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Help me relax
ok i am a 15/f
i like a bunch of guys but i am really scared to have a boyfriend and take a chance because i think they might take it to far and it might sound stupid i have never made out with a guy or anything but i am planning to lose my virginity on halloween it sounds weird but i am tired of being a virgin i have some guys that would do it with but i would still be scared the problem is how do i let loose and just relax and go out with a guy its not a big deal if he loves you them he will slow down right well see i don't know what my problem is with guys i can talk to them fine any guy i can talk to fine but when it comes to going out with them then i get really really shy and say no alot of people ask me out and i say no but i really really want a boyfriend how do i relax and stuff what can i do to make me feel better about myself and just loosen up
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You are uncomfortable because you are not ready to have a relationship. I know you don't feel too young, but in a few years you will look back at yourself and thing you were a child. You will look back at the decisions you made with different eyes. Losing your virginity is a big deal. You may realize that too late if you go through with your plan. Sex is something that for a woman can be wonderful when she is mature and in a relationship that is secure. Sex is something that can also leave a girl feeling empty and used if she is with someone who does not care for her deeply. I have the experience of knowing a thousand women's first experiences and later ones, so I am certain of what I say. Don't ever do something to impress others at your own expense. You are worth waiting for. When the time is right and you are with someone that you have a trusting love with, then you will not have any fears. It will be a beautiful memory, instead of a huge regret.
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If I were you I would seriously consider celibacy. Guys our age are total jerks who think with their small heads, rather than their large ones.
The easiest way to ask a guy out, like I have mentioned before in other questions, is to be yourself and don't fake anything.
Okay, so what's the big deal about being a virgin? You don't gain anything by losing your virginity. In fact, you lose something. You lose that innocence. Rather than getting a pointless boyfriend just because you want to loose your virginity, wait until you find a guy who actually really likes -- maybe even loves -- you and would give you his world. THEN you know you're ready to lose your virginity.
As for making out, there is no predetermined age where something should have happened. I mean, take me for instance. I'm 16 now and hadn't made out up until two days ago. You're younger than me, you shouldn't be rushing into anything, especially seeing as you're underage and theoretically shouldn't even be worrying yourself with sexually centered relationships.
What ever happened to dating for fun, rather than sex, and dating for the company, rather just for the result of sex?
From the sounds of things you probably should give it a couple of years before you attempt to ask out a guy because you seem to be trying to rush into things that take time, and girls like that tend to scare guys away.
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