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"Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place."
I'm an optimist. I can find the beauty in anything. I'm creative. I love spontaneity, peace, & parties. I'm the farthest thing from shy. There's not one person on this earth that I don't care about. I like deep conversations, change, & random acts of kindness. Every emotion I feel is ten times as strong as yours. I have alot of empathy for other people. I'm real open minded & liberal. All I want to do is make at least one person's life a little easier. :D
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im 16 boy
i have REALLY bad luck with girls. i dunno if its bad luck, or if im doing somethign wrong. its not thatim ugly or fat. im 5'7, medium build, asian. whatever. but i always end up freaking girls out by the stupid things that i say. they said that i go on too fast, and some say too slow. so i tried middle, BUT THAT DOESNT WORK EITHER!
ughhh this is soooo confusing and i feel like giving up on girls forever. help me
please dont give me an obvious asnwer. i want details, long explanations
Um, girls are complicated. I would know.
If you start being obvious about liking us way too soon, we freak out. It takes me a while to start liking a guy, no idea about most girls though. Going too slow just pisses us off, cause it's like.. we get it already, c'mon. Haha, the middle's fine. You just have to find the right girl, that's all.
I don't really get your question? But just don't go up to a girl and start telling her how beautiful she is. She'll be flattered, but she'll be a bit creeped out. Don't ignore her; That's just dumb. Become friends first. Start out with normal conversations. Laugh, loosen up, be easy-going. Joke around. If she drops something, pick it up for her. Do random favors like that, but again, don't try too hard. Find something you both have in common. Compliments are okay once you get to know us more and don't over do it.
We can tell when a guy is trying too hard, so just chill.
Don't go trying to find love. Love'll find you.
Hope I helped? Even though I don't think I did. Sorry! But goodluck! :D
i have been through so much in the past year, that the truth is, i just don't know how i've been able to do it all. I've been trying to fight an eating disorder for the past year. Close to full recovery, right after the day I graduated from high school, my mother decides to tell me that i'm adopted. i started college in the summer, because i enrolled for summer b, before i knew my mom was going to tell me that. so, right after graduation, she tells me that, i get back into my eating disorder, and i have to start school right away. i started school extremely depressed. i didn't know who i was anymore, or where i came from. two weeks after that, i find my biological family, and i discovered way too many things. some were good, some were bad. but the bottom line is, that i'm a little bit depressed. there has been a lot more going on in my life. this is just an overview. i can't do it anymore. sometimes, i get so depressed, i can't go to school. my mother treats me like an infant. i'm in freakin college, and i love my mother so much, but it pisses me off. i constantly have to remind her that i'm not a baby. i'm so upset and i hate my life so much. its like nothing makes me happy. i honestly don't know what to do, and i wish i could just not go to school or anything, but i fear that it will make it worst. can anyone give me any type of advice? i use to be a happy girl... and i now i can barely remember what it feels like to be happy.
Damn. I'm really sorry about all that. You've been through alot. :/
I was saying those exact words a couple months ago. Everything was so overwhelming. I would snap over little things. I either couldn't sleep or was sleeping a TON. Nothing could make me happy, and I didn't ever feel like doing anything. I felt helpless. I didn't want to go to school. Nothing.
What you need to realize is your more than a little depressed. You're depressed, plain and simple. The sooner you start to fight it the better.
Talk to someone. There's help out there. No one even has to know. If you're 18, you can just go on your own. If you're younger, you've got to get your mom to take you. I know it might be a bit awkward trying to explain that your depressed, but it's better to deal with a little awkwardness than a lifetime of depression.
I've been taking Lexapro for 3 months now and the only person who knows is my mom. It's the safest antidepressant with minimal side effects (I had none though), it's FDA approved for teens, & it's also very good for anxiety. I'm not a big fan of medication, but I honestly have to say that it saved my life. It took a good month or 2 to kick in, but it made me myself again. And you can get your life back too.
In the mean time, find something that you really enjoy doing. Take up music lessons, play the guitar, paint, draw, color, volunteer (church nursery, assisted living, homeless shelter etc.). Start walking or running everyday. Get a new hair cut/hair style. Go shopping & get a new cute outfit. Find something that inspires you.
Hang in there girl. I know it doesn't seem like it, but things will get better.
Good luck! :D
well i had went out with my boyfriend for the first time since we been together and he wanted to kiss bt the point is i havent really kissed a boy like that and i told him and he doesnt know how to teach.so wat should i do
Chill. :D
Every first kiss is awkward.
He knows it's your first kiss. If you completely suck, he'll understand. You'll get better once you get over the first-time awkwardness anyway like everyone else.
So, all you need to do is relax, make sure your lips are soft (chapstick, dude.), & go with the flow. It'll be fiiine.
Gooooooodluck!
i have a little bowl of my own that i usually smoke out of. ive also smoked outta bongs, cans, apples, vapes, ive made my own bongs out of water bottles, 2 liter soda bottles exct. i wanna try more intense things to smoke out of like grav bong or something i build, any ideas? and if you know how to build a grav bong please explain to me so i can try it out. thanks!!!
Hahahhaahha.
So here we go. A gravity bong:
http://www.smokingwithstyle.com/gravitybong.htm
^ That one's the easiest to follow.
But if you're still lost:
http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Gravity-Bong-in-10-Minutes
http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Gravity-Bong
http://www.angelfire.com/theforce/d-fo/gravitybong.html
Here's some other homemade ones:
http://boards.cannabis.com/medical-marijuana-methods/110808-easiest-best-home-made-bong-update-pics.html
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UvDVglig9aE
Hahaha, have fun.
Ok so, I have a best friend, let's call him Nathan. We have been best friends for 4 years. I love being around him, he's funny and smart and just an all around good person. We text each other every night just talking about whatever, nonsense haha. My mom says that he likes me because every time I talk about the one boy I like he texts back "I'm sensing more than cozy between you two" I don't know if that means he's just making fun of me or he's jealous. I took a "does my best friend like me" quiz on the computer, I know they don't work and most of the answers are just made up right off the top of the creator's head but all of them said yes, he does like me. I don't get it though, a while back I liked him and he told me he looked at me as a sister and that's it. We spend every Tuesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday together due to school functions. He's also in my one class (a class I'm not to strong in) and he is always there to help me on something if I'm confused, he used to do that to so that's not a big deal. Just help me, does my best friend like me?
When he told you he saw you as a sister, did he know you liked him? If he didn't, he was probably just saying that for fear of being rejected.
Guys aren't sure half the time if they like a girl. Neither am I when it comes to guys in general. But if they say that they're not sure, they probably DO like you.
He might be jealous, or just kidding. I don't know him personally so I have no idea. But with most guys, it'd probably be a mixture of both.
Those quizzes usually ARE half right depending on the quiz and if you take it not trying to get a certain answer. So hey, maybe it's right.
Does he text you first or do you text him first? Or both? If it's both or if he's always the one who texts you first, that's a gooooood sign. Haha.
Even if he doesn't, I think there's a good chance he likes you. I doubt you'll wanna risk yall's friendship, which is understandable, but you'll never know how he honestly feels till you put yourself out there & see.
And worst case scenario;
You tell him you MIGHT like him. He doesn't feel the same. Things get awkward. You can just tell him you realized you liked someone else. Problem solved, even though his ego may be a tad hurt.
Just follow your heart & everything else'll work itself out.
Good luck.
:D
15/f
Alright, so this boy I like was flirting with me in 2nd hour like crazy, and so I teased him and gave him a hug and all that, and he grabs my arm to keep me from giving hugs etc. etc. and my friend says "Quit flirting, you can do better than him."
Well I told my mom about it all and she says I gotta be careful or people will call me a slut. (I've not even had my first kiss yet though so that's impossible...)
So..... it's not like this happens everyday, the hugging thing I mean. So, am I still ok as long as this doesn't go on all the time or is my image already not very good?
If someone calls you a slut for hugging a guy, tell them to go a dig a hole.
That's ridiculous. A slut is a girl who sleeps with numerous guys that she's not even going out with.
Your image is fine. Hugging is not bad. Flirting is not bad.
I mean the only thing that can affect your image is if ya'll just have a full on make out session in the middle of class.
Flirting/hugging is FAR from being a slut.
I'm so depressed.I can't bear it anymore. I've donea lot of research but it's not helping me.
What's other ways I can treat/better my depression without anti-depressants or therapy.
Is there a specific reason that you're depressed? If there isn't, medication's generally the best thing for you. & even if you do have a reason, yeah. I know you'd rather not take any medication, but I've been in your place. I refused to take any and I tried to just fight it off on my own; Despite what people may tell you, not being able to fight it off doesn't make you weak. Depression is a chemical imbalance. It can be fixed with medication. If you go to the right doctor, they would prescribe you Lexapro. It's the SAFEEST thing out there. It's not gonna alter how you grow, how you think, your personality. It'll make you the old you again.
Therapy's also very good. It might be awkward at first, but eventually you'll open up. No one will know you're going there, ever. Don't worry about that. It can help alot having someone to talk to who can give you unbiased, nonjudgemental advice.
But if you're like I was, everything I just said probably irritated you & you hardly read it cause you're so determined not to take any meds or talk to someone. I really hope you'll go back & read it if you did though. :)
Try finding something that really inspires you. Start painting or drawing. Get a coloring book - however little kid-ish that may sound - and just start coloring anytime you felt upset. For some reason, that never failed to chill me out.
Find something you're good at and do it. Get involved in a club, a sport, anything as long as it's real laidback & nonstressful.
Start learning how to play an instrument. Paino, violin, guitar. Take lessons somewhere.
Start exercising. Walk, run, lift weights. Get on a regular schedule. It relieves stress & boosts serotonin slightly.
Volunteer somewhere. You could try a church nursery. An assisted living - You can just talk to some people if they're lonely, do bingo, card games, paint their nails. There's tons of places you can volunteer; You just gotta find em.
Goodluck & I hope you feel better soon! :D
okey s i go to a shrink or what you call it..and i have this problem with my mood.i am uaualy depressed,but i could feel atop of the World sometimes like i can do ANYTHING and i would be like kinda hyperactive and feeling oh god so good and well like there is nothing better in the world than that feeling,(its very rare maybe 2-4 times a year)anyway it just lasts from 1-5 days i think..can be 1 can even be for some hours..and then i can get SHIT depressed again.anyway now i go on cipralex and i have this feeling again often and i got it when i started them aswell..and i dont feel like myself..i dont think about consequenses of my actions. but my shrink talked about bipolar and said the a top of the world need to last for minimum a week..is this true?is there another bipolar that dosent last that long? also i have anxiety(sorry not from a english writing contry so it might be hard to understand my writing)
Well there's Bipolar 1.
http://bipolar.about.com/cs/faqs/f/faq_bp1.htm
http://www.progressiveu.org/214305-bipolar-1-vs-bipolar-2
If you've never had delusions or hallucinations when manic, then this is not what you have. This is the most severe form of bipolar disorder.
Bipolar 2.
It's mainly depression with some hypomania. Hypomania's like a mild form of mania, without the delusions and all that.
http://www.webmd.com/bipolar-disorder/guide/bipolar-2-disorder
http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-bipolar-ii.htm
And there's cyclothymia. It's like a mild form of Bipolar Disorder, but the mood swings are a lot less shorter.
http://www.mcmanweb.com/cyclothymia.html
http://www.angelfire.com/home/bphoenix1/cyclo.html
If you have any other questions, just leave em in my inbox and I can help you. I know alot about this stuff.
I hope you feel better soon! :D
2 weeks ago my fiance and I of nearly 2 years broke up, she said I had become like a brother to her, but we were going to try to work it out. We were already dealing with a lot of stressful family situations as it was. Things were going as well as they could be, until her cousin called her, and said that my parents and I said that she left for a bunch of reasons, none of which were actually mentioned. She got mad at me, because obviously she believes her cousin. We got in an argument, and she said she never wanted to see me again. The next night she called, and we talked about things. After that stuff was ok, until she talked to her cousin again. Then she decided there was no chance for us to get back together. She tried to call later that night, but i had fallen asleep for a couple hours, i didn't want to call her back, and wake her dad up, because he drinks a lot, and I didn't want to start trouble. She got worried that I did something to myself, and had a friend drive by, which I was already up(this was 3 in the morning), and she saw me through the window, now she thinks I'm lying about that. Then someone told her I was going to hurt myself, so she'd come to see me, but I never said it. Now she's deleted all history of me from her life it seems, right down to deleting me from her myspace, and all the pics of us. I really think this is the girl I was meant to be with. Is there any hope of me getting my soulmate back, or did her cousin win? And what exactly might be going through her head?
So her cousin's either just a flat out bitch, or she's jealous for some reason. I'm gonna go with the first one though.
You're her fiance; She should trust you, not her cousin. That's like the foundation of what a relationship is built on--trust. She deleted all you from all of that because she's hurt and just wants to forget about you for the moment. How long ago did the last incident happen? Maybe she just needs some time. Wait a day or two and see if she cools off.
There's still hope. Girls usually believe their friends, and especially relatives, over the person they're with at the time. They should get the other person's side of the story, but they never do that for some stupid reason. I swear I'll never understand that. Anyway, have you tried talking to her cousin? Do that. Ask her what her problem is and set the story straight. If she's mad at you for any reason and that's why she's doing this, apologize. Tell her how much you care about your girlfriend and how much you miss her. Maybe she'll back off and talk to her for you.
If that idea doesn't work and you know for a fact your girlfriend won't believe you, just apologize to her for everything. Write her a really long letter and leave it by her house with a gift or something.
Good luck! :D
Long story short, I went to my boyfriend's yesterday afternoon. His apt is infested with bed bugs, and didn't know until I sat down and saw one crawl out of a pillow. Freaked out, left, and inspected myself.
I went home a nervous wreck thinking I have bed bugs now. I looked clean when I inspected my clothes and purse. I have no worry about my car because it sits in 100+ degrees heat anyway. My mom helped me clean my room, my bed, including the mattress, the sheets, she and I did my laundry, did everything! Dusted walls too. I kept inspecting for bed bugs several times yesterday, but found nothing. I found one small blood spot on my sheets afterwards, and I don't know if was me (because I have a skin infection, I sometimes bleed at night) or an actual bed bug. No evidence of fecal matter either.
Well this morning, I woke up with light red, small bumps on my hand. Freaking out, I again inspected my bed. Nothing again. Did research to try compare mosquito bites with bed bug bites. Only thing I got was bed bug bites have a white center, and mosquito bites usually don't. And bb bites last for a weeks; however mosquito bites last a day or two.
That being said, they were small, light red, and itchy. I applied calamine lotion, and relieved it. Well it's been approximately 7 hours, and the redness and itching already went down. My take is it was a mosquito bite, but never thought they bite multiple times..
I just need second opinions on this. Please, don't call me super paranoid, or insane. I already have staph on my skin, I don't need any more skin problems right now. It'll just make it worse.
Thanks.
Um, ignore that first answer. You're not paranoid. It makes sense that you're worried if you've already got staph.
It sounds like you covered most of the stuff you can do though, so hopefully it's just a mosquito bite.
This'll show you what the bites look like + tell you how to get rid of it if you think you have one:
http://www.getridofthings.com/get-rid-of-bed-bugs.htm
And in case you end up with bed bugs in your house:
http://doyourownpestcontrol.com/bed-bugs.htm
Hope I helped!
Well I have two questions to this topic. First I will explain the situation.
My boyfriend and I broke up (Ex now) about a month and a half ago. I left him after 2 years because he always abused me, never made time for me, and wouldn't let me do anything. He used me sexually and financially. I finally left, and couple weeks later I found someone else. I got over it so quickly because I never really loved my ex for a couple months prior to the breakup. I finally did because I couldn't handle it anymore. Well my new boyfriend and I are in love, happy, and such.
Problem is, the ex is still trying to contact me. He calls and texts me from different numbers; he IMs me from screenames I never even gave him; hhe tried messaging me on myspace but I blocked him.
He wants me back obviously, but I am not taking him back. I keep telling him to leave me alone but he won't. He's really becoming so bothersome that I feel stuck.
He has threatened me in the past, says he has stalkers on me, and knows where I live. My parents suggested a restraining order and a number (cell) change. Now they think a restraining order is a waste, when I would feel safer doing it. Now they just think a number change is better. I will consider the number change.
So my questions are, what all do restraining orders do? And is it worth doing it in my situation?
Thanks in advance.
He sounds kinda creepy, especially the whole, "I have stalkers on you" thing. Seriously, I'd be freaked out. Hahah.
"A restraining order tells the person who may be hurting you to stop hitting, threatening, or harming you in any way. It can also order the person (see note below) to stay away from you, to move out of your home, or to stop coming to your home. It can also give you temporary custody of your children, though it cannot be used only for this purpose. The person can be arrested if he/she threatens or physically hurts you, or contacts you or comes near you when the restraining order says he/she is not allowed to do so."
http://www.larcc.org/pamphlets/children_family/get_restraining_order.htm
First try the number change. If he somehow gets it or if he starts threatening you, then I'd go for the restraining order.
Hope I helped! :D
Okay, can anyone tell me an AMAZING product they've tried that actually works for UNBELIEVABLY frizzy/curly hair. My hair is AWFUL and i can't do anything with it. Suggest creams (any kind), shampoo/conditioner, products you use before straightening, ANYTHING. Also if you have any good ideas for a really good straightener or any hair styling tips.
ANY help is appreciated. Thanks guys!
Every other day I'll use Aussie's 3 Minute Miracle on my hair. Use a deep conditioner at least once a week. It keeps your hair healthier.
I ALWAYS let my hair air dry. DO NOT BLOW DRY YOUR HAIR! It will only make it more puffy, believe me.
What I use that I REALLY think works is this product called Biosilk. It's by the company that makes the Chi straightener. It makes your hair softer, shiny, and it definitely gets rid of frizz for the most part.
I've given it a friend before cause she always asked what I put in my hair and she said it worked real good. You just can't use alot or you'll end up with greasy hair and wanting to kill me for suggesting this product to you. Haha, just use like a dime sized drop - maybe less, depending on how thick your hair is - and rub it together in your hands and run it through your hair before you straighten it when it's dry. Straighten in it sections too by clipping it up if you want your hair to get straighter unless you already do that.
http://www.biosilk.com/silk/st.html
It might be a little on the expensive side but it is SO worth it.
+ Get a Chi straightener. They're the best. I just have the original one. Here's the link with a picture of it: http://z.hubpages.com/u/61673_177.jpg
And if you wanna read more about the straighteners, go here:
http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://z.hubpages.com/u/61673_177.jpg&imgrefurl=http://hubpages.com/hub/Chi_Flat_Iron&usg=__e4IEpzVV4ynfFCgn7Nyqa-OQACk=&h=177&w=177&sz=5&hl=en&start=15&um=1&tbnid=SRXGdMMblXfYDM:&tbnh=101&tbnw=101&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dchi%2Bglobal%2Bbeauty%2Bchi%2Bflat%2Biron%26hl%3Den%26um%3D1
Hope I helped! :D
where can i watch episodes from season 1 to the latest season for free. i don't want to watch them on megavideo. it stops too much.
and does anyone know when the new season starts?
thanks!
http://www.sidereel.com/One_Tree_Hill
That's what I always use and it usually works fine.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/One_Tree_Hill_(TV_series)
If you scroll down near the end and look under the "Plot" section it says September 14,2009.
Hope I helped. :D
well i am 15 and my gf is 24 and we had sex for 1st time and i used a condom but the 1st time we did it it was for maby 60 sec top and then after a bit we tryed agin and it was for a bit (with a comdom) and then we stoped for like 30 sec and she took the condome off and then she wanted 2 go agin but she didn't want me 2 put a condom on and i asker her like 3 times and she sed its fine i won't get pregnat and she sed that there was only 1 day a month a chick can get pragnat and its rite befor they get there pearoid...but i never busted in her wile the comdom was off but i know quite a bit still got in there and now i am kinda scared...
p.s. the reason we didn't do it for like no time at all and then stoped and then did it agin is beacuz it was bolth of out 1t time and i know i popped her cherry beacuz it blead a bit...
Your girlfriend isn't too bright. Girls can get pregnant any day of the month.
You never asked a question but I'm assuming you're wondering if she was pregnant. Well, you shouldn't have listened when she said she wouldn't get pregnant even if you didn't have a condom on, cause she's wrong. Tell her to get a pregnancy test.
And in case you didn't catch this from the other 90348509345 answers, your relationship's illegal.
Me and my sister cannot get along. It is a shame because we are both grown adults. I am 26 and she is 25. We are like Salt and Sugar, this is how different we are. My mother always blames me because although my sister is so childlish and inmature, I am the oldest and set the example which it really makes me go nuts because we are only a year apart. Me and my sister lives in two different states and we get along great on the phone but as soon as we get together is like a disaster waiting to happen. I truly try hard but she gets on my nerves sooo bad! If she sees I am very upset at her and I just dont feel like talking, I cannot get away from her, she talks and talks her head off and I try to ignore her until I calm down but she wont budge. She makes everything worst. I wish I could just forget about her and I would love to completely cut her out of my life but she is my sister and I am suppose to love her the way she is but I just dont know how to get along with her. She is extremely selfish. We dont even share anything in common. She does not give me any respect or privacy. I even honestly think that my mom had an affair with another man because she does not even look like my dad at all when he was alive although my mom denies it of course.
Maybe she just keeps talking because she's trying to get your mind off whatever's upsetting you. She could just be trying to help. Next time that happens just tell her you don't really feel like talking and you're gonna go take a nap or something. Just avoid her if you're having a bad day and talk to her another time. Tell her how you feel about wanting your own privacy. She can't change unless she wants to, but maybe it'll make a difference.
Aw, me and my brother look nothing alike either, but I know for a fact my dad is the real father to both of us. We have absolutely NOTHING in common with each other. Genetics are just weird that way.
http://www.ehow.com/how_2131248_along-difficult-people.html
http://webuildpeople.ag.org/wbp_library/9508_difficult_people.cfm
I doubt those'll help you any, but they're worth reading at least.
Good luck! :D
okay. i have this really kute boyfriend but we have been through our ^s & downs and he thinks we need tew go fast and im not comfortable with it wat should i do?
First of all, you spell cute with a C, not a K.
Tell him you're not comfortable moving that fast, even though you really care about him.
http://www.ehow.com/how_2308843_slow-down-relationship.html
Good luck! :D
ok after i went swimming i wrapped my phone in the capris and then when i went to wash my capris my phone dropped in the washing machine when the machine was going so it got water damaged. i have it sitting a bowl of uncooked rice ( i took the battery out and its also in the rice) so my question is. if the rice trick doesn't work is there any way i can take apart my screen from the LG Voyager phone to clean out the water? or is there any trick where i can get the water out from under the screen.
I dropped my phone in a toilet and let it sit in a bag of rice out in the sun for 2 weeks. I didn't think it was gonna work cause after a week it still wouldn't turn on, but now, it works perfectly fine. You just gotta give it time to work.
I heard you can try oatmeal too. Give it a go. It can't do any harm.
http://www.wikihow.com/Save-a-Wet-Cell-Phone
Good luck! :D
My friend can get on my last nerves. Anything exciting I tell her s do she has to have something exciting all of a sudden too, she is also a pretty big liar.How do I solve this.
Uh, they're not insecure.
She's just comparing what you do to what she does and she feels boring. She wants to have something exciting she can do to tell people about too. She lies because she's trying to impress you or she's trying to make herself sound more interesting.
You can't really "solve it" unless you stop telling her the exciting stuff you do. Then she'd probably quit cause she wouldn't feel like she has to be/do something just as exciting as you.
Alright. So I'm a 16/F and this is what happened. My boyfriend and I were at a party the other night and we ran into trouble. There was this one other guy there (we'll call him J) and so J, me, and this other girl were just chilling on the couch while my boyfriend was off playing pool or something. So J takes my hand and starts leading me away from the couch and I'm just kind of like okayyy... because I mean, I didn't really know this kid too well but I was just like whatever, he probably just wants to get some food or something. Well he starts taking me back towards this room and I stop outside the door and I'm like "What are you doing?" and J says, "Come in here with me." I started babling like an idiot "What? No, my boyfriend- I- huh?- why?" and he leaned in real close, put his hand on like the small of my back (because I was trying to back away) and whispered "It'll be fun just come on." Weeeell, as you can guess, this looks a little shady. I mean, this guy is still holding my hand, he's whispering in my ear, got his hand on my back, and we're standing in the doorway of a dark room. Which is GREAT timing for my boyfriend to look over and see us. So my bf storms over and he's like "What the he** are you doing?" And I had already pulled away from J but J shoves me behind him and is all like "What's your problem, dude? I'm a little busy right now." Ha, yeah, let's just say that REALLLY pissed my bf off. He gets all up J's face and says "Yeah, with MY girlfriend. Now get the f*$@ away." Well, I myself would walk away right about now, but J's got the doorway blocked so I'm kind of just standing there like a worthless bag of poo, trying to get out when, oh goody, J makes it worse and said something like "Well your girlfriend is obviously a slu* if she was about to come in her with me" and before I could say "I wasn't going in there with you!!", my bf punched J in the face. They start getting into it right there, and a few other guys pull em off of eachother. They both got a little beat up, and the girl throwing the party got all pissed and was like "Get out of here!" So yeah. We got kicked out of the party... I felt HORRIBLE. I mean, like, I just felt so bad. I know I wasn't the one getting into the fight, but I just felt really guilty. Not for getting kicked out of the party but because my bf had like a blackeye and gosh, I just feel horrible, I feel like its all my fault. I mean, like jeez. I apologized like a million times to him, and his parents because they were all "What happened!?!" and ugh. I just feel so bad. My bf says its no big deal and he doesn't get why I feel so guilty but he got hurt and I feel like its my fault. What can I do to make it up to him? Am I being stupid for feeling like this?
Oh, c'mon. Ignore the person below me. What the hell were you supposed to do? Just kick the guy and run away? You already told him no. You didn't even know what was going on. You couldn't even do anything. And you can't exactly just run and get away when your boyfriend shows up because like you said, J had the door blocked. Guys are stronger anyway and if he didn't want you to get past him, he'd make sure you didn't.
Your boyfriend had a right to get mad. Not at you, just at the guy. He coulda handled it better instead of punching him in the face though. Not the best idea. But hey, no one thinks things through when they're pissed off like that. It wasn't a big deal that he took your hand. If someone did that to me that I didn't even really know, I'd think the same thing you did.
Don't feel bad. It's not your fault your they started fighting. You couldn't do anything to stop it. It wasn't your fault. Relaaax. :)
He said it was no big deal and he understands you didn't know what was going on and you couldn't get away. But if you still wanna make it up to him, you could do somethin kinda big I guess, like taking him to a concert or a baseball game or something.
Hope I helped:D
Tomorrow, I will be smoking weed for the first time, I know it can't kill you, but I will also be smoking black milds for the first time, my question is, "Can smoking a "black mild" for the first time hurt or kill you ?
It can't kill you, but obviously it's not good for you either. Smoking one of those is like smoking 5 normal cigs. I know it's more likely to cause cancer than cigarettes over a long period of time though if that's what you mean. And some people say it gives em a headache and your throat might hurt a few days afterwards, but you'll live.