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i'm in the 11th grade, when I'm at school I don't feel like I'm good enough, I feel like everyone is staring and talking about me in a bad way. I keep to myself to avoid being judged and to avoid my business getting around, I'm extremely quiet, I'm constantly getting asked "why don't you ever talk?" I'm only like this at school, there's 40 people in all my classes if I'm talking to one person I don't like the other 39 being able to hear what I'm saying.extremely self cautious about the way I look, even though people tell me that I'm really pretty, I feel like all the people around me are prettier which makes me feel ugly I'm self cautious about my smile I've always had problems with my teeth, my mom had it fixed but I still feel like my teeth are ugly because I lived with that problem so long so I avoid smiling also. People are always asking "are you okay?" when I'm at school is when I think about all my insecurities and no matter how hard I try to be social and happy it just doesn't work for me. Some girl in my grade asked if I was okay when I responded with yeah her response was oh because you look like one of those people who will just snap oneday and shoot up the whole school. I really took this offensively but instead of being rude to her I nicely said "i would never do that!" her response was "you never know it's always the quiet ones." why does it bother people so much that I'm quiet? When people talk to me I talk back, but nobody tries to talk to me they just ask why I'm quiet without putting in any effort to talk to me. Why can't people just except me for how I am? Why does it bother people that 1 person is quiet out of the thousands that go to my school. (link)
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I get what you mean. I was like that all the time and I kinda still am. I don't talk to people I don't know, I usually just talk to my friends because I suck at small talk.
I always hated getting asked, "Why don't you ever talk?"
Anyways, you just need to get over your insecurities. You can't let them rule your life. This is high school, you'll probably never see these people after you graduate. It doesn't matter what they think anyway.
People tell your that you're pretty, you probably are. It doesn't matter if there are other girls that you think are prettier. Comparing yourself doesn't help anything. I know that it's hard to help but if you try more, you'll eventually feel more comfortable with yourself.
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14/f
which is really important to know for this question that I am going to be asking you.... Well I made up a Christmas list and my family says 1 of the items sounds to boyish for me.. That item is Legos and yes I said legos. I always thought that it would be cool to do like a 5000+ lego activity. Well that is my opinion. What do you think....Do you think that it is to boyish for me?
Thanks. (link)
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Nahh legos are fun. I'm 17 and I still like them. I wouldn't consider them a boy thing anyways. When I was younger I played with them too.
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Hey(: im 14/f 8th grade. Well for some reason I like boys younger then me and all shorter. I don;t know why. I kinda feel stalkerish or like its wrong but every boy i have dated except for one has been younger than me and shorter. Also today in my class there where these six graders int there for some reason and one was really cute! like attractive, and I just feel odd about liking someone that young. Even with this litle fifth grade boy who is like my best friend rhianons little brother is cute but you know just little boy cute, but people make fun of me saying aww Jenna your gonna marry michael and they make fun of me. I just wonder do you think im wrong for liking boys younger than me not like the little 5th grader i was talking about but likt 2 years younger? Please help Thanks!(: (link)
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I don't think that's weird. I've had friends who have dated a guy a couple years younger than them. When you're older it's always better though because guys that are younger are usually more immature. But nothing is wrong with it at all.
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i'm 16 male and i'm christian and i strongly believe in god and his words and i don't want to have sex until i'm married i know there are teenagers having sex and i hear guys bragiing about having sex but i don't want to be like that
i want to find the right girl who also believes in no sex before marriage i don't think i can be with a girl who's had sex outside of marriage and who doesn't fully believe in god i hoping my first time will be special with someone i love and who also wants to wait for marriage i want to follow god's word there nothing wrong with that? (link)
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Nothing is wrong with that. I'm happy that you're one of the few guys that actually want to wait to have sex. Don't listen to any other guys. Waiting is always better.
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18/f
Right now I'm in a relationship with a guy who's been in my group of friends for a couple years. We've been dating for about two months. And I like him and everything, but I don't think I feel about him the way I should. There's just no spark, at all. And it bothers me because I would like to be with someone who I'm crazy about.
This is his first relationship and I'm considering breaking up with him, but I have no idea how.
My other issue is this other guy. He's a friend of mine, and we had a thing in the past. I'm really, really starting to like him again. He's the one who makes my heart race and gives me butterflies and all that. And I feel like he may like me a little. But my friend has had a history with him and she's still not over it.
I just really don't know what to do. I'm at a complete loss and I need help because I can't even sort through anything. (link)
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Well if you're not happy with him then you probably should end it. It's gonna hurt him no matter what so just be up front but not rude about it. If it's possible to stay friends then try that too.
And the guy that you are really starting to like. It'd probably be bad to get mixed up with him too. Only because your friend is still not over him.
Maybe try to be boy free for a little while until you find someone else who can make you happy and you're not confused about your feelings.
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i am in love with this girl who doesnt like me because i am a loser with no life.....she gave me the rejection number! (link)
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Wow she's something. I doubt you're a loser with no life.
If you think that, then maybe you should do other things than fall all over this girl. Try doing things to better yourself and make yourself feel better so you won't consider yourself a loser.
Anyways, this girl was never worth your time. Find someone better.
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13/f
There's this guy I usually text everyday. We've become really good friends through band. He always made it seem like he liked me. Like, he would tell me that I'm cute and that he loves me and he held my hand and cuddled with me on the bus ride. He even said it was okay that everybody thought we were together. He's really sweet to me. Last week, I was really upset, and I ended up telling him a really big secret of mine. He helped me through my problems and even told me his secret so I knew I could trust him. But something seemed to change. He told me that he doesn't think I should like him. These past few days, he's barely acknowledged me. He sat with my best friend on the bus ride (for a long band trip) instead of me, and i caught them holding hands. He has a freaking girlfriend! (which is some random girl that goes to a different school) I'm so confused...I don't know what to do because I started liking him but now he's acting strange. How could I get over him? (link)
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Yeah, he's definitely no good for you. At 13, you do not need this in your life. You should just do other things to keep your mind off of him. He's young and he's already a cheater and a liar. You don't want to be around a guy like him. Find someone else or do other things to stop thinking about him so much. You'll eventually get over him even if it takes some time. Just don't try talking to him and don't let him try to come back into your life. Good luck:)
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dated a chick for 2 weeks. she said she wasnt ready for a relationship. then bout 3 weeks later she calls me wantin a ride shes drunk. i take her home. she left her keys at her friends so we drove 20 mins to get her jeys 20 mins back to her house which didnt have power...so no heat...we hooked up and i left. a week later she asked if i wanted to stay. i asked where i was sleepin she said in her bed if i could behave. we didnt hook up or even kiss but she cuddled with me all night. she says she dont want a relationship. then she says im being pushy when i talk about us. what do i do? what does she want? (link)
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She doesn't want a relationship. She just wants the friends with benefits. She wants all the things that are in a relationship without the actual relationship. She just wants someone to mess around with pretty much.
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Hey ! (:
im 12 years old and im a girl im turning 13 in december and i have a guy friend who i've been hanging out with lately i guess im starting to like him alot and getting deep emotions for him. He could be mean but he just jokes around with me and we always hug and we kinda held hands once but i dont think it ment anything special to him like it did to me? i really like him and i wanted to ask him out but i dont wanna ruin our friendship or get rejected ): i dont know what i should do since i reallyy like him ): (link)
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I'd just start slow to find out how he feels about you because you don't want to ruin a friendship. Just hang out with him more, like go to a movie or something and see where it goes from there.
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Hey Im 16 and a senior in highschool. I met this guy in an interschool competition. He's the same age but is a senior in some other school. We started talking after the competition and became good friends. We have gone out on three dates till now. And yeah, we have kissed each other and made out a little. We cannot resist each other at all. And hence the makeouts were a mutual desicion. I am falling for him. But the problem is that even though he says he is falling for me, he keeps on telling me he cannot date me cause he's a bad guy and he cares for me too too much to hurt me. He says he is not one of those dateable guys who will love their girl completely and he might find a new girl and dump me.That would hurt me and he doesnt want to do that! He hasnt had a past record of cheating or anything it's just that he tells me he wants to be sure before he asks a girl out that he will be completely loyal to her and not flirt around with other girls. He also liked this girl a year back and he says he feels guilty that he got over her and fell for me! But when we meet we actually act like we are dating, cause he gets me stuff, he tells me he loves me, we hold hands. we actually act like a couple in love. we also talk all the time. I dont know what to do. Because I really want to be with him. But cant figure out how to make him ask me out? and if he is really a bad guy? HELP.
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I guess I was in a situation like this. He did tell me he was a bad guy for me and didn't want to hurt me. He wanted to wait till we were older and he was more mature.
He seems like a good guy right now and he acts all sweet with you. It's just, if you guys did start dating, he probably would be flirting with other girls and he's telling you that up front. You don't want to be with a guy who can't be loyal to you. He has already told you he's not one of those dateable guys who'll love their girl completely. You want a guy who will do that for you because in your case, if you guys did start going out, you'll end up falling in love with him but he won't be quite the same.
You could probably keep him around but don't keep wishing that he'd ask you out because it doesn't seem like the right now. I'd try finding someone else, but I guess it'd be hard since you've already fallen hard for him.
I'm just saying, dating him wouldn't be a great idea.
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One of my best friends (age 15) is dating a guy (age 17). Well, I have class with him, so naturally we became friends; however, he seems to be acting as more than just a friend now... Today he tried to grab my hand, and I noticed and moved it so he couldn't, so instead he put his hand on my knee. I know I should just stop being friends with him, and tell her what was going on; but I somewhat like this guy (even though I know I shouldn't) and I just have no idea what to do. I've told my other best friends, and they all just yelled at me to stop liking him, but it's just not that easy... help?! (link)
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I'd back off the guy. Even though you might like him, you should put your friend first. There will be more guys and this is your best friend.
Tell your friend about it, she might get mad and go talk to him. He'll probably deny it but yeah. Just don't let him touch you anymore.
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I kind of have a crush on a guy, even though I'm in a relationship right now. I am very happy with my boyfriend and don't intend to leave him for this guy.
This isn't the only time that I've had a work crush before when I was dating someone. I tend to find a cute guy who seems awesome, the kind of guy that I'd go for if I was single.
I'm feeling kind of guilty though, because my boyfriend always tells me that I'm the most beautiful girl in the world. I love him because he is the most sweetest, caring guy that I've ever been with, and he treats me amazingly, among other reasons.
Is it okay to have a work crush if you're in a relationship with someone else?
-20/F (link)
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I think it's fine as long as you don't let it get into something more than a crush.
I'm with my boyfriend but I'm always going to see other guys I think are cute and I'm pretty sure my boyfriend sees other girls he thinks are cute but it's not like we're gonna go ahead and cheat or let it get into something more than just a little crush.
As long as you watch yourself and keep your heart where it belongs, it's fine.
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Hi! Well I'm 13 and I've never really OFFICIALLY have had a boyfriend :P there is this REALLY sweet,funny,cute,and kind boy that I like and I know he likes me back, and he's gonna ask me out this friday I know for a fact but I don't know what to say back. I mean I know I will say yes but I don't wanna say something casual like "sure" or "okay"or even "yes" or "yea", I'd personally like to kiss him (on the lips lol) and be like "does that answer your question?" but I'm afraid he might now want me to kiss him(oh and I've never kissed a boy :P :P) :P I'd really like advice on what to say and if I should kiss him or not. Please don't call me dumb etc because I don't know what to do, also I will reply to your comment honestly! Oh and I'd like if you could reply ASAP because he's asking me in 3 days!!!! Thanks for reading and please reply! -Tabitha (link)
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Well you can do whatever you like.
Saying yeah won't hurt anything if you just smile and say yeah. If you want to kiss him then you can but if you're still nervous or too scared to do that then don't worry about it because the first kiss will come naturally.
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alright.. so basically there's this girl. she used to be my bestfriend (lets call her sally) well sally was my boy bestfriend's girlfriend (jimmy) so my two bestfriends were dating. everything was great, until i realized sally was being a huge whore. i was jimmy's bestfriend first.. so after i debated what to do for a while i told him how she would flirt with every guy she could get her hands on. he yelled at her but they made up, and i was fine with that. i thought " ok, now she's scared that they'll break up and she wont flirt anymore" well that didnt work. she kept flirting.. so i told him again. this time i even had proof she did (pictures, texts, etc) so they broke up.. i didnt want to tell sally i did this because she was still my bestfriend and i didnt want to loose her. i just didnt like her choices. sally ended up finding out and we found for like two days. sally would always be a bitch to me and treat me bad.. so i didnt really mind. they ended up getting back together after a day.. and me and sally ended up making up. sally is a grade below me, jimmy, and all of the other kids who hated sally (everyone hated sally because she was a huge bitch) so sally comes up to me and tells me how everyones talking shit about me and how i turned into a bitch and shes just being really rude to me. well now most of the people who hated her are friends with her and all turning at me and calling me a bitch and a backstabber and that i start all the drama... when really this is the first drama i've EVER started. and i didnt even start it, i was just involved. the guy who started this in the first place is bitching at me now. he constantly talked shit about sally then one day, just to SUCK UP to jimmy, he became friends with her and started spreading lies about how i always talk shit about sally which i dont. and i didnt tell jimmy to break up with sally, i just told him what his girlfriend had been up to because i was his bestfriend. sally played the nervous game with another guy and grabbed his dick, jimmy deserved to know that. but anyways... life just kind of sucks now and everyone thinks im mean but really im the sweetest girl ever. i need help on how to get my reputation back ;\ (link)
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Wow this kind of drama sucks. You did do the right thing by telling Jimmy about what his girlfriend was doing. You weren't doing it to break them up, you were being the good friend.
My opinion is that you need to find new friends. Sally will probably never be the right friend for you because of how she acts and treats you. Jimmy keeps making the mistake by going back to her and if he's mad at you then that is extremely stupid.
Find friends that aren't like that and are grateful to have you around.
With your friends right now, let everything die down. There isn't much you can do because Sally is telling lies and people like to believe those more.
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Im 13 and i have been dating this guy for 3 months now and he says that he wants to have sex. I told him that i do want to but i am just scared that it will hurt or i wont be any good. He said that he will never try to hurt me but it wll hurt for my first time. He said that he will wear a condom and not try to go too fast or hard. But condoms dont always work and so the thing that i want to know is that should i have sex with him? And what if the condom breaks i really do not need baby at 13 i already get picked on enough right now! I just dont want it to break and i feel like if i dont have sex with him he will leave me and i DO NOT want him to leave me!
What do you think I should do? I hope you can help me out as much as possible! thnx i appreciate it (link)
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Don't have sex at 13. It is way too young. I'm 17 and I still feel like I'm not ready because I don't want to end up with a baby.
I know you don't want him to leave you but if he left you because you wouldn't have sex with him, he was an idiot and obviously wasn't good enough for you anyways.
There is a high chance you can get pregnant. I have had friends that would make mistakes like this and even if they didn't end up with a baby, it took them so long to figure out how to deal with the emotional consequences to having sex.
Don't be with someone who will pressure you for sex. I dated a guy like that and was almost raped because I told him I wanted to wait.
Trust me, even if he says he respects how you feel about sex, you will always be pressured by him and you won't be happy even if you do like him a lot.
Just wait until you're older to have sex. It will be worth the wait and it will be with a guy who truly cares about you and won't pressure you for it. You'll look back and be thankful you didn't do it.
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Right I've been with my boyfriend 3months, and his mother actually hates me, she has even stopped him from seeing me, and stopped all contact-we are texting secretly & he wants me to have a baby with him to make her realise we are in love, but I'm 16 is this the right choice or should I end it even tho it hurts? Helppp (link)
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It's definitely not the right choice to have a baby at 16.
First of all, it won't make his mom realize you guys are in love. It will probably just make her not like you more.
Having at baby at 16 could make your life go downhill. School will become a problem, going to college will become a problem, then money will be a problem. At 16, there is no way you could afford a baby anyways. Plus, it wouldn't be fair to the child you have.
Having a baby is pretty much a full time job. Affording a baby is a full time job as well as raising the kid.
It will probably end up pushing the guy away. You guys have only been together for 3 months. Not even a year. You have a lot ahead of you and you might not even be with this guy forever. Having a kid can scare him off even if he says he wants one right now.
So there are so many teenage moms I can tell you about that they thought that the boy was gonna be a great dad but then he left her within the first trimester. 8 out of 10 guys don't even end up marrying the teen mom of their baby.
I would just end this relationship even if it hurts because he doesn't sound like he's being very smart and you don't want to be pressured into having sex this young.
Good luck:)
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i do love my boyfriend but i still like my ex and well it doesnt help much when your ex is at your school and rides your bus! I know i have boyfriend and yes ill get over him but right now hes in my heart right with my boyfriend! (link)
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If you think you can get over him soon, then you should be fine with your current boyfriend. If you're still gonna be hung up over your ex, you haven't moved on and it's not fair to you or your boyfriend.
In a way, it is kinda bad but if you can control it to where you will get over him, then it will be better but if not, it's not fair to stay with your boyfriend until you are over your ex.
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I've kissed quite a few people before and they had never told me that I was a bad kisser. Most of them continued trying to kiss me and I thought I was a pretty good kisser, I can even tie a cherry stem if that means anything. Not too long ago I kissed this one guy and then we stopped because my friend came up. I tried to kiss him later on but he told me no because he had just finished eating. I knew he didn't want to kiss me so I was going to get off of his lap but he didn't want me to. A few minutes later he iniciated the kiss and it got pretty steamy. When I was talking to my bestfriend she told me that after our first kiss he told her I was a bad kisser but he kept kissing me because he didn't want me to feel bad. If that were true, why did HE start kissing me later? Does that mean the other guys thought I was a bad kisser and didn't want to hurt me as well? I've never been told I'm a good kisser but I've never been told I'm a bad one. All of the other guys seemed to enjoy it a lot, based on their reactions. Later on that guy seemed to like it? My friend didn't mention anything about the second kiss, just the first. (link)
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Just cause one guy says that doesn't mean it's true. Plus the rest of them seemed to like it so don't worry about it. I'm sure you're fine.
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whats wrong with me? im 14 and ive never had a boyfriend or even a friend which is a boy, i dont get any attention eventhough iseek for them sometimes. about 3 people have asked me out through 'facebook' but i somehow dont trust it becuase its not safe and why is it that i get asked oout socially through the internet but just not in reality? help pleasee (link)
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Well you probably get asked out through facebook because the guys that like you are shy.
Anyways, nothing is wrong with you. You're only 14 and have plenty of years to have a boyfriend.
Don't stress out about it and just enjoy your life instead of stressing out over having a boyfriend.
Just be yourself, look nice, be happy, and one day you'll have a great guy.
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My BFF and I went to a party on Friday night and expected to have a great time. We'll call her Reilly and me Carol. Reilly knows that like this guy ( we'll call him Steven). So she went ahead and asked him out. HE SAID YES TO HER!!! I thought that she could have told me about what she was going to do but she said that I would have hurt her. I would never have done that over a guy but she didnt believe me. She avoided me the rest of the night except when 2 guys got mad and it was leaning toward a fight so she comes up to us like:
"I need my B****** cuz there's about to be a fight."
It really ticked me off and I need to know what to do about the guy and my BFF. (link)
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Well she stabbed you in the back. Since she was aware of your feelings for this guy she should have at least went and talked to you instead of trying to go behind your back.
It's your choice of how you want to deal with it but don't over react and try to fight with her or something. I doubt you would, but who knows.
I value friendship over boys so you can try to put this behind you or give it a little time.
I'd say just let them be and find another guy that can make you happy.
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