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Well I'm an honest, down to earth girl who like's to have fun! currently I'm attending college and hope to graduate as a nurse in four years. I love helping people with any issue, giving advice to people who really need it makes me feel good and nice inside. I guess i would say that i can more relate to love/relationship, education, and family issues since I've gone through allot. so if you have any problem or just a quick question dont hesitate I'm here to help!

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i just got back from california and i saw my whole family on my dads side which is alot . including my bro. who i am in love w/ now thats all i think about . i mean he is so cute and perfect. is this normal ???
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Ok ewww your own brother!!! I don't care if he's your stepbrother come on girl he's your brother maybe its just hormones.. your just growing and it normal to have feelings for the opposite sex you just need to understand that thinking this way about your brother is not a good, and healthy thing to do. ok.. just go looking some more and you'll find someone more attracting and try to forget about your brother ok?? I don't want you committing incest or anything!

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My Ex boyfriend and I are pretty good friends, and I like being friends with him except it really walks on my last nerve when he flirts with my friend Abby. I don't like him that way; thats not even the point. It's that everytime I look at them their always flirting and poking each other and when he's around me it makes me feel like he uses me to get to her. Because he won't talk to me until he is away from her. That really pisses me off. You can't talk to him, or her because they won't listin. She's nutty and he's a crack. So how can I deal with this?

Don't be around them that much. if he's using you to get around her this will prevent him from seeing her as often. also you never know they might feel comfortable just cause your there maybe be if your not there,they'll get uncomfortable with each other you know cause then it will kind of be more then just a friend kind of setting. of course there's always the possibility they might end up going out or worse. maybe you should flirt with another guy in front of your ex. I'm pretty sure he'll feel the same way you do if the table was turned on him.

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This isent really a question, its more of a statement..Im from Canada, and over here we dont use AOL, which would explain why i dident know what aim was.
Back to my question..it doesnt matter to me, but I was just wondering why some people in here laugh at people when giving answers, I thought this was an advice colum.
So whats the deal with that, i personally dont care, however some people might take offence to it.

Its simple, cause there are many people who are rude, bored, stupid and don't know what else to do then put people down, especially people who are in dire need of real advise. i just think we need to ignore people like that and only acknowledge, the good people here who are here to give real, good, and honest advise to people who really need it. i try my best to be open minded and view all side to solving an issues so any one have a problem don't hesitate to ask for advise!

syireen!

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Ok I am a 17 year old female from nova scotia, and there is this guy i work with and i kinda like but hes new to the business but hes really nice to me and we friendly flirt. Everythings great, but the problem is i think he may be 2 years younger then me (not 100% sure) haven't asked him lol, but is it weird that i like a younger guy? Is this wrong, kinda confuzed cause i just got crushed from this other guy i liked so i dunno what to think. Thanks, i rate all 5's

depends is he taller then you? if he is and he seems mature for his age then i dont see a problem with dating him, if your that much attracted to him. dont let age get in the way of what can happen! lol go for it girl you never know he could be the one lol! jk!

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There is a guy who i've just recently became really good friends with this year. Last year he was in one of my classes and we barely talked, but this year we ended up being in four classes together and became really good friends. Plus I found out he lived three houses away from me and we hung out once in a while.

He has a crush on one of my friends, a cheerleader who told me she wasn't interested in him at all and thought he was annoying. He told me she was sending mixed signals, flirting with him then ignoring him. She wanted to hook him up with someone else so he would leave her alone. But she was too nice to tell him that, so she wanted me to hook up with him or at least find someone else to. I was like, wtf? I thought that she was being a little rude when she said that, especially trying to push my friend on me just because she didn't want him liking her.

The next day, he was asking me whether or not he had a chance with her and i debated between telling the truth or saying I had no idea, because on one hand, if i told the truth, he might move on and she wouldnt complain so much , but then I might hurt his feelings. But I finally told him to "get over it" because she thought his actions were annoying and she wanted to hook him up with someone else.

Is what I did right? He seemed a little upset when he heard that she wanted him to go out with someone else, but got over it quickly. I'm afraid I might have hurt his feelings though he didn't say it. Was what i did right? Or was I just meddling in someone else's business? Because if I didn't do anything about it, she would have been too nice to tell him to his face that she didnt like him and keep leading him on.

You did the right thing and no you weren't meddling cause he came to you and asked you what you thought you just simply told him what you knew. he'll get over it, and hopefully move on. don't beat your self up for it. the next time you see him don't mention about what you said pretend everything is normal, and if he brings it up just act casual try not make it seem like he's a loser say something like " don't worry about (the girls name) she's crazy she doesn't know what she wants" maybe even say something like "she doesn't know what she missing out on" you know try to make him feel a little better about himself and not embarrassed. then just change the subject.

Anyway if anything else happens and you need more advice on what to do just ask me!

syireen!

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My boyfriend is 24 and I'm 22 and we've been dating for at least 2 years. We love eachother dearly and are serious about one another. The only issue he and I occasionally discuss is religion. We do have a lot of the same morals however he's Christian and I was born into a sect of Hinduism, which I do believe in. Although we do respect and appreciate eachothers beliefs, I kinda get the feeling he wants me to convert. I really don't want to label myself something I'm not comepletely. Is it possible to have a healthy 'interfatih' relationship that works in the long run?!

Well for now no, but in the future and the longer you guys are together I'm sure the religion issue will come up. I mean I don't know if your thinking of marriage but usually Christians get married in a church and if you and your boyfriend love each other a lot you never know he might be thinking of the what if's of marring you. there are some people out there that get married in spite of religious differences but it depends differently on everyone. If say raising kids in a Christian type religion is important to him then you guys need to sit and talk ( this is only if you see you guys getting married) and talk about it. Other then that you cant do much else can you.

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me and my bf had sex for the first time the other night. it was great... but.... when he finished he pulled out and i dont know if the condom was too small or what. but "it" got all over... we were so scared. i wont get my period until the end of the month. do you think there can be a bad outcome. ps. i cant go to a gynocologist cuz my mom thinks im a virgin. well sorta. i was raped. adn she knows that. but not about this. what can i do. and is there a chance of anything bad happenign. please help. ill rate hella high.

Yes there is a possibility you could have a fertilized egg in you, BUT!! since you had sex last night you can still prevent getting pregnant by taking the morning after pill(the emergency contraceptive). Its a pill that prevent a fertilized egg from embedding in the uterus. any way its only effective if you use it with in 72 hours so you have three days but the sooner you take it the better. I'm pretty sure you can purchase it from any pharmacy, or even a family doctor. the good thing is your mom doesn't even have to know about it. doctors have an obligation not tell any one about it if you don't want any one to know.

As for the future if you and your boyfriend are going to be sexually active then id recommend going on birth control. its almost 99% sure that you wont get pregnant. its very unlikely you'll get pregnant if your on birth control, and on the plus side you don't need to wear a condom during sex if your on birth control again you can purchase birth control at your local pharmacy, and I also heard Wal-Mart?? I don't know but you should ask your doctor.

And always be safe
syireen

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15/f For the past 9 years i have been constantly bullied and since september 05 i have been homeschooled. the bullying was to much for me to handle it was literally every one! and no im not over reacting. if it was a few people i would of been able to deal with it but it was groups of people from each year in my school.
And i would sit in my classes with every one chanting names at me, dont get me wrong i often fired back with comments about there bad points but i felt so mean, im not the sort of person to bully or be nasty!

I was born with cleft lip and pallette and of course i had operations to correct it but i have a few scars and so on.
I used to get comments like.. fish lips, bulldog, lipricorn, half moon and so on and i still get them every now and again when i go out.

but now i have no friends what so ever except for the people i speak to online as all the friends i did have have now turned against me and joined in with the bullying!! YEH GREAT MATES RIGHT?? erm no.

The thing is i feel so ugly, i know im not ugly ugly but im not exactly pretty either and its getting me down! what can i do to give myself the confidence boost i need?

Kids can be so mean, and immature. A way you can boost confidence is to be around people that love you and don't put you down. Your old enough to wear makeup so go to a beauty shop and get your hair and make up done. I'm pretty sure beauty shops can also give you tips on how to put the right make up on you to make you look attractive. then when your all ready either go back to your school or ask your parents to transfer you to another school.

p.s. I don't know this for sure but doesn't Joaquin phoenix the actor in ladder 49, Johnny cash, and Gladiators, have or had a cleft lip. maybe it was remnants of one. either way he's hot, even with the scar.

just keep your head up!

syireen

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Ok im in a screwed up situation. Well there is me and this girl i have known since like september of 2002. OK we have been through our ups and down you know. ANd yeah i have tried hooking up with her but am giving up on that. Well me and her talk on messenger off and on or at least used to. But here lately when i say hey or whatever, soon as i put it and send it to her she say logs off. I talk to her sister cause me and her sister are good friends. And was talking to her sister and she had it online to her sister but offline to me. And this didnt happen til some boy named michael got in the picture and they started talking and going out. But her her sister and her mom are like second family to me. I have no problem with the sister and mom though. I went over to there house last weekend and helped them out you know they let me stay the night alot. And the bad thing is its like some of my other friends are sort of ignoring me to and truthfully i havent done nothing wrong. I been the same ole me and try to be nice. But i am tired of it and am honestly turning into an asshole. My questiong is, does she really care for me like a friend. And what should i do bout this cause its ticking me off.

I think she got the hint that maybe you liked her more than a friend and she's just trying to ignore you cause she doesn't feel the same way. unfortunately she not going about it right. next time you see her ask her what's going on and then tell her that she's been acting weird and demand a straight answer or you think your friendship will not last because of her sudden behaviour. she'll tell you what's up with her attitude.

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I broke up with my boyfriend about 4 months ago. Since about the week of our break up, I've been hanging out with one of his best friends, and we've become extremely close. I'm beginning to fall for him, and likewise... but whenever this happens, I change my mind. I like the challenge, but once the other person starts to have feelings for me too, I'm bored and don't like them anymore. I really don't want to do that this time... because I really care about him.
I'm afraid to have a relationship, because I know that, being the way I am, I'm going to ruin it and lose an amazing friend.
Help?

Then dont get into a relationship. there are plenty of girls out there that just date, but not get into a relationship. after a while of this you'll change and you'll wanta a real relationship, maybe even long term.

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hey! i,m 13 female and i want to say that i think my mom wishes she never had me because she often excludes me from stuff, she lies to me alone, she never spends time with me, and she told me herself that she cared about my brother and sister more and she told me that if i wasnt as smart as i am now that she wouldnt still be proud of me! i just want to know if i am just over looking things or does she really not like me? please help! 5's to good answers

wow! I don't think parent's know how much of an effect their word can do to pre teens. I'm thinking that she said this when she was mad. some people let there anger get the better of them to the point where they say such things. if those words are effecting you so much to the point where you really think she meant it, then you need to talk to her seriously I'm pretty sure she'll regret what she said and tell you she didn't mean it. but if not then talk to your dad about it, or even your siblings. they'll help you talk to your mom or they'll talk to her them selves.

hope things get worked out!
syireen

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17/female.

I've been in two relationships, and they've been great except there's always been something really tiny and pointless that I've dwelled on and thus never been able to be fully happy. I don't know what's wrong with me. For example, I'm with a wonderful guy right now but it really, really bothers me that he's not a virgin. I know this is really stupid because the past shouldn't matter, but I dwell on things. What can I do to stop thinking about these things and enjoy myself? Does anyone else find that stupid little things concern them in a relationship? I hate feeling this way!!

Thanks

I'm guessing your a virgin then, things like that probably are bothering you because you think in this context.

He's not a virgin=
-He's been with another woman intimately.
-Another woman had him first.

Try to think this way.

He's not a virgin=
-He'll know what he's doing when you guys do the deed.

- He's hot enough to want to be with you even though your a virgin( again I'm just guessing here).

The point is if this still bothers you tell him about it. you never know he might reassure you he wants you only or he might even say something cute like " baby I regret it cause your the only one I want to lose my virginity to" lol

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I find myself caring way too much about what other people say, especially when it comes to my family. Last night I cried myself to sleep because two of them had said something nasty about my boyfriend -- which I should be used to, since they've loathed my boyfriend from the day I met him four years ago and they've made no secret of it. I really can't go on like this, getting upset every time they say something nasty to me (not just about my boyfriend, anything). What are little tricks you can play with yourself so you don't care quite so much about what other people say?

When I get pissed I usually go against everyone head on. next time they say something mean confront them and show them your pissed. be like "what's your problem honestly" "what did he/or i do to you guys?" then if there still like that be like "you know what i don't even care what you guys think, I'll go out with who ever i want so get used to it" then go to your room and try not to cry. if you cant help it and you need to cry don't let them hear you, and talk to God remember he's the only one who understands you the most. keep telling your self you don't care what they think. eventually your family are going to see that their words don't effect you they'll decrease the mean remarks. remember it takes energy to be mean and nasty they have to except him eventually i mean if you've been together for that long I'm sure you love him which means he's not going any where.

hope things get better
syireen

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You when you search for something on google and then you go back another time to search for something else, it saves and as your typing guesses what you be searching for. how do i get rid of all the prevous searches I have done?

press the down arrow and press delete to all of the serches you've made.

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Alright I'm 15 and I'm a male. My girlfriends birthday is comming up really soon & she won't tell me what she wants for her birthday. I have no idea what I should get her. She's going to be 14. If anyone can give me some ideas it'd be greatly appreciated. I'll rate you on it too. I really need some help. Thanks

if your rich an ipod nano lol!! or some jewellery, or massage gift certificate

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over a period of time about 6 months i have become infatuatated with my colleugues wife. whenever i go to her house to see my collegue i keep staring at her. some times i feel she is also doing the same some times.i have definiteky seen her doing the same. I am 45yrs old happily married.she is about 40.I have a hunch that she wants me to make a move but i am not sure.i want to to take minimum of risk as the consequences are too much to bear.on other hand i feel a fling for a short time is not bad as we only live once.please help me


All I have to say is secrets always get exposed eventually in the end. its not worth it, even if she's so hot, think of your wife, kids (if applicable), and your self. you'll not only start to feel guilty everyday, but things will get complicated in your life, and when people usually decide to have a fling it sometimes leads to something more. don’t put your life, and dignity at stake, and don’t risk hurting your wife. besides you must only be feeling this because your sex life might not be where you want it to be. discuss it with your wife. get some spice into your own marriage and you maybe wont be interested in the other woman after.

good luck
syireen

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I have a crush on this boy at my school. The problem is I am not seen as the most attractive girl at my school (okay I am just down right ugly!) and my crush and I are both of different races. What should I do? Because I really like this boy (I am a girl by the way) and I want him to make the first move so I do not make a fool of myself.

There is no way your gonna get with this guy unless you gain some confidence. I dont think you should think of your self as "down right ugly" that right there tells me you feel sorry for your self by calling you self that, trust me every ones shy when it comes to crshes. you have to at least try to talk to him about any thing use an excuss like "what time is it?" its simple and a little lame but at least you did something to start a conversation. it will be up to him to continue it.

As for your apperance if you really find your self ugly. try some make up, skin products, or a diffrent hair style. but i really dont think you could be "down right ugly"

Take care
syireen

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i recently got limewire.. what are some good songs to download??

i like most stuff from screamo to pop

&& some of my favorite bands are hellogoodbye, box car racer, underoath, panic! at the disco and stuff like that

thankss

wow i've never even heard of those bands, but im guessing there rock, or alternative

here are some songs i have on my lime wire playlist.

*Bedouin soundclash- when the night feels my soul
*vertical horizon- your just the best ive ever had
*three doors down- love me when im gone
*Sum41- peices
Here are some hip hop/dance if your intrested..
*50 cent- im a hustler
*Ashanti- only you
*ATB- its a fine day
*Kanye west- tuch the sky
*Kernkraft- Zombie nation
*Tyrese- signs of love making
*Sean Paul- ever blazing

I have so much more but i cant think of them right now any way hope you like some of these their varied cause i love all types of songs.

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Ok, this question is what i'd probally call an original.

its actually quite simple

a while back i was dating this black kid ( and i saw black bc this was a main problem )and he was freidns with my brother, and so he was over my house often, and my mother knew him

we started going out, things progressed, and my mother found out, she said things like he just wanted to get in my pants, hes a street kid, he doesnt' get good grades, and alot more things, but even though my motehr said she wasn't racist i felt she was ( she also said that my rep could get ruined )

i didn't really care what people thought bc i loved him, but eventually he moved away, and i had a rough time

main point : my mother ( finally ) bought me thongs in the summer 05 =]

i likeed thmm alot and everything, but my mother ''heard stores'' about me and him, and then one day she came in my room and took them..

at first i was confused, and i still am
she NEVER told me why she took them.which made me extremley pissed

its been MONTHs now, and i even asked for them back probally 2 months ago..and she said no!

it really pisses me off, its hard to explain

do you think theres a way to get my mother to give them back? its hard to konw bc i don't know why she took them
anything would be apprecited though

thanks in advance

I for one have to diagree with the person below me i mean my god! what mistake did you make? (going out with a black boy?)come on whats the problem with that? if my parnets found out i was dating a black guy they wouldn't give a shit what his color was they'd give a shit that i was going with a guy in general maybe if your mom dosn't want you dating in generel then i would probley understand. as for your thongs just get new ones unless your not working in that case i'd sneak in her room and look every where untill i found them then take em and where them for god sakes there just underwear! sorry for being blunt but seriously your mom cant seriously think by you wearing thongs that your gonna go and fuck black guys all the time!!

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hey i need some help...i have the mass of both a solid and a liquid, and i need to find the volume. is there a formula for this? what is the formula and how exactly do i use it. thanks in advance

m=n/M

m- mass
n-moles
M-molar mass

i dont exactly know if thats a chemistry question but i remember using this formula mostly in chemistry in grade 11.

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