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who can I talk to when I feel like I don't have anyone? /.\
I've been feeling so down and so lonely for a while. I'm not the kind of girl that likes to express my feelings with people only cause I really don't want to worry them. I'd rather keep everything to myself. I don't think it's working cause it only makes me
feel more and more down each day. at first I started off with feel down, then i started to stay up late thinking, now I just wanna cry at random times of the day but I hold everything in cause I don't want to worry anyone and I cry myself to sleep a lot of the times. it's only gotten worse. I honestly think I should talk to someone but I just can't /.\ whenever I'm around people I always act like I'm alright but when I'm by myself I just cry a little , any advice would be great ? thanks /.\
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Heey, listen its normal for things like that to happen, for example being fine around others then the minute your alone you burst into tears! The only reason this is is because youre distracted when your around mates or other people in general! Email me if you want to talk, im really good at advice like this, im only 13 but the amount of things i have been through i know how to handle with things like these, my email is swimmingstar18@hotmail.com I wont judge or anything, im a trustworthy person! Theres nothing to worry about! Look if you dont feel like talking to anything plug your head phones into your ipod or even phone put it on loud and block out the world, theres several things you can do while listening to music, for me i find music really helps! Try going on a run or a bike ride but be careful if your going in the dark, make sure you have lights! Or even write out things into a note book with a lock on it! But never ever attempt suicide or self harm, i did self harm and i wake up every morning looking at the scars and thats one of the first thing people notice about me! Just please email me and i will give you some advice!
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(NOT trying to be rude here.) well, if you can talk to several hundred stangers about it, I am almost certain you can find someone! :) best friends are usually the best. I used to have your problem, but I pushed it aside with... wait for it... happiness! I know it sounds cheesy, but hey, its true. invite some people to go bowling or something like that. if you're having family issues and want to get out of the house, go on a bike ride or long walk, trust me, I think that'll help. but If Im completely wrong and you hate bowing and walking and bike riding, just go out and have fun. :)
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I agree with you about not expressing your feelings with people I use to do it too, actually im pretty quiet myself in school an stuff but, trust me it only makes you feel worse. You remind me of me when I use to cry myself to bed it was horrible. The best way I fixed it was by getting use to whatever is bothering you cause Im pretty sure your going through something that upsets you and keeps you up at night. maybe stop staying up late it may cause you to be in a weird. I know you said you dont wanna worry anyone but your going to someday(:
Hope I helped(:
Email me if you still can't talk to anyone(:
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I think I know how you feel. There are just times you need to talk, to get things out of your system. You need to talk to someone who will hold your confidence and not belittle you as we parents sometimes do, unfortunately.
The person that best fits this description is a trained therapist, probably a psychologist. If you are under 18 and still living at home then you need to speak to one of your parents to make the initial appointment for you.
The best way to go about this is just the way you told us. If your a female I would add to assure your parent you are not pregnant as this is the first thing that pops into the head of a girls parents. So just tell them you feel the need to see a therapist to work out some personal problems as your are feeling depressed. Depressed and down are the same but depressed will have more impact on your parents.
Finding a therapist you are comfortable with sometimes takes going through more than one or two therapists until you find one you are comfortable in telling your deepest darkest secrets two. Your therapist is going to be you best friend in that way. For everything you say in therapy stays in therapy. Especially if you are over 14 years of age. Everything that is said in therapy stays in therapy.
Lets say for example something at home is bothering you. Your therapist might suggest inviting your parents to a therapy session. Your therapist will be there to support you and help you explain to your parents what it is at home that is bothering you and what can be done to fix it. But only that problem will be discussed with them and nothing else. You are in control, if you don't want a joint session it doesn't happen.
Your parents can ask what is going on but as far as specifics of therapy they cannot be told as it is confidential. Only you can authorize release of information and it must be in writing as to who can have access to what is happening in therapy.
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There comes a time where you have to go talk to someone. I admit I use to be all about keeping it in and not talking to anyone. And then one day I would end up breaking down because I was holding everything in. You should talk to someone...maybe like a therapist or maybe an adult that you trust. It's better to say something than to hurt in silence. You will never find the solution to your problem if you don't ask for help. Good luck and I hope you feel better!
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You don't have a parent? aunt? uncle? cousin? If your family members aren't around.. you could always talk to a school counselor! They're in school to help people just like you! Start off slow.. but eventually you'll feel better. =]
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Try to make close friends , and just find a way to entertain yourself like go out with your friends. In fact this is somehow normal i personally feel lonely sometimes even though i have many friends , so cheer up and enjoy life.
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