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being extremely shy in highschool.
i'm in the 11th grade, when I'm at school I don't feel like I'm good enough, I feel like everyone is staring and talking about me in a bad way. I keep to myself to avoid being judged and to avoid my business getting around, I'm extremely quiet, I'm constantly getting asked "why don't you ever talk?" I'm only like this at school, there's 40 people in all my classes if I'm talking to one person I don't like the other 39 being able to hear what I'm saying.extremely self cautious about the way I look, even though people tell me that I'm really pretty, I feel like all the people around me are prettier which makes me feel ugly I'm self cautious about my smile I've always had problems with my teeth, my mom had it fixed but I still feel like my teeth are ugly because I lived with that problem so long so I avoid smiling also. People are always asking "are you okay?" when I'm at school is when I think about all my insecurities and no matter how hard I try to be social and happy it just doesn't work for me. Some girl in my grade asked if I was okay when I responded with yeah her response was oh because you look like one of those people who will just snap oneday and shoot up the whole school. I really took this offensively but instead of being rude to her I nicely said "i would never do that!" her response was "you never know it's always the quiet ones." why does it bother people so much that I'm quiet? When people talk to me I talk back, but nobody tries to talk to me they just ask why I'm quiet without putting in any effort to talk to me. Why can't people just except me for how I am? Why does it bother people that 1 person is quiet out of the thousands that go to my school.
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sounds like you have Social Anxiety Disorder i have it highschool was torture.i didnt know what was wrong but you can get help by going to a doc and see if you can get treatment like CBT.or you cld take a minimum of antidepressant to hetp with anxiety.if ppl say that sort of thing its cause they dont understand.
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I get what you mean. I was like that all the time and I kinda still am. I don't talk to people I don't know, I usually just talk to my friends because I suck at small talk.
I always hated getting asked, "Why don't you ever talk?"
Anyways, you just need to get over your insecurities. You can't let them rule your life. This is high school, you'll probably never see these people after you graduate. It doesn't matter what they think anyway.
People tell your that you're pretty, you probably are. It doesn't matter if there are other girls that you think are prettier. Comparing yourself doesn't help anything. I know that it's hard to help but if you try more, you'll eventually feel more comfortable with yourself.
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Thats a really good question... Just be yourself and if more people ask just say what you feel and tell them I don't talk because nobody is talking to me of there is nothing to talk about. Dont feel like your not pretty cuz you probably are. Dont doubt yourself. Its not good for your self esteem. Try to talk more. If there is someone that looks lonely or don't not have anyone to talk to try getting to know him/her and maybe you guys will become great friends.
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