I've dealt with a lot of stuff. Suicide, abuse, and that girl that's only like 13 and not a virgin. And tons more. I really enjoy getting questions from people, but if you just want to talk for no or any reason, or want a more personal answer, I like it even better when people e-mail me. I'm cool with any topic. I get on my email/ site at least once a week.
P.S: sorry for what looks like bad spelling/ grammar, but really I just have a realllly bad touchscreen. sorry!
E-mail: divergirl123_1@aol.com
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My mother is currently in jail for a financial crime for eight months. I have no problem with my mother and She was a good mother. Before this misdeed though I am wondering if now it might be hypocritical for me to listen to her now that she is a criminal. One thing I wonder is how being in jail will change her. Obviously spending eight months there would change you somewhat. I mean now that my mom is a criminal and will be surrounded by other criminals for eight months. I've talked to her on the phone and she seems the same but I still wonder. One positive that may come from this, maybe she will go easier on me. Though that could be a bad thing I guess (link)
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Have you ever whatched the show, 'Beyond Scared Straight'? I'm not positive what kind of financial crime your mother was convicted of, butI really wouldn't worry too excruciatingly much. Yes, it will definately change her, how? No idea. For some, they never enen lie again. Others, however, need a little more of a push. But I highly doubt she's bunking with the 1st degree murderers.
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Ok.14/F Well, for the last couple of weeks I've kind of been down. I went through terrible bullying my 7th grade year and I will be a 8th grader next year.I was tortured that whole year by a girl who said I really just want to kill her and what I thought were my best friends who always made me a second choice for everything. Well, I went to counseling for 8 months and I was cured from my chronic depression and I was happy again, but Yes i do think I'm not the smallest person because I have shape I think that I'm not pretty and I get called "emo" a lot because my hair is short and I get called annoying to be around because I act myself around basically everyone but I personally don't think of myself as beautiful even though I tell a lot of people themselves that they are beautiful. People and friends think I'm beautiful and I have a great personality but I worry about what others think too much but I am confident about my personality but I don't have many friends I could probably count them on one hand but I feel like I need a answer. Help? (link)
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I love you. No,not quite like that,--I'm a girl--but in the sense that you are so brave. I have depression, and I know how you might be feeling. I wish I could meet you. (by the by, I have sorty short hair, too! and it's chic and cool!and it's purple...) You are an amazingly amazing person. thats a fact. emo? It means emotional. Not, 'oh I hate the world!'. People need to understannd that, and also that you are beautiful, and the person who's not beautiful, is the anorexic super-popular diva that's probably already lost her v-card. (just going off eighth grade clichès)
:) hope I helped.
“life is like a box of chocolates.” And even though you might not know it yet,maybe while God's giving everyone the chocolate covered pinnapple, he's secretly saving the strawberry one for you. unless you dont like strawberry. Then he's just saving a sepcial chocolate, for you.
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ive been with my boyfriend for 10 months now and he isn't a virgin but i am. and i wanted to know that he really loves me and he didn't just want to get in my pants so i decided not to give it up to him in the beginning. now we're at 10 months and i feel like sometimes i wanna give it up to him and sometimes i don't because im scared that im gonna regret it. my real problem is that im scared that he's gonna leave me or have sex with someone else because hes waited so long without having sex (link)
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Someething tells me that is you can't even capitalize your i's,you shouldn't have sex. But honestly, if he's had sex before, he probably gave that last girl the same talk and then dumped her.Trust me, save it for the wedding night.
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Soo...im 13, and my boyfriend is 14. We have been dating.for 5 months, and he wants to now become 'sexually active'. I do too its just that i know its not right. And its not him...its my body. I would love to become active with him...but, idk what to do during it. Help?!?? (link)
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Don't. Just Don't. think of it this way, you're in your late 20s, you're on your honeymoon, then your husband says, 'did I just take your virginity?', and you say no! You may not think of it, but that kind of thing is very downgrading.
also, you're only 13!! ask him if he's had sex yet. see what he says. whether he says yes or no, it's still bad. if he says yes, it means that he has told other girls before that he wants to be with them forever and/ or loves them and has manipulated them!! if he says no, just tell him it's wrong.
But, should you be a complete idiot/ slut and ignore my advice and anyone's who says don't do it and throw your life away, please, use a condom.
I am 13, too, so I know what you're doing. you'll regret it.
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i am a 20 yr girl,i love him very much but he dnt,he always ignore me,abuse,ambaressed me...we also had physical relation,i knw him from past 6 years,what shud i do,i want to forget him. (link)
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If you want to forget him so much, then forget him. Go out with friends, to the movies, to the mall, whatever it takes! Have a life that doesn't involve that guy! Oh, and if you do go to the mall, buy a dictionary.
:) scottishgal1
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hello,
i am seema sharma. i am 26. i have skin problem. actually i am getting a lot of pimple on my face and i have taken many treatment from skin clinic. but there is no use of them. and because of this problem nobody is liking me so what to do. if u can advice me then plzzzzzzzzzzz give me good advice.
thanks
seema sharma
seemashrm107@gmail.com (link)
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Don't be afraid to ask your doctor about it, I asked mine (I have really bad acne) and I got probably the best subscription ever! Don't buy random cosmetics, they might not work for your skin and dry it out, or worse, add on to the problem. Your doctor will subscibe a formula made for your skin type. hope that helps!
:) scottishgal1
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I have hazel-colored eyes and I was wondering what colors would make them look more green? (link)
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I agree, earthy colors.
gold, gold brown. not orange gold, that would be over doing it. but a dark or classic gold works, and pair it with a light nude lipgloss.
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I am 17 year old female. I have been dating this kid for about 4 years off and on now. I have came to find that he was skyping with this guy and he masturbated on camera for this guy and he didn't tell me about it, but I found out by going through his ipad. I confronted him about it and he got mad cuz i went through his stuff. Then the next day he told me that he did and he was really sorry about it and he didn't like it at all whn he was doing it. That he just wanted to know if he was into guys or not, he told me he isn't and he knows it for sure now. But i still have thought that he maybe into guys and doing things just by the way he acts and things he says. Please help me. What do i do?? (link)
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Um, yeah. Break up with him. Anyone can see if theyre gay by, I dont know, maybe just looking at 'you know what' pictures? but the fact that he masturbated for a complete stranger? yeah, not to be ppresuming, but I think he's lying. sorry :/
:) scottishgal1
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Tankinis Are A Fantastic Way To Go To The Beach In Style!!!
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Yes, yes they are, but I'm not entirely sure you understand this site. people, anonymous or otherwise, post questions (not advice) and us members post answers to those questions in reply.
:) scottishgal1
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Hey y'al ! =) So for an art project this semester, we have been asked to create a website of anything you want but it has to be to do with art. So its practically a free project as long as it ties in with art. We werent given a website maker or anything so I had to find my own. I used weebly.com and I would like you all to visit my website to let me know what you think =) Thanks!
www.744autumn.weebly.com
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Cute and simple, but if you want it to stand out, use a little color.
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Hi im a 15 year old guy from London.i barely know this girl but i really like her!she knows i want to get with her and at a party last night she said she didnt really want to but might another time.the main reason i like her is that at our age all our friends go out and get drunk every week..but she refuses to because she'll regret it later in life.i have so much respect for her because i dont drink either and the pressure is crazy especially for girls.she seems really down to earth and has the nicest eyes ive ever seen(like mila kunis).i really want to go out with her and if i did i would let her know how smart,brave and beaytiful she is...all i want to know is how to get her to like me back? I would be the best boyfriend ever (link)
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Oh, this will work, trust me.
next time you guys get asked to go out, decline, and make sure she declines, too. Then when you'r alone, say,
'Hey, since our friends our going out and being stupid, would you like to go to the movies with me? And maybe get something to eat?'
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Ohkayy . So as you know Valentines Day is on Thursday. Well I want to get my boyfriend a gift.... But i'm clueless of what to give him : / . He's a teenage boy, to be specific he's 17 years old... He says he dosen't care what i give him but still... I dnt want to buy him socks or bake him cookies or something like that, like dude no. I know for sure i'm giving him a card but what else ??? Help pleasee !! (link)
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wow.. I haven't been on here for awhile, so I'm a little rusty, but Give him a card, and maybe rent a movie that you can both watch together. (a romantic one, but scarey. like a spider-man level romance, not twilight. spiderman.)
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I have 2 guys I know stuff has happened witht them, Not what you think but stuff has happened and we flirt all the time and drink together and hangout at kickbacks. Well Im interested in both and one night we all said were friends. Im 18 and there 19,20,21 around those ages. Do you think it was the right move I shouldve done or could I be friend zoned? We still flirt but idk help! (link)
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yay you're the first person to ever ask me a question. well, anyway, back to the point. You made the right move. Always be friends first. Not exactly from childhood, but at least for a while. If these guys are interested, they'll probably go for it. But please only choose one, otherwise they might fight, and then everyone will be out of the 'friend zone'. Good luck, and you seem like a nice person, so hopefully you'll find someone nice. thank you. :)
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24f. I did something ridiculously stupid, I'm furious with myself for following the urge... I went and explored my boyfriend's messages on facebook. I have no suspicion of him cheating on me, I trust him completely, and I expected to find nothing.
Thinking logically, now, I really did find nothing. On-line flirting is not a crime in my mind, nor does it count as cheating. I don't believe in "emotional cheating," nor am I concerned about him doing this and causing problems within our relationship. We both have many friends of the opposite sex, and are both pathological flirts, really. Granted, I flirt to get what I need out of people (yes, I manipulate people, but I'm a patient advocate. Sometimes I have to build quick rapport with people in order to get them to help me help my patients) and he seems to just... flirt. Granted, he loves the validation, and I understand that, being aware of his history and how tough it's been for him. Knowing with all my heart and soul that he loves me deeply, and that I am the one he wants and wants to come home to, I don't have a problem with this.
Most of the time.
Sometimes I do feel like I have a problem with it, and when I see flirty messages with a random girl, it gets to me a little. I try very hard not to let it, but sometimes my emotions overrule my logical brain, which I despise. Logically, I know I should just let myself feel, talk it out with him, and ease my mind. But then I'd have to admit to him that I saw the messages - which is my own stupid fault in the first place. I'm not even going to pretend I wasn't snooping. I was.
What the heck is wrong with me?
I HATE girls like this. But I don't believe ignorance is bliss, either. I think what upsets me the most is that it's behind my back. He was messaging her from MY apartment while I was busy working from home. But I'd never have known had I not done the stupid girl thing and read his messages. He does things like leave his facebook up and his phone out because he trusts me not to be one of those crazy jealous girlfriends and "check up" on him - and normally I'm not. I don't know, maybe I just wanted to know what he'd been up to lately, since we've both been very busy.
I feel like I'm being irrational. Mind, I still don't think he's actually doing anything with this girl or anyone other than myself. But why am I so upset from having found flirty messages when it's my fault I found them in the first place?
Someone please give me some insight, here... (link)
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You have absolutely no reason to be upset with yourself. Hello, its facebook! Anyone could have seen it. You're not being 'nosy'; you're being normal. Unless his page was private and not opeen to everyone, then he couldn't possibly get mad with you.
Also, if you're his 'friend' on facebook, he should be expecting the fact that you would look at his page. Don't be so hard on yourself.
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Bff's that what i thought me and my friends were, me and my ex-best friend had been friends for 3-4 years we were really close told each other everything and never lied to each other. recently i fund out that she has been spreading rumors about me and lying to my face about everything in a journal i found in her room she wrote i want a new best friend. After all this i told her i don't want to be friends now should i still keep her secrets or get revenge by spilling her secrets like she did with mines
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dont. please dont. trust me, Im going through the same exact thing right now. just dont be her friend, and, Im searious, dont tell everyone her secrets for revenge, It'll just snap back at you. im sorry, good luck.
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What cute nickname could i give my boyfriend? (link)
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hmm.. well I dont really know what he's like, is he shy outgoing, or what? i guess the best thing would be just to give him your own nickname, dont ask people who dont even know him. :) sorry if I sounded harsh I didnt mean to, just give him a nickname from a funny experience with him or another moment, thats what most people do, good luck. :)
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I've been feeling so down and so lonely for a while. I'm not the kind of girl that likes to express my feelings with people only cause I really don't want to worry them. I'd rather keep everything to myself. I don't think it's working cause it only makes me
feel more and more down each day. at first I started off with feel down, then i started to stay up late thinking, now I just wanna cry at random times of the day but I hold everything in cause I don't want to worry anyone and I cry myself to sleep a lot of the times. it's only gotten worse. I honestly think I should talk to someone but I just can't /.\ whenever I'm around people I always act like I'm alright but when I'm by myself I just cry a little , any advice would be great ? thanks /.\ (link)
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(NOT trying to be rude here.) well, if you can talk to several hundred stangers about it, I am almost certain you can find someone! :) best friends are usually the best. I used to have your problem, but I pushed it aside with... wait for it... happiness! I know it sounds cheesy, but hey, its true. invite some people to go bowling or something like that. if you're having family issues and want to get out of the house, go on a bike ride or long walk, trust me, I think that'll help. but If Im completely wrong and you hate bowing and walking and bike riding, just go out and have fun. :)
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So it started with me learning how to drive a month or so back. My mom didn't want to have to teach me so even though I said I could get somebody else to teach me for free she paid $550 to a local driving company. I begged her not to because that's a lot of money but she did it anyways. Well it consisted of like 5 lessons being taught to me in a dodge charger but 5 two hour lessons really isn't enough to make somebody who's never driven before a pro and he didn't teach me everything I needed to know for the test.
So then my mom had to teach me the rest in her Mazda Protege 5 which handles everything completely different so it was a lot like starting over. Well now it's like a month later and I'm getting really good at driving. I've practiced the DMV driving test a lot but I'm still not 100% confident.
Today she came home and screamed "I'M SICK OF WAITING FOR YOU TO TAKE IT, THIS IS RIDICULOUS!" So I called them and set up the test for Friday.
So I did that and then she asked me if she needed to have proof of insurance and I told her yes. Then she asked me again and I told her yes again and she screamed at me telling me to call the DMV and ask them so I told her I got the answer off of the DMV website to which she freaked out and called me a "self righteous f*cking b*tch". I ignored the comment rather than argue with her and called the driving facility that gave me the lessons originally and told them that I had a few questions about the test and to call me back when they could. She overhead me and said that I should write down the questions. I didn't think it was a big deal and I know exactly what I want to ask them as I'd been thinking about it for a while so I told her "It's okay I'll remember them." then she went on a screaming rant saying threatening to kick me out and calling me a "worthless failure" and saying that I would never get a job because everybody hates teenagers because everybody knows we're all just "f*ck ups" and that we would all become disgusting homeless people and she would laugh and point at me and she couldn't wait for it to happen.
Which is BS because I have 2080 volunteer hours and at least a dozen awards and people always tell me how amazing and compassionate I am.
Then she found out how much the driving license cost and she freaked out and got mad and threatened that if I didn't pass the first time that I would be in a lot of trouble and on top of that she said that she was not going to help pay for my car insurance so I better have some other idea on how to get around.
Which doesn't make sense. Why is she so obsessed with me getting my license if she isn't even going to allow me to drive the only car we have?
She knows I've been looking for a job every single day for months and I've filled out a ton (like 250) applications yet she says all I do is sit around and sleep all day. Which is also untrue. I wake up at 7am everyday to get to applications before other people swarm them yet she still gets pissed off at me and screams at me all the time.
I'm so ready to take off with one of my guy friends and never speak to her again.
I'm sick of her constant threats and insults and she's always screaming at me to give her money that she knows I don't have and saying that she's going to take my paycheck when I get a job so basically I'll be stuck here forever catering to her every whim and giving her all of my money.
I think she was just being really over the top. You don't threaten to kick somebody out for something like that.
Do you think I should prepare a plan to leave and just get out? I can't take this anymore! I'm 18 and I want to start my own life not have to live off of hers. (link)
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of course not! you didnt deserve ANY of that. she's pushing you aroubd acting b-tchy and here you are, a person who -sounds- amazing!! keep looking for jobs and take the test and get a 100%. show her you can run your own life, not just sit in the back seat. good luck.
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I turned 18 in june I am an adult I'm a female. I am currently living at home with my parents n siblings and attending a community college. I'm tired of my parents and me n my mom aren't getting along. I really just want to leave now and run away to some place but I need to know a few places that would be best to go too? I have about 4,000 dollars and I just wanna go somewhere and not go back home.so any ideas where I can run away and disappear too? (link)
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um... youre 18. just go to colledge far away and you'll be fine.
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Alexa/13
I was talking with my best friend about my boyfriend and told her that I had sex with him and that the condom broke. She then said I was becoming a slut and that she was gonna ask my mom to get me help. I was so upset and dont kno why she would say that she made me cry. Why would she say that? It really hurt my feelings and now she wont talk to me. (link)
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psh. you wanna know why? 'cause you are one. your 13! its just sad. i hope you rethink your life and make some better choices.
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