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How does being in jail change a person?
My mother is currently in jail for a financial crime for eight months. I have no problem with my mother and She was a good mother. Before this misdeed though I am wondering if now it might be hypocritical for me to listen to her now that she is a criminal. One thing I wonder is how being in jail will change her. Obviously spending eight months there would change you somewhat. I mean now that my mom is a criminal and will be surrounded by other criminals for eight months. I've talked to her on the phone and she seems the same but I still wonder. One positive that may come from this, maybe she will go easier on me. Though that could be a bad thing I guess
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I know someone that went to jail. And it wasn't quite 8 months, but what he told me was that being in jail changed him by forcing him to reflect on himself, who he was and his choices. For him it caused him to see that he was going down the wrong path and that change was needed. Also that he thought a lot about what was important to him. He said that there were a few bad people in there with him but it was mostly just good people caught in a bad situation or that made a bad decision in life. You can't judge all the people in there because they have made a bad decision. We've all made bad decisions, some worse than others, its just that some people haven't been caught.
As far as her going easier on you, from a mother's perspective, if I were her, I wouldn't go easier. (just my personal opinion) I'm not sure how old you are, but, I would not want my kids to go down the road that I did, especially if it included jail time. It really is a bad place to be. And when you get out you can't get a job, apartment, loans..it effects everything. So if she doesn't go easier then take it in stride, she's just being a mom.
I know that you must feel betrayed and pretty horrible that your own mom did something like this. She knows that she did something wrong, she's doing her time for it, I'm sure the last thing she would want is for her family to turn against her, or rub it in. Support is important in a time like this. I really don't think that listening to her would be hypocritical either because this is something that you can take in and learn from. I've gotten plenty of "what not to do" stories from my mom. And just because she did something stupid in the past, i don't think any less of her.
Anyways, these are just my thoughts, I hope some of it helps. Best wishes to you and your family <3
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Have you ever whatched the show, 'Beyond Scared Straight'? I'm not positive what kind of financial crime your mother was convicted of, butI really wouldn't worry too excruciatingly much. Yes, it will definately change her, how? No idea. For some, they never enen lie again. Others, however, need a little more of a push. But I highly doubt she's bunking with the 1st degree murderers.
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