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Girls
Okay just fyi, I am a girl.
Most of my life all my friends have been guys, but I'm getting tired of it. I want more girl friends but I don't really know how to like...I dunno, befriend them, I guess? 'Cause I'm just so used to being around guys and having guys as friends. I don't know how to interact with girls as easily. Not to mention I've always kind of felt like the other girls had something I didn't. Don't really know how to explain that one, but yeah...
I want to like, have girl friends and girls nights and all that and at the moment, I have like 2 girls, and a whole bunch of guys.
It needs to change...so how do I do it?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
From your question, I'm taking it that you have a better friendship with guys than your own gender, females.
As you get older, changes happen and it seems that you are getting a bit tired of these guys and want to hang with your own gender, and that's totally fine!
Starting soon, stop hanging with your guy friends because it's taking you away from your new girl friends.
You might have diffitculty becoming friends with girls. Possibly you have more in common with guys than girls. You maybe don't like some girl stuff and like to play video games, sports, the guy stuff.
Girls do get jealous of each other easily, and gossip easily too. Now it matters what kind of girls you want to befriends with.
Some girls don't want to be friends with another girl who's hair is messy, dresses horribly, and is annoying. This is a bit difficult to answer because I hardly know you, but I'll try! With those friends you aren't so close with, hang with them! Each time you hang with them, you will get closer to them. When there's a party, invite them over. Over the weeks, you'll feel more comfortable with them; just takes time. Example- Me. It took time for me to be comfortable about myself until I learned more about my friends and felt comfrotable who I am.
ADVICE- Be yourself and just hang out with your friends to become true friends and you won't feel so uncomfortable with them.
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I don't know why it is that you are having trouble connecting. Is this something that has always been true for you? Were you close with any sisters, your mother, or other female relatives? Raised with a pack of wild brothers?
Whatever the reasons, I think it is worthwhile to mentally know for YOURSELF where some of these difficulties began, as it might give you clues on developing into the person you want to be. We are only limited by our thoughts.
In the meantime, don't stop trying. Give the female friends more time to get to know you. Women are more complicated then Men! Men are cut and dry and don't ask for much. They just want to do their thing and not be judged. Women, want deep meaningful discussions and a million other things usually. We like to experience growth and evolve with people in our lives. I have also found it very easy to connect with men, because they are more simple creatures....wonderful, but simple. Sometimes in a group of women, I think I have the most "male" brain, being more practical and less emotion. It is great to be unique and not fit in automatically! It means you have something more to add, something special to give that someone or a group of gals does not have without you. Just be yourself and don't worry about being connected emotionally with all females. Not all women connect with all women! That does not mean you can't benefit from female friends. It may be that there are only certain women that you will connect with and they may take longer to find, but you won't know unless you keep trying and be your wonderful self.
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Wow... why would you want female friends? Girls are a ton of trouble... I was friends with all girls in high school, and there was sooo much drama. Now I'm in university and almost all of my friends are guys.
There's nothing wrong with being friends with guys! Hey, it gets you invited to boy's night out...
I live with 4 guys and NO girls this year, and it's great.
Just be happy about who you're friends with... it doesn't matter if they're male or female, just that you like them for who they are.
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well i suggest that you start by hanging out with the 2 girl freinds that you do have...and like just hang out with them and other girls and just act normall...and pretty soon you will get to be better freinds with their freinds.
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You have 2 girl friends and i bet youre not there only friend so hang around with them and youll soon get to know different girls if youve been hanging around with guys then youll probably be thinkin "what am i going to talk about?" theres so many things like music is the most common thing people have in common i can tlk bwt music with ma m8s all day.
cothes is another thing i mean are you a girly girl? if youre not clothes proabably rnt going to be interested in tht.
invite over all your friends n just sit n chat n watch a really gr8 movie is lyk one of the best ways to get to know someone. Youll ind it easier the more you talk to, theres nothing wrong with being friends with guys though but it is good to have a balnce.
good luck im sure youll b f9
kim
xxx <33
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