My name is Lyndsey and I'm 17 years old. I live in Lexington, South Carolina. I pride myself on being mature for my age with a good head on my shoulders, but I find I can be snippy when I hear something that just hits a nerve. I have a lot of strong opinions and I have no problem arguing them. I'm a very open-minded person and very tolerant of most things.
Immaturity is a big pet peeve of mine, as is self-centered, narrow-minded, and ignorant people. I can be cruel when it comes to these things, but sometimes certain people need to be told their faults. I know mine and I have no problem being confronted with them. If someone has a problem with me, online or in person, I'd rather they tell me and we can resolve the issue in a mature fashion. I won't tell you want to WANT to hear, just what you NEED to hear.
On a less serious note, I'm a laid back person and I enjoy shopping, the internet, and my favorite TV shows (Queer as Folk, The L Word, Friends, American Idol, Will & Grace, House). I don't have a large group of friends, but the ones I have are close and I love them to death. I generally enjoy life, minus the whole school deal. I'm a junior in high school and I can't wait to move on to college. I am an honors student and I hope to go to the University of South Carolina and then eventually into the medical field, possibly psychology.
If you have any questions or want advice, I'm here for ya, babes.
Website: MySpace
E-mail: lyndsey.white@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Lexington, South Carolina
Occupation: Student
Age: 17
AIM: galelvr66
Yahoo: deviant_queen
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what does vagine mean? not vagina, im not an idiot. thanksss (link)
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From the movie "Borat". It is another word for vagina. More specifically, it can be used to describe third-world vagina.
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I have a skin disease called Psoriasis (sore-i-a-sis). Because I have uneven skin, I have been using Nair. In case you don't know, it's bladeless shaving so I don't get cut. Lately, I have heard that Nair is not safe to use on my skin condition. I was wondering if its true. Thank you so much! (link)
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Nair isn't really safe for ANY skin type, not just people with skin conditions. It burns the hair out, basically, and that's not good for your skin.
But I DO agree with the first person. You should ask your doctor what options you have for hair removal.
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Why do most people hate cheerleaders?
I don't understand it at all.
please help me! (link)
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Well I don't have a hate for all cheerleaders, but I know a lot of them are people that I would never associate with. I think that a lot of them let the "cheerleader" label get into their heads and they automatically think they're the leaders of the entire school, not just of the "cheer".
I don't talk about how I despise cheerleaders and they should all die and all that, because I personally just don't care. I used to hang out with a few cheerleaders, but they betrayed me big time, so I tend to stay away from that crowd.
I even know preppy people who don't like cheerleaders. There are decent girls in there, but generally they are seen as stuck up bitches who care about nothing but themselves. They're pretty and they KNOW they're pretty. They aren't afraid to flaunt it. A lot of people don't like that.
I'd say MY general dislike of cheerleaders is more of an general dislike of teenage females...because most of them are like that no matter what clique they're a part of. Girls are self absorbed bitches...which is why I stick to guys. :]
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15/f. i've read over a lot of your answers and i like how you are honest, so i decided to ask you about my little problem. i like this guy named mike, and we are good friends. we hang out a lot & talk on aim and everything. now i'm not a clingy person and i'm not obvious about who i like, so as far as i know, he has no idea. the only problem is that he has a gf who goes to a different school and she hates me! i've never even met her and she already hates me!
it all started when this girl in my school told mike's gf that i was "all over him" at a field trip at school. which i wasn't and mike even told his gf that i wasn't.
now the other day one of mike's gf's friends IMed me about mike! she was asking me like if we hang out a lot, if i liked him, and why he lies to his gf and stuff.
i just don't know what to do! i really like mike, but i don't want to get in the way of him & his gf since we are friends and i want him to be happy. (link)
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Well if it were me, I wouldn't even respond to this girl's friends. She's just pure jealous that her boyfriend has a close female friend. Maybe the reason Mike lies to her is because SHE'S the one who's the clingly control freak. Maybe this girl should hear that. She's getting all worked up like the guy is cheating on her when he really isn't. She needs to become a little less desperate and obsessive and start to trust the guy she's dating.
As for you, it's really good that all you want is for him to be happy. I think the best thing to do would be to not interfere in his relationship. Breaking them up won't bring you two closer together. Just let it run it's course and maybe after they break up he'll start to like you as more than a friend.
I know it's hard to like someone that you can't have, but it's part of life. You're just going to have to decide on if you can be just friends with someone you have these feelings for. You need to ask yourself if his friendship is worth putting yourself through this. Judging by your question, I'd say it is.
Good luck! :]
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14/F
Hey.
One of my best friends has just started smoking pot and it's been freaking me out. She doesn't do it on a regular basis yet, but she hangs out with kids who are full-fledged potheads.
We've been friends for a really long time and I care about her a lot...I don't want her to do anything stupid. I don't harbor any delusions about the dangers of weed; I know it won't kill her, but I just don't want her to get in too deep or something. I love her, but she doesn't always have the best judgment...
So my question is: would it be out of line for me to confront her about it, or should I just mind my own business?
Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance. (link)
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Well you have every right in the world to tell her how you feel about something she's doing. That's what friends are for. If she's hanging out with a crowd that makes you nervous, tell her that. She should respect your opinion.
In turn, it's her decision what she does. If she smokes weed and ends up doing something stupid, it's no one's fault but hers. You have to accept her choice. Don't criticize her, just tell her how you feel about how she's acting and the decisions she's making.
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is it bad to think about someone all the time that you cant have and you know that. (link)
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No, it's natural. You can't help it. But if you know you can't have the person, then you'll eventually have to get over them. It takes time though, so don't worry too much about it.
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is someone a good kisser if they have a strong tounge? [im a girl] (link)
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Well everyone has their own style of kissing. Guys usually have firmer tongues than girls. Girls tongues are generally more soft. I'm not sure what guys PREFER, but I'm pretty sure they're just happy they're getting some tongue action.
My last boyfriend had two ways of kissing me. On our first date, it was supposed to be a more romantic kiss so his tongue was softer and it was more sensual. Later, when we got into the hot and heavy stuff, it was firmer because the kiss was more urgent.
But, of course, he was a guy. I think girls would probably be the same. Keep it semi-soft at least...don't stiffen up your tongue and shove it down his throat or anything, but don't keep your tongue too soft, because it might seem sloppy or...I don't know.
Hope that helps. :]
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how big to a girls boobs be to "please" a guy..i'm 15, 5'8" and 110lbs.. (link)
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Well if your breasts are small, that's probably because you're severely underweight. Your BMI is 16.7. You should at least be 125 lbs at your height to be in the normal weight range. If you put on some healthy weight, you'd probably get bigger boobs.
As for guys: First of all, you're 15. Guys shouldn't be seeing your boobs anyways. Secondly, sillyrob is right. No matter what size they are, guys are just happy to see/touch them. But again, you're a little too young to be doing all that.
For most guys, as long as you have a handful, they're happy. They don't need double Ds to be satisfied.
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what exactly does it mean when a girl is giving a guy head? and can girls get head too? thanks guys (link)
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When a girl gives a guy head, she's giving him a blow job.
Yes, I have heard guys say "I gave her head", so it can be called that for girls too. That would be, like the last person says, eating her out.
The bottom line is this: "giving head" is giving oral sex. :]
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Can anyone give me ideas for a screenname (AIM)?
(My names Leah, & my lucky numbers are 7 &4, if that helps?)
thanks! (link)
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leah74
leah4u
leahgirl
74leah
leahbaby7
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Hey. Well, I'm 13/female. I always fight with my mom. Sometimes, we just get in little fights, but sometimes huge ones.
She always seems to be in a stressed out, angry,bad mood, and she is always snapping at me and making a big deal out of nothing.
It never fails, that every single night we argue. And to me, it always seems like it's her.
It IS her. I wouldn't have an issue if she would just leave me alone, and let me actually have a life.
I'M 13 YEARS OLD, AND SHE STILL FIGHTS WITH ME ABOUT GOING PLACES WITHOUT ADULTS.
She doesn't let me go TO THE CENTER OF TOWN WITH MY FRIENDS, becuase i'm 'too young'. We don't live in a bad area. It's a quiet place, and nothing ever happens here. I've never even gotten into trouble where she can't trust me anymore.
I want to live with my dad, and go to school in his town. He let's me have a life, without doubting me for a second.
I'm not a bad kid, I've never done anything wrong. Well, atleast not like majorly wrong like drugs or fighting or anything. I've told my mom i wanna live with my dad. She doesn't listen, and neither does he.
What can I do?! I can't even deal with this anymore.
I'm home alone for the ENTIRE SUMMER, and she won't let ANYONE come over for even like an hour while she's not here.
IM NOT A BAD KID, SHE HAS NO REASON FOR THIS DISTRUST.
She thinks just becuase I dress semi -"emo" in her oppinion, that i'm some horrible child that can't be trusted. This is SO GAY, what do i do!? (link)
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Ok, the advice given by lalapeep is just plain stupid. Threaten you'll run away? Oh yeah, that'll show your maturity level pretty well. Crying and throwing a fit and threatening to leave isn't going to make your mom think you're mature enough to go out without her, that'll just show her how childish you actually are. DON'T throw a fit like a 5 year old, just don't.
Ok, I'm not picking sides here, but I see both your point of view and your mother's.
ON YOUR SIDE: If it's true that you aren't doing drugs, making stupid decisions, having sex, or hanging out with the wrong crowd, then maybe you can talk to your mother about this. Maybe if you tell her exactly where you'll be and what you'll be doing, she'll be more lenient. You have to PROVE that you're trustworthy, you don't just get trusted by people automatically, even by your mother. Once she sees that you aren't going to do anything bad, perhaps she'll give you more freedom.
ON YOUR MOM'S SIDE: You're THIRTEEN years old! That's BARELY a teenager. You have plenty of time to "paint the town red" so to speak. You're acting as if you're an adult now. Trust me babe, you are FAR from being an adult. You are still a child, and children should be protected by their parents. That's exactly what your mom is doing. A lot of bad things happen to young girls that go out alone with their friends. A lot of young people have that "it won't happen to me" attitude. Just because you never hear about bad things happening in your town doesn't mean they don't happen. There are a lot of bad people out there. Your mother is just showing she cares about you.
Here are some things I want you to think about:
1) Try to see your mother's point of view. If you understand where she's coming from, you can understand each other better and maybe come to a middle ground on what you are and are not allowed to do.
2) Sit down with her and ask her for REAL reasons why you can't do the things you like to do. None of that "because I say so" crap. If your mom has valid reasons, you deserve to hear them and discuss them with her.
3) Fighting your mom over this isn't going to help. Ask her how you can help her trust you more and see that you're a good kid and you aren't going to make stupid decisions.
4) Do any of your friends have older brothers or sisters or cousins or something? Maybe if you were with some older, responsible people, your mom would let you do more with them there.
5) NEVER lie to your mom or threaten her with running away. That will just make her trust you even less.
Just be mature about this. Your mom just cares about you and doesn't want bad things happening to you. No matter how much you think it's not true, bad things happen to teen girls ALL THE TIME, EVERYWHERE! Doesn't matter how small or quiet or safe your town is, things happen, and you don't want to get caught up in a bad situation. It's good that your mother is cautious.
Good luck. :]
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What makes you happy the most? (link)
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Friends and family. Life. Knowing I'm cared for. Living life how I want to live it. Living where I'm free to think however I want, dress how ever I want, and just be myself.
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is there any way you can suck your own dick??? I'm looking for a more pleasureable masturbation. Im serious so dont give me crap. (link)
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Yes, but auto-fellatio requires MAJOR flexibility. Here's some information on it:
"Most men do not possess sufficient penis length and/or flexibility to perform the necessary frontbend. However, increased flexibility achieved via gravity-assisted positions, and physical training such as gymnastics, contortion, or yoga may make it possible for some. There is a risk of developing stretch marks on the lower back due to the extreme frontbend, especially if one has not trained at this and spends a lot of time in any position without rest. American biologist Alfred Kinsey reported that fewer than 1% of men can successfully suck or lick their own penises."
But if you'd like to TRY it, here are some techniques for you:
http://mastechnique.blogspot.com/2006/07/autofellatio.html
Good luck! I'd like to know if you succeed...that'd be pretty damn impressive.
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i have a boyfriend. so if some guy asks me out or says he likes me, i can just say, "sorry, i have a boyfriend." but sometimes they ask me, "would you go out with me if you & your boyfriend break up?" and i never know what to say! if i say yes or maybe, my boyfriend might hear about it and get upset. but if i say no, that just seems kind of mean. and usually the guys who ask me this, i just like as friends. but i dont want to hurt their feelings. what should i say? (link)
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Here's a couple of things you can say that won't be mean and won't make your boyfriend mad:
Him: We should go out.
You: Sorry, I have a boyfriend.
Him: Well would you go out with me if you didn't have a boyfriend?
You: [laugh] Well, I DO have a boyfriend, so why should it matter?
Him: We should go out.
You: Sorry, I have a boyfriend.
Him: Well would you go out with me if you didn't have a boyfriend?
You: I think we make better friends than anything else, don't you?
Him: We should go out.
You: Sorry, I have a boyfriend.
Him: Well would you go out with me if you didn't have a boyfriend?
You: Come onnnn, we're buddies. I'd never put that in jeopardy.
You can be 1) playful or 2) honest...and if you're lucky, you can be both at the same time. No one's will feel hurt or rejected.
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Would you rather be told the truth that could potentially destroy your life and change everything you know, or a lie that would save you from the truths?
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I would rather know the truth. For sure. Because lies only last for so long...you can never be oblivious forever. The longer a lie is told, the more it'll hurt when the truth comes out. It's best to get it over with and move on before it gets even worse with lies.
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How can i get my boyfriend to kiss me? (link)
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I read the other answers and I know it can be really embarrassing for someone to ASK for a kiss, so here's a few things that come to mind:
-If he's dating you, he WANTS to kiss you. He won't reject you if he likes you.
-Try to do it when you're alone. It can be awkward around a bunch of people.
-Face him and look into his eyes a lot. A lot of signals can be communicated through eye contact.
-Don't turn away from him. If you keep your face turned toward him, he's more likely to go in for the kiss.
-Get close to him. You don't have to make the first move and go into a kiss, but you can press your body against his.
-Pretty much all he wants to know is that you WANT to kiss him. He's probably just as nervous as you are. If you in some way let him know you want him to kiss you, he'll do it.
I hope this helps a bit. Good luck on the kissing. :]
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NO PREACHING PLEASE! I'm not going to do this,, im just wondering.
If you would do nothing but jump rope, dance, and push-ups non stop for two whole days, what would happen? like I odnt care if its impossible for ´humans or whatever, Im just wondering.. all these people who are trying to lose weight but cant or give up because they dont get results quick enough.. if they would do nothing but work out for maybe 2 days or 4 or something like that (keep in mind how freaking long a day is!) would they see results? Or doesn't it matter that they're working so much cause you have to work over a long period of time?
Please don't answer unless you KNOW, I don't want guesses. (link)
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The body is only made for about an hour or two of working out every day...at the MOST. That's the absolute limit. After that, your muscles become overworked and no progress is made.
That's why people say not to do crunches every day, but every other day. So you don't overwork your muscles and you get optimal results.
You just can't get a great body by constantly working out. It takes time. And after it's all done, it's not easy to reverse the results. For example, if you go on a crash diet and lose 10 pounds in one week, you can eat normally for a couple of days and it can all pack itself back on in no time. BUT, if you lose 2-3 pounds a week for a few weeks, it's harder to put it back on. The results are longer lasting.
The perfect body for YOU takes time. Working out constantly won't accomplish a thing.
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whats the point of letting someone in your life if they just gonna walk out of your life eventually? why do people always have to leave? (link)
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It's just life. It happens to us all. I think the thing that keeps most people open to letting others into their life is that while that person is in your life, you're happy. Some think it's better to be happy for a limited amount of time than lonely for your entire life. Yes, it's hard to lose people, and it hurts, but here's a quote you can take into account:
"Don't frown because it's over. Smile because it happened."
Think about it.
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If the world would be more openminded and more
apologetic then we would finally have peace for once? (link)
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Oo, I like this question. :]
I think that if people were more openminded and less ignorant, the world would be a better place. There would be less problems in the world, I think, and definitely less hate crimes. If people were more sensitive and open to things that aren't familiar to them, I believe it would make the world a better place.
HOWEVER, I don't think that peace would be reached. Peace, in my opinion, is an impossible feat. I don't believe the world will ever find peace.
One reason I think that way, the main reason, is that no matter how hard people try, the world will never be completely openminded. There's no way of changing everyone's mind about anything. Everyone thinks in their own way and it'll always be that way.
So I guess it would be a little yes and a big no for me on this question.
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is it true that freshman grade doesnt count when you go to college? (link)
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All years of high school are taken into account, but the sophomore and junior years are looked at a lot more closely because they are the most recent when you start applying for college during your senior year.
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