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I can't even stand my own mother.
Hey. Well, I'm 13/female. I always fight with my mom. Sometimes, we just get in little fights, but sometimes huge ones.
She always seems to be in a stressed out, angry,bad mood, and she is always snapping at me and making a big deal out of nothing.
It never fails, that every single night we argue. And to me, it always seems like it's her.
It IS her. I wouldn't have an issue if she would just leave me alone, and let me actually have a life.
I'M 13 YEARS OLD, AND SHE STILL FIGHTS WITH ME ABOUT GOING PLACES WITHOUT ADULTS.
She doesn't let me go TO THE CENTER OF TOWN WITH MY FRIENDS, becuase i'm 'too young'. We don't live in a bad area. It's a quiet place, and nothing ever happens here. I've never even gotten into trouble where she can't trust me anymore.
I want to live with my dad, and go to school in his town. He let's me have a life, without doubting me for a second.
I'm not a bad kid, I've never done anything wrong. Well, atleast not like majorly wrong like drugs or fighting or anything. I've told my mom i wanna live with my dad. She doesn't listen, and neither does he.
What can I do?! I can't even deal with this anymore.
I'm home alone for the ENTIRE SUMMER, and she won't let ANYONE come over for even like an hour while she's not here.
IM NOT A BAD KID, SHE HAS NO REASON FOR THIS DISTRUST.
She thinks just becuase I dress semi -"emo" in her oppinion, that i'm some horrible child that can't be trusted. This is SO GAY, what do i do!?
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Well my mom always does that to me. I kno i hate it too. But i always ask why dont you let me do the things i want to do . Have i ever done anything to emotionaly wreck our trust. But the thing she always says. You know i love you dearly and even tho the town is really safe it doesnt mean that no one from out of town or any body can be bad. No one is always nice in front of you. My friends mo had a b/f that was so so so nice but one day when she left her alon with her he raped her. So your mom knows the real world and even tho ur old enough she still wants to protect you from what could ever happen.well if you ever want to tell wrong from wat i wrote my screen name is : xotinabina995, and my email is:tsilagyi@comcast.net, u can tell me good things if you would like too.
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Mothers are always hard to deal with i think its becuase they care to much becase my mom did the same thing and you need to understand you leagel options here you are old enough to move in with your dad and she can not stop you from doing that. so talk with your dad and see if it is cool with him if you can move with him. just try it out for the summer tell your mom you dont like being home alone and that you are staying with your dad. see how it goes its kinda like test driving a car. your mom just doesnt want anything to happen to you i know it sounds so dumb and everything but she does i personly hate it when my mom does the same thing. hoped this helped!
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Ok, the advice given by lalapeep is just plain stupid. Threaten you'll run away? Oh yeah, that'll show your maturity level pretty well. Crying and throwing a fit and threatening to leave isn't going to make your mom think you're mature enough to go out without her, that'll just show her how childish you actually are. DON'T throw a fit like a 5 year old, just don't.
Ok, I'm not picking sides here, but I see both your point of view and your mother's.
ON YOUR SIDE: If it's true that you aren't doing drugs, making stupid decisions, having sex, or hanging out with the wrong crowd, then maybe you can talk to your mother about this. Maybe if you tell her exactly where you'll be and what you'll be doing, she'll be more lenient. You have to PROVE that you're trustworthy, you don't just get trusted by people automatically, even by your mother. Once she sees that you aren't going to do anything bad, perhaps she'll give you more freedom.
ON YOUR MOM'S SIDE: You're THIRTEEN years old! That's BARELY a teenager. You have plenty of time to "paint the town red" so to speak. You're acting as if you're an adult now. Trust me babe, you are FAR from being an adult. You are still a child, and children should be protected by their parents. That's exactly what your mom is doing. A lot of bad things happen to young girls that go out alone with their friends. A lot of young people have that "it won't happen to me" attitude. Just because you never hear about bad things happening in your town doesn't mean they don't happen. There are a lot of bad people out there. Your mother is just showing she cares about you.
Here are some things I want you to think about:
1) Try to see your mother's point of view. If you understand where she's coming from, you can understand each other better and maybe come to a middle ground on what you are and are not allowed to do.
2) Sit down with her and ask her for REAL reasons why you can't do the things you like to do. None of that "because I say so" crap. If your mom has valid reasons, you deserve to hear them and discuss them with her.
3) Fighting your mom over this isn't going to help. Ask her how you can help her trust you more and see that you're a good kid and you aren't going to make stupid decisions.
4) Do any of your friends have older brothers or sisters or cousins or something? Maybe if you were with some older, responsible people, your mom would let you do more with them there.
5) NEVER lie to your mom or threaten her with running away. That will just make her trust you even less.
Just be mature about this. Your mom just cares about you and doesn't want bad things happening to you. No matter how much you think it's not true, bad things happen to teen girls ALL THE TIME, EVERYWHERE! Doesn't matter how small or quiet or safe your town is, things happen, and you don't want to get caught up in a bad situation. It's good that your mother is cautious.
Good luck. :]
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i JUST RECENTLY went through this SAME THING. i'm 17 yrs old and my mom still picks fights with me. She's been under alot of stress...so that caused her to snap at everyone..mostly me. So i thought to myself, "be around the house, stay out of her way, and dont talk to her unless she talks to me first." it basically seems like the silent treatment...but really, your giving her a dose of her own medicine...but in a different manner. and nice (NOT MEAN) clean, safe, manner. so then she has time to think about how she's been treating you and/or anyone else.. You just have to be really patient with her, and i know that you have been, you just need to stay patient a little while longer. things will fall into place. ^_^ if you have anymore questions about this..dont be afraid to ask. :)
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i think u need to cry. pathetic as it seems, MAYBE she'll actually get the point that you feel dont have a life because of her strictness. if things go bad, threaten her you'll run away.
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