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I told him in a short way that i needed to know how he felt .. He told me he never wants a relationship , and to drop the feelings i have for him ... So i acted very quite the last time i seen him and like he looked upset and sad about something .. and than now hes wanting to see me .. Ugh what should i do ?

Just see him I think he's taking your feelings seriously. He probably wants to be with you just do what he says. If he asks you if you want to hang out then hang out with him. If he asks you out then say yes. You have to know if he is interested in you. The only way you will find out is if he takes action. Don't talk to him first let him talk to you. Then once you give him the freedom to choose he will decide on whether he wants to be in a relationship with you or not.

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I'm a girl. I dated this guy for a month and then hey broke up with me for some other girl. He also did this to the girl he broke up with me for. Recently my friend and him have been going to the movies and hanging out and flirting. It really hurts and I just got over him after 4 months. He will not talk to me? She's not really my friend I acctually don't really like her she gets annoying. I deleted his number and deleted him off facebook because I could not stand him writing about her . I also deleted his number. What should I do?

Tell your friend that you don't feel comfortable with her flirting with your ex. By all means, she should understand. If any friend was to flirt with an ex it's against the rules of anything. She should know not to flirt with him and if she ends up dating him and you don't like that then you shouldn't be friends with her anymore. Tell your friend that your not over your ex and that you still have feelings for him. They can talk still if you want them too but really she shouldn't be flirting.

Hope my advice helped!

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Me and my boyfriend have been friends since 3rd grade and we started dating since 8th grade we are about to graduate high school and he wants to get married. We both have refused to have sex with each other because we do not wanna risk are relationship with a baby . I really don't know what's best for him and for us . if you were me and you didn't Want anyone else what would you do .

You should probably wait till you both graduate high school because having sex before you graduate and have to go to college is probably not a good idea. Take the chance and wait... you want to enjoy it with him. Sex is a big thing and you want to feel ready for it and comfortable with the other person. Every girl is afraid of getting pregnant unless they want to get pregnant. Don't feel that you have to have sex so soon. It will be best for you and him if you wait, especially if you both are going to get married. Hope you enjoy it with him :)

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13, female
So there's a guy... He's 16 and he doesn't have a girlfriend. I think he's really cute. We see eachother at parties and there was a party yesterday, and of course there was music, so we danced together to bachata. It was nice, but I guess I should've talked to him more while we were so close together. It could've been the perfect time to talk to him.(NOTE: he doesn't make fun of me or anything like that.) One thing I don't get is that he flirts with me once in a while even though he doesn't have feelings for me.

Anyways, I know he doesn't like me, but I really want to tell him that I like him, just so he knows and so I don't have to be so sneaky all the time. Should I tell him? How do I tell him?

Thank you to everyone who answers! Even if you think your answer won't help, please write it down there!

I dont think you should make the first move. If he's interested in you in the first place he would talk to you. Don't tell him you like him he doesn't have to know. Unless you want to be an easy girl for him?

My advice is to keep it a secret. Tell your friends you like him. But don't be so easy to get with this guy. Just because you like him doesn't mean you need to pursue him. That's the man's job. If you end up making the first move you could get hurt. So do what a girl's gotta do...make him come to you :)

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My boyfriend and i have been dating for almost a year. He always would rather play games and hang out with his friends with me. But yet when im not around he goes out of his way to hang out with other girls and then says there just teases so i have nothing to worry about. What does he mean by their just TEASES???? And how do i get him to be more interested in me then them?? All you guys out there plz give me your insights. thankyou

Give him all your love. Don't show that your jealous. He should be interested in you more than ever. Be nice to him give him compliments. Guys have feelings to you know. Maybe he just doesn't feel important to you right now or he's not committed fully who knows? I think once you show him your love he will return that love and hopefully give all his attention on you. If you love someone you sometimes get love in return. Maybe after he starts giving you a lot of attention play hard to get and be a challenge so he can be even more interested. You know you would like that more than ever right?! Good luck with him :)

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Is love worth fighting for. Its just things are really tense right now and I'm not sure if I should go through all the stress for this or if I should just give it time and let things settle down. Opinions???

I think it is if you really love that person and they matter to you. But usually the guy should fight for the girl because guys are the hunters and pursuers. Guys like it when you fight for them...kinda. But if a guy is in love he will move mountains to get to her and be with her. That should make you feel loved more than anything.

The only way I wouldn't fight for love is if that person didn't love me. And if that person loved someone else than I know I lost my battle :(

Once you know you can't live without him, your gonna fight for him because the last thing you want is to lose him. Hope this is good enough :)

But to answer your question yes love is the best feeling in the world and everyone in the world wants to be loved and to love someone. Why shouldn't you?

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Ok sp this nerd at my school likes me his friend told me and hes in every class of mine, and he stares at me all the time! he is wierd I don't mean to sound me but fat and red cheeks little wierd round glasses and he crossed his legs in his chair like a girl also he crys all the time! well he just gets on my nerves staring litteraly all the time and I can't help it I know its mean but I always look at him and roll my eyes then tell my friends that he likes me and stuff and I am always huffing and rolling my eyes at him what do I do he is such a wierdo!!:( I hate saying that but I can't help it! a lot of times to he smiles at me when I am not looking and my friends tell me when he does! but gosh he is so annoyingggg please help! Thanks! :D

Pretend like hes not even there. Just focus on your classes and your friends. The more you look and see him staring the more annoyed you will get with this nerd. He's probably really shy and nervous to come up and talk to you because he thinks your pretty or something. Be glad he doesn't talk to you and annoy you because that will only make things worse for you. He will have to stop sometime and if he doesn't ask your teacher what you should do. Maybe she can switch your guys seats up so he's looking at someone else. Teachers are very helpful with these kinds of things so don't be afraid to ask them. Or try talking to your counselor for more help. Everything should be alright just don't worry about it!

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I was with my ex for two months tomorrow; and he broke up with me yesterday; he doesn't have a valid reason. All he says is he doesn't feel as strong for me, as I do for him, adn he doesn't think it will work out.

We are always happy around each other; he said when things are great, they are really great; but when there bad, they are really bad. We've had two major fights, about his ex Marissa, and thats cause he did stuff he shouldn't have.

It just hurts so bad; I try hangin with friends to get my mind off of it, but it doesn't work. Last night, I couldn't let my mom leave me, I didn't want ot be alone, so i slept with her; it just seems like its getting worse and worse. All I do is cry.

btw, 18 femalee.

I'm really sorry and I feel your pain. But you guys just broke up yesterday your pain is going to feel the strongest now. You can't fight it because it's really powerful. You just lost someone you love. It's really tough to get over someone. I've been there and I'm sure many girls in the world have been where you are at. You need to cry for at least 3 days. You can't be over him in one day or even tomorrow. They say however many months you went out with someone it takes half of the months to get over someone. So if you went out for 6 months it should take 3 months to get over them. Your gonna cry for awhile and thats normal. Try getting out of the state to feel better. Maybe the normal things at home or the places you've been to make you feel sad and remind you of him. Going somewhere very different will give you new feelings. Maybe you'll meet someone new. But I suggest trying new things and forgetting about your misery but not as fast as possible. Because you need to miss him when you do. You need to accept that your missing him in your life. Then when you do you can act on it and try to let go of him. But remember all of this won't be done the next week or 2 it takes time. AND if you really loved him it's gonna take a long time to get over him and it will be much harder for you too. Don't give up though. Be with friends, family, guys, go to parties. Think of it as a celebration. Don't talk to him it will only hurt you more and make your pain come back. I have so much more to tell you about break ups. But the real thing you want to get out of this is what did you learn from this guy? Was there something that you won't forget about him or that has made you learn something in life? I'm sure there is. Hope you feel better girl and just remember no one's ever alone :)

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okay so ive had sex with only two of my boyfriends.. the first boy i lost it too, it never felt good like the only way i could orgasim was if he touched me during sex or if i was on top of him(ocassionaly).. but then when i had sex with my second boyfriend and i could only orgasim on top.. (but alot more) but he is fairly large. like it took a long time for me to get him inside.. but now like he can just go in and its not good anymore lol therefore i think im loose so i cant really orgasim at all anymore if that makes sence even on top? its not just sex, its making love with eachother. so basically how do i tighten back up? do i just have to not have sex for months or something? someoneee please help me understand my body or how to make it tighther >:/

Yes there is a way to get to tighten it up. Do curl ups everyday and some yoga poses make it tighter Im not sure which ones but curl ups are proven too. That's all I have to say for your answer because that's all I know so I hope I helped.

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Ive had millions of gfs. More than most and know more about girls than just about everyone. I have millions of friends come to me about of advice on how to get a girl and my advice always works, but im with this one girl and i cant seem to figure her out. Shes so quite. i mean like ive had plenty of shy gfs before and ive been a talker and im funny so its always been easy to open them up and get them talking but this girl is impossible. We kiss and make-out but Even i (btw im an actor so i have to know how to talk well and come up with stuff on the spot) am having trouble on finding things to talk about. She only shakes her head and shrugs. I think shes afraid she might say something stupid or immature cause im older and shes not used to dating older guys. I'm not used to dating younger girls although shes not that much younger. Im 15 and shes 13. She sure don't look 13 though. She beautiful beyond words. Ive dated chicks that were scared cause they don't think there good enough for me cause they know ive dated around a lot and think my previous gfs are better than them but this is beyond that. She has no interests and is very shy even though shes says shes not. ive never asked for advice on this kind of matter before and in a way feel embarrassed of asking for it now cause ive always given this kind of advice, never received. If anyone has any ideas please share or email me. My adress is
actor.ajthedford@gmail.com. Thank's

To give you some ideas on why girls are so quiet well she might be nervous around you because you make her feel nervous she's 13 years old.

What you should do is accept her for who she is. If that is who she wants to be then just accept that she's a quiet girl. Make sure that you let her know that you accept her no matter what. If there is a problem with her she should open up and tell you only if she feels safe and secure.

Next, make her laugh so she feels comfortable with you. Talk about a subject that can want her to open up. Talk about what she likes and make her laugh with you too, so she can feel comfortable with you.

Opposites attract you know :)

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i'm 22 f and my bf is 24 we've been together for 4 months but were friends for 2 years before. resently conversations about the future have been coming up. he says that he would love to marry me and be with me always but wants to be together for longer before he makes that comitment. however when the subject of kids came up he was more excited. i want to have kids with him but i feel that this is more important to him then marriage. which doesn't fly in my books. i'm a little old fashioned that way. is this just me being crazy or should i really worry about it.

You shouldn't really worry about it. Every guy wants to have kids who likes kids of course. He probably is really excited to get married to you but he isn't really thinking about that right now. Marriage is a big thing and you have to know who the right person is. If you feel that he isn't the one and all he wants is kids because that's all hes going to talk about then don't marry him. Being old fashioned is good these days because girls don't know marriage and dating and how it all goes. You should defintely not talk about marriage though in your relationship until your ready. It's kind of the last thing you want to talk about not the first. He will ask you to marry him when he has made a choice. But the time should be soon or really soon. Hope I helped.

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I'm 16 i have been with my boyfriend for about 4 months now, and its gotten to the point where we fight a lot but any time i try to leave him, he talks me out of it, i kinda wanna be with other guys but im not sure, i love him. But i've been talking to this other guy (just friends) and i fell for him, and i just dont know what to do about it because i love my boyfriend, but there;s always that temptation to be with someone else.. HELP!

If you kinda want to be with other guys then that means you dont really want to be with your boyfriend. You should be wanting to be with your boyfriend and not these other guys. Do what's best for you. Break it off with him if you aren't serious about being with him anymore. Maybe your boyfriend is just clingy and wants you all to himself. There's nothing wrong with that as long as he's not overdoing it. But you have to feel the same way about him, and your not. You shouldn't be falling for other guys if you love your boyfriend. It's not right and you could end up cheating on him. Leave your boyfriend and go date another guy that gives you a lot of freedom and doesn't fight with you. Because you might hurt your boyfriend in the end. :( I'm sure you'll be happy with someone else though.

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22/f
i need advice. i've been with my boyfriend for about 7 years now and hes great and we're really in love and we have plans to marry eventually. the problem is when he gets angry or upset even if its a stupid fight that could have been over with one word, he gets too angry and just opens this whole portal of really hurtful words. i know he doesnt mean it cuz hes angry but at the point it really hurts and it makes want to leave him which i dont want to at all. so how can i get him to stop being mean when hes angry? thanks.

You should defintely leave him if he doesn't know how to control his anger. He could go see a therapist and sign up for counseling. What you should do in the meantime is say "ok look I know your angry right now but I'm gonna leave you alone so you can calm down and control your anger and not take it all out on me. I'll be here if you want to talk about it." you can wait like an hour for him to calm down, or until he's ready to talk to you.

That should solve your problem! :D

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I dont know how to sum it up .. i tried to make it short but it ended up like that

Ok well I'll try my best :)

You could say this....

"Hey (person's name). I just want to let you know that I've been thinking about you a lot lately. I would like to know how you feel about me...Would you be able to give me a chance?"


Is that good? I'm not really good with short letter's either. But if you try something similar to that he should respond and you'll know how he feels about you. It won't be too long to read for him and he should be direct with his feelings towards you. You don't have to explain everything to him. Hope I helped!

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I wrote this guy that I like a note. But I don't know if I should give it to him . The note say's .
[Persons Name]
Well I don't know what to do, Since that night i've done so much thinking! Yeah my feeling's for you came back and I don't know what to do, You said your not gonna date me because of my age but if you really like someone you should say age as just a number. It hurt me three years ago when you left... I wish still to this day i would of left my ex for you but I didn't. When you left alot of shit happened in my life and I still can't trust guy's but for some reason there's something about you that I know I can trust. I guess what i'm saying is I see something different in you.... When she said the same thing is gonna happen to me that happened with your ex's, I didn't know what to think... And I still don't but deep down inside of me it's telling me your not gonna give me a chance and to lose the feeling I have for you but I don't know... I guess the reason I wrote this note is because I wouldn't be able to say all of this to your face without tearing up... I don't know I guess what i need to know is should I push these feeling's away? I know you still love and care about her you can't deny it. When you called me baby that one night I was stuck and I was confused. You keep giving me mixed single's and your playing with my mind... I need to know how you feel, Can you PLEASE answer me that? I sure hope so....


Do you think i should give it to him ? I need advice like ASAP

No you shouldn't. I know your probably thinking why shouldn't I give it to him? But it's too much feeling's and emotion. I think he will run away. You should write him a letter though. But it should only be like 3 sentences because that one is too long and descriptive. Guys don't find that attractive but they will be nice about it.

So here's what you should do write the very most important stuff on your old letter to a new one but just sum it up. He will respond better to something that is simple and short. You don't want to make it sound really dramatic. So yes write him a letter that is short and not negative.

Good luck when you hand it to him :)

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I'm one of those people who.. when they like someone, they like them a lottt. I fall hard when I like someone. It's not a small crush or a yeah I kinda like you thing with me... usually.

sooo I think I'm breaking my own reputation. There's this guy who I've been talking to. I think he's cute, I've kissed him and I want to again - something formed, some sort of feelings I can't really explain, I love to talk to him, I love hanging out with him.. and he likes me but I can't decide if I like him back. I forget what it feels like to like someone simply.

Just like.

Every other time, I loved them. I dont know him well enough to say that. But I know him well enough to like him... I think.

I totally forgot what its like to just like someone youre getitng to know! Help me out here -___- I think I might but I'm not sure at all.

I see where you are getting here. You like them but you hardly know them? That's normal...it means you are starting to like them. You just need to know more of their background and what they are like around other people.

You like them if you think about them all the time, talk about them 24 7, try to dress to impress them, stare at them talk to them. You get the idea.

If you feel like you do like a person than most likely you do. Or you just have a crush on them for their personality or their looks or how they act towards you when you talk to a guy.

When your in love it's different you're not really obsessing over him you know about them you care about them. You want to be with them. They are in your life. It's really fun and things are kind of easy and difficult at the same time. At least that's how I feel... You will know when your in love or if you just like someone.

Hope this helped!

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will boys like me if i have big breast

They will find you more attractive and think your hot and give you lots and lots of attention. If that's what your asking... But they like girls who have a good personality and girls that are nice too. If you have looks and personality then that's a PLUS.

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Im 18/f and I've been dating my boyfriend for a few months. I still live at home with my parents because Im a Senior in highschool. I have a job, and I've always made good grades.

What I don't understand is my parents. They say I need to learn how to make decisions on my own, and take responsibilty and what not, and I try. They don't let me. For my 18th birthday, my mom let me get a Hotel room with my boyfriend; (my dad didn't know he was staying) and for New Years, BOTH of my parents knew I was stayin at a Hotel with my boyfriend, ONLY. They didn't care.

Well, my boyfriends mom recently asked me if I would be allowed to stay the night; and when I asked my parents, they didn't even hear me out, they said NO immediately. It doesn't make any sense. They will let me stay at a hotel with NO adult, but not at his house or my house WITH adults there. Im 18 years old. I want to be treated like an adult, so I'll be somewhat prepared for when IM on my own. What should I do to make them see it from my point of view? I see it from theres because they don't want me to get knocked up or whatever, but Im not. Im smarter than that. Im waiting for marriage before I have sex, and they know that.

I think they just trust you. Your parents are really weird.

They were probably testing you to live on your own by staying in a hotel with your boyfriend. That's just really odd that they would do that though. I don't understand that either.

Try to tell them that you are responsible for what they tell you. What they probably mean is that you have a lot to do in the real world. Believe me once your out of high school it's hard keeping yourself alive, safe, and responsible for yourself.

You have to deal with money, your car's insurance, your house/apartment, your bills, college, parties, smoking drinking and all that stuff. But most importantly you have to make good choices in your life not bad ones. They might be teaching you a lesson what it's like to live in the real world out there.

But always come to your parents if you need help because they will know what to do in a tough situation. They will always be there for you when you need them. Living on your own is not easy even if you have a good job that pays good. You still have consequences and your life will change after high school.

Hope I helped!

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16/f

Ok I have a boyfriend, same age. He moved so now it's long distance now and we hardly get to talk. I still care about him though and he's what I want.
I have this really close friend. He's 18 and just went to college so I don't see him anymore. I care about him so much. We've been friends since he was 16 and I was 14.
Anyway, I like him a lot. I broke up with my ex boyfriend because I ended up liking my friend a whole lot more than I had planned. After that we ended up telling each other we liked each other. Then I started liking my current boyfriend and he asked me out. I wasn't completely over my friend but I didn't want to miss a good chance with a guy I kinda liked.
I ended up cheating on my boyfriend with my friend. I felt bad, wish I could take it back, all of that. Decided not to tell my boyfriend because I care about him and it was never going to happen again.
Me and my friend are close so I wasn't going to cut contact with him. I'm also best friends with his sister so I'm around their family a lot.
Well, since my friend went to college, we would text and he always told me he loved me. Not like in love, but you get it.
This is kind of long so I'm just going to end it. So to finish this, my friend ended up hurting me by some things he said. He did apologize but I know I care about my boyfriend a lot. I know it might be wrong but I still want to be with my boyfriend and I want to leave my friend in the past. I just don't know how. We haven't talked in awhile but I know I need to work at getting completely over him because I know just not talking to him isn't going to work. We've been through a lot.

So sorry about how long this was, but if you could help me at all it'd be great. Thanks.

I understand your problem from head to toe. But what you really need to be doing right now is think about what you done to your boyfriend.

You cheated on him with your best friend, and you didn't tell him. You need to feel bad for what you did because you betrayed him for your best friend. Tell your best friend that your relationship with your boyfriend is more important that anything and you don't want him to mess it up. If you start feeling guilty you will get over him very fast. Believe me, because how would you like it if your boyfriend cheated on you and he didn't feel bad at all?

And let me ask you this do you really love your boyfriend? If you do then you need to stay with him. If you don't you need to break up with him so you won't hurt him anymore. It won't be a waste of his time because you were unfaithful.

But tell your friend that you don't want to have any contact with him because you have someone else. You need to cut loose with this guy. Forget about him. Don't talk about him to other people. Just focus on your boyfriend's feelings right now. It should help you get over him.

Hope this helped!

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Hey guys! first off I'm 20/F and he's 19/M.

Background information:
we dated in high school (my senior year, his junior year). He broke up with me. Not sure of the reason why. I know, how can you not know? Well believe me, I don't know.

We are both now in college. Me- Junior in college. Him- Sophomore in college.

In October we started talking again. We started talking about our past relationship and why we broke up. We both said that we still had feelings for each other and we'd like a second chance. He had a girlfriend at that time and I said that I couldn't continue talking to him how we were talking since he had a girlfriend, it was not fair to me or his girlfriend. He said he understood that and it wasn't fair but he wanted to still talk to me as friends. So we tried that and it didn't work. We couldn't talk as friends. So I said I couldn't talk to him anymore. So I stopped talking to him which was the hardest thing to do. A week later he messaged me and said he missed me, missed talking to me, and wanted to talk to me. A couple days later he broke up with his girlfriend.

We started talking a lot more after that and things were absolutely PERFECT. He came and visited me at my school and I went to his school a couple times. He's in a frat and he asked me to go to his frat's semi-formal and so I did. Everything was perfect. Things were better than before. We talked all day everyday non stop. He kept saying he didn't know why he broke up with me and he know realizes it was a mistake and he never should have. We hung out over our thanksgiving break and we hung out over our christmas break, we got each other christmas presents and we spent new years eve together. I've never been happier. When we are with each other we always have fun, we are always laughing and things are great.

Well, he went back to school 5 days before me and ever since he got back to school he's been short with me, giving me one-word answers. Not really talking as much, not messaging me first like he used to, not calling me babe or baby or anything. Not really saying much to me. I asked him if everything was okay and he said yes. I asked if something was on his mind and he said no, nothing is wrong. I don't want to keep asking that because eventually it's going to make him mad. I'm not sure what happened or if something happened or what I should do. I known you can not force someone to talk to you or force someone to do anything. It has to happen on it's own.

So I guess what I'm wondering is what you guys think is going on? What you think happened, or what you think is happening. And what I should do or what I shouldn't do.

ps: our schools are about 2 hours and 45 minutes away from each other and it wasn't a big deal before.

First off good job for not talking to him when he had a girlfriend that makes you a good girl! I'm really surprised he left his girlfriend for you though that's really amazing!

I think what's going on is THINGS CHANGE. He's back to school so his schedule is different. He gets to see his friends and he has to focus on his studies and everything. He's just busy! Don't worry. I went back to college today and I noticed a change in myself with my boyfriend. It's really weird, but it's like you realize that you have a life at school too. Those are just my honest opinions about it though so don't take it too seriously.

You shouldn't keep bugging him about what's going on with him. That will make him close up. What you do need to do is just go with the flow. Don't jump to conclusions. If he doesn't contact you in awhile that means he's probably not interested or something bad. If he does keep in contact and all that then he's missing you and he's still into you and loves you so much.

I know what your going through and it sucks majorly. But you have to know what happens...is going to happen in life. Things never stay the same. There's nothing you can do about it. I think school has changed him. It changes everyone. I wish you luck with your boyfriend. :)

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