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should i have sex with him? i can't have a baby at 13! but i don't want him to leave me if i don't have sex with him!
Im 13 and i have been dating this guy for 3 months now and he says that he wants to have sex. I told him that i do want to but i am just scared that it will hurt or i wont be any good. He said that he will never try to hurt me but it wll hurt for my first time. He said that he will wear a condom and not try to go too fast or hard. But condoms dont always work and so the thing that i want to know is that should i have sex with him? And what if the condom breaks i really do not need baby at 13 i already get picked on enough right now! I just dont want it to break and i feel like if i dont have sex with him he will leave me and i DO NOT want him to leave me!
What do you think I should do? I hope you can help me out as much as possible! thnx i appreciate it
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Don't do it. You will regret it. Believe me.
Please talk to your parents & tell them he is pressuring you.
You don't need to have sex now, if he is forcing you then he only wants one thing.
Please dump the guy, tell your parents & they'll talk to his.
You are too young to be saying you are scared he'll leave you. You are still a child. Enjoy it.
Please don't do it.
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Well, let's look at some facts here:
1. In your post, it is evident you are not ready for sex.
2. Only you can live your life. Therefore, the needs and desires of others are irrelevant. You must follow your own agenda for making your life successful because as soon as the crap hits the fan the people who you thought were your friends will scatter like cockroaches when the kitchen light gets turned on.
3. He is 13, which means he is still emotionally immature and therefore having your first time with him will not be emotionally satisfying for you.
4. He is a boy. He wants to put points on the board with his buddies and demonstrate what a stud he is. So if you do it with him, the next day it will be all over your neighborhood and school that you guys did the nasty because he will tell everyone he had sex with you. That is how guys operate.
5. The chances that this relationship at such a young age will last any real length of time is about the same as winning the lottery. Your brain will keep developing until about age 25, which means that 5-10 years down the road you are going to feel completely different about things than you do now. So relax, tell the guy to slow his roll or take a hike because even though you are emotionally wrapped up in it now he is incapable of sustaining things emotionally for you at that age. Therefore, you will not lose very much by hitting the eject button on him if his demands become more than YOU WANT to handle.
6. Reread number two and take control of your life. Don't ever allow anyone to tell you how to lead it. Otherwise, you are setting yourself up to be sabotaged.
So relax, take the long view, try to be the adult here and say no when the adult thing is to indeed say no.
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Don't have sex at 13. It is way too young. I'm 17 and I still feel like I'm not ready because I don't want to end up with a baby.
I know you don't want him to leave you but if he left you because you wouldn't have sex with him, he was an idiot and obviously wasn't good enough for you anyways.
There is a high chance you can get pregnant. I have had friends that would make mistakes like this and even if they didn't end up with a baby, it took them so long to figure out how to deal with the emotional consequences to having sex.
Don't be with someone who will pressure you for sex. I dated a guy like that and was almost raped because I told him I wanted to wait.
Trust me, even if he says he respects how you feel about sex, you will always be pressured by him and you won't be happy even if you do like him a lot.
Just wait until you're older to have sex. It will be worth the wait and it will be with a guy who truly cares about you and won't pressure you for it. You'll look back and be thankful you didn't do it.
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Seriously, You are way too young to be thinking about sex at 13.
If your boyfriend is shallow enough to leave you over the fact that you won't have sex with him then your boyfriend isn't worth a god damn dime. Think about this for a second, Why would you want to be with someone who pressures you?.. If you have to ask us of what you should do then obviously you aren't ready. Your boyfriend really should know the meaning of a relationship before he got himself into one. NO relationships aren't all about sex, It's about trust, respect it's basically a support system. If your boyfriend is pressuring you into sex then apparently you are nothing more then a booty call not his girlfriend. Don't be gullible and please do not be one of those teens that fall under peer pressure. If your boyfriend is that much of an asshole then leave him and find someone else.
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Okay.. you're 13.. you're too young and not mature enough to hold an adult experience like sex.
You're asking us if you should have sex with him, which CLEARLY states that you aren't ready.
Every guy says the spiel of "Oh I won't hurt you..I'll wear protection..." blah blah. Don't fall for it.
You are clearly smart to know you can not handle a baby at 13, and I have very proud that you can admit that at your age and that you know the effects of sex at your age.
If he leaves you because you didn't have sex with him.. clearly it shows that he just wanted sex from you.
Put it to the test, and keep your morals and respect for yourself.. tell him no, if he stays than yes, he could be a really good guy down the road.. but if you say no, and he leaves.. then clearly he just wanted you for sex.
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