
So, the best thing to do is to imagine that nobody is there.
Also, you might want to try performing for your music class or something. Start small, before you work your way up to large audiences, because when you start small, you begin to grow more comfortable. The trick is to not take too big of a step that will shoot your confidence and make you never want to sing in public again. You also need to not let peoples opinions hurt you. Okay, so you get good responses from people when you use your "good" voice, so what's the difference between singing in front of your friends, and singing in front of an audience?
I'll tell you. Your friends you'll see again. More than likely, you won't ever see the audience members again. That way you can tell yourself that their opinions don't matter because they'll probably never see you again. That always helps me.
So, the two things: Tell yourself you'll never see them again, and then imagine they're not there. It helped me get back into performances, I only hope it will help you too.
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What are things you can do with a guy, that aren't like having sex? Like making out, and stuff like that. I just need some ideas and maybe how to do them, if thats allowed. Please help! thank you so much (link)
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There are many other choices to be intimate and physical with a guy without actually having intercourse:
Making Out
Petting - (That is, stimulation of the genitals either through clothing or naked)
Mutual Masturbation - (naked version of petting, done at the same time)
interfemoral intercourse - (having the penis placed between your thighs)
Sexual Roleplaying - (That is, pretending to be in sexual sitations. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_roleplaying )
And, of course, Oral Sex.
Hope that was a help. If you need any more definition of any of the terms I described, don't hesitate to ask me.
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there are a lot of hott guys that go to my school or other schools in my town and like at the football games, they're all there. what are some good things to say that aren't like cheesy, to get them talking to you..
P.S. i don't know anything about them.
ANYTHING! besides what school they go to.
thanks in advance.
and i need to know kinda quickly (link)
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The easiest thing to do is to be yourself. Ask what's on your mind. I mean, I'm not telling you to rush up to one of them and be completely random, think about it first, but it's important (and I can't stress that enough) to be yourself around guys. Even the hot ones, because if you fake it and they like you, when they see your real self they'll be even worse because you'd have had the emotional attachment to them.
... Or, you could go for the drunk person response. "Now you might ask yourself, what's a nice place like me doing in a girl like this?"
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Girls, do you think that facial hair on a 15 year old guy is attractive. I know that girls don't really like mustaches. But do girls like anything, or should I just stay clean? (link)
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I know you said "Girls", but I still have an answer(opinion) and I'm going to tell you anyway.
The first thing you need to know is that you shouldn't change yourself just because SOME others find facial hair (or any other hair for that matter) repulsive. If you like the facial hair look, then by all means go for it. It's considered "In" fashion right now for guys to have stubble (just look at Ian Thorpe). Some girls, however, won't be of the opinion that it's nice, and frankly if a girl's going to judge a guy by how much facial hair he has then she's not worth it, because people who date for looks are, well, not worth it.
Personally I don't mind some facial hair on a guy, but like I mentioned earlier it's not the same for everyone. Basically, just do what you want with your hair, after all, it's your body to do what you see fit with.
-- Edit: the answer to the question you asked in feedback, is yes. Yes, I am. =)
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I mean, no doubt, i love to go shopping. im willing to drop whatever im doing, even if its important and go shopping with my mom or something, even if it isnt for me, but because she usually hates shopping. but im so unorganized.. i'll take like 100 things to try on in the dressing room, and then come out with like less than 10 that were actually good, and then at the check out line i change my mind about somethigns and end up with like 4 things.. and then later in the year i dont really like the things i got, and only keep wearing 1 or so. I mean.. im so unorganized about it.. my sis doesnt go shopping as much, but always gets good stuff and i'd usually wear stuff from her wardrobe, even if theres less clothes. i just have a lot of clothes and like 3/4 of them have no purpose.. cuz they either just stay at home or I wear them at home. and then school theres not a lot. i mean i get fancy clothes sometimes and my mom says its not appropiate for school and i see what she means. so what is?? im like a kind of preppy/girly/cute/elegant/sophisticated/unique dresser... to put it, lol and basically wear things that fit well and look good. not gothic or whatever. any tips on new styles and stuff and stores i could go to to get them? and advice on my er.. problem.
thanks a whole bunches! =] (link)
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The whole taking hundreds of items and only ending up buying a small number of them is all part of the shopping experience, dear. Trust me. I do it too. Most of the girls I shop with do as well, it's normal.
Once again, I'm going to make the assumption that you live in the United States and are about 14-16 years old. In this case, I'm going to say that it doesn't really matter right now. You'll develop your own tastes in fashion. Right now it seems to me like you're picking things similar to what you can see in your sister's wardrobe, and that never works out, let me tell you now. The best and easiest thing to do is to choose whatever looks good to you, that way you can be a lot more confident about your purchase and not end up with four out of ten items.
As a bonus, it also helps with your self confidence. People (particularly school girls) like to slander peoples clothing. When this happens to you (and sweety, it happens to the best of us), you can stand tall and tell yourself that they don't know anything, that you picked the clothes because they're unique, not to follow some trend (like they most definately will have done). That may seem stupid, but after a while of doing it, you'll come to realize that choosing your own styles (as you no doubt do already) and sticking to them, rather than picking out things that are similar to other peoples will be great in the long run, and will also help you be the individual that you no doubt are.
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Is there anyway I can create a small Windows pop up window to automatically pop up on my computer on the same day of every month to remind me to pay my cell phone bill? (link)
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Yes.
If you have Microsoft Office with Outlook, you can create a task in there that will tell you on the same date every month to pay your phone bill.
If you do not, you can create a notepad file saying "Pay Phone Bill" or something similar, and use Windows Scheduled Tasks (located in the Control Panel) to open that file on the same day of every month, effectively reminding you to pay your bills and not be cut off.
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Is there any program that allows you to send pictures from your bluetooth cell phone onto the computer? I have a windows XP and I know that Mac's have something like that. But I really dont want to buy a mac. This is urgent! I already tried some things off the internet like BlueShare and Something else like that.
Anybody have any ideas? Website appriciated!
THANK YOU! RESPOND ASAP (link)
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I suppose the most important question here is:
Do you have bluetooth hardware installed in your computer?
If not, (and I'm presuming you live in the USA), Newegg.com sells USB bluetooth adapters from $4.99, so you might want to start there, here's a search to get you started.
http://www.newegg.com/Product/ProductList.asp?DEPA=0&type=&Description=bluetooth&Submit=ENE&N=0&Ntk=all&Go.x=0&Go.y=0
If you DO already have the hardware, then make sure your Bluetooth is activated (check My Computer for "My Bluetooth Places") and turn it on through the control panel. Then, pair the computer with your phone or device like you would with a headset. Then you can use OBEX object push (Supported by basically all phones, devices and bluetooth computers on the market) to send files from the phone like you would if you were sending them to another phone.
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I live in South Georgia, and if you watch the news today, you'll probably hear about a big car crash that happend on Highway 86 involving Gene Evans from one of the big new stations in Georgia. Two cars ran into a gas tanker, big explosion, two people were killed. My dad was three cars ahead and witnessed it all.
Gene Evan's daughter is on my cheerleading squad. She found out her dad was in this huge crash during the game today, however she didn't know two other people died. He's severly injured and she hasn't heard all the details yet. She's not exactly the popular one on the squad, so I want to make her feel accepted and loved and let her know were here for her.
Does anyone have any ideas on what we could do for her? (link)
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The most important thing you can do for her is to be her friend. Don't try and be anything more. What she will need from you is friendship, and to know that someone she cares about is around.
That said, I feel that you should get her to see a free counselling service. I'm sure you could get on to one through your school (especially in light of what happened), or your local hospital might run a free adolescent counselling service. Either way, what she needs right now are her friends and a third party to talk things over and help her deal with the shock.
The most important thing, however, is not to push her to do anything. If she doesn't WANT to see a counsellor, then don't make her that day. Wait until a little later, then ask her again. I'd say do that a MAXIMUM of three times, any more and you might be pushing her away. If she doesn't want to, allow her to confide in you, but (and I can't stress this enough) DON'T let her problems get to you. That may sound insensitive and mean, but you don't want to be upset by your friend when you're the one your friend is turning to for the support. If you at any stage feel that she's dragging you down a bit, tell her that you're going to take her to a counsellor and you will be there with her. That always makes people feel more comfortable, because seeing somebody you don't know and telling them things that you wouldn't even tell some of your friends is extremely hard, and she may just feel safer with a friend there to help her out.
Even if she's not the most popular girl, I think it's time to cast aside all the differences and for the entire squad to come together for the girl who's father is severely injured. If you want her to feel accepted and loved right now, then that is the way to do it.
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i dont know if this is in the right place.. but heres my question.
16/f ( sorry if its long)
So i know this kid lets call him marco.. and i liked marco freshman year.. im a junior now.. so yeah. and i heard from like three people that marco was gay.. and i also heard that he did stuff with some other kid.. lets call him dylan..
so i randomly started talking to dylan once.. and ive talked to him a few times.. and he asked me a question.. he asked if i used to like marco.. and i was like yeah.. that was a longg time ago.. then i asked him if marco was gay.. because i had heard it. and he was like yeah alot of people think that. but he isnt. sooo i dunno what to belive..
because the people who told me he was gay
well one of them who told me says that marco told her that he was gay.
another one who told me marco was gay said that dylan told him that him and marco did stuff before. .
And dylan said marco wasnt gay.. but i dunno if thats just because marco doesnt really want people to know.. and marco and dylan are best friends..
soo yeah... any ideas on what to belive?
or what i should do to figure this out?
thanks in advance.. (link)
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Okay, rule number one of schoolyard relationships, never ever under any circumstances believe what people tell you about someone elses sexuality. Almost always, they're lying to hurt that persons image within the school. The only way to really know for sure, and this is going to be exactly what you DON'T want to hear, is to ask him yourself.
If you really like him, go up and tell him. Or, if you're like me and can't stand talking face to face, get his number or e-mail address. With E-mail especially, it lets you plan what you're going to say to the person without blundering and blurting out "I LIKE YOU!".
If the person that he supposedly "fooled around with" says that he's straight, there's mostly two possiblities: Either he's not entirely out yet and doesn't want anyone to know until he's sure about his sexuality, OR, he's straight and nothing ever happened.
Either way, the only way to find out is to ask "Marco" yourself.
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Hey you guys I'm a 14 year old female.
Now, I know that hormones can cause some teenagers to masturbate, and that it's healthy and releases sexual tension. But I'm not totally convinced, and I'm afraid its wrong. I'm also afraid that I'm backstabbing my mom by not telling her whats going on. She knows I've gotten my hormones, because I told her one night at 3 in the monring because I couldn't sleep. I know I shouldn't be telling my mom about this stuff, but I feel so ashamed. I masturbate about twice a day. What should I do?
Thank you in advance. (link)
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Masturbation is a perfectly normal response to never before felt hormone effects on the body.
I cannot stress that enough.
If you're really that concerned about it, I'm going to point you to a masturbation centred website
www.jackinworld.com
While it may seem like a typically vulgar, male oriented site, it really helps calming the nerves in relation to masturbation and it can show you the benefits (and the problems) of regular masturbation. If you're that concerned about your mother finding it, perhaps clear your history afterwards.
And, Just for good measure, Masturbation is perfectly normal, and at your age, doing it a lot is perfectly acceptable because it's something new. With time it will become less important and fade into the back of your life as you concentrate on boy/girlfriends and relationships.
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how do you make those butterflies on photoshop? thankss:) (link)
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Not knowing exactly what you mean by butterflies, I can't begin to ponder what it is you're actually on about.
I'm going to take a wild stab in the dark and hope you're talking about butterfly brushes.
If so, downloading this brushset and loading them into Photoshop will allow you to print beautiful butterflies on any work.
http://www.deviantart.com/view/8085385/
Please note, these brushes were created for Photoshop version 7 or above.
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