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i get horrible cramps right before and during my period. what can i do to make them not hurt so much. i have had to stay home from school like every 2 months when it comes.
MIDOL. I swear, Midol is my wonder drug! Lol, it works! It's the only thing I've ever found to work for "that time of the month".
My friend and I have always had trouble talking to guys and we don't why. We just start getting all shy and our mind's go blank and just don't act like ourselves. We both like a boy and desperatly want to talk to them. If any of y'all have advice we would GREATLY appreciate it!!!
Lol, that's totally normal when you start dating. It gets easier with experience. Just remember that guys are still people! I won't say to treat them as you would a girl friend, because most guys won't want to hear about how fat you look in those pants or how you're getting your period next week...but you know what I mean ;) If you want to feel more comfortable with it, just practice talking to your guy friends. Sorry I couldn't be of more help, and good luck!
14/F. I have to get orthodonic braces in a few weeks and I have a few questions about them. I will rate. Do they hurt? What will happen if I chew gum with them? What color bands would look good with brown hair and brown eyes? Thanks.
I used to have braces, so I've got this one. Different people will tell you different things when it comes to how much they hurt. Personally, I didn't think they were all that bad--nothing a little Advil didn't cure, lol. It was a little uncomfortable for a few days, but you get used to it pretty quick =) About the gum thing, just be careful. I chewed it, and nothing ever happened...however, I've had friends who've messed up their brackets that way. Just be cautious. I recommend chewing sugar free gum (I believe you're allowed to chew it with braces anyway?). For the colors, go with the colors you like! I mean, there isn't really such a thing as "going with"...it's on your teeth! Just do something fun, and if you don't like it, they change those things so many times anyway, lol...Good luck.
I'm 13 and i have gone out with this boy i really liked him and he was my first boyfriend but he dump me and now i don't want to go out with anyone because i have losed my confidence and scared i'm going to be rejected
Sorry to hear that, but time heals most things and you'll get over him. There will be TONS of other guys, promise. You're still young--don't let one guy ruin the rest of your dating years, lol =P And although rejection isn't fun, sometimes you just have to go for it. Good luck =)
Hello. :)
14/F ~ My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months now, and the other night he came over. We sat around and talked for a little while, but then he started to pull moves on me... It's not the first time or anything.. we started to make out then he put his hands up my shirt and down my pants..then we started making out more.. then he pulled me on top of him and we made out more. Is it wrong for me to let him put his hands in those places? I'm just wondering so I can tlel him weather he can again or not. Thank you :)
It isn't "wrong", UNLESS you weren't comfortable with it. I mean, there isn't a right age for that stuff, it just depends on the people. If you're comfortable, just be sure things don't get too carried away...and remember, you don't HAVE to do anything.
me and my boyfriend has been dating for a week now and he hasnt call me in 5 days. when we first started dating he got my number and dont have his, and we really hit it off good.and it is not like him to not call me, am so worried about him,because i like him alot,what should i do.
You wait for him to call you. Given that you don't have his number, you aren't left with a whole lot of options! Good luck.
i have to do this thingy in front of my class.. which is 36 people and i have to memorize it... its a monologue. and im scared. i think imn gunna go out there and like freeze!! what do i do? 13/f
Try and be one of the first people to go--if your class is anything like any of mine, half the kids in the class will be stressing over THEIR turn and not even paying much attention to you, lol. It's always a comforting thought, right? Good luck!
I have a friend whose bf i like A LOT and i know i would have a chance with him but he's my best friends bf. We even danced at my school dance. But i know i can't have him b/c he belongs to my friend. What should i do?
These situations can be really tough, but as usual, I advise staying true to your friend. If you were in her situation, you know how terrible you'd feel if she took your guy, right? Plus, look at it this way...their relationship won't last forever. Once it dies off, there's always that possibility of getting the guy...AND keeping your friend =)
how many presents do most of ya get on x-mas.. just wondering :)
I usually get one big present and then a few little ones.
Ok, so i was thinking about babysitting the kids nextdor, but i've geard thast little kids are hard to take care of. is that true? i need tha cash, and cant afford anything for my friends for the holidays. I'm not really patient, but i have 2 younger siblings, but i get sick of them really easy. my brother is 8, and my sister is 2. the kids nextdoor are 7 and 9, if that helps.
It just depends on the kids, but seven and nine shouldn't be too hard to handle. The kids I used to babysit were around the same ages, and I never really had too many problems with them. Just keep them busy. Most young kids (that I've ever dealt with, anyway) don't like sitting still for long periods of time, so keep them busy. Oh, and I find it way easier to deal with other people's kids than the ones in your own family, lol.
Dear Advice People Givers:
Hey! Ok, I'm confused. See, I'm 14 & I wanna do something REALLY bad! Like see, here's the thing though.. I'm not really sure how to kiss a guy though.. I mean.. when I got my 1st kiss, it wasnt at all wat I wanted it 2 be. It was kinda one of those "in the moment" type deals. I kno I'm just 14 but is that 2 young? And is there a "wrong" way to kiss some1? Please help. I rate 5's to anybody. So you could say something like, "Sup?" and I'd still rate you, but PLEASE give advice!!
-Stephanie-
Nah, that isn't tpp young. And there isn't really a RIGHT way to do it...it just happens. I mean, obviously...saliva control, BREATHE...but it just comes naturally, so don't stress over it.
ok so a couple years ago, i realllly liked this one guy, and it sucked cause he didnt like me back..
well i got over him & everything and two years later (now) i realized that im starting to like him all over again.. and i havent even really talked to him very much, but its like dejavu and im feeling all that stuff all over again
should i go with my heart and like him again or just try to avoid this?
thank you!
Haha, I know how you're feeling. If this guy means that much to you, then talk to him! A lot can change over two years...What've you got to lose? If you don't talk to him that much as it is, things can only get better.
my friend and i both like the asme guy (my ex bf) and i know i could get him but she'd be devastated.. but i really miss him and i want to be with him but i dont want her to be hurt.. :-/ advice would be nice
Remember why you broke up in the first place. Guys come and go...there will be others, I promise =) Personally, I don't think you should jeopardize your friendship for a guy. Chances are, it being that she likes this guy too, you two going out will only create stress between your friend and yourself. If not going out with him simply isn't an option, then might I suggest talking to your friend?
Dear advice people givers (lol),
I got my heart broken recently. Last Sunday to be exact. We'll call him Jason. Jason and I have been going out for a week and 4 days. We known each other for a couple of months and have been aquainted. Jason and I got in a fight the day before we broke up. He was on the phone with me and I told him my personal life and I began to cry too and he threw it in my face saying all this mean stuff. It left me so mad at him. You can't even imagine. Well on the 11th (next day) day he calls and he was all like "Hey what are you doing?" and I said "I am at my house.." I said it with an attitude because I was mad at him. Then he was like "I think we should just be friends..." I just hung up the phone. I have no idea why he broke up with me... I could not talk to him, I didn't want to. Then like 15min later he calls my cell on his friends phone and when I answer he hangs up! I was so mad and so sad. I know boys lie but somehow they make you believe their lie, He said I was the best thing that has ever happened to him and he loved me soo much and he wanted this realationship to last forever. Well...I believed it. I haven't talked to him since we broke up (dec. 5) and for some reason I really want to call him and talk but then again I think I don't want to but then I really do...do i make sense? But then my best friend told me the weirdest thing, she said that when we started hanging out as just friends, that he thought I was a ho or a slut (i wasn't supposed to know). And 1st of all I do not dress or act like one because, yo, I am the farest from being a slut and dude, he wouldn't have gone out with me if that was all that he was looking for. Because he knows me...everything almost. Should I call him? I really miss him...a lot. But he hasn't called me, not even once. I don't want to call him and feel like an idiot...srry 4 it being so long :)
Thanks :)
Forget this guy, he sounds like a real jerk. If he's THAT insensitive, then don't waste your time worrying about him! Believe me, you can do better. I'm sorry about him lying to you, and it isn't the first time you'll hear that little line--most guys will use it at some time or another--but there are tons of guys out there that ARE worth your time.
i am a female and i am 13. i really like this kid evan(male, 13). and we were at a party a couple of weeks ago and he was like hugging me a lot and flirting with me. i didnt like him then but when i was upset because the boy i did like, david kissed my best friend and i started crying and then evan started telling me i could do better than him and hugging me really tight and close to him. now i like evan, and my friend asked him if he would ever go out with me and he said no, which really confussed me cause we were friends and we always flirted in the hall but he wouldnt go out with me now? we arent in the same class but i see him alot in the hallways, i dont get it.. what can i do to get him to like me? im going to a party saturday and i really want to impress him.
First of all, make sure you really DO like this kid (Evan) and that he isn't just a replacement for David. When you're emotionally distressed, it's easy to just turn to someone who makes you feel better, even when you don't necessarily have those kinds of feelings for them. If you really do like Evan, then I would suggest talking to him. You can't always rely on what he says to someone else, so talk to him one on one and find out what's really going on.
As for the second part of your question, don't sacrifice who you are for the sake of a guy, EVER. Believe me, it isn't worth it--there are TONS of guys out there who will love you for who you are. Don't change for the ones who won't. Just be yourself! Good luck =)
my name is nicole ok i live in cali and im 15 years old me and my x like broke ^ like on monday i feel like soo tear a part i have been crying i dont know if i should go back with him i was like with him for like 8 months things dont feel the same because his not in my life right now i feel like some other girl could take my place he has been crying 2 so have i i dont know if i should move on or not should i take him back or give me more time can somebody please help me!!
That depends on WHY you broke up. I'm assuming you had a reason, right? Keep that reason in mind. If it's something that can be fixed, and is WORTH fixing, then maybe she should get back together. However, even though I know it isn't what you want to hear, sometimes you just need to move on. It's totally normal to be upset over your ex boyfriend, epecially when you went out for the length of time you two did...but time has a way of healing things. I know how you feel, but I promise things will get easier. For the time being, it may be best to distance yourself from him for awhile, until you start to feel better. Once you begin to get over him, it will be a lot easier for the two of you to rebuild your relationship..as friends.
My parent's are like, sexist. They won't let me hang out with boys. They think that I'm just going to go out and have sex with every boy I see. I tell them that all we're gonna do it hang out (which is true) but then they have to make up the excuss, "Honey we trust you, not the boys." Soo, what can I do to make them trust me?
They're just trying to protect you from getting into any trouble. A lot of parents go through that, especially if you're their first born child--I know mine did. Just show them that you're mature and responsible--do your chores without them telling you to. Get your homework assignments in on time. Once your parents see you can handle yourself responsibly, they're more likely to trust you.
any good colors for braces i am freaking here o yea i am a GIRL thanks xoxoxo
Well, that's just a matter of what colors you like...But might I advise NOT to get green (lol, it always bothers me because it looks like you have food in your teeth..)? Or white...white usually makes your teeth look less white, and they get stained faster than other colors. Just pick some colors you like =) They change them so often anyway, if you don't like it, get something new next time!
Lauren-
Im 15 and a gurl and here...read it for urself*
When BrBr comes back she wants to live in my back yard, should i let her...and r u gunna study for the Algebra 2 test? I dont care wat i get in Padron's class so im not gunna study...im barley gunna do the review HW*
Luv ya*
ME
Pssh, fuck no. BrBr is totally living in my backyard ;) lol
And yes, I studied for the Algebra II test..or at least, I tried. I just took it though, and it's hard. As usual the things I wasted my time studying (in this case, cube roots and such) WEREN'T on the test! Of course, the information I needed was then replaced my this now useless knowledge. Go figure...
ByeBye =)
How do you know when you're ready for another boyfriend? this is a no feelings for the ex situation...it's just another...do i want another one? I do miss the physical stuff and feeling like someone special is there for me. is that enough?
Yes, that's plenty. If you can deal with the emotional stress that can often come with having a boyfriend, then you're "ready" is what I would say. Just make sure you aren't having a boyfriend simply to have one. Don't rush into anything...the right person will come alone =)