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My friend Cecely smell`z reallyy bad ---ยป realllyyyyyyyy bad - and i want to tell her to take a shower so badly.. but i feel if i tell her .. she will get mad. please help! PLEASE

Okay.. well think about it.. If you dont tell her then she will go on smelling and when she meets new people they will prob. not stick around.. So I say tell her in the nicest way possible... try saying "We've been friends for a while and I think our friendships strong enough for me to tell you this without you taking it the wrong way.. but sometimes when were together.. theres a bad smell coming off of you.. I don't want this to effect our friendship but you needed to know"... Don't necessarily tell her to shower cuz you don't know if thats the problem.. so just tell her that her smell is offensive and you were just saving her from further embarassment... in then end. she might get mad at you.. but i gurantee you she will smell better and hopefully realize everything you said was out of friendship...


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P.S- it wouldn't hurt to give her some nice perfumes when you tell her ;)

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i wanna have sex b4 i'm 15...sum of my friendz tell me 2 wait, what do i do?

Don't have sex until your completely ready and in love. Thats not something to rush into and you may end up regretting it 20 years from now. If your going to have sex .. make sure your with the right person and your ready and your not rushing into anything because some of your friends are doing it or because you feel the need to do it before a certain age. Besides.. something like that.. you will remember for the rest of your life.. make it special..:)



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hello okay umm i need a huge list of ideas what i could do if i threw apartie in the summer...im only 14

Wow .. theres tons of stuff you could do..

Do a Hawain Theme and put tikki light up and you could

Swim(If you have a pool.. sprinklers are fun 2...:-P )
Dance
VolleyBall
Basketball
Watch Movies
Play truth or Dare
Play Spin the Bottle
Make a fire and roast marshmellows (at night)
If you have a trampoline then use that (you can rent one)
You can have a DJ that can do Karioke

^^thats some things to do....

Some food things are
A Barbeque(hot dogs hamburgers/cheesburgers grilled chicken veggie burgers etc.)
Pizza
Cakes/cookies/cupcakes ..sweets etc.
Ice Cream
Chips(Doritios Fritos Tostitos (the itos family lol) Potatoe Chips Pretzels etc)
Pasta (Spaghetti,ravioli,ziti)
Salads(Pasta Salads,Potatoe Salads,Macaroni Salads, Chefs Salads etc.)

Those are some food ideas

Some drinks you could do are

Sodas
*orange
*grape
*Rootbeer
*Pepsi AND coke
*Mt.Dew
*Sprite etc.
Iced Tea
Lemonade
Water
Ice Cream Floats (with all different kinds of soda) etc.

Thoseare some drink ideas.. It really all depends on how many people will be there to decide wether you should buy alot of food.. order 1 pizza or 20... hire a DJ or use a stero.. or rent a place to have the party or use your own backyard ;)

Hope I helped..


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Good luck with your party I hope its a hit! :)

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ok well .. i'm very critical on myself .. i think im soo ugly my friends say im not but i mean what r they gonna say ya i kno u r .. so they could b liein i mean ive had bfs nd stuff but i dnt kno how to make myself less critical of myself cause i got so mad at myself sometimes cause i think im so ugly .. x|0

Take a peice of paper.. and write down everything your good at.. what you like about yourself ((theres def. something)) All the stuff you've accomlpished etc. Then reread it over and over again.. and everytime you feel like you ugly or somthing.. take out the paper and read it and then add something to it. It helps.. Also when your doing your hair or makeup.. look at yourself and say I am beautiful.. you will feel better about yourself. Hang up things around your room that make you feel good about yourself and when someone puts you down.. laugh it off and dont let it get to you.. And make sure you have confidence.. if you want to get more guys. because.. confidence is SEXXY in a guys eyes.. trust me I know.. all my guy friends tell me. So instead of sitting there and saying how ugly you are.. sit there with a smile on your face and know that you fine just the way you are. And everytime you call yourself a name.. have a friend will will slap your hand or something.. or do it yourself. And then say your beautiful 10 x slowy so it sinks in..


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what is the best age for making out? and any one have tips on what do wit da touge?

I'd say any time the moment is right and it will just happen.. although most people first make out between 11-14.. And about the tounge you should just follow your partners lead..or move it around in a circular motion.. but keep it slow.. and massage your tounge with theres.. don't stick your tounge down there throat and def. don't go fast...

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I had it good for a while. I guess most of us dont realize when to appreciate what you have. I had it so good id do just anything to back on the past. But lets forget me... my sister used to be average wieght.. NOT fat at all just not as skinny as everyone else. I used to call her fat tho just in spite of her when i wanted something and she wouldnt give me something or if we were fighting. I regret that in every way shape or form. PLEASE if you've been calling some1 fat dont do it, you will hospitilize some1 no joke it gets to people. So anyway shes been away at camp for 5 weeks.. and shes not the same. She wont let herself touch a hamburger, or anything besides salad and yogurts and rice cakes and such. She wont let herself have even a rootbeer float.. its so wierd. But worst of all shes not anything like she used to be. She used to be happy. Shes really homesick right now and she admits when she comes back shes going to need therapy because she even KNOWS that her lifestyles are messed up. Its not that she doesnt want to eat all those foods she CANT. She always feels so compared her whole life she has and now im fearing for her and wishing things were back to normal. Nothing has ever been this screwed up in my life i have never been asked to handle this 1nce before in my life and now its my own sister... and i just dont know what to do. Its like no1 cares... my aunt only has mean things to say like shes starving herself and she yells at my sister. Yelling wont help her any! My mom understands and so does my dad and they care but it hurts to see them so worried. I cant take it! This could all be my fault.. i should have never called her names.... what do i do to keep myself from getting overly sick at myself. Im not about to go anerexic or cut myself or anything lame like that im too full of life and i could never stoop down to that level but i always feel like i just want to stay in bed all day. I want my life to be normal, but i cant have that...


for a person thats going to be sensitive to my feelings... *PLEASE* answer asap

and 2 the rest of u.. never say anything you could regret


XoxOO-

Well.. I don't think whats happening to your sister is your fault. Everyone calls there siblings fat at one point or another. I know I have done it.. and my brother and sister have done it to me. Maybe something happened at camp to your sister to make her feel this way. Another thing could be that she likes a boy and maybe hes dating only the super-thin girls. She has an eating disorder and she needs to get help... its not your fault .. you shouldnt be beating yourself up about it...I do have some suggestions though for when she returns home. You could go through family albums and show her pictures of herself happy and healthy. You could compliment her on how she looks... You could comment on how a boy was checking her out while your in public etc. Just make her feel good about herself.. You keeping yourself in bed all day won't do any good.. I say just live your life and enjoy the summer.. Once your sister gets back.. do lots of stuff with her..((mall trips, movies , getting your nails done .. etc.)) and try to keep her mind off of how she looks.. remember it wasn't your fault..

also if your feeling down.. lift your mood by doing something.. don't give yourself time to think... otherwise you will become more down..

Go swimming with friends
go to the movies with friends
Shop... with your friends
Go to an amusement park etc..

But make sure there are people with you .. that won't talk about your sister.. so you can keep your mind off of things and remain happy..

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Good Luck!!!

-Hope I helped-

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I just turned 14. I'm about 5'5 and weigh about 105 lbs. I feel I am fat for some reason even though I wear extra smalls and zero's in clothing and everything. Everyone thinks I am very tiny but I don't see myself that way. Because I feel I am fat I try to do 200 crunches a day along with running for about a half hour. Is there anything else I can do to loose weight and just tone up more? I also don't eat much. Like for maybe a couple days a month I'll eat like breakfast, lunch, and dinner. But all the rest of the time I usually only eat a small breakfast and that's it. Am I over doing the whole weight loss thing? Everyone has been yelling at me and saying I am overdoing it and I really want to know if I am. Please help and answer. Is my weight ok for my height and age? I both cheerlead and run track and want to make sure I am skinny cause for some reason I feel people won't like me otherwise. Can someone please give me some advise and help on the situation? Thanks. *Love Always Annonomous*

Your very underweight... your supposed to be like 20 pounds more then what you are!!!! And about you only usually eating breakfast.. thats crazy.. If your doing all these exercises and not gaining muscle its because muscle needs to eat. It eats more then fat does!!! If your going to be so active then you need to have all 3 meals and snack regularly... thats the best way to stay in shape and be healthy. I think your over-doing it....Make sure you eat a good breakfast in the morning with a banana because that gives you energy for the day. Also eat lunch and dinner... and snacks.. but if you are afraid of gaining weight.. then snack and eat healthy.. Snack on Apples... Bananas .. Oranges ((fruits with nutrients)) Or..veggies and low fat dip. And for lunch you could have salads sandwhiches Grilled Chicken.. etc. Just because you eat doesnt mean your fat.. you just have to make the best choices..


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i really like this guy he is 3 years older than me i dont like him but i do..i cant help it. iv liked him for such a long time and ik that im not good enough for him and everything. i hate myself..my best freind and twin sister are boith so skinny and i am not. my friend tells me i am wicked pretty but i dont think so. nothing ever goes right for me. so i started cutting..and i am addicted to it. if anything goes wrong i cut. my friend knows and she tries to help me. i dont eat alot any more either..im trying to lose weight. so every night i feel sick and i always get headachs. i dont want to see a shrink..i alredy have before and she didnt help at all. im hoping this phase will pass but i just dont kno what to do about it..help me.

O my goodness sweetie you need to stop cutting!!! and you need to start eating!! If your getting headaches from not eating then you should def. be eating more. All your doing is gaining weight you know! Cuz even though you lose at first.. since your feeding yourself so little your body holds onto all the fats cuz it can live off of those more then nutrients.. so in the end you will gain more.. thats why you always have to feed your body and keep your self on a set stomach! About your cutting... I understand if you dont want to see a shrink.. but you need to talk to somebody.. Is their an adult or older friend that you can trust... You can check out this website about depression.. well theres many links.. click on the depression one.. and learn more ways to help yourself..

http://www.have-a-heart.com/

I also suggest keeping everything in 2 journals... one for a good journal and one for a bad journal. anytime you feel like cutting put it in the bad journal.. or anytime you have a bad feeling... Everytime something goes good put it in the good journal... every once and awhile.. read the good journal.. but never read the bad one over again.. just keep writing in it.. but never re-red what you put or the negativness will reappear

About how you think your fat etc. I think you should find more self esteem... write down everything good about your self on a peice of paper.. and keep rereading it over and over again..Things that you are good at.. Kepp practicing them and become even betetr at them.. that will give you the accomplished feeling...You can check out this site for more tips on self esteem

http://www.more-selfesteem.com/self_esteem.htm

About that guy... forget him.. hes 3 years older.. all he would want to do is take dvantage of you anyways.. i say find someone new thats your age that you can relate to


Best Of Luck

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xoxo


Hope I helped hunn... good luck!

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I've been with my boyfriend Steve for alomost 2months now. I haven't seen him in over a month and by the time i get to talk to him it'll have been a month. Lately I've been talking to my best friend Chris a lot. He's really sweet and nice to me. I really like him now. And i'm more open with him and i can talk to him easier than i can talk to steve but hes going to high school next year and im going into 8th grade and so is steve. Chris just got dumped by one of my best girl friends and shes mad at me cause she thinks i called her a slut and i didnt. I told chris i liked him when he was still going out with my friend. about a week after she dumped him he said he liked me back. we were playing truth or truth and he asked me if i would dump steve for anyone. And i said why do you want me to. And he said yes. I said i dont know if i would cause i hadnt talked to steve in so long. I'm really confused i dont know what to do. Should i dump steve and go out with chris? i mean it might make my friend mad cause she gets mad at stupid things. Or should i wait till steve comes home and talk to him cause i also feel like i barely even know him. who should i choose? what should i do?

Well... are you willing to lose Steve or lose your friend (the girl)... Dating your friends exes could cause BIG problems.. besides.. Chris is going to highschool next year... hes going to be around tons of new girls and hes prob. going to flirt. And ging out with a friends ex right after they break up is prob. not the Best idea. Don't dump steve just yet.. because you don't know if your feelings for him will reappear once you get to talk to him again. Its okay to stay Chris's friend.. but make sure thats all you keep it at for now. I say keep dating Steve.. that way if it doesn't work out with you and steve once you start talking to him again.. you can dump him and feel no regrets or unassurance.. and then maybe next year when you get to highschool you can be with Chris and your friend will have cooled off by then and hopefully not care that its her ex :)


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Good Luck


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One of my friends is mad at me because she thinks i called her a slut and i didn't. I've said sorry but she wont except it. What should i do? I dont want to lose her friendship forever. We told each other everything and did a lot of things together. How can something so great be ruined by one little misunderstanding?

Ask her why she thinks you would say such a thing. Basically explain to her everything you just told me. Tell her you don't want to ruin her friendship and although she doesn't believe you right now.. to please try and understand.. your really good friends and shes really important to you.. (((make sure she knows that))) I have a similar story.. one of my friends got mad at me because they thought I was saying stuff about them that wasn't true... but I explained to her that I was her friend and I would never do that to her and her friendship was important and she ended up forgetting about the whole thing. In the end getting through all this with your friend will just make your friendship stronger.. but if shes really upset.. then give her a few days to cool off.. she'll come around ;)


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I'll start from the beginning....
When I was little, i used to live in washington state, but then we moved when i was 8 years old.
this other family with this boy that had been in my 2nd and 3rd grade class moved to the same part of florida the same time we did, and we ended up going to the same school.
our families became close friends(my sister is about the same age as his little brother)
and we'd go over to each others houses a lot, and when we were little we used to come up w/ these little plays (some romantic, we'd "marry" each other...), and well, we got a little older. last year, he moved to orlando, and we spread apart a little. we saw them, and we were playing around and like fake kissing each other in this little "play" we made up (my little sister is only 8, and she really wanted to do a "play")
and now he's moving back to where we live. i dont kno if he likes me, but i kind of think i like him. what should i do?
signed,
confused love

Awww.. i think he likes you. Well.. i think you should wait till he comes back and then start talking to him alot again...After spending some time as "best Friends" I say make your move and ask him out.. if he hasn't already asked you out ;).. Thats like a fairytale romance.. who knows maybe your meant for eachother... but its worth a shot... Or just talk to him about your feelings.. tell him you like him... chances are he likes you back =D

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Good Luck

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Hey Should i break up with my P.A. relationship i haven't see her yet and i m really confused and i like this girl erica and samantha but erica is to young for me and samantha is like 2 years what should i dunno

Mike

Well talk to your g/f about it.. tell her that your not sure if this is going to work and that you think you might like someone else. But i say don't break up with her until you have seen her at least once.. because you don't know if you really don't have feelings for her or if its the distance... an even though you said you were confused you didnt say your feelings stopped for her so theres still a chance that you really want to be with her. But if you don't have feelings for her then break up with her because its not fair for her to be with someone who doesn't love her back.But don't do it unless your sure.. trust me that feeling that you get when you think you did the wrong thing.. SUCKS.. so save yourself from it and think more about it first If you do dump her Good luck with those other girls!!:)

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i love running! but i hear its bad on your joints in your knees...what else can i do isntead of running?

I don't think Runnings bad for your knees but if it is and you like it alot.. the next best thing would be..Hurtles or Biking... but if you love running then continue it.. just limit how much running you do. Running is the best exercise it keeps you healthy.. but just cut down on it if you are worried..and make sure you stretch before each time you run.. or you could cause serious harm to your legs :\ and alternate your exercises... run one day and bike the next.. kind of like a switch off


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i like this boy who goes to my school, he started going out with one of my EX close friend.we went out a couple of times and he broek up with my friend. we kissed a couple of time and i've texted like 7 times but he doesnt answer like last week a spended teh night at one of my best friends house and he called her. i feel so bad should i still b her friend... i know my friend doesnt liek him but i think he likes her.do u have any advice i'll rate u ....

Of course you should still be her friend. its not her fault that he likes her!!! But as for the guy.. i say move on.. hes sending you mixed signals and playing with your mind. But if you really want to continue something then call him up and make plans.. After talking to him for a while and hanging out with him.. he will hopefully start to like you. Also find out if he has an sn.. if he does then thats cool...you could talk on there and get to knwo him really well... Good Luck

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hey - my best friend has this boyfriend .. and like i KNOW shes to good for him and whenever the THREE of us chill something goes down and she gets mad at me .. because i "flirt" with him .. like i try not to and shes such a bitch sometimes i just cant take it and then .. she goes and chooses him over me .. how can i tell her hes no good without hurting her .. and this is something that totally bugs me .. you have NOO CLUE .. and maybe if it was 2 guys and 2 girls i wouldnt get into a fite with her .. and you know what i cant help that i like her boyfriend a lil cause he is really really HOT .. help me please !!

You confuse me... hes too good for her... you want to tell her hes no good .. but you like him a little...????

Okay I will try though...

Well for one..you can tell your friend if shes going to cause a fight between you 2 everytime the 3 of you chill then she can hang out with both of you seperately..You can also apologize to her for her thinking that you flirt(even if you don't,apologize.. becuz its hurting your friends feelings and im sure you don't want that) then tell her the only reason it may seem like your flirting is because you try talking to him alot cuz you don't want to feel like a 3rd wheel. She should understand. About you liking him a little.. I suppose thats normal.. chances are you are flirting with him... its normal for girls to flirt self-consciously when they see a hott guy...And as far as telling her shes too good for him.. i would hold off on that... especially since she thinks your flirting..wait a while.. becuz she might take that offensively.. just let her learn from her own mistakes.. eventually she'll get hurt by him.. but at least your shoulder will be there to help her when she needs it ;)

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Good luck

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i'm going into high school and im really scared and nervous..what if i dont know anyone during lunch and i have to sit by myself?! i dont know what to do..how can i be more brave and not be so scared?

Don't Sweat it.. im going into highschool 2..I bet you don't remember meeting all of your friends but you did.. Its always scary going to a new place.. especially when your scared of rejection.. but don't be.. put a smile one your face and say hi.. Just start talking to someone.. chances are there just as nervous as you. You can practice being more brave by getting involved in stuff over the summer...do a community thing, volunteer, go swimming in a public pool etc. Do stuff where thers alot of people.. and guranteed you'll make friends.. that should give you the confidence to walk into highschool knowing its going to be a great year!:)

Hope i helped

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Good luck

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do you think girls like me need to get sexy underwear like thongs to impress her boyfriend, or do u think there are more important things to worry about in a relationship, like having fun together or their personalities? should i get some to make him the slightest bit happier, or should i just not get anymore? does it turn guys on to see girls in their sexy underwear or anything? where is the best place to get cute, but inexpensive thongs?

Well.. don't wear thongs unless you want to.. Relationships aren't based on underwear there based on

Trust
Honesty
Loyalty
Happiness
Compalability

Even though Sex Appeal is included in that its not the most important thing.. (thats just a plus ;)..) But if you want thongs that are cute and inexpensive you can get them at

Filenes
Sears
Walmart
Marshalls
Khols
Mandees
Fashion Bug
Forever 21
etc.

I think that it would prob. turn a guy on to see a girl in there sexxy underwear.. but to most guys.. confidence is most sexxy!!


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Hope I helped


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well it all started when i was helping out @ a summercamp, and every1 came over 2 my house 2 swim. and this 1 hottt guy was upstairs with me signing on as his sn. and so when he left his buddy list was on so i looked @ it (i know i shouldnt have) and so i noticed my sn on there but i am blocked, and i thought we were friends. should i ask him y he blockd me? what do i do?
madison

I think you should back off a little bit and see if he notices is... Like don't talk to him first let him talk to you... (etc.) If he approaches you and you talk.. end a conv. short and be like I'll finish this with you on Aim 2night.. be on at 6 then walk away... see if he unblocks you...Or get a new sn and im him and be like i was just on my other sn and it said you weren't on... did you block me? Or ask him if you 2 are good friends... and if he asks why.. say because when you were over i over looked on your buddy list and i was blocked...


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This year my mom gave me a budget for school clothes, only 500 dollars. Last year I got twice as much and this money includes clothes, shoes, accesories, bras and panties! I'm spending my money wisely but what should I spend the most on and where should I go?
I spent 200 bucks today and didnt get hardly anything... I went to Buckle, Hollister, and Gadzooks! I need fashion HeLp please!!

Well you def. should shop at cheaper stores....


Target
Walmart
K*Mart
TjMaxx
Marshalls

All those stores are good for tees blouses some pants and bras and panties and socks etc.

Olympia Sports
Bobs
Payless

Those are good for shoes

Fashion Bug
Mandees
Forever 21
Rave
Khols

^^ Those are good for the latest styles in designer names if your into those types of clothes Khols is also a GREAT accessorie store...

if none of those are in your hometown I am pretty sure you can shop on the web.. but its + shipping and handling...


I hope I helped...(use your money wisely but get as much as you can for it :)...)

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im going into high school and im a 34A. is that normal for girls around my age?! just wondering if im turning out normal lol! thanks

Well... its perfectly normal... Every girl is different... im going into highschool also and i have friends with D cups C cups A and B cups.. it all matters on your genes.. Was your mother an early bloomer? or do you have a sister who has more developed boobs.Cuz you prob. would have them too. Most girls get the same size boobs as there mothers/sisters etc. and usually get there periods around the same age there mothers did when they were younger. Everything happens genetically ... so no worries.. your turning out COMPLETELY normal


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