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Friend doing pot
14/F
Hey.
One of my best friends has just started smoking pot and it's been freaking me out. She doesn't do it on a regular basis yet, but she hangs out with kids who are full-fledged potheads.
We've been friends for a really long time and I care about her a lot...I don't want her to do anything stupid. I don't harbor any delusions about the dangers of weed; I know it won't kill her, but I just don't want her to get in too deep or something. I love her, but she doesn't always have the best judgment...
So my question is: would it be out of line for me to confront her about it, or should I just mind my own business?
Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.
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If it's making you so concerned, you should confront her about it.
On her part: You are supposed to accept her decision.
On your part: She should be willing to listen to what you have to say.
Not all people who try drugs become addicted [trust me on that], but some still do. And the ones that do become addicted are the ones that ultimatly change. They start acting differently and all they wanna do is get high. And it stops being fun to hangout with them anymore.
So just tell her how you feel and how you don't want her to become a crack-head because it might change your friendship. :(
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Yes, you should talk to her. Pretty soon she'll end up like me [a pothead] &' most likely she'll start trying other drug's and drinking. Too many teens are alcoholics and they are only 14yrs old. There is more worse things out there than people that smoke pot, pot is a plant it just grows with an weird affect if you like it on fire. To me it's like ciggerettes but i think ciggerettes are worse. I dont smoke ciggs, but i go smoke pot alittle too much. Just watch out for her because there are some people that can handle being high then again there are some people that are out of control. hope i helped:]
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When I was fourteen, my friend started doing pot too and hanging out with people that would drink and stuff constantly. I never said anything to her [I thought it was just a phase, but I see now at 18 years old that she's still doing the same thing], we were still friends but we definitely grew apart. Looking back, I wish I would have told her that I was concerned for her. Even if she would have gotten angry at me or told me to stop judging her, I still wish I would have confronted her. Or at least made her aware of how scared I was for her safety.
Maybe just bring it up to her if you notice any changes with her, such as grades dropping, or if you two start growing apart. Just tell her how you feel, if she cares about you she will take your feelings into consideration. Hope I helped, or at least gave some insight.
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Well you have every right in the world to tell her how you feel about something she's doing. That's what friends are for. If she's hanging out with a crowd that makes you nervous, tell her that. She should respect your opinion.
In turn, it's her decision what she does. If she smokes weed and ends up doing something stupid, it's no one's fault but hers. You have to accept her choice. Don't criticize her, just tell her how you feel about how she's acting and the decisions she's making.
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Confront her, pot seriously changes people, even though pot heads will argue that. They become stupid, lazy, and boring. Try and nip this problem in the ass before she starts smoking pot all day, everyday. You would be a better friend for doing so.
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If she's your best friend then its not out of line for you to confront her about it. Just explain thatyou don't want it to become a habot for her and you don't want to lose her to drugs because weed is a gateway drug. Just be calm about it and don't make it seem like your attacking her. So confront her about it when you are alone and ask her about it. Don't just tell her how bad it is for her because, chances are, she already knows.
Good Luck :)
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