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Fellow squadmate hurting.
I live in South Georgia, and if you watch the news today, you'll probably hear about a big car crash that happend on Highway 86 involving Gene Evans from one of the big new stations in Georgia. Two cars ran into a gas tanker, big explosion, two people were killed. My dad was three cars ahead and witnessed it all.
Gene Evan's daughter is on my cheerleading squad. She found out her dad was in this huge crash during the game today, however she didn't know two other people died. He's severly injured and she hasn't heard all the details yet. She's not exactly the popular one on the squad, so I want to make her feel accepted and loved and let her know were here for her.
Does anyone have any ideas on what we could do for her?
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The most important thing you can do for her is to be her friend. Don't try and be anything more. What she will need from you is friendship, and to know that someone she cares about is around.
That said, I feel that you should get her to see a free counselling service. I'm sure you could get on to one through your school (especially in light of what happened), or your local hospital might run a free adolescent counselling service. Either way, what she needs right now are her friends and a third party to talk things over and help her deal with the shock.
The most important thing, however, is not to push her to do anything. If she doesn't WANT to see a counsellor, then don't make her that day. Wait until a little later, then ask her again. I'd say do that a MAXIMUM of three times, any more and you might be pushing her away. If she doesn't want to, allow her to confide in you, but (and I can't stress this enough) DON'T let her problems get to you. That may sound insensitive and mean, but you don't want to be upset by your friend when you're the one your friend is turning to for the support. If you at any stage feel that she's dragging you down a bit, tell her that you're going to take her to a counsellor and you will be there with her. That always makes people feel more comfortable, because seeing somebody you don't know and telling them things that you wouldn't even tell some of your friends is extremely hard, and she may just feel safer with a friend there to help her out.
Even if she's not the most popular girl, I think it's time to cast aside all the differences and for the entire squad to come together for the girl who's father is severely injured. If you want her to feel accepted and loved right now, then that is the way to do it.
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